c section under general anesthetic

[MoonstoneMumma]

Don't even know if i spelt it right!

Anways, i just want to see how many others out there have had to been put under for their c-section.

Also wanted to found out how long it too you to get over the fact that you didn't get to see your child enter the world, get a first hug or remember the first time you fed them. i hate the fact that he was just pulled out of me and jabbed and pushed around with no one to say hello and welcome to the world, or even i love you. :crying:

It has been almost 4 months and every time i see some thing on tv about it i cry as i think 'thats what it would have looked like' or 'thats what it would have been like.'

i now have pnd and i believe that is one of the main reasons why. please help me to get over this grief i can't seem to shake.

[tickle]

Hi there. Although I didn't have a general for my c/section I had big complications which meant I could hear my baby crying from the other room for a couple of hours before I could feed her or hold her. I can't imagine what it would be like to wake up and just have a baby.
Have you seen our Birth Trauma Section (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=264)? You might find it useful. There are lots of links there to support groups also.:hugs:

[Ethereal]

I had a very scary pregnancy which culminated in a c-section under general.
I remember very little because I was so drugged.:sleeping:
The only thing I vividly remember when I first layed eyes on her were her perfectly rosy & tiny little cheeks and then I fell asleep.
I do feel cheated but I'm hanging on to what I did see and hear- as little as it was.
I know how awful it is to not remember much and I find myself grieving this a bit. If that is what is happening to you, then you need to tell yourself that it's ok to feel that way.
If you've got pnd, it's a good idea to get it treated because you are precious to your bub.
I am thinking of getting my favorite newborn photo and getting an artist to copy it in oils, as an extra special momento.
The way I look at it is that every birth experience is unique, even if it doesn't make sense at the time. It is what we do about it when we are able to move forward.

With my first dd, I wrote a special poem for her, so for dd #2, I think a lovely painting is in order.
The best advice I can give you is take lots of photos of your beautiful baby because they grow quickly and you can't go back.
You will have so many more special memory opportunities. Many many more.:hugs:

[*butterflykisses*]

hey there :hugs:
ive had 3 c/s and all under a general
the feelings yr havin sound exactly how i felt after my first one
please get some counselling
it tokk me a very long time to get over my c/s so the sooner you get help the better
if you need to chat just pm me
good luck

kylie-anne

[Elijahsmama]

I was put under while having my c-sect. My birthplan didnt go at all to plan and i felt a little bummed about it all but i was devestated about not hearing his first cry or seeing him straight away. When i woke i felt so sick that i didnt even really care about seeing him i just wanted to feel alright again. I finally got to see him almost an hour after he came out. I too found it really hard but as time has past i just think of how lucky i am to even have him. If it were the old days we would have died. But with the next one i am going for a planned c-sect so it wont be all so rushed and i wont have to be put out again. Im still sad that i missed them first moments but it dosent get to me like it used to.
Stay positive and like others have said get some help. It will get easier. :hugs:

[RTCsMum]

I Had a cs under general for my first due to complications but took heart that my dh was handed my dd within 5 minutes of her being born. Even though I did not get to see her for a number of hours due to being in ICU I know she felt loved in my dh and mums arms before they could hand her to me.

Though it wasnt the perfect birth it was one day in both our lives and I think that the many wonderful years we will share as mother and daughter can never be tainted by a few hours of bad luck.

[xxxDragonFlyxxx]

I too was put under a general for no other reason than the epidural didn't work at ALL.

Luckily, I guess, for me, it wasn't really an issue, of course I hate that I didn't get to see her immediately, but she was taken to DH within 5mins of being born. I don't really mind so much that I missed out on the birth, what really upset me, was that DH missed out. He was sooo looking forward to it, and he missed it. I also had compliations while in theatre, so it was a good hour or so before I got to meet Holly, and when I did, I was that groggy, I looked at her said "oh she's so cute" and pretty much passed out again, I was like that nearly all day, so I missed the first day of her life pretty much. I had no troubles bonding with her though, in fact, I think I bonded better with her knowing that my life was almost sacrificed, just so she could be here (found out 8weeks after she was born that it was touch and go with my life due to severe bleeding they couldn't stop and required a blood transfusion). So personally I feel very proud that I survived and am here today to watch over my precious little girl.

I'm so sorry to hear about your experience though, and I hope like some of the others have said, that you take it upon yourself to see someone about how you feel. You will overcome your feelings, afterall, you're a strong woman, who, no matter how it was done, brought a beautiful baby into this world. I really hope you feel better about things soon. :)