I can't do this anymore...

[Gribel]

Hi :wave:

I went from a really well paid job, a nice car and about to sign the contract to my own apartment to being a single SAHM (by choice) cause I thought with the Centrelink payments AND the Child Support I was doing well. Unfortunately I was proven wrong, since DS Dad decides to pay whenever he pleases and never pays the full monthly amount, so I'm left stranded with $630 per fortnight, $430 is Rent alone, the rest has to cover groceries, bills, etc.......

Still, living on a minimal income has added enormous stress and depression.

If it wasn't for the help of my mum and wonderful friends, I don't know where i would be....

I am looking into part time work, but with DS on the waiting list for child care and me not wanting and can't palm him off to my mum to look after...

To add to all that I am feeling fat (cause I am) and very unattractive because of that. I even doubt the friendships I have and the reason within those.

I just don't know what to do anymore, I don't want to do this anymore, I just want to have some sort of normal life.

Don't get me wrong it's not about DS at all, I love him to bits, it's me, I know it is.

And I know that once i have the money issue sorted out - by the way, I'm 2 weeks behind in my rent, i'm expecting my phone, internet and power to be switched off any minute - which means, once DS Dad pays up (plus about $2600+ that he owes me) it would be all fine......:gloomy: :gloomy:

[maartysmum]

Oh you need a big hug! :hugs: :hugs: Take 2!

Money issues are always going to be the one thing that gets you down. Just think - you have been in a great position before you will get there again - it just takes time.

You have your DS and that is all that matters!!

CHIN UP!! It is hard when you have to rely on money coming in from somewhere else. One more for the road :hugs: .xx

[Percy]

Sorry your feeling so down. There is nothing worse than having to worry about money.

Sending you lots of :hugs: . Im here anytime you want to talk.

[Lunar]

:hugs: chin up honey!

Just remember there is ALWAYS someone out there worse off.

When I was a SSAHM, I was only getting $600 a fortnight NO child support (lond story short, he's self employed...) I had rent, car, bills, therapies for DD to pay for, food etc etc, I STILL managed to save money.

There is always a way, you really just have to be tough and cut out anything that is not ESSENTIAL. You CAN do it.

:hugs: again.

[Jinglebells]

:hugs: chicky, It must be so hard, no wonder your feeling so down, have you thought about moving so you pay less rent? that may be a start, otherwise I don't know what else you can do, I hope things start looking up for you soon

[polony]

:hugs: Hugs to you hun!
I know exactly how you feel as I too am a single mum struggling with money problems, but I just try and skimp I things. It really sucks, but I know that once I have my degree and start working, I will be more secure.
Is there anything you can do to get the dad to pay up? I thought that legally he had to pay by the certain dates etc? I hate is when fathers (they don't even deserve that term in this situation) think they can get out of paying you, like not caring for the child is not enough! Don't get me started :banghead:
http://www.csa.gov.au
This link should hopefully have some info to help you recover the money you are owed.
Good luck with it all and I hope you feel better soon!

[Pixie]

I am sorry you're having a hard time may it son pass and you feel happy again :hugs::hugs:

[♥My Innocent Angel♥]

Ohhh B
:hugs: :hugs:

im sorry to read this i had no idea you were feeling this way please i want you to know you can call me anytime

you are such a beautiful person and anyone is lucky to have you as a friend i really mean it B you are amazing and i really appreciate you and you are gorgeous dont ever feel that your not

please call me if you need to talk ill drop everything to be there for you and plz ask me to help if i can in any way

more :hugs: & :kiss:

luv ya
xx

[MissBrightside]

Im so sorry you are feeling this low. Here I am whinging to you about all my sh#t and you have your own stresses to deal with. :hugs:
I value your friendship so much and we haven't even met in person yet.
You are a wonderful person and I tell you what, I would be lost if I didnt have you to talk to.
Please tell me about how you feel sometimes I am always here to listen to you and I mean that. I know you have had and are having trouble with you know who, but I didn't know it was getting to you as bad as this.
Don't ever change who you are cos you are so special.:hugs:
Luv Ya
xxxx

[mum2littleman]

just wanted to give u a hug:hugs:

[Nickster]

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time - it's hard enough being a mum at times without the added stress of worrying where your next meal is going to come from.

Can you get CSA to take the child support directly from his pay? We do it that way for DH's ex, and it works really well. You won't have to deal with your ex anymore regarding money...could be a solution?

[Gribel]

:o Thanks all for your kind words and great support - I'll be fine, I know I will.

Just need to stop feeling sorry for myself and pull my finger out :laughing:

Sometimes it seems you're in a dead end street, and other days you can see the light .....