So confused about it all

[Bonkers]

I had my 12 week ultra sound just over a hr ago. I saw her little heart beating, I was so happy, iv had a bay feeling about this pregnancy for some time now, not one person believed me when I said I think something is wrong, they all said I was just being a worry wart.... Turns out my babies skin on the back of the neck is way to thick, I have to get a sample taken of the placenta. I think about what I did wrong to cause this on my baby? I am feeling so guilty. I need to make a choice, I know that much, and I'm pretty sure I know what I'll chose... I think it would be for the best, I have to worry about 2 other little people as well. I have to wait till Friday to see me doctor now so he can referee me to the ante natel clinic even tho I have my appt booked and everything for the end of the month. I feel so alone, I havnt told my parents yet, I don't know what to say to them. How would I word it? How would they react? They live on the other side of aus. I am all alone. I never thought this would happen to me, or ild be in this position to make this choice... How will I move forward from this? What happens next? I'm just left here till Friday with all these confusing thoughts running thro my head... I'm jealous of my friend who is having a health bub in december... I'm jealous of my fb group I know I shouldn't be... But I am... Why me? Why this poor helpless baby? I'm jealous at the dad he dosnt understand, he said he will support my choice what ever it is and not to worry till the results of the placenta come back... But how am
I not to worry? Would this be classed as a baby already? What do I do after if I abort her? Where does she go? How will they do it? I'm so Friken confused!!!! I just wanna scream an cry and punch something.

[Grebbeci]

Bonkers - what was the measurement for the nuchal fold? and did they give you your risk ratios?

And - There is nothing that you have done to this baby to cause any potential problems. If there is something wrong that they have detected on an NT scan then it's a chromosomal thing that you had ABSOLUTELY no control over. You can't blame yourself.

Hugs

[maybenumber3]

Awwww sending you massive hugs xxx

[Bonkers]

I don't know the measurement but I was high risk.

[HugsBunny]

Hugs

[Jakois]

Big hugs lovely.

[Grebbeci]

I don't know the measurement but I was high risk.

High risk is anything greater than 1:300.
I know what it's like to be high risk and your brain instantly stops comrehending anything else that comes up.
Don't jump to any conclusions, go to the appointment with your Dr. Ask what your risk levels were, make the decision on the CVS or amnio then. Wait on the results from that test before you decide what to do.

Take a breath, you've got a lot going on at the moment.

[Laydeebug]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

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[Bonkers]

I just called the lady, she only gave me the risk numbers. It's 1 in 38 chance of being downs

[Purple Lily]

Massive hugs :hugs:

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[Grebbeci]

:hugs:

Have the amnio and go from there sweetie. There is still a 37/38 chance that it doesn't. Give yourself some time to process.

[siesmum]

It certainly is a lot to take in and there is so much running through your mind. I had a 1:24 chance and all I could keep hearing was my dr say I have a high risk pregnancy.
I had an amnio and everything ended up being fine.
We chose not to tell anyone at the time as I couldn't handle other peoples responses. It was hard enough dealing with my own.
All I can offer and I know it isnt much, but take one day at a time. I spent the first few days after the scan just crying. Big hugs to you. Im happy to answer any questions you may have.

[Bonkers]

Thanks guys. Iv told mum and dad and my close friends. So at least I can cry on someone if i need it. I googled even tho I shouldn't of, I read a lot of stories with happy outcomes, I'm praying that I have a happy outcome. If I do then maybe someone up there was listening.

[waterlily]

:hugs: :hugs: glad you have support.

[jaesmummy]

I had a 1:20 risk of Down's with my son due to nuchal fold thickness. I too was very frightened and upset. The amnio wasn't nearly as scary as I expected - in fact it was a very simple, painless procedure. The waiting for the test results was awful - I cried all the time and kept telling myself that something was wrong. When the results came back I found out that there was nothing at all wrong with my baby. He's now a happy, healthy two year old. When he was born he had the chubbiest little neck - just rolls and rolls of fat! I know how hard it is not to panic yet, but there is still a good chance that your baby is fine. I have read hundreds of stories on here just like mine. Take it one step at a time and don't give up hope until you have the full story. See your doctor, have the amnio and wait it out. When you know more you can make a fully informed decision. I'm crossing my fingers that it all turns out well for you. :hugs:

[cookiedough]

I want to say try not to worry but I've been there and its hard not too. I was given 1 in 3 chance of downs and my baby is fine :)

[MumTotzlj]

hugs, downs babies can live normal happy lives.

I feel your pain when i was preg with my second, i knew somethign was wrong no-one would believe me. at 20weeks we found out he only had half a heart.

[charmamma]

Statistics is only that, numbers. It makes you wonder why we do these screening tests at all really? Trisomy 13 and 18 are the ones to be concerned about as they are the (usually) lethal trisomies which is usually the reason they recommend an amnio/cvs . At least with Down syndrome you have a healthy child who can lead a wonderful life.