Unwanted Advice??

[Tanya1985]

Just wondering if I am the only one getting advice from mothers, freinds, sister, partners mothers and grandmothers??

I have been getting advice since I told everyone I am pregnant... which I expected, but I am already getting sick of it! My mum is trying really hard to be good and let me ask more for advice rather than just give it, and she has siad just to listen to all the advice choose the stuff I like and flick the rest.

I have been trying to do this but it is slowly beginning to get to me. My grandmother believes it is bad luck to buy anything for a baby until it has arrived, or these items must be kept somewhere other than the expectant mothers house. This makes it difficult to get excited! But if you knew my crazy scottish grandma you wouldn't be arguing!!
And my partners mum, EVERYTIME I go over there she trys and tells me that I should use disposable nappies I have already told her I am VERY keen on using cloth but she just goes on on on and on, even going to lengths to work out price per nappy! I was just wondering if anyone else was getting this yet??
Ohh and my personal favortite is my 16 year old sister telling me she thinks I am taking it all abit to seriously with this no eating salami, brie, ricotta and premixed salads and the antenatal classes! Sorry this is so long but I needed to VENT! :banghead:

[twitch]

I hear ya.

My SIL is the worst. She lives in another state but rings DH all the time with bits of "advice", from where I should buy maternity clothes, to where I should have my baby! She says I am not to have a c/s under any circumstances. She even tells DH to tell me that I need to ring my MIL more and involve her. Hello, I have my own mum, thanks. SIL has 2 kids so the MIL has done all that with her own daughter.

MY step MIL is horrified I'm not using cloth nappies and told me that I'm lazy for using disposables. She is always telling me not to eat deli meat, soft cheeses etc, but gave me camembert in a sandwich when we were over there the other day, telling me if was normal cheese. WTF?

The ladies at work have given me all their horror stories about labour, so at least I'm prepared for the worst!

My mum is good though, she waits til I ask which is good.

[OopsieDaisy]

Sorry to hear so many people are your back :hugs:

[Tanya1985]

Twitch I am so glad someone else is hearing it too! How frustrating is it!!!!!:mad:

[mum2bubba]

I haven't had anyone give unwanted advice with this one , though its still early and not everyone knows, but with Hayley it was a different story, maybe coz she was my first.

[marlie]

Not too much trouble at the mo with my family and advice, apart from I have to travel a lot with my work and my MIL is very much against it. If she had her way I would be stopping work now and tied to the kitchen sink! And to make matters worse she is visiting for 5 weeks! :eek: :eek: So no doubt I will have more to add on this thread soon enough!

My own mum has just started with the gross chats about my uterus and the like. Previously we NEVER talked about anything like that (I learned all I needed to about the birds and the bees through trial and error!), but now that I'm p/g mum is like.... scarily personal! :o

I think it's so funny that as soon as you get up the duff people feel entitled to talk to you about your vagina.....

:laughing:

[MilkOnTap]

I'm getting unwanted advice - but not from people who have 'been-there-done-that' - from my childless girlfriends :eek: I dont know how they possibly understand what morning sickness feels like, or how come I have to pee a gazillion times a day :rolleyes:

Just wait my friends; just wait til its your turn :devil6: :laughing:

[WeloveHarriet]

Oh girls - just think it only happens with your first - once you fall again with your second no-one dares to offer you any unwanted advice!!

[twitch]

Kylie, that's what I'm hoping, for the next one they'll leave me alone.

The "advice" from the SIL is really getting to me, it's like there's 3 people in our marriage - Me, DH and her. DH thinks it's all helpful and pases these little gems along to me, but it's just makes me mad. We used to have these problems with the MIL, but since her and DH had a huge fight, responsibility to annoy me has fallen on SIL's shoulders. Ah, in-laws. Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em.