Demanding 2yo *bit of a vent*

[AndrewTheEmu]

Wow it's 735am and ive already had enough if my 2yo's demands. It's soo draining i want to :hair:

Despite all my best efforts to encourage (AND Model) good behavior, she still doesn't do it. She never asks nicely, it's always "MIIILK!", "PICK.ME.UUUP!", "NO", "GET.MY.DUMMMY!" it's driving me nuts.

I always stop and correct her eg "get my dummy PLEASE mummy", and insist she says please and thank you, and if she won't ask nicely she doesn't get what she wants. Which results in endless tantrums.

When can I start saying 'no' because you didn't ask nicely, the first time? She just doesn't seem to 'get it' but she picks up other habits soo quickly eg. Mum put her to bed with a bottle of milk the other night, something I've never done, the next night (and since then) she's asked for a bottle to go to bed with. I've said no everytime but she still remembers/asks. So why doesn't she remember this?

I'm currently hiding in the toilet & she's bashing on the door yelling "KNOCK KNOCK" ah cant get a moments peace :sigh:

She's 26 months.

[MinnieMouse81]

Have you tried rewarding her positive behavior or even when she doesn't do something as you described? Might make you feel like you aren't constantly correcting her and she might be more motivated to remember :)

[Bonkers]

When my 2 yr old dosnt say please, thank you, sorry and then gets angry and has a tantrum because she didn't get what she wanted I put her in her room for 5 mins, I go in there after the 5 mind and make her sit down and I'm eye level and tell her why she is in here, and if she won't look at me when I'm talking she stays in there for a further 2 mins. It works really well for her. I think it's the alone time an being able to think why she is in here. I never had this trouble with my DS, maybe its a girl thing lol

[Gothel]

Oh that drives me crazy!! I'm a SAHM and three is nothing worse than bring rudely bossed around by a 2yo (not that they mean to but that's the net effect lol)

dd1 who used to be a terror for it! I used stars to encourage her, I put some paper in the fridge in a magnetic photo frame, and every time she said please or thank you, she got a star. It took a day or two for her to get used to the idea, then she got a star when I noticed her manners, not when she was reminded. soon it was just normal to say please, now she just needs reminding. Oh and as a reward, at the end of the first week I gave her a small coin per star and had a trip to the $2 shop where she picked herself a toy, she loved the counting and shopping :) the 2ND week she was even more keen to earn stars!

[Smartiecat]

Sorry you made me laugh my 2yo is like this too!!!
About a month ago I was fed up with this little (hmmm huge!) attitude, so things are changing ... Now if she wants something she has to ask not squeal;if she wants a drink we no longer have a stand off about which drink bottle it goes in (typically if I made her a drink in the "wrong" bottle - even if she chose it - it would result in a tantrum and her throwing it across the room - now I make it leave it on the bench and walk out - the tantrums are getting shorter!); if She has asked for something I don't do it till she has said please ... Don't hand it to her till she has said thAnk you. It didn't take long with the thank yous!

It hasn't been easy ... Some of our battles have been epic!!!! But they are getting shorter !!

It's important to remember that at 2 frustration plays a huge part in it ... So work really hard on her vocabulary ... Flash cards, books, name everything make her repeat it.

I totally understand your frustration ... So much attitude in one little person ...and oh to be able to pee in peace!

[EKOS]

Oh thank heavens there are other mums that are here too. We have just gotten on top of the manners. THANKGOD because it's a real pet hate of mine. DD even thanks the traffic lights for turning green now.

However the squealing and tantrums and blatant NO is doing my head in. We started a sticker chart the other day so fingers crossed. But wow terrible twos are certainly in our house. Everything I read just says be consistent and don't give in. Easier said than done but we do fine the bedroom timeout technique works. Until the next drama comes along lol

[My Three Angels]

This is my ds2 to a T!!! He's 32mths now and O.M.G. the attitude on him :eek: everything is answered with a no (even if he wants it), every response is filled with angry and screaming at me and his manners (which use to be impeccable) are no longer existant

But i know there is light at the end of the tunnel as ds1 threw all this at me too and his turning point was 3 - loads of positive reinforcement and plenty of time outs in his room when things went too far seem to be working but as previously said consistancy is key!!! They really do remember when you give in and break away from your convictions

Fingers crossed things settle soon ((hugs))

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[mummys2maddi]

Where to start!! The last week has been so hard!! I have 3 under 3. My dd is 3.5, ds1 is 2.5 and my ds2 is 8 months old. My dd screams at me when she doesn't get her own way and when I walk away there has been many occasions when she will run up behind me and smack me in temper so she goes to her room for 3 minutes. Now my ds1 is 2.5 and the terrible twos have well and truly started!!! To the point where I feel like is this my fault!! My dp is home with me as he has injuries so we both are hitting our heads on a brick wall. Anything we do is just my good enough!! Not the right spoon, or cup or bowl! He is so much more difficult as a 2yr old then than my dd ever was. I'm sure it will end I can see a light but I just can't reach it! Being a parent is one of the hardest jobs out there, we only ever want what is best for our children but it is so exhausting!!! Thankfully my 8month old sleeps through the night and has since he was 6 weeks so I'm so very lucky he is my dream baby :) things can only get better ladies......until teenage years hit!!...

[OJandMe]

O and J were like that... and still are at 7 :freakingout:
Gabriel has always been an angel and completely missed the T2's.
Julian is soooooo whingy and particular about things you want to scream... but always uses his manners.
Lysander.... hopefully seems to be a bit like Gabe... but is super whingy at the moment.. I think it's his teeth.

[surfergal]

Gosh I could of writtern the same post.... although our two year old swings with her moods one week she is great, the next motherhood can be such a chore with a demanding whinging child.... I don't have any advice but happy to let you know you aren't alone.... be gone terrible twos i say!!!

[SoThisIsLove]

oh my goodness. Somewhere to relate and vent.

Right now my 2 yr old (well shes 2 next week) is throwing a tantrum cause she doesnt want to go to sleep

Im soooo exhausted and have had just about enough of her today.

She was bouncing off the walls before i tried to put her to sleep and trying to hit me after a day of running riot. Im over chasing her, saying no to her, the nagging and whining lol.....Shes just a little too young to discipline properly too. Arghh so over today!!

Im guessing from this thread that this is normal? For a 2 yr old and their worn out mummy? :o



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[Mof2]

This was our 2 yo exactly! I have found a huge difference in his behavior - huge decrease in whining and tantrums - by getting him involved and helping. Getting him to help get his bottle ready, help prepare food, bathing his baby sister etc. it has made him feel involved and useful around the house and really changed his attitude!

Good luck, I can relate as that was me locked in the bathroom not so long ago! :-)

[lovepurplebutterflies]

"KNOCK KNOCK" ah cant get a moments peace :sigh:

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lol sorry had a chuckle....:)