My poor little Monster.

[werdxela]

I have a 7 year old monster (can honestly say he is a monster........lol) who gets into a fair amount of trouble at school. He is a very very bright kid but just cant sit still and be quite. We are very lucky to have an awesome school who are determined to see him succeed not matter how hard he tries to push us all away. I am the first to admit he can be a bit of a monster and sometimes extremely outta control. In the two short years he has been at school he has been suspended 10 times :eek: (I really am a good mum i swear....he seems to have to have his fathers bad temper and my fiery attitude) We have done all the right things Dr, speacialists, parenting classes and he is now seeing a psychologist. My concern is there are two kids in his class that seem to take great joy in trying to get Boo to act out. They tease, taunt and have even tried to get Boo to attack other kids (luckily Boo has good common sense and only acts out when he loses control of his temper) We have spoken to the school about it and they have spoken to the kids involved, but yesterday Boo came home with carpet burn all up his stomach and chest from where one of these two little darlings had dragged him across the carpet. :mad: Now as a mum I know i tend to be a little over protctive but I seriously think this kid was trying to provoke Boo into acting out. On top of that some older kids hit him across the arm with a stick leaving a cut and bruise and Boo was so afraid of getting trouble he didnt report it to any of the teachers.
I worry so much about my little man. He doesnt have many friends in school and doesnt have any other then his brother outside of school. All i want for him is what we all want as mums Our kids to be happy.

[poshBecks]

:mad: I cannot believe that those kids did that to your little guy! Not on.

I would seriously go to the school & show the teachers his injury & demand they do something about it. The kids are so impressionable at this age & the last think they need is to have their self worth blasted to smytherines.

Bullies make me soooooooooooooo mad!!!!!

:hugs: Hugs to you!

[werdxela]

The kid in the classroom was dealt with by the teacher at the time of the incident. I told his teacher about what happened in the playground and she explained to Boo he really has to go straight to the teacher on duty next time to make sure the kid is punished. They lady that runs the office was really upset Boo didnt say anything to her yesterday when she saw him. Just waiting for the principal to call me back about it all.

[Di-78]

How familiar your story is (except for the fact she hasn't been suspended)
I am pretty worked up at the moment with issues at school.
I think some kids to take pleasure out of seeing how far they can push them till they explode.
My main drama is that no one seems to ask WHAT HAPPENED to make them angry or lash out in the first place. She just keeps getting in trouble while others keep getting away with it because they smile innocently. It makes me so angry.
My daughter will tell it how it is and does not comform just to please others. She goes and visits her brother in grade 1 a fair bit during break times and is getting into trouble for that too. She can't seem to win.
There are quite a few barbie doll types (sorry, the best way to describe them) at school and she would rather get dirty and run around. We even joined her in girl guides and there are about 8 girls in grade 2 at guides but she doesn't really play with them at school (they have other friends).
Sorry I can't offer any other suggestions except that I notice a difference when I help out in the classroom, even for 1/2 hour before I pick them up from school. I haven't had time to do that lately and have noticed a big change. The kids seem to respect me for being there helping out and I get to see which ones are the horrors. I have to make time to help out. Will let you know how we go.
Good luck
My daughter is also smart and good with her work. She has a good understanding teacher but am worried next year there will be labels put on her hyperactivity....etc.....
We visited the naturopath (just at the chemist it is free) the other day and are trying to get her zinc levels right before we go any further. Those omega 3 fish oil tablets can help too.
Talk soon
:fingerscrossed:

[Ky]

My dd is in kinder and has 2 boys in her class that seem to try to get her to lose her cool all of the time. It has had the opposite effect on her and she has become very frightened of them and has tended to withdraw.

She regularly comes home in tears after being hit in the playground (child running by with a stick usually), being told that she isn't needed as a friend (yesterday by the only friendless boy in the class that she has worked hard to befriend) and after being threatened with being knocked down and punched in the eye. She has also had kids running to the teachers and "telling on her" for things that she hasn't done in the attempt to get her put in the "sad book". Luckily, she goes to a pretty small school and the teachers know her temperament and know that she hasn't being doing the things she has been accused of and her name hasn't been added to the sad book yet.

When it comes to bullying, it is so hard to get anything done if your child is strong and has an agressive (what I would call appropriate!) reaction to the taunting/physical harm etc. People seem to be unable to see past the last act of violence in the whole equation and unfortunately the bullied child usually cops the flack.

My cousin was suspended a lot at primary school and it was finally discovered that he was a very intelligent young man and got bored enough to react badly to situations. He was so much better once they got him into organised sport at lunch times and extra learning challenges in class time. I know that this is not always possible in the bigger schools as there are just so many kids with such varied needs that the teachers are pretty overwhelmed.

I really hope that you get some satisfaction from the school and that your ds finds his time at school much more pleasant and easier to deal with in a very short time frame.

I know that what is happening with my dd is completely different, but I think I know a little of how you are feeling right now about the treatment of your son. :hugs:

[werdxela]

So far so good:fingerscrossed:
I spoke to the principal the day after the incident and he was on a war path with the two suspects from class. He knows who they are and he was going to make it quite clear that this ongoing behaviour towards Drew would not be tolerated. He has been doing so well at school lately. The only problems we have had has been with old kids singling him out and teasing him. I have spoken to him about it and explained that some kids are so sad with themselves they try to make him sad to so they feel better. He understood this so now he just walks away. :smiliedance:

Di-78- Tried the fish oil and didn't work for him. We have had blood tests done to check all his levels and everything is fine there. Its so frustrating. The school in convinced he has a "medical problem" eg. ADD or AUTISM. I personally think he is just a confused little guy. I know the warning signs for when he is starting to get stressed so i try not to put him in situation i know will cause an outburst. I wish helping in the classroom would work for me but i find he is worse when I am around....lol. Hope you can find something that works for your little girl.