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I have to admit I did find the bit I watched a little hard to follow, Bron. That settles it - I'll just have to buy the whole lot on DVD!
Enjoy dinner... still a few hours to go until dinner for you, right?
There was a fair bit of cantanquerosity in this household today, I tells ya. Bloody husbands. Who needs 'em. I actually threw something at him. Shame on me. Cantankerous was an understatement.
MammaMia
25-02-2007, 20:00
I am just loving Jimmy Smits and Alan Alda...but my MASH obsession is well documented so probably no great surprise there.
Aah, the West Wing.
Had a lovely morning with the families of 2 non-active BHers this morning. We chatted, laughed and enjoyed fine food on a beautiful February day in Brisbane. Our children all behaved well, and aaaah, twas lovely.
We got to talking about the slow movement. You know, thinking about how the world wide web and technology has changed the pace of our lives.
Funny how so many of our friends are all thinking about making their lives simpler.... work hard but play slow.
Am I the only OCSC who treats weekends as family time? We tend to socialise in very family friendly, relaxing ways and Sunday afternoon has become sacred. DH & I sit outside, play with the kids, draw elaborate pictures on our big outdoor blackboard and talk about our dreams and children. It's all about the 4 of us - just family. Quite lovely! Can highly recommend it as a ritual for keeping cantanqueray at bay.
Sounds truly lovely, MM.
So can I take it from your post that there comes a time after babies that you start liking your husband again? I have to admit our relationship has been under great strain ever since the arrival of Annabelle - lots of other issues besides a baby but basically all manageable if there was no baby iykwim..??
Anyway - got to run. Said baby needs to go to bed.
MammaMia
25-02-2007, 20:49
Honestly, Cosmic... I think taking on new roles as parents brings up lots of things in a marriage. It particularly makes you both play roles that reflect your own families and your own ideas of parenthood. Brings a whole new set of issues to the relationship table.
DH & I had to confront some serious health issues with him over an 18 month period - which seriously changed our communication for the better.
I think it does get easier when your little people become more independent. You tend to find yourselves as they do...at least that is what we found.
I will say that I am completely smitten with my DH, and firmly believe that out of all our friends, I landed the best husband around...not perfect, mind you, but pretty bl**dy awesome!
Hope it improves soon. Hang in there!
Thanks. Will do.
Truth is, my husband is pretty bloody marvellous too. Doesn't stop me from hating him with a passion when I feel stressed, overwhelmed, and as if my whole life revolves around him and her though...
Here's an example:
He and I both owned bicycles. Road bikes. He was once a triathlete and I was..well.. I liked to have a nice bike.
We have since decided road bicycling is not our thing at the moment (well, it will be again for him, but not for me). Our bikes are gathering dust yada yada yada... so last weekend we went to the bike shop and bought him a new mountain bike. It's lurvely. $2000. He's been out riding every morning and plans to go mountain biking with our neighbour on weekends. Hoorah. It's all good.
Today we went to buy me a bike. While he was out, I searched on the net and came up with some possibilities, then he got home (he spent the morning at golf while I stayed home with bub... he was caddying not playing, but still..) and I ran my ideas by him. His input:
Will it fit a toddler seat? Do you really need those tyres since you won't be going too fast with a baby on the back? I'm not sure clipless pedals are the safest if you will have a baby on the back. I don't know about those toddler seats, maybe we should get a trailer....
Why oh why does everything I do have to revolve around the baby? I actually asked him that question and his response was "Well I guess that's our life now", to which I responded "NO, it's not YOUR life. It's MY life. YOU didn't think about whether clipless pedals were safe when you bought your bike. YOU didn't ask if it holds a toddler seat!" (It doesn't by the way). "YOU just bought the damn bike you wanted."
oh dear.. do you get the impression I needed to vent?..... Anyway, I got a nice bike. And a lecture about how now I've spent that much money I better ride it. :rolleyes: *
*I don't care about the rules.. that was worth an emoticon.
MammaMia
25-02-2007, 21:26
Hey Cosmic ...we had a similar argument this week. Stemming out of us both returning with kids from an equal day at work. DH went off to install his new digital tv thingy (WT? careschmare) and left me, as always, to work out what we were having for dinner and get it ready. I let him know that I wanted help and was not happy. Led to an exchange of words, and an ongoing discussion this week re the things he gets to take forgranted.
I know most of my female friends have similar gripes. I don't know if it is the male psyche or if women have changed.
I think it is a respect issue: parenting is both of our responsibilities.
I think you have to have some things that are about you as a person, not a mamma.
Keep educating him... he'll get it.
MammaMia
25-02-2007, 22:52
At the risk of following my own post...
why oh why is Aunty torturing me?
Last night it was the late air play for the West Wing.
Tonight, I want to watch Compass for legitimate work purposes and it is on at 10pm.
Do they not realise that since my DH has tinkered with the television I have no idea how to record the program? And do they do not realise DH is in bed, sound asleep, and I cannot bring myself to wake him?
Ooh, roll on 10pm.
At least you have bubhub to keep you awake!
I may have just stepped off the edge of sanity - I just sent off a booking request for a tent site at a camp ground! DH and his little helpers set up and repaired our tent today and everyone got very excited about the prospect of camping.......so in two weeks we will venture forth, three kids in tow, to sleep under canvas for two nights. It will either end in me being VERY cantankerous, or very happy. Fingers crossed for the second! (I figure that if it all turns pear shaped we can put everyone in the car and come home. And the tent site has it's own ensuite so that should reduce dramas with little people hopefully!)
I suspect that it is madness however.
MammaMia
25-02-2007, 23:08
Too true, draught.
I will opt for the optimistic tone...brought on by the mere mention of an ensuite whilst camping.
I think it sounds like lots of fun!
I would do it...except that DH thinks that camping involves a motel room. :rolleyes:
oooh, Compass has started.... best be off!
Make sure there is a camping preparation update!
Ooh C I hear you. We talk about our children, but again - it's me making the sacrifices - which car to have (mind you I do have the most excellent one - in velocity blue mind you, I just want the option to have a ute or motorbike if I want...).
Have come across similar things when the conversation comes up about going out. I'm 'allowed' to go out whenever I want, but if I do, I have to arrange to have food available for kids, clothes ready, beds etc sorted, but if he wants to go out for a drink after work (usually turns into more than one) he just rings to say - "is it okay?" and goes. Will return home by about 9.30, but no preparation etc required. On the days I go to work same thing - except I can't just go for a drink after work, I have to rush to get kids from day care. He'll still ring on those days to say going for drink, but still up to me to get kids etc...
I shouldn't complain as there's no reason why he shouldn't go out those times and it's usually once a fortnight or so, but I want the freedom to do it if I want to even if the opportunity doesn't present itself.
Okay rant over - all understood and head nodding in agreeance:yes: (oops - emoticon inserted).
MM on the subject of Sundays - def family time, we never book anything on our weekends anymore - if we're invited elsewhere, we'll go, but otherwise weekends are for us and lazing round - sandpit, pool, towers, drawing etc
Curious now - what's on Compass tonight (will check I've got two more hours than you people till it comes on).
As I pondered the fact that I'm thinking there's too many grey hairs to just pluck now (said as much to hubby - said I need to have allowance now to get hair regularly dyed, his response was - of course you have to expect it - you're 34!). Just wondering - I thought you could be a sea cow for life, but then saw the top of this forum - it's for 30 - 40 year olds. What do you become when you reach that love 40 figure?????
reAllytee
26-02-2007, 00:13
Ok so i was coming in here to pull up a chair & offer some margueritas .... Yep baby belly then hits computer desk & im reminded none of that for me *sigh*
Why oh why must i crave alcohol when pg !!!!!
C - Good to see you around & yes tis always us women that have to make changes for baby yet their lives continue. The last mmmm 6mths especially have been one hell of a rude shock to my DP !
flower - Broken into hey fun fun fun.
Wishing your lo all the best will have all fingers & toes crossed for a great outcome !
Hypocrisy is rather amusing isn't it ? Plenty of that around for everyone to be amused !
draught - I must say i am amazed at your bravery ! Sounds awesome but im petrified to try anything like that with Boof, as much as i want to. But then i suppose it is about all the stories you can tell later isnt it, especially the ones that embarass them at their 21st's .....
Peg - Please come talk to my lovely <insert sarcastic tone here > MIL that is what we want Sundays as "family" day yet she tries to use the crying & whinging to change this. Ok fair call we havent seen them in 6wks now ( oh how wonderful this has been ) but seriously she knows we dont like doing sundays !
I am definately covered in white atm because i havent been able to deal with dying my hair due to smells but my word havent they been multiplying. Im rather mystified as to whether the actual dying of my hair means they then all gather unbeknownst to me & hatch plans to storm enemy lines.
So what was on Compass ???? Probably missed something decent but was watching episodes 4 & 5 of Greys Anatomy. Yes yes im busting myself for being a sucker for this show !
Hey thanks for posting Ally - I read through the other threads and thought I'd come back here, but looked like following myself up (well if MM can do it surely I can LOL).
6weeks since seeing your inlaws Ally - sounds fairly okay - my hubby is the best for getting out of seeing my family, but if ever I want to get out of seeing his family then it's all about me! Funny - somehow our family weekends usually do include parents of some description.
Sorry Flower - I meant to offer my condolences before, but I got confused (a familiar sea cow trait) where one of the lovely ladies in our July mummies group had a similar episode occur and I remember posting to her, but then realised it wasn't you. I've been broken into twice - once when I was living on my own when all they took was the remants of a bottle of vodka I had, a carton of diet coke, a carton of orange juice and my discman which had a much loved JJJ album - was most bummed about the album, but strangely didn't feel too violated. When we had people break in on Christmas eve and steal all our presents under the tree - was a totally different affair - funny how stealing of wrapped boxes which weren't really ours yet, felt more of a violation.
Anyway - just wanted to ponder something. Was accused of pot stirring for the first time tonight (you warned me to stay away from those political threads MM didn't you?). Is it really pot stirring when the title of the thread has ***s in it indicating that it's a thread with less than friendly overtures contained. Am I so wrong and out of touch to think that talking about people in the manner of "they should be obscene words" regardless of if they are leaders or whoever is insulting and immature as well?
Okay - philosophical moment over, and Draught delete if you think appropriate
I feel like a peeping tom reading everything not posting.
Dear Cosmic nice to see nothing has changed and we're still on the same wave length!
MM you make me laugh and cough (chest infection)
but hell I need it, my sisters dog keeps licking my child's face and I tell said dog off, I get told awww poor doggie, no poor DD bloody dog eats cat poo licks butt and then her face.
Draught camping even without children is sheer madness! I remember camping in Port Wakefield S.A it was 45C and horrid. After that even on the Nullabor we stayed in a hotel!
Peg, everything you said about husbands and how we do all the sacrificing. I did lots of nodding while reading your post. I was told parenting would be the biggest personal development course I'd ever take and whoever said it was right.
Draught, you have gone completely mad.
I just realised this morning that I turned 35 a month ago and haven't changed my signature. Denial? Me???
Pixie, hellllooooooo!!!!
And Ally, nice to hear you're coping well with pregnancy and a toddler. Make sure you get that Baz to pull his weight.
oh PN.. I'm sorry I missed you. Was posting in a hurry.
32? YOU???? I always thought you were a YWS!!
Which brings me back to my earlier question - what do you become when you turn 40?
And...
Will we turf out of here the old cows once they've reached that mile(mill) stone?
PS Haven't checked out anyone's signature, but I'm sure some of you are out there...(please note tongue planted firmly in cheek, while chewing my cud)
red crayon
26-02-2007, 16:47
it'd be good to know the answers to those questions, peg, because i'm turning 40 very soon. will i be declared an ACSC...an antique cantankerous sea cow...and thrown to the depths of the ocean??? i haven't poked my head into the 40+ thread yet. i wonder how their levels are cantankerousness are?
draught - i salute you for your bravery. camping and three young children. i shudder to think.
all the discussions on husbands/partners and who does the compromising had me nodding my head into a state of whiplash. i'm forevering wondering when i'll get some of my life back.
Oi, no turfing out us over 40s - I have taken the 30-40 to mean until I am 50, now there is a depressing thought. You do not get less cantankerous once you go past the 40 mark, but happy to be labelled an ACSC.
hmm, I know what you mean about division of labour but I do think that us ladies make it worse for ourselves just a little. We are just too competent for our own good, and too picky. I know that I would rather choose Aoife's clothes than trust Andrew. Does he deliberately not know that the combinations he chooses look ridiculous or is it all a ploy.
MammaMia
26-02-2007, 20:14
I organised for my DH to cook the dinner I had chopped up / prepared while I hit the treadmill before dinner tonight... saw it as a happy compromise. And I figure if I don't speak up and ask for his contribution, then as Mario points out, I have made my own bed.
Now, onto another issue: what is life like on the other side of 40 for an OCSC? I think we'll need some sort of mid-life crisis group where we can all talk about the nipples we have pierced, the tummy tucks we have had done, the toy boys we have picked up... hell, I think it should make for a good giggle, so I say all those over 40 stay to give the rest of us inspiration for when it is our time to cross over.
*runs around with her best Sunday frock up over her head, and her bloomers on show for all to see*
I believe that we have actually discussed this before and decided that once an OCSC, always an OCSC - once accepted, age is irrelevant. (Of course this is a woman who is looking at 40 next year so I could just be making that up in a desperate bid to stay part of the club!)
misskittyfantastico
26-02-2007, 21:16
ohh I never did get accepted did i?
LOL
I asked a few oages back...hmm
is that the polite way of being refused...
maybe I need to practice being cantankerous
As a sea calf....and a bossy (cantankerous??) one at that..you can come in PN.
The old ladies kind of forget what's going on at times....it's a bit, well.....:p
Of course you're accepted PN. All you really need to be is:
1) over 30
2) occasionally cantankerous
3) good natured enough to share the cantakery without putting anyone's nose out of joint.
Of course there are some under 30s around - sea calves, mainly, but they excel in the field of cantankery, hence the reason we welcome them too.
You ARE accepted PN. We aren't real strict on the younger end (cranky 20 something sea calves are welcomed) all that is required is a true show of cantankery (which we all have in abundant measure).
Cheers
misskittyfantastico
26-02-2007, 21:21
Of course you're accepted PN. All you really need to be is:
1) over 30
2) occasionally cantankerous
3) good natured enough to share the cantakery without putting anyone's nose out of joint.
Of course there are some under 30s around - sea calves, mainly, but they excel in the field of cantankery, hence the reason we welcome them too.
See!? I'm especially special.
Although, we are in the process of moving into my PIL's farm house...apparantly the coffee cups are in "the wrong spot".....grump, grump.....ooh AND the fabulous fake stained glass window stickers were "there for a reason"
Yep, you'll do.
In fact, I like you so much I'd let you in here even if you were never cantankerous.
I had to write that in small font because it wasn't a particularly cool thing for an OCSC to say.
Oh yes, In laws, a continual font of cantankery :yes:
Welcome to the herd PN, have some sea grass...
Did I not mention I'm still in denial about my last birthday... and you want me to contemplate what happens when I hit 4-0??? Good Lord. If I absolutely must, I agree with Draughty. Once an OCSC, always an OCSC.
MM - great work. I totally agree. DH tells me all the time that he's more than happy to spend time with his daughter any time I want to go out and not to blame him if I don't do it. So I think this has been a good lesson for all of us.
This evening I had my first uni lecture. I am officially a full-time student again. Y'know, I thought I was quite fashionable until I got into a room with 150 YWS's. Suddenly I felt very..... mature.
Ah Cosmic - guaranteed to provide hours of fodder for the herd - a class full of YWS (shudder)
Oh PN - there is only one real rule of the thread - we discourage the use of emoticons (and it should go without saying that SMS speak is enough to warrant explusion!)
sorry to interrupt..what is a YWS?
A young whipper snapper.
Basically anyone young and cantankery-increasing. You know the sort.
MammaMia
26-02-2007, 21:35
At the risk of defying the tongue in cheek attitude of this thread, can I share a genuine cantankerousness?
I've just finished watching Australian Story, which featured Denise and Bruce Morcombe, who lost their son, Daniel, 3 years ago...feared dead.
Nothing makes me angrier than the cr*p those good people have put up with when sick human beings for their own amusement ring them with tales of what happened to their son, and where they can find him.
I have had the privilege of getting to know Denise in the last 6 months, and not a day goes past that I don't think of the horror of losing a child in those circumstances. She and her husband have turned their devastation into a passion for child protection and ensuring no other family experiences what they have experienced, and that no other child is abducted. I am not normally prone to violent outbursts or thoughts, but in my mind those people who took Daniel and those who continue to torment Denise & Bruce deserve a punishment higher than a human can deliver.
In the midst of all of the blessings each of us have, may we offer a prayer that Daniel is found, and that we never face such a loss ourselves.
The older I get, the more I realise that I will simply never "get" some ppl. Some ppl are simply alien to me.
Cheers
Can I add my personal cantankerousness (I am sure it is a word) that I planned to watch the show and dutifully told DH to change the channel so I could watch it....at 8.30. My ancient brain had forgotten that the show was on at 8. Having also spent some time talking to Denise Morcombe I was keen to see how she was travelling.....curse my failing brain.
MammaMia
26-02-2007, 21:51
draught - she is alive (and that in itself is a tribute) and trying to look forward & backwards all at once. She amazes me. Probably not a bad thing to have missed the program...you have looked into her eyes - that look hasn't changed. Meanwhile, I'm taking myself off to curl up in my bed with DH, offer up quiet prayers for them and count my blessings.
A good night to all.
reAllytee
27-02-2007, 00:24
Oh boo for missing Australian Story !
I get too lazy & cranky of a nite to bother fighting Baz for the remote especially knowing he will then have to sit through the likes of Brothers & Sisters .... Yes yes another drama soapie i have become addicted to. I thinks its because im pregnant, yep thats it i blame being pregnant !
My heart always wrenches a little more when i hear that poor family asking for help & knowing the pain they must be going through in regards to the morons in the world thinking they are funny.
Im sorry but when does something like that become funny. Really i truly wonder what happens in your life to make you think harassing & tormenting a poor family is either funny or amusing. Bah.
Well besides that outburst im feeling somewhat happy today. My lovely DP cleaned my kitchen down which admittedly has been his job now for the last 19wks due to my aversion to the room but he even washed down my fridge. Bless.
Then i actually got an hour where i managed to clean out some of Boof's clothes that no longer fit ! Lets hope that tomorrow means i can get more done around this hell hole.
Some renovations would be nice but we all know im dreaming about that !
Well i must say part of the reason i am actually rather happy even though a little anxious at the thought is because Baz has a job !!!! While this is fantastic news & means we have an income again. WOW ! It also means me & my bucket will need to deal more with high spirited, free willed nearing on being an OCSC himself toddler. Oh give me strength.
Btw im sorry i missed you PN there have been so many posts of late im really not sure who is who anymore ! Im classified as a YWS cause im only verging on 29 but then i think im cantankerous enough for everyone so im not really sure where i fit !
Welcome hun !
Fantastic news about Barry Ally!
PN - think the only two honourary members at the moment are Ally and Miss Kitty. The rest of us wear our grey hairs and wrinkles with pride (well maybe not...)
MM - awful awful about Daniel and all cases remotely like it. Can't fathom how you would go on if it happened to one of your own.
Draught - I hear you too - I really think there are some people out there that just will never be humans
congratulations Ally and Barry - great news.
I must admit that I could not bring myself to watch Australian Story this week, I can not even imagine the pain the family suffer. I take it be the posts here that some vile, vile people torture these poor people with phone calls or such like. What can motivate people to do such terrible things?
By the way, the other side of 40 is much the same, except to paraphrase Helen Fielding, your skin turns to scales underneath your clothes.
MrsMiggins
27-02-2007, 13:54
Hi OCSC's!!
While I've been happily following along with all the old-lady cantankery recently, I've not been posting a great deal, not having anything to be particularly cantankerous about myself (well, nothing above the usual level of cantankery anyway!!) That is, up until about half an hour ago....
So I thought I best pop in to share my cantankery for fear of letting loose elsewhere more damaging. Oh, and I didn't wish to post a little vent in the other forums, dreading all the ":hugs: hunni" shennanigans bound to arise from the YWS.
DH has just phoned to inform me that he is more than likely going to have to go to Sydney for at least 1-2 days either this or next week. Now, this is nothing hugely out of the ordinary - afterall, it's a job he does regularly and it's good money. However, if you will all take a moment to cast your eyes down a fraction to my signature, you will see that we do have an impending important delivery on its way!!
DH told these imbeciles for whom the work is for back in November that he would not be able to come down at the end of Feb/start of March and has reminded them several times since. All that was required was for them to get their act together & make up enough work for him beforehand to tide them over throughout March. But no, they just couldn't do that, could they?!!! And it's not the first time this has happened!!! DD was due to be born via c/s on October 4th, but because DH had to rush off to Sydney for these #%*@ idiots, they had to book her in for the following week instead!!
The thing that makes me more cantankerous about the situation is that DH cannot simply say to them "Look, I told you I couldn't come down there at this time. End of story." He is spending today negotiating with them about when he can go & how long he'll need to spend down there.
So, cantankery is the order of the day here right now!!
red crayon
27-02-2007, 17:33
MrsM, I think your cantankeray is well-deserved in this case. I'd be pretty peeved too. Would they do that when their own wives, sisters etc etc were getting close to D-day?
ally - good news about your DP's job.
Draught and MM - i can't even begin to conceive what it would be like for the morcombe family. losing a child would be horrendous enough but to have them taken and to not know would be a never-ending nightmare. words fail me.
MariaO - I can't imagine there are scales under your clothes. No way.
PN - as a recovering astrology junkie, i would say that yourr mid life crisis is due to your saturn return. it's a b*tch but you come out the other side bigger and better.
I agree with red crayon - Mrs M you vent away!!! Rotten sods!
MariaO - scales? Well....the skin is getting a little leathery these days - could be the preparation for hitting 40.....or it could be the legacy of growing up in the tropics and living in and on the water as a teen.......either way I believe it could happen!
MammaMia
27-02-2007, 18:00
Can I just point out that publicising the scale thing may just confirm a long held suspicion regarding the OCSCs by the YWS.... * looks around and whispers: that we are dragon-ladies*
Mrs M... what is it they say that most things we worry about never happen? Hopefully that is the case for you.
I've just dipped my sea cow self in the pool of ever lasting youth (or at least it feels that way because my kids run me ragged in the pool) and I'm feeling much more refreshed.
Although, the knowledge that this thread has reached the mystical 500 number does keep giving me shivers when I log out... I'm not quite sure if the next time I return it will have been *poofed* into moderation world and will be no more.
Then I'll have to hunt around to find the new thread...or it may turn out to have all been a dream in the realm of Enid Blyton's best magical tales of heroines battling evil and bad manners.
Until I see you again... if I see you again...
I didn't see the story on Daniel as I am in London. I am shocked to think people are giving his family a hard time.
Ally I am happy for you guys that Baz got a job !
MrsMiggins
27-02-2007, 22:34
No news yet from the slackers who've "demanded" DH's services down in Sydney. They were supposed to fax him the order by this afternoon so that he could evaluate if/when to go. They do this every time!! He tells them the only times he is available, they completely ignore it, then call at the last minute, jumping up & down insisting that it is urgent & must be done immediately if not sooner, stuff around on the details, then when he gets there, the total order is more often than not far less/far more than originally stated (and if it's more, they try to sneak it in on the invoice, hoping he won't pick up on it!!) and then they never have it all ready to go for him, even though he expressly tells them it all has to be ready when he gets off the plane. :banghead: If we didn't rely on this as a major part of our income, I'd personally tell them where they could stick it!
Grrr! Promised myself I wasn't going to get all huffy about it again! Dang & blast these pregnancy hormones!!!!
As for the Morcombes, we live quite near where Daniel went missing and not a day goes by where I am not reminded of the tragedy. I can't help but ache for the Morcombes. I saw the thread out there about the show and I just honestly couldn't bring myself to watch it. Just the thought of having to go through anything like that sickens me to the core. I simply cannot get over how inspiring the Morcombe family is, give the circumstances.
Makes my cantankery at my own insignificant situation I've been bleating about seem silly in comparison.
Oh Mrs Miggins, you are quite entitled to get cantankerous, they really are a cheeky shower of you know whats. And as Jacqui says, I am sure they would not take such a cavalier attitude with their own families.
Well Mammamia, I am glad you enjoyed the fountain of youth, just make sure you rub in the body lotion afterwards, that is all I will say on the matter.
Does anyone remember 'She who must be obeyed' , speaking of fountain of youth, there was a motivated woman.
On a more serious note,Not to the same degree as his poor family of course, but I have always felt sorry for the bus driver that did not pick up Daniel. I am sure he has been haunted by that as well. Too horrible to contemplate.
reAllytee
28-02-2007, 01:14
Maria - I agree. Sorta like the group of teenagers who heard Anita Cobbey? ( sorry cant remember the spelling ) screaming near the train station the nite she was abducted & tried looking for her. What they must feel.
Mrs M - Whinge away i would feel rather miffed myself !
Did anyone see the story on the ABC tonite about the now Melbourne man formerly from Latvia who survived the holocaust. All because he managed to keep hidden at 6yrs of age that he was Jewish even while part of the SS Legion in Latvia. Very sad.
Between that & watching more Greys Anatomy tonite ive been crying for the last 4hrs ! Ridiculous !
red crayon
09-03-2007, 17:46
i'm just adding a post so that the thread doesn't disappear off the first page.
nothing to add.....:o
Just dropping in to say Hi, I find this cantankerous thread the most intriguing of all, and thought I'd waddle over and join you for awhile, and find out once and for all if the sea grass really is always greener on the other side.
red crayon
09-03-2007, 18:53
welcome to the paddock, mumski.
*mutter mutter grumble grumble*
I have had a ludicrously busy week juggling private clients, uni (oh lord, the 12 year olds...), and a baby girl who goes to bed at 9pm (!!), all with husband in Indonesia (but thankfully nowhere near that plane..)
So this morning, after probably one too many therapeutic chardonnays last night, I had to get up and get me and my girl dressed and where we had to go... ie. her to daycare and me to see a client by 8.30am. Very organised, got it all done and sat waiting patiently for my client at 8.25am. I'm a bloody legend.
8.40am and no client. I texted her. She's on her way... will be 15 minutes. FIFTEEN!!!???!!! Deep breath.. zen... in with the love etc etc... and at 9.15am still no sign of her. Another call and she's just up the road. 9.20am she turns up with a mere "sorry"...
Call me cantankerous but far out, man... I wouldn't have dropped Annabelle at daycare at 8.00am had I known I wasn't seeing a client till 9.20am! Ggggrrrrr...
I feel bad even complaining about it because she was really apologetic, but would a phone call have killed her? Do I need to set better boundaries? I would never expect to turn up an hour late for an appt and still be seen...
Gosh cosmic, no wonder you're feeling cantankerous!! Maybe you should have another chardonnay, it is Friday night after all.
*passes Cosmic a therapeutic Chardy*
*adjusts sea grass crown, splashes tail around and heads off to check out other possible causes of cantankery*
red crayon
09-03-2007, 19:41
cosmic - people's lateness and their lack of care and concern really bugs me. i just about have apoplexy if i'm running late. what are mobile phones for????
bron - pass the charddy over here....gulp :D
"The tide waits for no man and only ten minutes for the chicks"
I have been feeling a bit cantankerous of late. DH o/s for a few nights, DD1 getting her school uniforms seriously dirty almost EVERY DAY this week, I have had to wash them both TWICE (and the paint ISN'T coming out), long days at work (at least I work part time). So today I pick up DD from school, note that said uniform is unstained, get DDs afternoon tea and think that, seeing as I don't have to leave the house again today, a shower and PJs are just the shot at 3:30pm in the afternoon. Was feeling mighty fine until I realised that my rubbish needed emptying...picture me in slippers and PJs on the footpath emptying bin. Still it was worth it...and DD1 fetching DD2 an icepack from the fridge, bottle, dummy and blankie w/o being asked while I cuddled minorly injured DD2 - priceless.
The sea grass is good.
Have some chardonnay pyjama clad sea cow, I think the grass is greener here perhaps, and what lovely helpful DDs you have!
reAllytee
09-03-2007, 23:30
Grrrrr i wouldve been more than cantankerous C thats just ridiculous !
I really need a drink. This first week of DP being back at work has seen me wet myself twice & vomit over myself 3 times. So much fun what can i say !
It has also seen Boof deciding now that daddy isnt around he wants daddy more than mummy & im not good enough anymore. Honestly i have been slapped so many times this week ive lost count. Someone tell me it gets easier !
It does get better Ally...you get used to the fact that you're second fiddle to Dear Ol Dad!!
Have a cyber-chardy darl, there's guaranteed no side effects.
red crayon
10-03-2007, 00:03
"The tide waits for no man and only ten minutes for the chicks"
i loike that one. where's that from?
well, i'm not cantankerous, i'm an old sad sack. i've had a girlfriend over visiting this week and she went home today. now i'm feeling homesick and very sorry for myself. more charddy....
Hey, glad you like it, that's my best friend she's pretty funny and always late! I was late for my own wedding because of her lateness!! But I love her and I try not to get too cantankerous about it although I do get a little fractious, which is acceptable amongst friends don't you think? Sorry that you're homesick, I read in a post that you were in Hanoi - have you been there long?
red crayon
10-03-2007, 00:12
funny, this friend is always late too. she's always been that way but now she's got two kids to blame :laughing:
i've been in hanoi for nearly 2 years. we'll back in oz in july. it's been interesting but i'll be glad to be home.
It's a long time to be away, especially with kids, your family here must miss you all terribly!
red crayon
10-03-2007, 00:19
well, i think my family miss my son more than me :rolleyes: he's the only grandchild on my side and my parents waited a loooong time for him.
where are you at?
Welcome mumski - you seem to be fitting right in.
Can well imagine your cantankery C - the cheek of it - client must be a YWS!!!
Have resumed teaching at uni and have found this semester that after last week's effort at dragging their heels and testing their boundaries, I'm happy to report that he YWS' under my watchful eye have kicked themselves into line. Where last week they straggled back to class after their mandatory 10min break at half time ( they thought it was 20/25min), I obviously instilled into them that this is not acceptable behaviour...
This week, barely a whimper - they were sitting there waiting for me. (And so it should be, considering I deserve my toilet breaks being of the advanced age that I am)
red crayon
10-03-2007, 11:31
well done, peg. i have a friend who is a primary school teacher. she says she spends the first semester breaking her kids' wills and then for the rest of the year they are hers. i think she is joking???
Hmm only thing that worries me is that these are 4th years - they are at least 21 !!!
(Oh and they're taking professional tips from me LOL)
red crayon
11-03-2007, 19:08
ha! and didn't we think we were so cool and mature at 21. i was clueless.
Me too Jacqui, utterly clueless. But I thought I was so clever and grown up. I don't even feel grown up now - 11 years later. What made me think I was grown up then?
red crayon
11-03-2007, 19:24
i don't know, bron. when i think of the utter cr*p that used to come out of my mouth at that age, i shudder. my poor mum - i used to think i knew everything. we are definitely wiser now - at least we know we don't know everything.
Oh to be 21, actually I don't think I'd want to be 21 again, even if I could, all that uncertainty, the not really knowing who you are yet or where your life was going or what was going to happen next.
MammaMia
11-03-2007, 19:41
I was clueless as a young 'un...maybe not quite as clueless as some, and I was a well intended clueless, but nevertheless...
must say, that I am loving my 30s. Fair enough, they hold their own share of challenges, but I feel so much more forgiving of human nature, because I have to forgive my own.
i don't know, bron. when i think of the utter cr*p that used to come out of my mouth at that age, i shudder. my poor mum - i used to think i knew everything. we are definitely wiser now - at least we know we don't know everything.
Probably the best thing I have learned as I have grown older is how much I don't know.....and how much you thought you knew which appears to leave your brain about the same time as the placenta.....never to return.
Now, I know I'm only at the tender age of 25 but I do know something for sure.... This thread is too long, so I'll close it now.
Signed,
No So Wrinkly
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