Crazyfamily
14-10-2005, 10:49
Hi evryone,
I need to let off steam. My ex and I havn't been together since my daughter was 3 years old and she is now nearly 13. Back when we first separated the children went to their dads every second weekend. But in the last 3 years he has hardly made any effort until a couple of months ago when he started paying particular attention to our son (nearly 15). Since then he has continually made our daughter feel as tho she isn't wanted. When they do go there he goes to car races and skate parks etc all focused on boy stuff that our daughter really isn;t into. Because of this my daughter stopped going for a while but is now seeing him sometimes as she has school friends that live nearby. (yes she is thinking of her as she is a teenager). Anyway yesterday I was at the school and my daughter co-ordinater told me he is concerned about her. He said she is still a great student with top grades but her recent choice in friends is a concern. I to had noticed this and was watching the situation. I called her dad but could only talk to his new wife. I told her there is a parent teacher interview coming up and i would really like for him to go so we can find the best way to help our daughter. His wife told me that the way I deal with teenagers isn't very good and lots of other things to blame me. I pointed out to her that she only has a three year old and wouldn't know how to parent a teenager either. She said how proud she is of how the kids have turned out tho. Funny how I am a bad parent yet the kids have turned out pretty good with no help from them. Who is it exactly that raised the kids. Me not them.
Anyway, the thing that is really annoying me is he hasn't even bothered to call me and talk to me himself. If I was the parent who didn't live with my children I would want to know what is going on. They can put me down all they want but my kids are generally very happy. obviosly teenagers are going to go through some hard times why do they automatically think it is my parenting.
I have tried to do the right thing but now I wonder why I even bother. If it was his son it would be so different.
Sorry about the whinge. I really needed to get this off my chest and talking to people who are emotionally involved with the kids isn't always a good thing as they don't think much of their father already.
thanks for listening.
I need to let off steam. My ex and I havn't been together since my daughter was 3 years old and she is now nearly 13. Back when we first separated the children went to their dads every second weekend. But in the last 3 years he has hardly made any effort until a couple of months ago when he started paying particular attention to our son (nearly 15). Since then he has continually made our daughter feel as tho she isn't wanted. When they do go there he goes to car races and skate parks etc all focused on boy stuff that our daughter really isn;t into. Because of this my daughter stopped going for a while but is now seeing him sometimes as she has school friends that live nearby. (yes she is thinking of her as she is a teenager). Anyway yesterday I was at the school and my daughter co-ordinater told me he is concerned about her. He said she is still a great student with top grades but her recent choice in friends is a concern. I to had noticed this and was watching the situation. I called her dad but could only talk to his new wife. I told her there is a parent teacher interview coming up and i would really like for him to go so we can find the best way to help our daughter. His wife told me that the way I deal with teenagers isn't very good and lots of other things to blame me. I pointed out to her that she only has a three year old and wouldn't know how to parent a teenager either. She said how proud she is of how the kids have turned out tho. Funny how I am a bad parent yet the kids have turned out pretty good with no help from them. Who is it exactly that raised the kids. Me not them.
Anyway, the thing that is really annoying me is he hasn't even bothered to call me and talk to me himself. If I was the parent who didn't live with my children I would want to know what is going on. They can put me down all they want but my kids are generally very happy. obviosly teenagers are going to go through some hard times why do they automatically think it is my parenting.
I have tried to do the right thing but now I wonder why I even bother. If it was his son it would be so different.
Sorry about the whinge. I really needed to get this off my chest and talking to people who are emotionally involved with the kids isn't always a good thing as they don't think much of their father already.
thanks for listening.