is it rude

[rainbowbeetle]

to invite lots of people to the engagement party, but then not invite everyone to the wedding, just keeping it small?

[Shakey]

nah I don't think it rude, most people have the engagement party just so they can kinda include the people that they can't invite to the wedding

[M O P]

not at all

[ButterflyMama]

I don't think that's rude - it's what we did! And it worked great.

[polony]

My friends did this just recently. I was invited to the engagement party along with a whole lot of other people.

Then I find out they got married! I was a little upset at not being invited to the wedding, but more upset that they didn't tell us when they were getting married! I, along with others, really would have liked to go to the ceremony. I understand receptions are expensive and so that we all couldn't be invited. But thought that maybe a notice to let us know when the ceremony was on?

[Sheer Bliss]

People should understand that not everyone can be invited to a wedding reception - space & $$ usually put a limit on it.
A friend actually did two lots of invites to her wedding, one to the ceremony only, the others to both ceremony & reception. There were heaps of people at work that she wanted to share the day with but couldn't have at the reception. The invites were worded nicely so that they were invited to only the ceremony (it was ina park, so heaps of room). It was good to have them there and not have to worry about their feelings on not being included.

[Cheekychops]

Not rude at all......

2 lots of invites is very common these days too.....one to just say you'd love for them to attend the ceremony if they like, and that it's followed with light refreshments......(some people cut their cake there so more people can be part of that) and then the other lot is to a small reception.....with a proper meal...

[Wish_Bear]

to invite lots of people to the engagement party, but then not invite everyone to the wedding, just keeping it small?

Thats exactly what we did and no one was offended.

[babylover111]

I don't think its rude at all but also agree with polony its not very nice to not even let them know when the wedding is!

Maybe at the engagement party you could make it clear that you and ur future husband have decided to go all out for your engagement party and therefore have a wedding for only people that are very close. Like maybe do it in a way of a thank you for coming speech and include it?

[J&K's Mum]

No I don't think it's rude at all. We were going to do the same but have decided not to have engagement party and go all out for our wedding. I think you will find most people will understand.

GOOD LUCK:thumbsup:

[Billy]

LOL I hope its not rude, because thats what we did!!! :D Everyone was great about it and it worked out well :thumbsup: :yes:

[mum2bubba]

Not really.

[~mia&ryan~]

Thats what we intended to do but we changed our mind and are inviting lots to the wedding!:laughing: :laughing: But I definately don't think its rude.

[*~alegna~*]

I don't think its rude at all, I had more ppl at my engagement party than wedding by far..like 80 more.

Some of those ppl were interstaters & just ppl not so close to us but still friends.....they were fine with it.:hugs:

[bekkyboo]

I dont think its rude - sometimes you need to keep numbers down.

My brother had a small wedding - than a HUGE party at my parents house a couple of weeks later to invite everyone that he would have wanted to if the wedding wasnt so small...

[Ryan&RileysMum]

i dont think its rude
we have that problem at the moment
our ceremony alone has bee priced a 4000
that not including suits and dress's and make up and hair
and our reception looks like it will be another 3500
so we have to cut our list down alot
only the people that mean the world to us are being invited that doesnt mean we think less of our friends
just we want to invite the people who have stuck by us for everything

[pookiesossige]

nah I don't think it rude, most people have the engagement party just so they can kinda include the people that they can't invite to the wedding

That's what we did! An engagement/housewarming party for my parents (it was on their new farm) with about 150 people- our wedding had only 40 people attending!

[Lollie86]

I think its a great idea to invite heaps of ppl to the engagement and only have a small wedding.

[Mummy2Noah]

No way is that rude!!!! Weddings are much more formal and expensive then Engagement Parties!!!

[Butterbear]

not rude at all!!!!!

[OJandMe]

I don't think it's rude at all!

Here's another suggestion (what we did) We only wanted a small reception, but I wanted all my friends at the wedding (and friends of family and stuff)

We had our wedding on the beach, so my Mum and some of her friends made all these little nibbly things and put them in baskets to serve at the beach after the ceremony. So that everyone who was there (about 150) felt included. They may have only gotten 3 or 4 nibblies, but everyone who attended loved the idea.

Then at the formal reception we only had immediate family.

[kiah]

No its not rude...weddings cost alot and people should understand that...u want to celebrate and share it with as many people as possible...some people also just get invited to the church and not to the reception...i would just do a little sweet speech at the engagement party about how u want to celebrate with everyone, thank them for coming, and hope to see everyone at the church. Explain that u hav limited numbers for the recepetion but love everyone dearly...be lighthearted..throw in some jokes...if we were millionaires u could all come etc.

Congrats anyways!!!:yes: