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boogernsqueak
29-10-2006, 23:42
someone please save me i'm going to snap!!!!
first the dramas with my bro and his missus, now this lot starts down here.

ok so i'm visiting my mum and sister in nsw at the moment, and it has all nearly come to blows today, over me trying to prevent an argument!!!! unbelievable!!!

i've had my mother get seriously nasty at me because i told her to stop walking off with sophia if we're shopping. i will turn my back for 1 second to look at something and she just takes off with her and i spend ages looking for them.
she's 4 weeks old and this is my first time so naturally i'm nervous!!!!
the only interest they have shown in her is when other people are around, they play the doting family.
sophia cried yesterday and my sister picked her up, i asked her to not pick her up and to put her back down as i was just about to feed her and it would have gotten her all excited and she wouldn't have gone back to sleep afterwards.
so from that, they have told me i told them not to touch her. and to stay away from her.
then it all got thrown back in my face that i'm just going home to be drunk with my friends.
what the? i live with my grandma!!!! and they just kicked me out!!!!

then she said i hope your daughter never treats you like this. and i thought to myself, you're hardly a poster child for being the responsible mother are you? this coming from a woman who didn't want me around to dob her in for cheating so she sent me away 50 million times and told everyone i was a crazy child!!!
she even tried to make me see a psychiatrist!!!

and now my sister has jumped on the bandwagon, telling me i'm fat, um hello, i just popped out a baby, and i look pretty good for having done so. she's no model herself, fitting into my clothes!!!!
and i'm this and i'm that and blah blah blah.
this coming from a woman who can't find her own man so has to go round being a homewrecker, stealing other womens husbands.
when her daughter was asked who she wanted her mum to marry, she rattled off about 5 different names.

aaarrrggghhhh!!!!
i have only just realised why they are like this with me.
i was told today that i'm the problem of the family. well duh if i'm not getting along with any of them!!!!
i'm the target now. it was my little brother, but they pushed him so far he lost the plot and is now in prison. so he's not around to pick on, so i guess its my turn.

so i've decided to leave. i've been told to get out of the house, yet they won't drive me to the airport. so short of packing my things and walking to the airport with sophia, i'm stuffed aren't i?

this family is driving me crazy and i'm on theverge of putting my mother and my sister through a wall right now.
i am getting out of here as soon as possible but i don't ever want to see them again. ever.i don't want sophia to have to know them either. they are just too messed up.

sorry for the long rant but i'm at the end of my rope.
the sooner i get out of here the better. i know i'm gonna start feeling guilty for keeping my daughter away from them, but i know what they are like and i don't want her getting caught up in this ****.
it oges on every time we see each other and as much as i try to stop the srguments starting, generally because i stick up for myself, they just get worse each time.

i have my own family to think about now. am i doing the right thing?
:crying: :gloomy:

Jinglebells
29-10-2006, 23:58
aww ((HUGS)) chicky :hugs: what a family, I think your doing the right thing, I wouldn't like family like that around my son, its not fair on you or your DD if you stick around, could you taxi to the airport or get a friend to drive you? I do think you should get out of there asap before it gets any worse

Kizmet
30-10-2006, 00:00
hun, your maternal instinct is the strongest thing you've got. go with it. sending you :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: if you ever want to chat pm me. do what you feel is best for you and your daughter

Crazyfamily
30-10-2006, 06:11
so sorry this has happened to you. I don't need to tell you what I think cos you already know.
:hugs: to you and Sophia from me.

Roopee
30-10-2006, 09:36
Aww geez!:hugs: to you.

Which airport are you needing to get too? Im in Newcastle and if your aroung here somewhere i could probably provide and escape for you and drive you to Newey airport?
Pm me if you'd like to.
That just sucks.

BTW- i think your doing the right thing, keeping your child away from this tension and crazyness.:yelclap:

bekkyboo
30-10-2006, 09:41
:hugs:

I have friends like this - and i have had to save my friend more than once from them....

IF its Brisbane - that ill give you alift (when my car gets home!)

You need to get out and trust your instincts... You were given them for a reason, to protect yourself and your daughter.

boogernsqueak
30-10-2006, 13:04
thanks ladies.
i'm forcing them to drive me to the airport!!! haha

they won't be hearing from me and i won't be taking their calls from now on. its funny cause they can say all this hurtfull stuff to me, like really hurtfull, and today they act like nothing happened. they were shocked to hear i had already booked my ticket home tho.

that just leaves my dad in my immediate family who i still talk to. for now. i have no doubt he will be fed a bag of poop about me, but if he's stupid enough to believe it then hes like the rest of them.

just me and my baby now.......

and my aunty c of course.....:hugs:

Crazyfamily
30-10-2006, 13:14
Ha Ha gee you're a suck lovey..:laughing:

boogernsqueak
30-10-2006, 13:40
with my super good looks it just comes naturally!!!

OJandMe
09-11-2006, 09:47
Oh darlin'

:hugs: Sometimes the best thing you can do is to make it on your own. You're an adult and so are they.... you are independent people and just because they're familiy doesn't mean you HAVE to see them. If they are not the type of people you want to surround yourself with then you don't HAVE to.

Friends are familiy. You choose your friends.

Surround yourself with people who love you and support you (there are lots right here on Bubhub):yes:

hope it gets better. follow your heart and trust your instincts.

spoon
14-11-2006, 10:40
Darling you are doing the right thing by walking away from this.

Just because you did not have a say when you were a little girl does not mean you have to put up with this anymore.

All children deserve is protection, love, security and guidance and you did not recieve those things by the sounds of it and neither did your brother.

You are a grown woman darling witha lovely little daughter of your own.

If you become the mother that you deserved maybe you can make sence of all of this.

Surround yourself with good friends honey. the kind that will look after you and take you under their wing and teach your daughter about unconditional love.

:hugs:

Dont let her be around people like that.