i'm findingit hard

[jessgray]

we recently started CC with ds1 its now the only way he will sleep and i find it hard coz im a softiee and just want to let him out his cot and stuff :(
he is in a routine now and today he didnt cry at all when he went down for a nap.
does anyone else find it hard or am i just too soft lol

[Rhys'Mum]

If being a softie is a bad thing you are in a pretty big club.

You are not alone, I have found it hard too. But now the little man pretty much never cries, sleeps well and he's happy. Very occasionally he may need one resettle. For us its been worth it.

We are now at the point where if he cries and won't resettle we assume something is wrong, wheras he used to cry whenever he was tired whether we were doing cc or trying some other way to get him to sleep. We sometimes need to do a bit of cc after he's been sick (while he's sick or teething we comfort him as/when he needs) or when he's been seriously out of routine. It actually doesn't take much and it seems he just needs to have a bit of a cry at those times because again he's the same if you try other ways to settle him. In fact he sometimes now sends a clear message he wants to be left alone to winge, he'll push me away and pull the blanket over his head, a pretty clear leave me be.

Good luck, if you are going to give it a go hang in there and give it a reasonable try and don't be too hard on yourself, whatever happens.

[Tea Lady]

Sounds like he must be coping alright Jess even if you're finding it hard! That's great that he went down without crying :yelclap:
I think all mothers are softies (or nearly all). I can't bear it when DD cries even if it's for no particular reason :hugs:

[Pippi Longstocking]

Tyesmum, 7 weeks is awfully young to be controlled crying! At that age, he wouldn't comprehend why Mummy...

Bah, never mind!
I can't articulate what I am trying to say without it coming out sounding judgemental and negative. :o

Just...7 weeks is really young to be CCing. That is all. I shall now exit the thread forthwith and with forth.

[aimz]

i really think that people who are very against controlled crying shouldnt even look in this forum...... im sure that you didnt leave your lil man to cry himself to sleep just helped guide him to realise sleep time means sleep time.......

[the_queen]

Even someone who is "Pro-Controlled Crying", like Dr Ferber for example, says that 6 months old is the absolute youngest it should be done, and even that is too young.
:crying:

[au01]

Tyesmum, 7 weeks is awfully young to be controlled crying! At that age, he wouldn't comprehend why Mummy...



Even someone who is "Pro-Controlled Crying", like Dr Ferber for example, says that 6 months old is the absolute youngest it should be done, and even that is too young.
:crying:

I would tenf to agree with these comments.
I guess what other are saying is they think 7 weeks is a bit eary to be trying CC.Not neseccarilyr that they are 'very aginst it'.
Hmmm this might be getting off the topic a bit.....

Jess looks like your little one is associating his cot with sleep and if he's not crying then he mustn't be too upset.
I know how you feel I feel the same sometimes when I put DD in her cot and walk out but she is fine and sometimes I think they actually appriciate just having a quiet lie down and drifting off as opposed to being overstimulated.
You are doing a great job don't feel bad. :hugs:

[pookiesossige]

The authors of 'Sleep Right, Sleep Tight' and Tweedle Child and Family Health Service (who were involved in the publication of this book and have a sleep school in Vic) have a modified version of CC that is much gentler. But even they say that it's unsuitable for a baby younger then 6 months as they have yet to grasp the concept of Object Permenance. A baby younger then that is... just a baby. Follow your instincts and if it feels wrong, stop and try something else.

Btw- it's ok to mention that in this thread - I am just pointing out how the experts who design these sleep programs would respond to the OP.

[Billy]

Even someone who is "Pro-Controlled Crying", like Dr Ferber for example, says that 6 months old is the absolute youngest it should be done, and even that is too young.
:crying:

I agree...

[jessgray]

pookiesossige- can you give me more info on the modified CC?DS1 is 18 months.

thanks for all the replies. i try to get dp to do the check ups on ds1 coz when i do it i'm prone to letting him out of his cot:laughing:

[elmar's_mummy22]

Don't worry being soft is normal. I find it harder that my partner is too soft because i cannot teach my ds how to fall asleep on his own. Controlled crying seams to only work on kids from 7 months onwards. My ds is 11 months old and still won't fall asleep alone. Sometimes if he's tired enough he'll fall asleep quickly, other times i let him cry for a good 15/20 mins before i place him on his side (in the cot) and pat his back till he falls asleep. I'm definitely pro CC.