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SairBear
25-10-2006, 14:19
ok heres my dilema. we have a bit of a blended family

i have a 4 yr old from a previous relationship who has my surname.
My partner and I are expecting our 1st bub together in april.
What surname should/would the bub have??

Ive never had to think about it until now.
Will it have my surname , DP's Surname or a hypenated surname???????
MummyCharmzy
25-10-2006, 15:42
My son from previous relationship has my surname, DP's son from previous relationship has his surname....

until we get married our daughters both have hyphenated surnames! lol Its a bit funny to see it all written down but the girls bring us all together IMO, when we get married the 6 of us will all share DP's surname :)
Lirael
25-10-2006, 15:45
Ds has my surname- he is from previous relationship
and DD has my surname too cos- ok this sounds lame, but I wanted them to have the same last name and her dad and I have had a very difficult relationship so I kinda stuck with mine in case he took off:o
shed
25-10-2006, 15:45
Probably your DP's surname I would think.

Whichever one you like better.

My cousins all have different surnames because my aunty has been married three times. They all grew up in the same house with all these different surnames and they all seem to have turned out allright!
mummyof5
25-10-2006, 22:49
I told my then DP that if he didn't marry me before baby came, it would have my surname.:yes: We ended up compromising after he proposed when I was pregnant (as I didn't want to get married very pregnant) and the older 2 had his surname before I did...
Buddha Bubbas
26-10-2006, 10:46
i have a blended family also. my DP has 2 kids. I have 1. and we have 1 together.

My daughter has my surname. MY DPs boys obviously have his. So we agreed if DS was a boy it would get his, if a girl mine. Also i wont be changing my surname when we get married as i want it to be the same as DD.
SairBear
26-10-2006, 14:07
I told my then DP that if he didn't marry me before baby came, it would have my surname.:yes: We ended up compromising after he proposed when I was pregnant (as I didn't want to get married very pregnant) and the older 2 had his surname before I did...


i like your thinking mummy.

Thank you for all the advice, its sorta a hard one to decide.. i just dont want it to be confusing, my DD is already asking why DP has a diff surname to us. It might confuse her even more if her sibling has a diff surname to her also. And i have considered hypenated surnames but dunno if it will be too much of a mouthful lol

I will keep you posted if we come to a conclusion.
All your idea about it have been wonderful
thanks
kerrin
26-10-2006, 14:27
My DD has my husband's surname but also has my surname as a middle name (I have kept my maiden name). This way she has a part of both of our families in her name without having a very long hypenated name.

I haven't had any real issues or confusion with her surname being different to mine.
EskimoMumma
27-10-2006, 06:37
DS has his fathers surname, same for DD and this DD will have her fathers surname as well.

Why break tradition?? (then again slavery WAS a tradition as well...:rolleyes: )
meags
28-10-2006, 05:50
my partner and i have had our first child before we were married so we gave him a hyphenated surname my surname then his dads... our 2nd child is going to have the same...
NZMama
30-10-2006, 12:44
Both my girls have 2 middle names so to give them a hyphenated surname would have been cruel. So they both have their fathers surname.
mixi_mama
02-11-2006, 07:43
my DS has his fathers surname (from previous relationship) and DD has my DH's last name. My DSS has a hyphenated surname - his mothers and my DH's last name
MrsDribbleDrawers
07-11-2006, 19:55
My dd has her dad's and my name (not hyphenated), but is known by my name, dss has his mum and dad's name (hyphenated, poor bugger), this bub will have both our surnames (like dd), but be known by my name.

It gives them the space to choose for themselves... and I've been a huge activist during my life time, didn't change my name when I got married, why should my children have to?!

Cate