View Full Version : Dummy: What age? Was it hard?
mum2peanut
11-11-2006, 22:33
Just wanted to know from the mums of bubbas with dummies, what age did you take or do you plan on taking their dummies off them?
I was planning on taking Mackenzie's away at 6 months. We have never given it to her at night (I refuse to get up just to put a dummy in her mouth), but during the day she often likes it when she's sleepy and it often puts her straight to sleep when she starts sucking. Now she likes it cause she's teething and I think the chewing is soothing, I tend to give her a teether instead if it's not time for a sleep.
Mackenzie's going to daycare one day a week next year and I def don't want her to have a dummy when she's there.
Please let me know how you went with dummy removals.
My little one discarded her dummy herself at around 6 months if memory serves me correctly. It was only used for sleeping/settling before that. I think she realised it was just a substitute for what she really wanted and that was the end of that!
mum2littleman
11-11-2006, 22:42
DS loves his DUM DUM, and has it all the time i take it off him but he find another one sumhow weather he go in my bag or his nappy bag anywhere he gets it. i tryed to only give it to him for sleep but :no: not working i dont want him to be 3 and still have a dummy{sorry im not meaning anyone if there 3 yr olds have them} so by 2 that thing is in the bin for sure and :fingerscrossed: that i can start him only having it in bed
Hmmm, no idea, sorry. I have heard that it is not recommended to take a dummy off a baby before they are 12 months old, not sure where i heard that though. My DS is 12 months old and still has a dummy. I'm not too worried about it at the moment, but when he starts talking properly i don't want him to have it. So i too would like some advice on how to get rid of a dummy! :D
Hmmm, no idea, sorry. I have heard that it is not recommended to take a dummy off a baby before they are 12 months old, not sure where i heard that though. My DS is 12 months old and still has a dummy. I'm not too worried about it at the moment, but when he starts talking properly i don't want him to have it. So i too would like some advice on how to get rid of a dummy! :D
On the contray I've heard that 10 months is the best time to start weaning them. NO idea why (maybe better coping mechanisms? but before getting heavily reliant on them?)
I'll be watchign this thread. I'd like to wean Cobes as soon as possible, but I don't want to be rocking him to sleep or feeding... hmmm
I still have to jump this hurdle:(
I am scared!!
Just found this by doing a google search, i'm going to read it too, so hopefully it may help....
http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/BHCV2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Toddlers_and_dummies?OpenDocument
mum2peanut
11-11-2006, 23:07
Someone out there must have some advice for us. I figured at 6 months it might be something they easily forget. Looks like I've sparked a bit of interest. Look forward to some help and advice. :confused:
I dont really care when DD gives up her dummy she has just turned 2. she can have it as long as she likes Im not going to be the one to take it away.:no: DS got rid of his at 13 months by his choice.
Hmmm, no idea, sorry. I have heard that it is not recommended to take a dummy off a baby before they are 12 months old, not sure where i heard that though. My DS is 12 months old and still has a dummy. I'm not too worried about it at the moment, but when he starts talking properly i don't want him to have it. So i too would like some advice on how to get rid of a dummy!
OOOhhhhh...... you said you don't know who said this, but do you know why???? DS loves his dummy.... somtimes I have to get up 15 times a night to shove it back in.... it drives me batty!:banghead: I've tried to wean him off it, but he gets hysterical, & I cave in.... I'm a softie :yes: .
I'm hoping he'll just refuse it one day :rolleyes: , but I'm not holding my breath! Hopefully he'll find his thumb more tasty :laughing:
I'm pretty sure i have heard it from my Child Health nurse, apparantly that's what they are telling mothers at Riverton in Brisbane.
I am not sure what reason they have for this, i think it's to do with the baby being reliant on it and weaning them any earlier may be disruptive.
haha I heard it from my CHN.. she said based on research about western children's jaws due to their new ways of sucking (ie: our mouths are too small for our wisdom teeth, whereas African nations have few issues... why, because they don't have bottles and dummies..) that 10 months is the recommendation.
Who knows, we get told new things every day, don't we?
ShadyCharacter
12-11-2006, 00:25
I only gave my son a dummy when he 'needed' it.... I breastfed him to sleep and replaced my boob with a dummy when he fell asleep and didn't want to give it up (I then took it off him when he was sound asleep so he didn't get used to sleeping all night with it), he also had it sometimes in the car, or falling asleep at daycare. I didn't let him have it when he was happy and content. He stopped using it at home on his own at around 7 or 8 months, and stopped wanting it at daycare at around 13 months.
My personal feelings are that if you have let your child get used to being comforted by the dummy, it's not right to take it away from them because you find it inconvenient, or you don't like the look of it. It's something that comforts them, what is so wrong with that?
My advice would be to do it the gentle way, just slowly try and reduce the amount of time they are using it. Take it off them when they are happy and calm, if they get upset, give it back and try again in a few minutes. Try to distract them when they go looking for it. It may be extra effort for you in the short term, but it also means getting rid of it with minimum distress for your little ones.
Cheers,
SC
bebealice
12-11-2006, 03:38
going through this at moment \ baby six months old and have been getting up 15 times per night to put back in and many times during day sleeps - not going well and into full on controlled crying - think it depends on when you cannot handle frequent night waking anymore - i have three other children and cannot function - does anyone have any stories of success with cc - night five and previous nights getting intermittently better but now been going for one and a half hours
going through this at moment \ baby six months old and have been getting up 15 times per night to put back in and many times during day sleeps - not going well and into full on controlled crying - think it depends on when you cannot handle frequent night waking anymore - i have three other children and cannot function - does anyone have any stories of success with cc - night five and previous nights getting intermittently better but now been going for one and a half hours
I sure can help with this one - at 3 1/2 months I did CC with my daughter getting rid of the dummy at the same time and it saved my sanity! as this thread isn't about cc i'll keep on subject - but feel free to PM me for any details or support.
After getting rid of the dummy dd decided that she would suck her hands for comfort and still does - best of all she can settle or calm herself anywhere any time without our help.
Good luck to anyone wishing to 'rid the dummy' in my experience - it was the best thing I did!
if you dont want them to have a dummy when 'too old' or wake up lots in the night to give it back etc dont give it to them in the first place. simple.
nemosmum
12-11-2006, 08:44
My son loved his dummy:yes:
I was very worried he would become dependant and i'd have a hell of a time getting it off him:confused:
BUT it turned out that he rejected the dummy at about 8mths old and has never had it since....that easy:thumbsup:
my dd is 2 1/2 she still has the dummy most of the time especially when shes sleeping or grumpy. I figure she will let it go when shes ready :thumbsup: ds has a dummy too they both love them lol
if you dont want them to have a dummy when 'too old' or wake up lots in the night to give it back etc dont give it to them in the first place. simple.
Have you been through it?
I'd prefer to get up a gazillion times in the night than to listen to my baby cry.
tyler's mum
12-11-2006, 09:22
i always said i wanted tyler of the dummy before she turned 1, she is 14months now
im not to worried about it yet, when i do end up to take it of her it will be cold turkey:fingerscrossed:
i dont want her to be one of them 3yr old kids walking around with a dummy, so in the next few months im goin to try:o
mythreelittlemonkeys
12-11-2006, 11:31
:wave: hey Mia
I think you half way there that you really want to do it...they say the dummy weaning is harder for the parent than the child...I am the opposite that i dont let TIllie have hers in day only at night or if we on long trip in car and she is inconsolable...I too pull it out once she asleep but not out of cot...only cos otherwise in middle of night when she wakes for feed I can never find it otherwise...you see i dont put her to bed a sleep and she sucks on for about 5 minutes as she settles before I either take out or she spits out...I think the idea of a teether good if she using it to soothe teeth...I think at 6 months they still getting used to routine and habits so probly easier to break...I not really thought about breaking tillie yet only cos otherwise I will have to have her on my boob for hours at night...:rolleyes:
mum2peanut
12-11-2006, 12:27
Hey Georgie :wave: fancy seeing you here.
It's hard isn't it!! Funny how we've done the opposite thing.
I too thought that taking it from her now would be less stressful cause she'd forget about it quickly.
Seekrit- I too would rather give a baby a dummy than let them scream. It may be the easy way out, but it seems the kindest. Intersing point about the Africans tho.
Cause we formula feed, it's not like M sucks for comfort, and I know it's not a hungry thing, cause sometimes she'll be full after her bottle, reject that, but will take the dummy cause she's sleepy.
Can't remenber who posted the link- thanks- it said chn will reject the dummy between 3 and 5- no thanks, imagine carting your kid off to school with a dummy in their mouth:eek: Now that's embarrasing.
i planned on taking dd of the dummy by 1 but that failed she was too attatched by then so i aimed to get her off it before ds was born was down to only having at nite but when dh was caring for her she wanted it more so once ds was home (7mths ago) it became permanant again. so again failed in my mission. she will b 3 in dec and last mth just stropped putting it in her miouth and so far has gone without for about 6wks. she doesnt even try to steal ds's :smiliedance:
good luck
my first 2 babies got rid of the dummy themselves at around 7 - 8 months from memory.
it was mainly due to when they had gotten a cold and had a stuffy nose.
they were forced to breath through their mouth so i nabbed it for a few days and they got over the dummy with no worries.
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