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MrsMiggins
24-10-2006, 09:53
I'm interested to know if any bubhubbers have experienced Placenta Accreta and if so to what degree, at what point it was discovered, whether you had a vaginal delivery or a caesarian section, to what degree you experienced complications - the whole bit.
I'm just doing a little research as I am hoping for a VBAC, although have recently found out that the placenta this time is low & anterior, increasing my risk of accreta. I am yet to discuss the implications of this with my Dr or OB, so just want to do my homework in advance.
Thanks all!
Hi there, I have only just joined this site, so sorry for the delay in response! Placenta Acreta is a very real and seriously dangerous complication that almost took my life 10 weeks ago! I had never heard of this complication until after I had been through it, there are a number of women who have been through this, but aren't so keen to talk about it, me, the more women I can make aware of this, the better I feel! This happend during my 3rd pregnancy and I was an ever rarer case because I have never had any kind of abdominal surgery, so there was no scar tissue for the placenta to attach to, it just grew straight into the muscle of my uterous!
This pregnancy was different from the start, I had all day nausea till 20 weeks, and then the nausea returned at 28 weeks, at 30 weeks my blood pressure began to rise, at 32 weeks my ddoctor put me off work and put me on medication for the high bp, I was on twice weekly check-ups for my bp and to check for pre-eclampsia! At 37 weeks my doc went on holidays and sent me to a bigger hospital for a second opinion, I completed a 24hour urine test and then was rushed in for an induction in the new hospital the day the results came back concluding I had pre-eclampsia! I had a great labour and delivery and held my bub for 1/2 hr while doctors and midwives tried to remove my placenta. I remember signing the paper to agree too surgery and then the next thing I remember is waking up in ICU with a tube down my throat helping me breath and several IV's in my arms and neck, 1 in my arm was a magnesium drip to help control my blood pressure, all the other details have been filled in by my doctors and family whom have been a great support with everything that has happened!
Apparently this is what happened; I gave birth to my little girl, 1/2hour later I was put under and taken to surgery where they tried to remove the placenta, the placenta was grown too far into my uterous and just kept breaking away, I was having a massive bleedout, as fast as they were putting blood in, it was pouring out, so they gave me an emergency hysterectomy to stop the bleeding, all was thought to be ok, so they sent me to ICU to recover. In the early hours of the next morning, I started another bleedout and again was given blood transfusions, at this point my husband was advised to ring my family because they didn't know wether I was going to survive , this time they had to fill my tummy with packing and put dissolvable clamps on major arteries to stop the bleeding and was sent back to ICU. The next day I was sent back to surgery to remove the packing in my tummy! I spent 4 days in ICU recovering, 1 day in delivery sweet (too sick to go to Maternity) and then a further 3 days in Maternity! The staff at the hospital were fantastic, I cannot fault them in any way! Because of the rarity of this condition, no staff member was allowed into my room before they had read my notes and nurses and midwives were kept consistant for me!!
This complication is very hard to detect before you give birth and there are often no warning signs for it, all I know is that I am glad things went my way that night and I am here to be with my beautiful family!!
glowingglittergirl
29-03-2010, 17:01
Hi,
I have had placenta accreta with my first child but we didn't know about it until they delivered my daughter. I went into hospital at 38 weeks with bleeding, they broke my water after about 4 hours then put me on oxytocin drips (I think in the end I went through 4 drips), you are meant to go straight into labour but my body didn't respond. 12 hours after they broke my waters they did a caesarian and when they tried to deliver the placenta I nealy died from blood loss. I lost 3 litres in total and needed a blood transfusion straight away. I stayed awake during the operation (even though my epidural wore off during the delivery). I came out of it shaking and nearly unconscious. I got them to bbring my baby to me and they put her on my chest and she breastfed while I was having a blood transfusion! It was the most amazing thing. I also got pre-eclampsia (or had it already and didn't know it). I looked at my foot and couldn't recognise it from the swelling - this was as soon as my daughter was delivered. I spent over a week in intensive care and could only see my baby when my husband bought her up from the nursery each day, then when he left she had to go back to the nursery.
I couldn't breastfeed because my milk didnt come in properly becuase of the massive blood loss I had. I was on morphine for a week and then went to the maternity ward. I was ok once I got home except that I was very weak for ages and was on iron.
I'm pregnant again with No. 2 and have placenta accreta again. It is another life threatening pregnancy and I am more scared than ever as I have a 21 month old now. Anyway the Dr is being very thorough and is considering delivering my baby Boy at 34 weeks.
I wish everyone else out there luck. Placenta Accreta is a terrible thing to have to go through.
I love your user name GLOWINGGLITTERGIRL (very cute). WOW, you are a brave lady for going through it all again!! The whole nearly dying thing still gets me, but I am slowly coming to terms with it!! I nearly died twice, once when they were taking the placenta out which ended in a hysterectomy because it was too attached (I was Incretta level) and then a few hours later in ICU I had another bleed out from my Femoral Artery which was stopped with a dissolvable clamp!! They replaced all of my blood and then some more!! I was only the 2nd person in the area in the last 20yrs to have had this complication and was very lucky to have the surgeon I did, he actually left for holidays late because he wanted to fix me!! I am glad you are ok and were able to have more children and I am very sorry you have to go through it all again! I hope all goes well! Good Luck!!
Oh Glowingglittergirl and Pieta, wow, what a tough time you've both had.
Glowingglittergirl I hope the accreta isn't too bad this time and your delivery is a safe one. I can only imagine how terrified you must be. :hug:
Can I ask how they diagnosed accreta with this pregnancy? Was it via ultrasound or MRI?
The reason I went searching about accreta is because I've just found out (after going to hospital last sunday with a little bleeding) that with this pregnancy I have a low lying anterior placenta and it is currently completely covering my previous caesarean scar, which puts me at an increased risk of accreta.
I too am quite scared of the possibilities and Im praying that somehow my placenta moves up and away from the scar tissue. I'm currently 18 weeks and see my Ob again on 13th April.
Hi Spice, good luck with it all!! It wasn't realised I had Placenta Incretta until after I gave birth, so you are lucky that you are aware this could happen and if it does, you have some preperation time, I was a HUGE emergency and was very lucky I had been sent to a bigger hospital for my induction, my local hospital would never have been able to cope with the amount of blood I needed!! I really hope that your placenta moves, Acretta is a horrific experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone!! Recovery both physically and emotionally is a very long process (at least is has been for me)! I think Acretta is quite hardd to detect wit an ultrasound, and if they do find something and are concerned, they will send you for an MRI to confirm!! I had several ultrasounds throughout my pregnancy and not once did they pick anything up because the placenta had good blood flow and was functioning well and bub was growing well!! I am so thankful that this happened with my 3rd child, it would have been so much harder to deal with if it was my first and I couldn't have anymore children!!! Take care and I hope all goes well!
Hi all, I had Placenta Accreta with my first pregnancy also, and it was a big shock as it was not detected in any ultra sounds. Luckily I was booked in for a c-section so my dr was able to save my uterus with a balloon that he put in to stop the bleeding. I had multiply blook transfusions as well. I am now 31 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child and I am very scared about the placenta accreta occuring again. I have had multiply ultrasounds and it looks ok but as the dr explained it is very hard to pick up via Ultra sound. So really won't know until he is in there. I have been searching the internet for information on this issue, and am finding it hard to locate people that have had it in there 1st pregnancy and then had a second child. Does anyone know the chances of having it again? I would love to find out a bit more about it. I really don't want to go through it all again. I spent 3 days in ICU with very limited time with my baby, i also was unable to breastfeed due to blood loss. I took a long while to get over what had happened, and to try for number 2 as I was to scared. Any information would be handy.
Hi jeles76, thanks for sharing your sory, it is hard to find women who have gone through acretta! I am suprised your doctor hasn't sent you for an MRI to check for acretta again!! I had no idea the Acretta existed until I went through it, and the thing was I retained my placenta after my 2nd child that required a transfusion, and I have since been told that because of that I had a greater chance of developing Acretta, I have also done loooots of research into this as well that suggests if you have had it before, you are at a higher risk of having it again (sorry)! No-one checked for Acretta because it is so rare!! I really hope you don't have it again, it is a terrible thing to recover from!! Apparently 1 in 3000 pregnancies have Acretta, I think 15 percent of that 1 in 3000 have Incretta (my level), and then 5-7 percent have Precretta which is when the placenta grows through to the bladder and such!! If you are on Facebook, a great application is 'Circle of Moms', there is a support group for Acretta and a few Mums have posted their stories and there is info about it all, ask any question you like there and it usually gets answered!!! There are 9 1/2 million users of Circle of Moms and last time I checked, there were 16 members of the Acretta group, so it is very rare!! This group was a great support to me when it first happened and some of the women still check up on me lol!!! Hope all goes well for you, good luck!!
Thanks Peita3, for your information I am so glad I finally found somewhere to talk about Placenta Accreta, as it so rare it is difficult to find out information about it. My Dr told me that new research into Placenta Accreta has suggested that a MRI isn't really required. Not to sure, I have an appt with him next week so I'll ask about it. In some ways I don't really want to know if I have it again, at least not knowing allows me to have some hope (even just a little) that I might not have it again. Although I know the chances are very slim. The whole experience was a nightmare and I am so scared of going through it all again. I will join that facebook group, it's good to know that people are willing to talk about it as it makes it easier knowing I'm not the only one. Did you have it in your 2nd pregnancy? You mentioned that you retained your placenta, my dr mentioned this to me as well. This might be an option, how did you find this? Thanks for your reply it really helps.
glowingglittergirl
12-04-2010, 09:45
Hi Guys,
So glad to hear from you all :) It's nice to know that I'm not alone with this complication! :thumbsup: I'm 30 weeks pregnant with bub no. 2 and the placenta accreta was picked up via ultrasound (only cause I kept mentioning it and they were looking thoroughly for it). I am being monitored really closely now. I've got another ultrasound booked for this week so I'll let you all know if I find out anymore. My obst. has also booked me in for a MRI next week as that will tell her how much is placenta and how much is uterus. My placenta is joinedc to the uterus in two places this time so they suspect that it is worst than the first time (althought there not really sure cause they didn;t know I had it the first time) until my daughter was delivered via c-section.
Anyway my obst. has said she will deliver around 34 weeks or earlier (depending on the scans and MRI). That's only 4 weeks left - pretty freaky!!!! As long as I make it through again as I have my daughter Madison who is 2 on 21st May and I adore her so much! The one in my belly now is a a little Boy and I want to meet him so bad. He's very strong and active!.
Found out I have Gestational Diabetes too now so this week I'm going to see someone to get medication - hopefully not insulin injections cause I can't imagine injecting myself :eek:
Just waiting for the blood pressure to rise cause I also ended up with pre-eclampsia with my daughter. I think they are expecting me to get it again.
Keep posting, I love hearing everyones stories.
Take Care all, speak soon. :goodvibes:
Jeles76, I now think that my 2nd pregnancy was Placenta Acretta, but not bad, they took me to surgery and they said it eventually fell away on its own, but I needed a 2Unit blood transfusion anyhow!! You are very welcome for the information, I had no idea this condition existed and I really want women to be aware that it can happen, none of my friends, 8 of whom are having babies in May had any idea about it either!!! Neither of my cases were picked up in ultrasound, with my final bub, I had 5 ultrasounds in total and my last was 2 days before I was induced for the pre-eclampsia and everything was functioning fine and bub was very active, so they didn't notice anything, they were however ready for anything when I had my bub because of the previously retained placenta, I was ready for surgery before I even had my baby, just incase!!
It is funny how you both have mentioned the high blood pressure and pre-clampsia, after all of my research, I have come to the conclusion that is a side effect from Acretta, my 2nd, my BP went up at 34 weeks and in labour it went to 190/120, my 3rd Pregnancy was soo bad, I had all day nausea till 20 weeks, at 28 weeks the nausea returned and the swelling started, at 30 weeks my BP went up, at 32 weeks, I was put on complete bed rest and medicated and my BP still hovered at 150/98, I was hospitalised for 2 nights to get my BP stable, at 37 weeks, my GP/OB had to go away, so he sent me to the bigger public hospital close by to be monitered, that's when the protein in the urine started and 2 days later is was so bad that they induced me at the bigger hospital (thank goodness for that, would have very likely been a different story if I was at my small local public hospital)!!!
I had all of my kids vaginally, so the Incretta was a massive shock to everyone and I am only the 2nd case in 20yrs in my area and no-one really knew what to say or do with me!!! I am very lucky that I got the surgeon I did, he was the best in our area and his Registra was fantastic! The Registra actually came to see me before I left hospital to talk to me and because he had never seen it before, he was quite emotional about it, he said to me 1 more Unit of blood and then they couldn't help me, I was crying when he was talking to me and he pretty much was too, he didn't realise how traumatic something like this could be for everyone involved untill he had been there!
I hope everything works out for you guys, I couldn't imagine knowing about it and having to go through it again, I am still recovering emotionally and physically, 3 operations kinda took it out of me, but I'm alive and I know I am a very lucky lady lol!!!! I couldn't imagine life without my kids!!!! Good luck!!
Hi Glowingglittergirl, your story sounds very similar to mine. I also did not know that I had Placenta accreta with my first birth until the Dr was in there doing the c-section. I am 32 weeks pregnant now and my fears are the same as yours. I have 3.5 yr old boy who means the world to me and I hope and pray all goes well. I also had pre-eclampsia but this wasn't until after the birth. I had Bells Palsy at 37 weeks last time which was awful, luckily it only lasted 2 weeks. I hope it doesn't come back. I'm not sure if I have placenta accreta this time, the ultrasounds look good but you can't really tell with them so who knows. You mentioned that you are going to give birth early at 34 weeks. Does this reduce the risk at all? I haven't had a MRI, and my Dr seems to think it's not conclusive enough so not to sure I am going to mention this to him at my next appt. By the sounds of things it seems that most people who had it once get it again. But I'm still hopeful as I don't want to go through that whole ordeal again. I'm sure everyone understands that. Thanks for your information I take comfort in knowing that I'm not the only one that is going through this. Good luck and let us know how it all goes :)
glowingglittergirl
15-04-2010, 19:23
Hi Pieta and Jeles,
Where are you both? I'm in Melbourne and how old are you both? I'm sure it's not related to how old we are. I'm 30 weeks now and off for another ultrasound tomorrow then to the obst. to see if she can tell me when my bub will be delivered. I'm booked in for an MRI next Wednesday so that might be the telling test! I have been diagnosed with gestational diabetes now and am having to inject myself once a day with insulin. I was dreading having to giving myself a needle but its amazing how we can cope with doing things for our unborn children!
I'll keep in touch with you all and I want to know how your all going so keep in touch on the forum.
Speak to you soon.
Fiona xx
Hi Fiona, I am in Queanbeyan which is 10mins from Canberra!! I was 29yrs old when I had my hysterectomy due to Incretta and just turned 30 last week!!! I was 26 when I first had a mild case of Accreta (they now realise that is what it was, but didn't really know at the time), but because of the rarity of this complication, no-one really knew what to do with me after everything had happened! I am so very glad that I have found a little bit of online support because I was only the 2nd case in the last 20yrs that my doctor can remember!! Even the health clinics here were unsure about what support to give me!! Everyone has been great considering and I am feeling a lot better than when it first happened 5 1/2 months ago, still got a long way to go, 3 operations have left my tummy still very uncomfortable and emotionally, it is so hard to move on!! I now freak out with all my pregnant friends wether they are healthy or not, I have 6 friends due with babies in the nest 5 weeks and it is taking it out of me lol!! I also don't cope with going to hospitals for any reason, I verge on panic attacks, the other thing I can't watch anymore is Medical TV shows (ER, All Saints, RPA, any thing similar) and even Domestic Blitz gets turned off because I can't bear to watch the health issues some of those people have!! If my husband is into something on TV, I will quite often say I can't watch this and walk away and do something else lol!!
How did your partners cope with everything?? After all my trauma, my husband was a bit of a mess, great now, but he thought he had lost me twice and even rang my family to give them news that they didn't know if I was going to survive, I can't imagine what it must of been like for him!! He also had my 6yo boy and 3yo girl to try and deal with also, we were very lucky we had great friends and family to help us out!! My kids still talk about what happened, they heard bits and pieces, so I sat down and talked about it with them, its amazing what information little ones can comprehend!!
I try and stay upbeat and positive about life now and never take things for granted!! Everytime I read someone elses story, it brings tears to my eyes, and I have no idea how you guys are managing to cope knowing this could happen again, I guess if you know though, then there is time for some sort of preparation!! Again, I hope all goes well for everyone, good luck!!
Peita xo
Hi Fiona, I live in Sydney and I am 33 years old. I was 30 when I gave birth to my little boy and had the placenta accretta. My Husband was in a state of shock for a while after it happened, he is getting quite anxious now about the birth to come. I am also very happy that I have found somewhere to talk about it, as I couldn't find any information on it when it happened 3 years ago. I am very scared of what's to come in 6 weeks time. It a little sad as all the excitement of a new baby is being taken away by the worry of my placenta. I guess it helps a little being prepared mentally this though. I keep you all updated on how it progresses. thanks for your information.
Hi all, just wondering how everyone went with their births. I had my baby 2.5 weeks ago and the placenta was fine this time but due to the damage that accreta caused in my first pregnancy,the wall of my uterus was paper thin and I was losing to much blood, so I had to have a partial hysterectomy. Once this was done I went into recovery but the bleeding still did not stop so I had to go back into surgery this time under general, so my dr could have a look to see why the bleeding didn't stop, he fixed this up then I was in ICU for 1 night. I lost nearly all my blood, and had to have 10 units transfused. It was a nightmare. I am still really upset about it all. Although I knew that a hysterectomy was always on the cards I thought/hoped it wouldn't actually happen.
I guess I should be grateful that I have 2 beautiful boys and I didn't have a hysterectomy after my first birth. It's so unfair though, not sure what I did to deserve so complicated births. I really hope all the other births went better then mine.
Hope to hear from you all soon
Hi Jeles, I am very sorry things didn't all work out for you! My little girl is nearly 8 months old and I still think about what happened every single day, it is a very diffucult thing to move on from! I hope you are coping with everything, it took me a long time to speak out loud about my acretta without crying and still now I get teary about it all, I am so grateful that I found a few groups and and threads that I could vent on!! I did have a mini meltdown about it all, we have had lots of family sickness and it all got on top of me - these are things that I used to cope very well with, but struggle a bit now!! I had lots of friends having babies too which made my recovery a little difficult for me as I thought that something bad was going to happen each time they went into labour, thankfully, they all did well and I have settled knowing they are all fine now! I am slowly coming to terms with it all, one thing I was told by a councellor I saw was that talkers seem to recover a lot quicker than people who hide everything, so if I am ever feeling down now, I talk to friends or family and things to seem to feel better for a while, make sure you do the same, the big thing for me was to talk to my husband as much as possible, he isn't a big talker, but after this, I needed him to be and it made a difference!! He has told me exactly how he felt and we are a lot closer knowing how we feel!!!
I am so glad you came out ok in the end, your husband still has a wife and your kids still have their mummy:)
I have flash backs all the time, I had a 4 1/2 day stay in ICU and it wasn't very nice, they tried to keep me asleep for most of it, but I kept waking up, and I just remember bits and pieces of what went on!
I hope your recovery is going well and your family are coping too!! Take care and remember to talk or post on here if you need someone to talk to! It is really hard to find people who have been through this and it is so good to have someone who has been through it to talk to!! Take Care xo
Hi Peita thanks for your reply and kind words. It helps a lot to talk to someone who has been through this as my friends and family don't really understand, although they are trying to be very supportive. This time around I feel a lot better then the first time it happened with my first boy. I was in a state of shock for a long time after that one. I guess I was sort of prepared for the worst this time although I thought it might be ok this time around. I thought I paid my dues and I couldn't have that much bad luck, guess i was wrong. I feel sad and angry that I had to go through it all again. It seems so unfair why couldn't I have had a normal birth like everyone else? My recovery has been a lot longer this time as I had the 2 operations, and when I was under general they moved everything around to find the bleeding so it is taking longer to recover this time. Also with a newborn I don't have much time to rest so I think this is adding to the delayed recovery. It would be good if there was a face to face support group that I could attend to talk to other women that have experienced this. It definately helps to talk about it with people that understand. Thanks again for your reply. I take you up on your offer and vent on here when I need to, it makes me feel better. Thanks again
glowingglittergirl
27-06-2010, 00:49
Hi again,
I had my baby boy Brayden 4 weeks ago. My waters broke early at 34 weeks and at 35 weeks they delivered him via c-section as I did not go into labour again! I had the anaethesist scare me by coming in on the morning of the op to tell me I could die in it as I lost so much blood the first time around, anyway the prep'd me really well (the anaethesist) and I had huge drip pieces in me ready incase they needed to transfuse blood again. They delivered Brayden and amazingly the placenta delivered normally. I was up and about by the next morning and extremely eager to see my beautiful baby who was in the special care nursery with a feeding tube into his belly and a drip in his little hand feeding him sugars (due to my gestational diabetes). He spent a week in the nursery and then came to my room. I'm allowed to breastfeed him for 10 minutes on each side and then he has to have formula topup so I don't wear him out too much! I'm really sorry to hear about you having a partial hysterectomy (I was expecting one too) but I'm glad to hear you have survived it again! I wish you the best of luck with your new bub and will keep an eye out on this forum, it's been great to have you guys here to chat to. Take care both of you Pieta and Jules!!! XX:angel:
You are very welcome Jeles!!! I understand completely about not having anyone who understands exactly what you have gone through!! My family and friends were so supportive and did all they could for me, but it is nice to be able to talk things through with someone who has been there, the only other person my doctor knows personally of having Acretta was a patient from 9 yrs ago and he has been delivering babies for 15yrs!!!!! I do hope everything goes well for you and things settle, I still get teary and think about what happened every day, but slowly I am learning to deal with everything!!! I have a question Jeles, how has your husband coped with everything, because my Incretta was such an emergency, my hubby thought he had lost me, the hospital even told him it might be a good idea to ring family because they didn't know if I would survive!! He rang my mum and dad and has told me it was the hardest thing he has ever had to do, he could barely speak when he rang, we have talked about it and it breaks my heart to think he had to go through all of that (I cry everytime I think about this), in a way this has bought us a lot closer together and we never fight anymore, which I guess is a good thing:)
Fiona, I am so glad to hear that everything was better this time around! Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy!! I hope everything stays well for you and your family, take care xo
Hi Fiona and Peita, thanks for your replys. Fiona I'm so happy that everything went well for you this time. You must be so grateful. Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy. My experience was much worse this time around, I lost so much blood and had to have 10 units transfused. It was a nightmare.
Pieta, my husband has coped pretty well with it all, he was in shock when it happened the first time especially since we had no idea acretta even existed, he was very emotional when he had to explain to my family what had happened. The second time around, it was a little easier but also a little shocking especially since the placenta came out fine and he left the theatre with our son and went to tell the family that all was ok. Everyone was celebrating that the placenta was ok, then he was called back down to theatre to speak to me as we need to discuss the hysterectomy due to the blood loss. He was very emotional with me in the theatre and also having to deliver the news to the family that I had to have the hysterectomy after all. Then having to go back in to theatre again after the hysterectomy. My husband often describes it as the best/worst day of his life. He says that he can't believe how one minute he was so happy to hold his son then the next very scared that he might lose me. We often talk about what happened both those times, he isn't a big talker either and I usually end up in tears talking about it so I think he trys not to bring it up as he doesn't want to upset me. We both agree that it is so unfair that we had to go through such an ordeal, but we are grateful that we have 2 beautiful boys and I am still here with them all. Thanks again for your replys and please keep in touch. Take care
Don't know if any of you guys are still reading posts, but just had 20 week scan and have placenta previa with a strong possibility of placenta accreta. I have to have a transvaginal scan in 4 weeks.
All of the info is scarey. One thing seems to be in my favour. The fact that it has been picked up already is a good thing. See my OB tomorrow. Will hopefully have a plan in place.
Some of you meantioned being delivered at 34 weeks. Is this common? Do they prepare bub for early birth by giving steroid injections to mature the lungs? There are soooo many questions to ask.
As much as it's scarey to read your experiences, it at least helps prepare you. Again, so happy it was found before birth, hopefully won't be as rough as it was for some of you girls.
Is it that rare? Planned to book into a private hospital, but will I be classed as high risk and only be delivered at larger public? Hubby is coming with me to appointment as I will find it all a bit confronting and I want to make sure all questions are answered.
Mam
Mama2Mia
26-07-2010, 22:06
OMG you poor things!
I've never heard of it and initially thought it was the same as Placenta Previa but clearly not!
I'm interested to know if there's any way that the Obs/Drs can tell before the actual birth (in a normal case) and if there are any signs that it could be placenta accreta after a vaginal birth (like excessive bleeding etc)??
Gosh so scary to think about it!
Hi Mam, so sorry to hear you may have Acretta, yes it is rare, but is on the rise due to more women having multiple c-sections (the placenta really likes scar tissue to attatch to). My case was rare because I had never had a c-section before! It would be scarey finding out in advance, it was terrifying for me as mine wasn't picked up (docs don't really look for it because it is so rare) and I wokeiin ICU! I was actually invited as a guest speaker at national midwifrey week at the Canberra hospital in May because of the rareness of this in my region! If it is determined that you have Acretta, they will more than likely book you in for a c-section and that way there is less chance of excessive blood loss (which will be better for you). I have read a lot of stories from women and the majority of cases are picked up after giving birth, I was initially induced 3 weeks early for pre-eclampsia and this seems to be the case for a lot of other women also!
Is this your first child??
You may get sent to a larger hospital, it would probably be best if you do have Acretta, I was sent from my small public hospital to the Canberra hospital 20 min away for the pre-eclampsia and I can't thank my doctor enough for doing that, he wasn't happy with how things were going and thought it would be ssafer in Canberra, than god he did that, because the outcome may have been very different if he hadn't of! I hope all works out for you, make sure you write all your questions down so you don't forget to ask your doctor anything!! Also, I am sure if you have any questions, someone will answer them here!! Good Luck!!
Mama2Mia, a lot of Acretta case are not picked up until after you have given birth, it's rare and if you haven't had previous c-sections, it isn't generally looked for!! I didn't know it even existed until I went through it! They know you have it straight after you give birth because the placenta does not come out and you bleed excessively because blood vessels cannot shut off with the placenta still in! Some women, the placenta can be manually removed in surgery and the uterus is saved (as it has only attached itself to the lining of the uterus), but in many cases as in mine, the placenta had grown into the muscle of my uterus and the only way to get it out was a hysterectomy, I am thankful I have 3 children, because this would have been devestating on my first child! Sometimes (rarest case) the placenta grows completely through the uterus and grows into organs such as your bladder.. It is terrifying to go through this, but I am slowly coming to terms with it (my little girl is now 9 months old) and am happy to answer any questions for anyone!!!
Pieta3 - thank you so much for responding.
Saw OB yesterday. Having a transvaginal scan in 4 weeks. Will help confirm how bad it is. OB didn't indicate that it may not be acretta, seemed pretty confident that it is.:(
I did some research before I went, so I'd have an idea what he was talking about, so he was really great with explanations and probable plans.
Definately have to go to big public hospital. Just next door to private anyway. Most likely MRI as well.
OB had last case 18 months ago and was really happy with outcome and shared what they did. Have epidural, then they insert stents in the femoral arteries in both legs. Go for c-section and as soon as bub is born, they blow up ballooons in the stents to block the blood flow.:dizzy:
This minimises blood loss while they remove the placenta and determine whether they can save uterus or remove it. Stents removed after completed. OB said last case didn't even need one transfusion! Comforting at least.
This is my fourth baby. I have 3 girls already and this little bundle of joy is another girl! I have had c-sections for all 3. Emergency with first as I don't dialate and elective for others.
I had previously decided to have tubes done, so OB is aware that if easier, cut it out!!!
I hate epidurals and am pretty anxious about being awake if something goes wrong. I can't wait however to meet my little Livinia Ava ( Livy ). At least she won't be affected, will be delivered at 37 weeks. She's healthy and growth perfect at this stage, obviously will be monitored closely.
Thanks again for your advice, I'll keep you updated. Just feeling overwhelmed today, didn't sleep well with all of that info going around in my head!
Mam
4babycinos
28-07-2010, 12:22
Hi Ladies,
This was something I was worried about when I found out the placenta was anterior at 7 weeks. At my 19 week morph scan it was noted that the placenta was not in the way of the cervix or the previous c-sec scars, so that ruled out placenta praevia.
But I have now read that after 3 prior c-secs that your chances of accreta rise by 40% and the placenta doesnt necessarily have to attach to the old scar tissue to be accreta. It can attach anywhere on the uterus and does not have to be placenta praevia.
So, where were your placentas attached?
It's just that I'm having a VBA3C and I definately dont want this to be picked up until afterwards!!! I would rather find out now and change my care provider who could deal with this.
Mam- :hugs: hugs hun, it sounds like your OB knows what he is doing and it sounds like he is confident in the outcome.
Hi Mam, so sorry to hear you may have accretta hopefully the scans show otherwise. I had accretta with my first birth, not sure why it happened but didn't know until the delivery. I was having a c - section anyway due to family history. I had the balloon things you mentioned put in that time as it was my first birth and I did not want a hysterectomy, which was on the cards. Luckily my ob managed to save my uterus and I recently gave birth to my second son, who is now 8 weeks. I didn't have accretta this time around but due to the damage caused last time I had major blood loss and ended up with a partial hysterectomy. My ob mentioned doing the balloon thing again to save my uterus but he also said that he would not reccomend me having anymore children as I would be risking my life, in the end opted for the hysterectomy. I had both my births in a private hospital but it was a big one so they were able to cater for my high risk case. Lucky for you this is your 4th child so although it is still not ideal it will be much easier to deal with. Good luck with it all, and all the best with your girls, I'm one of 5 girls so it must be great to be have all girls, I was hoping for a girl, but instead got 2 healthy boys, would have liked to try for a girl but unfortunatley wasn't meant to me for me. Keep us updated on the progress, take care.
Mam, your doctor sounds awsome! My doc was great, but like I said, it was dicovered I had Accreta until after I gave birth, and once I was given the emergency hysterectomy, I had a masive bleed out a little while later from my right Femoral artery (I ended up with a dissolvable clamp on there), so your doc sounds very well prepared! I really hope things work out well for you! Any questions, just ask:)
mummalisciosto3 - I hadn't had any c-sections before my accretaa and I never had placenta previa either, so Accreta can happen to anyone! All I know is that my placents had grown through the lining of my uterus and had imbedded itself into the muscle of my uterus, there was no way they were going to be able to remove the placenta and because it was a huge shock for everyone, hysterectomy was the safest option for me, my poor husband was the one who had to tell them to do it!! You are more likely to get Accreta after multiple c-sections because the placenta really likes the scar tissue, but it can happen to anyone!!
Hey there Jeles:), wow, 8 weeks have gone by already, I hope you are feeling well and healing nicely! I hope all of your boys are beng good to you! Take care xo
Hi Peita, I'm ok, almost pain free now. It has taken a while to recover from the 2 ops and the hysterectomy, but almost there. Still a little tender. Ethan is 8 weeks today but this has gone so slow for me, he has been quite unsettled for the last 2 weeks. Looking forward to him reaching the 3 month mark, i think it gets easier from then. Coping ok with the traumatic birth now, at the moment I am so sleep deprived that the last thing on my mind would be to go back for no 3, so not feeling to bad about the hysterectomy now, but I think once Ethan turns 1 and life is a little easier it might hit me then that I would have liked to try for a girl but unfortunately this isn't meant to be. keep in touch
Jeles, you sound a little down...I hope your little one settles soon, it is very hard to deal with life in general when you are sleep deprived let alone the extra trauma you went through....I know all too well how you must feel!!! I ended up at about 5 months after having my girl going to see a councellor and it has been great for me! I know family and friends can be a great support as mine were, but an outsider can give a fresh perspective on things... I found that everyones response was 'you survived and that's the main thing', I know that is the main thing, but there is sooooo much more that goes with having Accreta that they don't get, having a hysterectomy so young is really difficult to deal with, I was 29yo and I feel a little cheated not being able to have the choice to have more children!
Alice wll be 1yo on 29th October and I am already dreading it, I have been making plans for it so I will be busy the whole time and not be able to think about it as much! I have been told by other survivors that the most difficult time for them is their kids birthdays, even 5yrs on and it still upsets them! I also had a midwife tell me when Alice was 6 weeks old that I may feel ok now, but there is a chance that it will hit me down the track... and it did, that 5 month mark I was an emotional wreck, I couldn't talk to anyone about it and I would cry over everything, my poor husband didn't really know what to do with me!!
Anyhow, take care and don't be afraid to ask for help if you are not coping...even if you just want to have a vent to someone, I will more than likely respond:) Take care xo
PS..it took me about 12 weeks to start feeling good physically, hang in there, there is an end to the pain!!!
Hi Peita thanks for your reply, yes feeling a little down I think it is mainly to do with the lack of sleep, when Ethan sleeps well and i get a break I feel a lot better. You are so right about peoples responses, I get that all the time as well, the other thing that people say to me that annoys me is you're so lucky that you won't have to deal with pap smears and periods ever again. Lucky!, far from it! I think people think that they are making you feel better by saying these things but it's the complete opposite. I would give anything to have my periods back. I honestly don't think I have come to grips with that yet. The early childhood centre has given me some numbers for a counselling, I haven't go around to it but I will. I saw a psychologist after my first traumatic birth. It definately helps. I know what you mean about dreading the 1st b'day, it's a really good/hard day to deal with. You feel happy to celebrate your childs b'day but also you can't help but think about what you were going through at that exact moment. I find that I am feeling really angry at the moment, angry that I had to go through this twice, and that I will never get to experience a normal birth without the drama. It's not fair! Thanks for letting me vent, keep in touch xxx
Hi guys. Having a few down days. Kids have been sick and I'm tired. Feeling overwhelmed and anxious.
More questions. I'm worrying about breast feeding Livy. From what I can understand so far, I'll be in surgical ward and she'll be in the nursery. Distance between the two is an issue. Were you capable of breast feeding after surgery? Will I be supported in breast feeding? I'll have to rely on staff bringing her to me. It's really upsetting me as I've always had the girls with me. Hubby stays and helps, so never utilised nursery.
I have suffered post natal depression with last two and am now permanently on antidepressants and anti anxiety meds. I feel as if I'll really suffer emotionally if I don't get the chance to breast feed. I love bf. This will be the last bub, so it's really important to me.
Will be a private patient in public hospital for the first time, so don't know what to expect.
Any advice?
Mam
Hi Mam,
Breast feeding was important to me too, but due to me loosing so much blood, it never fully eventualted unfortunately! I was in The Canberra Hospital (public) and they were fantastic about the breastfeeding.. My little girl was in NICU while I was in ICU and whenever the midwives had a chance, they would come and express for me (I was asleep for 2 days), and when I was awake, my husband or the midwives would bring her to me for a feed! It was really hard work because I was so sick, but worth the little I got to do! My milk came in day 4, but my supply never increased and the surgeons had already warned me that this could happen, but still, they let me try. I ended up breastfeeding and topping up with formula for 6 weeks (that's when my supply nearly dissapeared) and then just did a late afternoon feed until my milk was gone. I am thankful I had that little bit of time to do it..
If they minimise the amount of blood you loose, you should be fine to breastfeed, it was explained to me by my surgeon that when you loose alot of blood, there is a part of your brain that shuts down so your body can't loose any more fluids ie.breastmilk...
The other thing that stops women from feeding after surgery is if they have to go on high dose antibiotics (they aren't safe for bub).
Also, you do have the option of having a tube in your bubs nose so they don't get confused between boob and bottle if you have troubles starting breastfeeding straight away...
I hope your kiddies get better soon and things look up for you, just remember that your doc has seen this before (even though it is rare) and you sound like you are in good hands, they will be prepared and hopefully the Nursery staff will co-operate and give you a hand with the breastfeeding, maybe go and talk to the hospital about it all and voice your concerns, the last thing I remember before they put me under was a midwife asking me if I wanted to breastfeed, I said yes and then they diid the best they could untill I was able to do things myself.
I just thought I would add that I didn't have my baby stay in the room with me until the night of day 5 and it was really hard to be away from her, as like you, I had my other children with me.. Hopefully if your surgery goes straight forward with no complications you won't be too long without your bub..
Take care:)
Thanks Pieta3. It is reassuring that breast feeding should be encouraged. Fingers crossed, having control of the blood loss with the stents will enable me to feed. Also, if loss is minimal, might be put in maternity ward sooner. Private patient, so might get single room that DH can stay. That would be the best outcome! Have confidence in OB. Just have to control my anxiety. You mentioned that trauma counselling was available. Maybe I can get help with relaxation prior to surgery.
It's really helpful having others to ask questions of, that have been there. Sometimes you feel stupid asking these questions of OB. I really appreciate you taking the time to respond.:hugs:
Mam
Hi Guys. Had scan today and saw OB. Bub is growing just fine. Got the most beautiful 3D scan of her face. She looks just like DD#3.:cloud9:
Situation hasn't improved, infact, probably worse. Looks like the placenta has encroached the bladder. Ultrasound isn't definite enough to tell if the placenta is just snuggled up next to or actually attached to the bladder. Need to have an MRI to get more detail.
OB has now told me that a hysterectomy is likely. Will have a special surgeon that specialises in reconstruction surgery. Repair bladder if required.:dizzy:
Will have epidural, stents put in femoral arteries in both legs. Have general for c-section. Get bub out, repair damage, get out with minimal bleeding. Well that's the plan.
Sick atm, not feeling great, not really processing well. Antibiotics again.:( Sick kids too. Alot to take in, but coping ok.
Mam:wave:
Hi Mam,
So so sorry to hear about the extent of your situation, but very glad to hear everyone is getting prepared and things won't be such a shock when they go in to operate! I am actually crying knowing that you are going to have to go through so much, I hope things work out fine, it sounds like you have a great team on your side though which can oly be a plus!!
My little girls first birthday is coming up in the end of October and I am starting to think about things more and more, I have an appointment with my doc at the begining of october as she is a bit concerned about me having a meltdown, hopefully that won't happen, I am trying to stay strong:)
I can't imagine how I would cope in your position, I just hope things all go your way on the day... Rest up and keep well (as best you can with sick kids at home), keep us updated, take care xo Peita xo
Hi Mam, so sorry to hear your news about the ultrasound. I hope you are coping ok with this news, I know it must be very hard and very scary. But as Pieta says at least everyone is prepared for you so that must be very comforting. I think the worst thing for me was not being prepared at all, not knowing anything about Placenta accreata until it happened to me. Please feel free to ask any q's on here i found that this forum really helped me during my last pregnancy. Just knowing that you are not the only one is very comforting.
Peita, hope everything goes well for you with your upcoming daughters birthday, you sound like a very strong, positive person so I'm sure it will, and if anyone deserves to have a meltdown I'm sure we do! It might actually make you feel better to let it out rather then hold it in. I'm feeling ok just very tired as Ethan is still quite unsettled during the night, he wakes around 3 times a night so I don't get much straight sleep, just lots of broken sleep which is awful. I hope he starts sleeping through soon as he is 12 weeks tomorrow, so i can only hope!
Keep in touch xxx
Thanks for your words of support guys.
All sick here atm. Focusing on getting through and feeling better. Life is busy, so putting birthing issues in the back of my mind. Getting through one day at a time.
Feeling very confident with plan, just don't want to think about it until I have to. Not in denial, just choosing not to stress excessively until the time comes.
I am very lucky that this was my last pregnancy. I would feel very cheated and resentful if it meant that I couldn't have more kids, especially if I had planned more. I totally understand that celebrating your daughters first birthday is a joy and also a kick in the guts. Go ahead and have a meltdown, you're allowed to show that it upsets you.
Being tired after birth is difficult full stop! Having the extra trauma and emotional turmoil that goes with the difficult birth has to be draining. I at least will be prepared to a point, not in shock. My DD#3 was a handful after birth, very unsettled, no sleep. I have never felt so alone and inadequate. Sleep deprevation is a killer. Torture. I ended up getting help from community nurse. She was great and referred me to sleep specialists. Don't hesitate to ask for help, it is out there, just need help to access it.
Chin up, keep positive!
Mam:flowerz:
Bub is transverse. Not enough head room down there! Placenta in the way. Sooo uncomfortable. Doubt she'll move, so looking forward to a very uncomfortable time until birth. Having trouble doing up shoes!:laughing:
Assuming this is common. It makes sense.
Quiet atm. No tests or scans/MRI for another 3 weeks. Enjoying the break. Helps make it feel like a "normal" pregnancy. Just letting bub grow and be happy, not thinking about the birth.
Hope all are well and bub settling Jeles. I was thinking of you Pieta with your daughters birthday. Hope the day was a joy and not a reminder.
Mam
Ethan is still a bit unsettled during the nights, still not sleeping through, I can't wait until that happens. Mam you mentioned a sleep specialist, did you mean Tresillion? Glad all is ok for you and you are getting a break from all the tests. How many weeks are you now? Keep in touch all xxx
Jeles - yes the sleep specialist was through my baby health nurse. Trisillion. We lived in Sydney when had DD#1, Trisillion was at Nepean, where we delivered. I assumed that the centres were everywhere, but no, not in newcastle. If we needed to go that extra step to get help, we would of had to book into Nepean.
In hindsight, I have heard that an osteopath that specialises in babies is great. They don't hurt them, all pressure points. Makes sense. Bubs is all squished and twisted up in there at the end, pinched nerves would kill! Maybe consider giving that a try. If there are any issues this time around, I'll definately consult one! I'm going to be realigned after this bub, helps with posture after pregnancy and helps keep back strong, especially after c-section.
Worth a try, not too expensive and usually only need a couple of appointments.
I was willing to try anything if it helped. Sleep deprevation is a killer.
Mam
Hi Ladies, just checking in to see how you are going!! I am feeling settled about everything at the moment and am looking forward to a weekend away shortly with just my family:)
Jeles, I hope Ethan is getting better at nights for you, I started back working (I do Family Day Care) and it was hard work getting up in the mornings after sleepless nights! I can tell you though that there is an end to it eventually!! Alice was my hardest child in relation to sleep (the other 2 slept through the night from 9 weeks old), it is hard to recover from the trauma of everything we have been through when you can't sleep properly:(
Mam, I hope everyone is well in your house now, no more sick children!! Keep us updated on your tests, hope all is well!
Take care ladies and keep in touch xox
Peita
Hi ladies. Update from me. Ready for it. Appears I may be looking at percretta not acretta or increatta. Bladder involved.
Having a MRI in 4 weeks. More detailed than ultrasound. Need to establish if there is a blood flow to bladder or just snuggling. Not looking great.
OB putting team together. Definately hysterectomy and looks like bladder reconstruction will be required. Stents in femoral arteries prior to c-section. Blood loss anticipated. Been told might end up in ICU.
Had GTT test today. OB commented that we didn't need another complication, so fingers crossed. No problems previous pregnancies.
BP was up on normal. 130/70. To be expected with the extra stress. Hope it stabilizes.
Carrying uncomfortably. Bub is transverse up under my ribs. Can't go head down as placenta is taking up all the room down there. Feel like I'm further along than 29 weeks. Waddling and reflux bad. Not sleeping well. Mind always ticking.
At least my problems may help others. A study is being conducted with MRI. Working out the best time to do it and get most info. Thank god my OB has experience with this prob. His receptionist told me that none of the other private OB's she knows haven't dealt with this issue.
Keeping chin up.
Mam:flowerz:
Mam, my goodness, sorry to hear the extent of your situation, bt on the upside, glad to hear theree is a team and plan being put in place for you and that you are keeping your chin up!!
I hope your BP stabilizes too, mine went up to 160/90 and that's when they medicated me and it would only come down to 150/90, the meds made me so lethargic, I was like a baby, having 2 two hour sleeps every day!! Hopefully you won't have to go on meds for that!!
I have found another group (mostly american women), but there are ladies in the group who are going through exactly what you are!! If you post a question, you get multiple responses and they are all personal responses which I have found really helpful, they have answere a few things that I was wondering about still! You can chat back and forth with the women if they are online at the same tiime as you too.. The group is in Yahoo Groups (I just put in Accreta and this group came up).. Maybe this group is something that will help you out too!!
I hope the rest of your pregnancy isn't too uncomfortable, take care and keep in touch..
Peita xo
4babycinos
24-09-2010, 12:40
MAM - :hugs:
Hi Mam
I am so sorry to hear the extent of your placenta problems. I really feel for you. I ended up in ICU for both of my pregnancies, it's a little scary but good to be monitored 24/7. I often wonder what it would have been like to experience a normal birth, with no complications and to be able to enjoy the moment, at least both yourself and Peita got to experience this. I will never know, both my births were nightmares. My first boy Lachie turned 4 yesterday. I can't believe it has been 4 years since that moment. Last night my hubby and I were talking about what we were doing at that time 4 years ago. I was in ICU and probably in the worst place I've ever been mentally. I remember being so scared and just in shock as I have never even heard of placenta accretta. 4 years on and who would have thought that I would have gone through it twice. Not fair.
Peita - Ethan is still not sleeping that well at night, and yes it makes it very hard to cope some days. Lachlan was also a bad sleeper. I hope it gets better soon.
Keep in touch girls, and my thoughts are with you Mam. xxx
I have come into this one a little late because my bub is now 3!
I had Placenta accreta. I had no risk factors otehr than having has a previous baby.
It was not discovered until after my baby was born and the placenta would not come away and I started to bleed.
I was knocked out with Ketamine (awful awful stuff) and they manually removed my placenta. I will still bleeding and they were preping me for a hysterectomy. I passed out from loss of blood and they were putting it in as fast as they could.
I managed to avoid the hysterectomy by around 10 minutes. I had multiple blood tranfusions and haemacall(sp?) around 6 or 8 bags and also a lot of fluids.
I had 5 iv's. For a short time I had no measurable blood pressure.
My doctor did tell me that I could have another pregnancy and it may not happen again, although the risk was much higher due to the previous problem. I would (ideally) donate my own blood before conception, have a planned caesar and possible a hysterectomy.
I only wanted 2 children, I have them and they are healthy. I definately didn't want to go back a third time after that experience!
He did say that going in armed with the knowledge you have it or are likely too means that the situation will not necessarily go the way mine did.
I can now say finally after 3 years I am on my way to being as healed as I can be.
Those of you who have gone back after it happening have my absolute respect. You are very strong and amazing people. I do not think my mental health would support it and I cannot go back to the dark place I was.
I hope you all have as trouble free labours as you can and all goes well for you.
Mam I am so sorry to read about your diagnosis I hope your bladder is not involved. I am thinking of you and sending all the go well vibes I can
Evening ladies!:wave:
Question - has anyone heard that pre-eclampsia is linked with our placenta problems?
When I first started researching, I came across the link between the two. Alot of births seemed to occur around 34 weeks due to the onset of pre-eclampsia.
My last OB appointment my BP was up a bit. I'm usually 120/70 the entire pregnancy, no changes. It was up to 130/70. I know, not much but I'm also noticing extra fluid on feet. Haven't had fluid retention previously either. Felt hot flushes as well wash over me. Days have been a little warmer, but not enough I didn't think to cause changes.
Anyone else heard about this? If I go at 34 weeks, that's only 4 1/2 weeks away!:eek: Not ready yet!
Mam
Hi Rommi, Welcome:)
Sorry you had to go through this, it's terrible to recover from! I was like you, My second child, I had Accreta (only the doctors referred to it as a retained placenta) and I had never had any abdo surgery at all. There were no warnings like bleeding during the pregnancy and it was a suprise to everyone, when I was put under for surgery, my placenta fell away and I received a 2 Unit blood transfsion...
My 3rd pregnancy, I was never warned that this could happen again, I guess they thought it was rare and wouldn't happen, but with 5 ultrasounds during this pregnancy, it was never picked up and when I had my baby, it was a massive emergency due to Incretta.. (had an emergency partial hysterectomy and a 9Unit blood transfusion)... Again I had no bleeding during the pregnancy to indicate that I had anything wrong.. I guess we were just very unlucky that it happened... It has nearly been a year since I had Incretta and I am slowly recovering, it takes such an emotional toll on you!!!
Hi again Mam:)
I have read a lot about women having pre-eclampsia with this as well, my BP went up for the last 2 weeks in my 2nd pregnancy when I had Accreta and when I was in labour, it went up to 190/120, they had to medicatee me so I didn't stroke! When I was 36 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and hospitalised for 2 night with my high BP (even with the meds, it kept rising at this point), my doctor mentioned that he thought I would have already gone into labour because my BP had been up for so long, in the end, I was induced for pre-eclampsia at 37 weeks, so I think that pre-eclampsia has a connection with Accreta.. My doctor has never said that there is a link between the 2, but it is very common in women with this complication.. Some women don't get it, but from what I have read and researched, I believe it is a side effect of Accreta.. I started swelling at 28 weeks and it was winter, so you could very well have a slow onset of pre-eclampsia, make sure you keep talking to your doctor about this, my doc first picked it up in me when I had a massive weight gain (12kg in 1 month) when my weight gain had been good before that, then there was swelling (mostly in my hands and face), then there was small traces of protein in my urine, then the BP shot up! Rest as much as you possibly can! I'm curious about the pre-eclampsia link now too, maybe I will ask my doc when I see him next... Take care and keep us updated xoxo
Thanks Pieta for info. I'm keeping an eye on it.
It's cooler weather today and my feet are swollen again.:no:
Also keep an eye on weight as I have a thyroid issue. OB hasn't been weighing me, he said he can see that I'm not gaining, but bub is growing, so ok. I saw OB last Tuesday, weighed myself that morning and put on about half a kilo in the previous month. That has been it total for 2 months. Only 4.5kg total weight gain whole pregnancy. Normal for me, same previous pregnancies. Overweight to start with, so have reserve.
I weighed myself last friday and jumped 4kg in 3 days!!!???:eek: I had GTT test the day before, so thought maybe retained fluid as a reaction to high sugar drink. Obviously not, as I still have the extra 4kg on.
Don't see OB for another 2 weeks. He's on holidays as well. Next time I go past a chemist, I'm going to get BP checked. If it's up, I'm going to call OB office. Will want to see OB that is covering him. Not going to let it drag out.
Paranoid?? Just trying to be sensible. I trust my gut instincts. Something is happening that is not normal for me.
Mam
Hi everyone, Im from Argentina and I have experienced complete placenta previa and also percretta wich was attached to my blader , the complete placenta previa was confirmed at my fourth month of pregnancy, I had bleedin from the first month and was sent to bed rest , I felt that my pregnancy wasnt normal, something felt wrong and with the passing months it was confirmed. I had strong nausea all the time !!!! so from the 4th month I was in bed without moving , only to go to the bathroom, I also had gestational diabetes wich makes everything worst for doctors; I inyected myself insulin 3 times a day but that isn`t such a big deal, I had gestational diabetes with my first son too. My baby girl Luna moved so much , she was super active and my uncle wich is an obstetra told me that it couldn`t be , because if I had that placenta the baby wouldn`t grow well, but she was growing very well and was born with a very nice weight for being premature, she was 2,500 kg and she was born of 34 weeks. she is a warrior!!!!!
Its funny because you`re all telling the same story, I made one ultrasound per month and
an MRI , and the worst diagnostic was confirmed, My father wich is a esthetical surgeon and my uncle and obstretra , made a plan for me because I couldnt have my baby in my local clinic with my medical insurance, it was too dangerous , so they sent me to the public hospital wich is new and one of the most modern in south american so they told me, I had a big medical group that treated me and everything went well thank god, because as you all know my diagnostic was very dangerous. I thought I was gonna die, but I always had faith , I was very calm and took things as they came, I went 2 weeks into the hospital , 2 hours before the programed c section I started to bleed , dammet !!!! jajaja , and everything complicated . They put me the balloons via my legs and I went into labor , very painful contractions!!! There were like 20 people in the surgery room , they were all too stressed out , I could tell , they put me complete anestesia, maneged to get all the uterus out and detach it from the bladder with succes and when they were taking out the balloons my arteria leg started to bleed , they put 3 liters of blood , practicly changed my blood, and im very skinny so...... jejeje. They stabilized me and I went into intensive care a day and a half because I made the nurses crazy jajaja, asking for things and wanting to see my baby, so they kicked me out from there , jejeje.
At the next day they brought my baby to me , and I was like crazy taking milk from my breasts so I coukd breastfeed and so I did, she breast feeds only , so the good news is that this thing can end up mvery well !!! it takes a lot of guts but you can all do it, if I could.... Im the queen of the scarycats , ejjejee , and I did it, went through all that and now my baby girl Luna is 5 months and she is so fat and healthy thank god!!!!!! I apreciate life much more now , and realize that you can do anything even with everything against you, it takes courage and faith!!!!!
I am feeling great now , and recovered from all , a little weak sometimes because the anemia is tough , but who cares !!!! Iam alive and enjoing my babies , I started to work 2 months ago and had to recover fast, children don´t wait !!!! So don´t be scared girls , have faith and be strong , that will help you go through this all ugly experience , I can`t have any more children ovbiously , but I feel blessed , I fell that life gave me a second chance and Im taking it , BE STRONG EVERYONE , TIME GOES BY FAST, SOON THIS WILL ALL BE OVER AND YOU WILL HAVE YOUR BABIES WITH YOU !!!!!! LORE.
MAM read my story, I had the same you have and Im here, so dont worry, but I also had gestational diabetes , if you're calm its better , it will help you and the baby , I know its a shock to hear what the doctors tell you, and too tough to deal with, but the great thing is that they know everything with you, as they did with me , you have all the exams , and they`ll go into surgery knowing exactly were to look, Be peaceful and strong , you`ll make it !!!!! :smiliedance:
i had the exact same thing as you and I can breastfeed, im with my little lunita now in my breast, try stimulating your breasts as soon as you are conscious in your hospital room , i dont know how you call it in english, the artefact to get milk out from your breast, it is possible, i did it, and i was 3 days without seeïng my baby.
I don't think you are being paranoid Mam!! I wish I had voiced my concerns more when I was pregnant, maybe then things wouldn't have been such emergency!! You know if something isn't right with you, I knew fom about 10 weeks pregnant that something was off as I was soooooo nauseus all day every day and that wasn't normal for me at all!!!
Another thing that I should mention to you about pre-eclamsia is that if you get any pain in your upper right adomen, then go straight to emergency as that is the beginning of organ failure (don't mean to scare, but better to be safe than sorry with all of this)... I was induced before that happened as I had an overload of protein in my urine and they wanted bub out to stop the organ failure..
Hi there Lorens!
Glad you are here to tell your story:), it's a terrible thing to go through, mine was all emeergency, wasn't found till after I gave birth.. They didn't pick up my Incretta as my baby was perfect and the placenta was functioning fine, I had 5 ultrasounds due to my high blood pressure (induce for pre-eclampsia in the end) and nothing abnormal was ever detected, I didn't even have any bleeds or spotting during the pregnancy either! I couldn't breast feed, I tried and tried, but I was in ICU for 4 1/2 days and had 3 operations and in total a 9Unit blood transfusion so my body shut down from shock, I think that Mam will be able to breastfeed because everyone is prepared and know of her percreta, so hopefully blood loss will be minimal.. Thank you for sharing your story..
Peita
Evening ladies!:wave:
Thanks for sharing. It's nice not to feel alone with it all.
Had BP checked today. 123/86. Ankles still swollen, trying to get my feet up.
We are 30 weeks today!:smiliedance: 7 to go until D day. Sleep is an issue, ticking all night. Trying to be proactive by getting things ready. Had all of the car seats moved and fitted yesterday. DD's got excited to see baby's seat in, ready to go. Washed bedding as well today. Just want to be organised.
Of course, need to rest, but keeping busy distracts me. Especially on baby things, gets me clucky and excited. This is an emotion that has been lacking because of complications.
At least no problems with GTT or my thyroid condition. Healthy. Strong physically to deal with it all, just need to focus on mental preparation.
Thank you again.
Mam:flowerz:
OK, in hindsight, maybe I did do too much.
Had a bleed this morning and had to go straight into hospital. Not bad bleed, but my first.
BP good, bub heart rate perfect and plenty of movement.
Been put on bed rest and also had first steroid injection to help mature babies lungs. At home now, taking it easy. Back to hospital in the morning for check and next steroid injection.
OB was surprised for me to have a bleed. He was optimistic actually. Bleeds at this stage usually are with placenta previa. Acretta placentas usually don't bleed he said.
Keeping quiet and feet up. Only small amount of blood now. Just tired.
Mam
Glad to hear you are finally resting Mam:)
The other group I joined in Yahoo groups, nearly all of the women that had Accreta had bleeds and were hospitalised from then on (most of them are in the states). The majority of them were like you and had their condition picked up early in the pregnancy, but most found out after a bleed!! Also, the mojority of them had a c-section between 32 and 36 weeks! They actually don't understand how I never had previa, never had a bleed and that I actually made it through to 37 weeks before the pre-eclampsia really kicked in... In the states, they now have special Placenta Accreta, Incretta and percretta centres in some hospitals because the complication is becoming so rampant! One lady told me that the c-section rate over there is between 30 and 40% of all pregnancies, that is why they are seeing it more!!!
Have I got it right that you will be 31 weeks when you have bub?? I hope everything goes well and your little one isn't in NICU for too long! Take care, and make sure you put those feet up as much as possible (I know it's hard when you have other children at home) and please keep me updated when you can, I look forward to hearing how everything went when you have bub (I am praying it all goes well for you)!!!!:)
Peita xo
Had 2nd steroid injection this morning. Didn't require a trace monitor or bp check. They were happy with yesterdays results.
Bleeding slowed during the day yesterday and there has been no more blood loss since last night. Still taking it easy.
Obviously will be monitored closely, but OB still indicating mri around 33-34 weeks and arranging surgical team for 37 weeks. Steroid injections just insurance.
I'm prepared for anything earlier. Feeling much stronger knowing that the steroids will be helping mature her little lungs and that she will be in a better situation if we do go earlier. Relieved that bleeding has stopped. It was a shock, I've never had spotting of any kind during previous 3 pregnancies.
Had a sleepless night last night. Didn't sleep until 4.30am. Thank goodness for foxtel! Think it was just delayed stress. Coped well and didn't panic yesterday, just hit me a bit later.
Thanks Pieta for you thoughts and support.
mam:hugs:
its better if you stay in bed, dont do anything , only the bathroom,i did that for 5 months, I knitted , sewed things for my baby, kept me distracted , helps to pass the days, try to stay in bed 24/7, eat in bed , everythinggggg. good luck mam!!!!
Glad to hear your bleed has stopped Mam and that your BP is good!! That is fantastic that they are hoping to get you and bub to 37 weeks, that was when I was induced and there was not a thing wrong my bub, she got 9 straight up on the apgar test, was breathing great, never had jaundice and was a healthy 7lb 9oz!!!
Try and sleep, even if you just have cat naps, it's some sort of rest! I hope you have some help with your other kids, take care!
Peita xo
What is my body doing?! :hair:
Really confused. My breasts have blown up and are quite painful. I can feel the elongated, engorged milk ducts. Feels like I was headed for mastitis.
This morning I have full on got let down pains and had dripping. About 4 times I have let down. Wearing breast pads.
Midwife at hospital didn't think it is related to the steroid injections. Concerned though that the letdown could set off labour. Any contractions and I have to go straight in! OB on holidays this week. Extra stress.
What is going on?!
Mam:hissy:
Oh dear Mam, sorry you are in such a state! I hope things settle soon! If the Midwife doesn't think that this has anything to do with the steroids, then what else could it be??
She is right that anything that excessively stimulates the breast can bring on labour though!!!!
All I can say is just keep resting to avoidd labour as much as possible! You are very lucky not to have been hospitalised yet!!
Take care and please update!!
Peita xo
Oh Pieta3, the anxiety has well and truly kicked in!
Breasts have settled. Obviously a side effect of steroid injections.
We're 31 weeks today, 33 weeks lung maturity after injections.
Maximum 6 weeks to go, assuming no further complications.
I'm not sleeping well, toss and turn. Really getting scared and anxious about all the procedures. MRI at 33 weeks, will have definate plans then.
Tired and could burst into tears at any moment. Trying to calm myself, stress won't help blood pressure.
Just needed to vent sorry.
Mam
Morning. Feel a bit better today. Had mucus discharge last night that was a brown colour. Old blood obviously. Keeps the stress levels up though. Waiting to bleed again. Something is on the move. DH is stressed to leave me every day to go to work, waiting for a phone call to say come home.
Taking it easy again today.
Hi Mam,
Don't appologize for bing stressed, I completely understand:) I have 3 weeks until my babies first Birthday and all my emotions are flooding back x 10..
It's good to hear that bubs lungs have matured a little, it just gives that extra bit of security in case you go into labour early!!!
When I was hospitalised with my BP, I was offered a light sleeping tablet and it helped me sleep a little, is that an option to help you rest? Maybe discuss it with your doctor next time!
My husband never said it, but he stressed too! Even though we didn't know about the Incretta until after I gave birth, I was still sick enough to make everyone worry....
Vent any time you like, keep in touch,
Peita xo
Hi mam, I completely understand what you´re going through, its so difficult , it´s inevitable to be scared , but the more peaceful the better, everything will come out great, you´ll see . And with the steroid injections you´ll see your baby will have complete mature lungs, I only had two of those injections and my baby Lunita didn´t need to be in neo , she came out great considering she was only 34 weeks, consider that already covered , and if you do get into labor earlier the baby is already matured enough for the situation . It´s so important to have someone to talk to about what you´re feeling right now, cause it seems to be that friends and family can´t understand what you´re going through, in my case I felt that everyone kind of steped back a little, they were so scared and didn´t know how to act, even though I had a great atitude about the hole thing, I never cried and accepted the risks !!!! but I felt really lonely, no one could believe how I reacted , I´ve always been a very scarycat person , but I took courage from somewere... don´t know were !!!! jejeje . I rested for 5 months in my mothers house , and my husband took my son Tomy to kinder and then to my mom´s everyday to me, but I felt that my husband wasn´t there with me , he was freaked out although he´ll never say so and that made him be distant with me or so I felt. Now I see people a little different, and understand so much people that are sick and the importance of being near .... it´s so neccesary.
Peita and me are here for anything you need!!!! if you wanna say whatever you want to , we´ll listen!!!! Good Luck mam , and you´ll see everything will come out greatt!!!!!!! Hugs and kisses!!!! Lorens.
Thanks Lorens.:hugs:
You're right about people pulling away. I think that they don't understand. FIL assumed that if I had the baby now, it wouldn't survive. No idea.
DD#1 is going back to school tomorrow after 2 weeks holidays. Apart from when I was literally at the hospital getting checked out, no-one has come near me or called really. Everyone says call me if you need help, but do they really mean it?!
I'm stubborn too. Don't like asking for help. Have been conditioned not to I think. Whenever I complained about being tired or sick with kids, I would be told "well you had them". DH and I are very self sufficient as baby sitting isn't available. Maybe twice a year we get to go out for the day no kids. Sad aye.
So yes, feel isolated and lonely. Like no one is interested. Thank goodness for you guys. Let me vent and winge. I really do appreciate the advice. Will be available for others that are experiencing this in the future.
Off to OB tomorrow afternoon. Let's see where we're going.
Mam:hugs:
Hi Mam, sorry you feel lonely, I was too sick to be lonely before I had Alice, but now I think about it, everyone stayed away from me too, I was put on bed rest and that was it, I got a few phone calls and my mum helped out heaps, but no friends or other family came to see me! I was attatched to my couch for 5 weeks before I was induced and had maybe 2 visitors and 5 phone calls! I think people stay away because they don't understand and don't know what to say to you! I don't think that people can grasp the extent of complications like these, I feel as though everyone but me has forgotten what I went through, but I think it is that they just don't get the enormity of what happened to me. I hope that makes a little sense!
I LOVE school! I do Family Day Care and when the kids go back to school, my house is 500 X quieter:) My eldest is nearly 7 and he is hard work in the holidays.. A friend asked me how I was today and my response was 'fantastic now that school is back', I love my boy to bits, but it is nice when he is back at school:smiliedance:
How did you go at the OB?? Hope it went well!
Peita xo
OB appointment was OK. BP good and bubs growth great! Nearly 32 weeks and fundal height at 34. Heartbeat strong and she had the hiccups at the same time. Hiccups show bub is practicing breathing.
OB has threatened that I will be in hospital on bed rest if I have another fresh blood bleed.
Waiting for the call to let me know when MRI will be and date scheduled for c-section. Should know any day.
Nice to have DD#1 back at school, purely for my socialising capacity. Good to catch up.
Ok for now. Taking one day at a time.
Mam
Hi Ladies. I'm mam's husband. Just wanted to let you know we've had a few problems and mam is now in hospital on strick bed rest until the baby is born (prob. another 3-4 weeks):thumbsdown:. Mam is having lots of problems but baby is still healthy and active:fingerscrossed:. I'm at home with our 3 other girls and can now appeciate the hard work it all is :banghead:.
Oh no, so sorry to hear that Mam is in hospital! Unfortunately, that is probably the best place for her and bub to be at the moment!!
Please keep us updated, I quite often think of Mam and how she is doing!
3-4 weeks can feel like a lifetime when you are on complete bedrest:( I had 5 weeks of it before I had my bub and then 8 weeks of rest after, so please let her know I am thinking of her!!!!
Take care and good luck for the next few weeks!:flowerz:
Peita xoxo
It`s the best place to be right now, I checked in 2 weeks early in the hospital, I was supposed to be for 3 weeks or more, but the doctorsd thought the best was to have the baby at 34 weeks and they practiced the c-section. Everything will be great, what mam has requieres strict bed rest on the whole pregnancy and maybe in the hospital she´ll be able to rest as she should. I send you all my strength from here , and I know everything will come out great because the doctors know what they´re doing, and they know exactly everything that´s happening, the little one will be great , and if you say that is very active, it´s because they are little warriors !!!!! All my love from here, this is the hardest moment, but it will pass and it will all be just a bad memory . I can feel what you guys feel from the bottom of my heart , be strong and possitiveeee!!!!! Love , Lorens.
Hi, mam's husband again. Mam is still in hospital, has a slow bleed and high blood pressure. Waters broke but got given meds to stop it. Had an MRI scan and confirmed placenta accreta to the bladder. Bub is still healthy, good heart rate, lots of movement. OB said if things can hold out until Nov 8 he will deliver. We are getting heaps of good support from the hospital and are now just holding our breath each day for the next couple of weeks.
with the mri they´ll know exactly were to look, so better yet. How wonderful you feel the support in the hospital, that`s very important , and the best keep peaceful and strong, that baby is gonna be a star!!!! they come out with a lot of energy !!!! I wish I could send you guys mi MRI so you could see , how is your baby`s position in the belly??? mine was across just below my chest. Is it a girl or a boy??? I never asked .... How you gonna name him or her??? Wish you the best !!!!!! everything will come out great!!!! Lots of hugs mam !!!!!!
(lucrelove@hotmail.com)
Oh my:(, very sorry to hear that things have gone this way! On the upside, everyone is aware of the Percreta and plan's are being put into to place... I feel for you all! How is Mam feeling emotionally?? It might be a good idea to talk to the hospital social worker or someone similar just for a little bit of sanity, they were quite good with me after I had my baby (I didn't know about my Increta until after I gave birth) and maybe they can just settle Mam a little before her surgery! My husband was present for my social worker visits and it helped him a little too!
November the 8th is not very far away at all, it must be anxious times in your home! Another little bundle to treasure:) Please let Mam know that I am thinking of you all!
Keeping you in my thoughts!
Peita xo
GOOD DAY !!!!!!! HI , MAM !!!!!!, I AM BEATRIZ DOMINGUEZ, BALCARCE CITY. PCIA DE B.S A.S. REP. ARGENTINA.
I AM FRIENDS WITH LORENA ESBRY, "Lorens USER" IN THE PAGE. AND I WANT TO MEET THE WOMAN WITH THE GREAT OVARIES !!!!!! BECAUSE WE KNOW WHAT IS TO PASS AN ACRETTA PREGNANCY. !!!!
I AM 52 YEARS OLD , AND I HAD PLACENTA accreta WICH NOW IS MY SWEET 18 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER CECILIA.
THE REASON FOR THIS E-MAIL, is to send FROM THIS FAR SOUTH LAND ... ALL THE POWER AND LOVE, OF ALL THAT WILL SOON BE JUST AN anecdote.
A story to tell WITH YOUR BABY IN ARMS AND HAPPY TO ADDRESS THE DAILY CHALLENGE OF BEING A "Mother."
LORE AND I, WE ARE UNITED BY COMMON FAMILY.
WHEN I KNEW OF HER PREGNANCY COMPLICATION, I could not believe IT, BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT THIS IS NOT A COMMON TYPE OF ANOMALY AND THAT JUST SHE HAD IT , WHOM I FEEL LIKE MY OWN DAUGHTER IT WAS VERY STRONG FOR ME! !.
WE TRIED TO KEEP THUMBS UP, AND HAD LONG TALKS, ESPECIALLY AT THE END OF PREGNANCY, AND NOW THAT IT IS an anecdote! WE CAN LAUGH, CELEBRATING LIFE, GROW TO SEE BEAUTIFUL Lunita (LORE´S BABY ).
WITH THE SAME FORCE AND ENERGY.
I SEND A BEAR HUG AND WANT TO SEE THAT PHOTO LOOKING GREAT WITH YOUR BABY !!!!!
WHEN I GET MORE TIME, I will join THIS PAGE , BUT DID NOT WANT TO LEAVE to communicate directly with YOU.
BEA. DE BALCARCE.
:wave:Hi guys! DH has kept you updated for me. Got computer at hospital.
Getting there. Not much else I can say. Finally got used to sleeping in here with all of the noise. Popping pills left, right and centre!!
Blood pressure still up, but no pre-eclampsia. Reacted to antibiotics badly, off them now, hope to feel better tomorrow.
Not currently bleeding which is good. Was really scared when I had my big bleed. So glad I was in hospital, it was just running out of me all over the floor. Best to stay here, don't want my 3DD's exposed to any of those things.
Fingers crossed to get to the 8th. That's 2 weeks tomorrow. The last 5 days since I was given that date have flown.
Hanging in there. Thanks for your thoughts and prayers.
Mam
MummyLip
24-10-2010, 21:18
Good luck mam...
Hope time flies and you are holding your bubs soon
Hi Mam,
So good to hear from you, thank you to your husband for keeping us updated:)
I am glad your bleed has stopped, that must be scary for you:(
Wow, only 2 weeks to go, that has come up so fast, it will all be over soon and you will be able to hold that beautiful bub of yours..
I didn't think anyone could get used to the noise in hospital LOL, I always say that I don't go to hospital to get rest, I could never block out the noise, at least you are getting some rest though before you have your baby...
I hope the next 2 weeks fly for you and everything is over with the best possible outcome...
Still thinking of you:flowerz: Take care
Peita xo
Hi mam! It´s great that you have a computer in your room!!!! that will keep you entertained and off from thinking. I did exactly the same, took my moms netbook to the hospital, only that I had to put a chain and lock in a suitcase to put it , because in here they steal a lot!!!!!a lot of poor girls come to the public hospital mostly. anyway i had luck and had an excelent room mate that supported me and kept me away from thinking, we knitted all the time and the girls from other rooms came to our room to get distracted, jajajaja, it was good, knowing what you have to deal with...... there was a woman from bolivia and she knew how to knit crochet , I bought the knitting wool and she did little shoes for all of us, it´s a hard moment and it´s good to speak with other girls in the same situation even though mine was the worst, jejeje. Try to do that if you can, keep yourself busy in bed, I also made a little book for my little lunita , wrote things for her, and got my husband to print pictures of all thoes 7 months , the mri , the ultrasounds , and made some sort of collage, it´s a good way to canalize good energy, and then the little one will know all the story of it how came to the world. Is it a girl or a boy ???? I wish I could send you pictures from when i was in the hospital , and then when my baby was born, so you can see..... and I would like to see pictures of you..... we´re living the same situation so...... Well mam , I hope you are feeling good , the only way to go through this is by getting yourself entertained and forgetting about things , that is 100% recovery from everything!!!! Hugs and lovfe for youuuuu, if you can send an email and i´ll send you pictures of us!!!! bye mam !!!!
Hi all
Mam so sorry to hear about your dramas. Glad all is looking good now. For some reason all these threads were sent to my spam folder on my email so I wasn't getting them. I just read through them all for an update. I was thinking about you girls and wondering why there wer no posts on the forum. Peita how did your daughters 1st b'day go? What were your feelings like on that day? I'm ok, still very sleep deprived, Ethan is still not sleeping through at night. The best I get is 5 hours and that's only once a week or so. I'm feeling ok, still not 100% but ok. I sometimes find it hard to comprehend not getting my periods anymore, I guess after having them for so long it just seems a little weird. Did you feel this way as well Peita?
Take care all
Hi Ladies!:wave:
I'm out today on good behaviour!!:laughing: Stable atm so allowed home for the day. It felt strange after not being home for 2 and 1/2 weeks. Legs were a little shaky walking to the car after bed rest.
Bub is growing well, have a trace everyday. Ultrasound to check her growth on Monday indicated that she was already 2550grams. That's about 5 pounds and 8 ounces.
Everything for my surgery is arranged for Monday 8th November.:eek: Only 9 days away!!!
It's going to be a full day event. Will go down to delivery about 10am, have epidural put in and get canulas in. Transfered to radiology where the femoral artery stents will be put in. If anyone watched RPA this week, the procedure will be similar to the man that had the aneurisms in his abdomine. Deflated balloons inserted ready to go.
When operating theatre is available, go in and be knocked out. Bub will be born and taken to NICU. I've told DH that I want him to go with bub. Fingers crossed that she doesn't need much assistance.
My surgery has been estimated to take 2 hours, unless problems. MRI still didn't fully show how much my bladder is affected by placenta, so not sure how much work needs to be done. Vertical incision to gain access they need, not bikini.:(
Blood loss will determine whether I wake up in recovery or ICU. :fingerscrossed: for the best outcome so I can be taken to see bub or her to me. I really want to be able to breatfeed.
Lorens, it's girl. Number 4 girl for me!!
Mam:flowerz:
My god mam!!!! , it's the exact same procedure as me, jejejeje, only that i was never allowed back home, jejejejejeje, and never got up in 6 months , strict bed rest , it teaches you patience!!!!! like the kungfu panda, ( dont know if you ever saw it) .....it changes your head forever, after this you'll never be the same person , but in a great way !!! you see life differently and enjoy every moment . You'll surely be able to breast feed , I could, try to recover fast, jejejejeje . As soon as you start feeling concient try to recover!!!!! and take milk out from your breasts , so you stimulate the breasts and when your princess comes she'll be able to eat right away, my baby lunita was born with the same weight as yours, jejejejeje, toooo much of a cohincidence , 2,,450kg and was great, didn't need neonatal cares. Your princess will be the same.
As for the bladder my docs were unsure too, they couldn't see how much the placenta was compromising it, but turned out that it wasn't much , it's probably the same with you.
4 girls, how do you do it !!!!! I have 2 and going crazy, jajajajajaa. Well mam we'll keep in touch and I know everything will be greattttttt, Byeeeee.!!!!!!!
Hi Jeles:),
I was wondering where you got to, I was going to look and see if I could send you a personal message on this site and see if you were ok!!! You sound a little happier, sorry your little man isn't sleeping great yet, sleep does make the world of difference in your life!!
My little girls birthday was on Friday and it was ok!! I had been emotional for weeks before her actual birthday (didn't really talk about it though) and in the end, I took Friday off work and did lots of stuf I had been wanting to do for months, it was just random stuff around the house, but my husband had the day off too and we did it all together which was nice!!! Alice had a great day, loved her pressies, she is such a funny kid, lots of character:) I did have a little cry at about 10:30 that night, but I was nowhere near as bad as I expected to be!!!
I am finally going to read through my hospital notes with my psychologist and see if that gives me a bit more closure on this, there is just something I can't put my finger on that is stopping me from making a full recovery, I am a happy bubbly person most of the time, but sometimes I think too hard and upset myself, just got to fix that!!!!
The period thing is hard to explain, I don't miss having them at all, but in some ways I am sad that they aren't there! I am just now (a year on) starting to come to terms with the permanency of no children, we had said no more kids, but there was always an option to change our minds before the hystorectomy!! I think if my Incretta was not an emergency, if I had some warning then I wouldn't be such a mess, but like I said, I am getting better!! I hope you keep getting better too, I really appreciate everything I have in life now, I guess these experiences are thrown at us for a reason in life, it's crap I know, but, I know I am a better person for it!!!!
(P.S. my e-mails sometimes go to spam from here too!)
Mam, that's fantastic news that you are out on day release, it's horrible being on bed rest, I had 5 weeks of what was supposed to be complete bed rest at home (I did the best I could with 2 kids) and it did my head in, I was ok for the first 3 weeks, it was quite enjoyable, but then everytime I saw the doctor or midwives, I would just cry, I was pretty sick with high BP and nausea and just wanted it over!!!
Your bubba sounds to be a healthy size, my SIL had small full term babies, her heaviest was 6lbs (she has 3), so your little one is doing great!!
You sound quite calm about it all Mam, I think everything will go great for you, your OB and his team are organised and are preparing to get you in and out as quick as possible which will be great for you and your baby!!!!!! Good luck with it all! I can't wait to hear about how healthy you and your baby are:) Oh, how is your hubby holding up???
Hi Peita, thanks for your concern. I am ok, having a few troubles sleeping at the moment.I had the same problem when I had my first child. I think it's to much of the broken sleep, waking up so many times a night eventually takes it toll and I find it very hard to fall asleep. I had a really bad night last night, of course Ethan slept ok last night, but i just couldn't fall asleep, it's so awful. You are right, sleep makes all the difference, when I sleep well I feel so much better the next day. Glad all went ok on your daughters birthday. I'm sure it was a tough day for you. Yeah it's a funny thing about the periods, hated having them but I do miss them now. I don't know it's almost like a part of being a women has been taken away. If that makes sense.
All the best Mam for Monday, I will be thinking about you and waiting for your news to be updated. I'm sure all will be ok, but remember that we have all been there so I hope this gives you some comfort.
Take care all
Lost my password so haven't been back for a while, but all fixed now.
Mam I have been thinking of you and been hoping everything was going okay for you. Hope you have no more bleeds before your baby is born.
Will be thinking of you over the next few days and when your baby is born. All my warm wishes and hugs for you and your family
With my Accreta I had no bleeding at all during prenancy and no signs to say that there were any problems. I didn't have a low lying placenta nad went a week over.
At my sons first birthday I think I was still suffering depression and I do remember feeling kinda weird but couldn't put my finger on it. His second birthday was similar but I was in a much better place. Now we have recently had his third birthday I actually got up on that day smiled and said yep I think I am back. It has taken me a while and the one re-occuring thought to me was how ripped off I felt. My first birth was reasonably quick and text book, no dramas at all. The second was so polar opposite to that I felt really let down and ripped off and this was supposed to be a fantastic day and it had been scary, awful and stressful.
Mine was also discovered after the birth with no indication.
It is nice to know I am not alone and others understand my feelings
hi girls , I have been thinking about what you´ve all said about the birthdays of your little ones and the depression, I don´t know why but I feel all the way around and maybe this helps , everyday I see my little girl on the table with us, now starting to eat and so big, I can´t believe it , and I feel so happy , my god !!!!!! I remember all the bad and thank god for all the good things now, try you guys to think in all the great things , that you´re here with your little ones and can do everythinggg you want in life !!! as for the periods , I don´t miss them at all, besides you´re all mothers of 2 and 3 in some cases , why more children ??? there are people that only have 1 or 2 with luck...... You know that when there´s something you cant have you want it??? maybe this is the same, because probably if you were able to have more kids , you wouldn´t .... I think about it that way, cause sometimes I thought about that too, but came to realize it´s just a trick your mind plays you.... It´s the cut thought of not being able to have children anymore, it´s like such a final idea, that I think that that´s why it´s so depressing. Remember the bad moments and thank god for the good moments you´re living now!!!!! I know it´s veeeryyy hard , but not imposible.....
fingers crossed all goes well for you. It is good the Ob knows you have the condition this time, at least they can have a bit of a plan going in instead of the stress and unknowns of having a baby then wham - drama! I hope it is a much better birth for you this time and much less stressful. Fingers crossed your MRI is good news.
Hi Mam,
Just wanted to say Good Luck for today (I haven't heard that your delivery date has changed, so I am assuming everything is going ahead today).
I will be thinking of you today and can't wait to hear about your precious new baby and how everything went for you!! Rest up after delivery, take care!
Peita xoxo
Hi Lorens,
That's great that you feel pretty good about everything, but different people react differrently to trauma!! I know with me, I have been up and down all year, my situation was emergency and I had no idea what had happened to me until day 5! My husband asked everyone to not tell me until I asked (which I am glad he did as I was in no state to take the information in before hand), I cried everyday for the 1st maybe 8 weeks, then I felt really good, I thought I was ok! When my little girl was 5 months old, I had what I call my minni meltdown, my mother in law was diagnosed with a rare genetic form of cancer and my own father was diagnosed with heart disease and everything was too much, I went to the doctors and started seeing a psychologist - which has been an amazing help.. The majority of the time, I am a happy bubbly person, but there are times when I do get a little down. The month before my little girls first birthday I was a bit of an emotional wreck, I thought her actual birthday was going to be terrible, but I was good all day, it wasn't untiil 10:30 that night that I had a little cry to my husband and then I felt heaps better..
I love the kids I have so much, and I have never had any ill feelings towards any of them, I think I love and appretiate them so much because of how hard it was for me to have them! We had decided no more children after our third (I would of happily had 10 lol, but hubby wasn't up for that), but I think my case being so emergency and choices and descissions were out of my hands when it all happened, I feel a little cheated that at 29yo the choice of having more children was taken away from me! However, I am so thankfull that everything went my way that night and the following days! The hospital thought they had lost me twice and on the second time, they told my husband to ring our family because they thought that was it! I have struggled with the near death thing, the fact I can't have anymore children and I also have this tremendous guilt for what I put my family through!! I am starting to get better, I have finally sent for my hospital records to find out exactly what happened to me, I know what people have told me,, but I am in a place now that I think my hospital records will give me a bit of closure and help me to move on..
As my little girl gets older, I am feeling better about not being able to have more children, but it is something that was very hard for me to come to terms with.. Kids are my life, I grew up with my mum looking after other peoples children, I worked in childcare centres before I had my children, I now run an in home childcare so I can stay at home with my children, and I come frome a very large extended family, so yes, it was hard for me to come to terms with no more kids!!
I think everyone deals with things in their own way and forums like this are a great way for us to vent and talk to others in similar situations!! I know I will get better, but my incretta is something I will never forget, my kids will always know what happened when I had them and they will always know how much I wanted them even if it was traumatic!! I am thankfull everyday that I have my 3 babies:)
Peita xo
Hi Rommi,
Thanks for the reply about how you felt on your child's birthday:) it gives me hope that it will get easier!!
I felt completely ripped off too, no way did I ever think that I would need a hysterectomy at 29 years old, I felt like a huge chunk of my life was taken away! I have had older women say to me that the operation isn't any easier at 45yo either, they were finished having children, but they said it just felt like a huge piece of their identity as a woman was gone!! I am starting to feel better about everything, but it has only been a year, my doctor told me to give it at least 12 months to cover completely physically and longer for the emotions to heal....
Our cases seem similar, I had no Placenta Previa or similar, no bleeding during the pregnancy and my 5 ultrasounds didn't show anything relating to my incretta! I had no previous abdominal surgery either, my doctor still doesn't understand why it happened to me, bad luck is all I say now:)
Take care
Peita xo
MummyLip
08-11-2010, 10:27
good luck today mam
:fingerscrossed::thumbsup::hugs:
doctor told me to give it at least 12 months to cover completely physically and longer for the emotions to heal....
I would say all of that, and more. Two years out I felt better, but to be honest it was only when Nelson was at least two and a half that I really felt like I had made it out the other side.
Yep I know about the guilt thing. I have never seen my Dad cry, but he walked into my room and burst into tears. I also thought I was okay until I feel in a heap. I now have a heart thing where I have extra ventricular heart beats, I lost two thirds of my hair, developed weird skin issues and other things. MAny of these things can be brought on by stress or a very stressful episode.
I still have some heart beat issues and my hair is not back to normal yet but i am much better than what I was. I tried to hide it, I was fine, but really I was far from it. Looking back I now know just how bad I got.
I was 10 minutes from a hysterectomy and the only reason I was 10 minutes away was because it was another 10 minutes until theatre would be ready! So so close.
It took me ages to recover from the blood transfusions and anemia as well.
It does take a while but you will get there and the only advice I will give is talk to people if you are not feeling like you are cpoing, see someone. I didn't and I think that is why I have had all the medical things I have had and why it took me so long to start feeling better. Even my husband couldn't understand what was happening really
Hope today went well for you Mam. All our healing thoughts and best wishes to you and your family.
Hi peita, DON´T EVER FEEL GUILTY WITH YOUR FAMILY!!!! You had to pass the worst part , and besides they love you!!!!! I sometimes felt guilty too, because I had to go to my moms house for 5 months so that she could take care of me and my son Tomy , cause my husband workes all day ...and we lived with my grandma , she was almost 100 years old, 99 or 98 we don´t know exactly ... and she was very sick a week before me going to the hospital , had to be taken to intensive care, imagine !!!! I didn´t know who was gonna help me, my poor mom, had to split in two!!! But I know she loves us and did that with love, so now I try to not feel guilty, just feel thankful... I would do it for her too, jejejee . 2 months after my baby Lunita was born she died though, she was very old and was suffering too much....
What happened to us is an event in life that we wouldn´t have been able to stop even if we wanted to...... I knew about my complete placenta previa percretta from my 4th month , and also knew there was nothing I could do , just rest so that I didn´t die, my doc was so direct and when we found out about this he told me I could die, plain and simple.... So imagine almost 5 months knowing in any moment you can have a bleed and die, that your baby can die, not knowing what is going to happen , it´s not a good scenario... But I had to keep myself together and try to be in peace in case anything happened. I even talked to my husband and told him everything I wanted him to do in case I died , you know, show my little ones pictures of me so that they don´t forget me , they had to know they had a mother that loved themm!!!!!! I remember this and I get chills , but it happened , so now I see myself here at work , or driving my car , or being tired because mi Tomy is tremendous, and I thank god!!!!!!!!!!! I dont ever want to be in that dark place again...... what ripped me apart was the thought of my children being horfans, you know. I didn´t care if I died .... just that thought , who was gonna be there when they cried to comfort them? , who was gonna take care of them? , I don´t know , it was a horrible thought... I guess that´s why I take this in such a happy way, cause I was sure I was going to die, and I almost did though , _I had a massive bleed out after they took my uterus out and they had to change my entire blood.... the doctors after everything happened made jokes to me , ohhhh, the skinny girl who was born again !!!! can you imagine !!!! jajajaja. I have 2 children but I´m ok with that number, don´t know if I could handle 3 or more, economically and fisically, jejeje.
And as far as the feeling they took a part of me being a woman .... don´t know, I don´t feel anything, some friends of mine were very concerned about me getting the histerectomy, they said that it was gonna be terrible, and bla bla bla .... my doc was so worried that I wasn´t gonna be able to have anymore children , but I told him I was ok with that, that there was no way in the world that I was going to want to have more children in this situation , putting my life in risk and leaving my little ones alone, there is no point of discussion in this , I didn´t want more children this way.... I don´t know if this isn´t an usual way to habdle this , but it worked for me , imagine , I wouldn´ty have lived my life in peace knowing I had my uterus and could be pregnant again with this scenario, nooooo!!!!!!!!!!
I hope you can in some way resolve this in your head , cause it´s too much suffering together, it wont do you any good, I think it´s great for you to see your medical records , it´s true it´s kind of a closure , and remember it would have been very hard anyway if you had knowned about the incretta before delivery. I have a friend , she wrote here in my spot, Beatriz, she had an acretta too, 20 years ago and was a huge emergency, but the ginecologist saved her uterus but put here in a lot of unnecessary risk , anyway she didnt have anymore children, she couldn´t....
I´m thinking of mam today, I hope everything turns out good, and that she can take this as what it is , a very difficult event that will passs!!!! Im putting all my thoughts in her , I guess we all are, because we know what it feels like, no one can imagine what this situation feels like.....!!!!
Hugs and love Peita and lets pray for mam...
Hi rommi, I can´t believe this!!! I also had weird episodes on my skin , it scared me and the docs didn´t know what it was, they thought about the diabetes , but no, I´m normal now, so, that itchy feeling , to the point that the whole body had like scratchs, awful !!!! now I don´t have them anymore, I guess is what you say about the stress, I loose tons of hair too, but I´m breastfeeding, it happended with my first baby too . I hope we can all heal this .... it´s hard but not impossible......
:cloud9:Hi guys, I'm home.
What do I say!? The worst that was expected - worse.
Ended up being delivered Friday 5th November, 2010.
I hope my delivery doesn't upset anyone and bring back memories of your own experiences. Not even sure that I'm ready to share yet. Kind of in denial and just happy to be home in one piece. Will most likely hit me later. Might make appointment with my counsellor.
As you know I was already in hospital on bed rest. Regular testing and monitoring showed up the start of pre-eclampsia. Just add that one to the list. It was starting to affect my kidneys and liver.
OB decided to deliver a few days earlier than planned.
My little girl Livinia Ava was born. She was 2400g and taken to NICU.
For me it was a full day event.
Early brekkie, showered and gowned. Taken to delivery where I had 2 canulas in and epidural. I was really stressed about epi and it was the best one I've had yet. So relieved that I actually relaxed. They kept on commenting on how calm I was.
Taken to radiology. Having the stents put into the femoral arteries was a lenghthy procedure. The midwife that was staying with me the whole day had never seen it done. Didn't hurt, just keeping focused and calm was extremely tiring. Managed to hold it together.
From there went to surgery. I really started to get scared then, it was happening. Had more canulas in. Had 5 in I think. Black and blue already.
The team in surgery was huge. About 20 people my hubby thinks. I was so detached saying see you later to hubby.
As soon as bub was born, she went to NICU. I wanted hubby to go with her.
My OB didn't talk to me about the surgery until 2 days later and a bit better.
He said if we hadn't done the stents and had the specialist team organised, he would have lost me. Were any of you told that?
Major placenta previa and placenta percreta. The placenta had attached to the bladder, but apparently came away ok, leaving it raw and bruised. Obviously had a hysterectomy, part of cervix removed. The problem was that the placenta had also attached to blood vessels and it was specialist surgery to remove it. Lucky had to right guy for the job.
Lost heaps of blood, even with stents. Needed 6 units of blood and plasmas during surgery. Needed 2 units more 2 days later as well. Total of 8 units.
Don't hugely remember first 2 days after. Started to improve after that. They are amazed that I have recovered enough to come home this early. Also amazed at my determination to breast feed. Milk fully in and baby thriving. All she does is sleep, eat and poop. But she is my miracle baby.
Still very sore and not doing anything. My hubby has been amazing. Mum and dad have been living at my house for over a month already and are staying for another couple of days to help hubby.
I'm shaking just with the effort of typing this. Long way to go in my recovery still. But alive. Really thankful for the care I received. Can't thank OB enough.
I'm sure that more will come back to me. I really appreciate the support from you guys. Will help others through as well.
Mam:cloud9::cloud9::cloud9::cloud9::cloud9:
MummyLip
11-11-2010, 20:49
Congratulations on the birth of your daughter Mam. :baby:
Sounds like you were so brave and you did an awesome job. Can't believe you are breast feeding so well after all that trauma- fabulous. I hope you get better soon. I think counselling would be a good idea. I am so sorry that birth was so traumatic for you. However, I am really glad you and your little girl are ok.
xoxoxox
Love to see a pic when you are up to it
:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
TrulyBlessed
11-11-2010, 22:24
Mam a huge congrats on the arrival of your little girl. Glad to hear you're healing well hun been thinking of you xoxo
Hi mam!!! Im crying now as I read you!!!! jejejee, I was very worried and I imagined that events came early, that happened to me too, I was expecting for the 5th and ended up delivering the 28th of the previous month, it was a huge discussion between the doctors for the day of deliver.
I ´m so happy, I knew everything was gonna come out great and I congratulate you for your peace, it makes everything easier!!!!!
I also had like 20 people in the surgery room too, jajajaja, it was like a disco night , jajajajaja. I was also told they almost lost me , my problem were the stents on my legs , the baloons were supposed to save me , they almost killed me as they came out and my artery leg exploted, but I´m here, and so are youuuuuuu!!!!!!!!!!! Im so happy , relived everything with you, but in a good way , doesnt bring bad memories....
Please put a picture of your babyyyyyy, I wanna see her and you, I uploaded pictures of me and my little ones too. We all have to write a book about a hard pregnancy and how I came out......
Im so happy that everything came out as it was supposed to, I congratulate you and your husband and mom and dad there , hugs mam , this is great!!!!! Lore.
So glad to hear you and your baby girl are okay.
You are doing an amazing job with breast feeding her.
What a very scary time for you, you have been through so much. Lots of thank you's to your wonderful doctor for having everything so well under control. I amazed you are home myself after such major surgery.
As mine was unknown until after my baby was born I wasn't, but I was told that for around 5 minutes I had no readable blood pressure. The hard thing for my midwife she is also my friend so it was very very hard for her. It really does get you mentally when you are told things like that. The what if's really really got to me. I didn't get councilling and I really should have. I am sure I would have coped a little better if I did.
A little later my doctor told me he was amazed I made it through and apparently my case was marked as a sentinel case - one that they go through with a fine toothed comb to make sure that everything was done correctly and nothing that was done or wasn't contibuted tot he emergency situation. Which of course nothing did. The team actually asked if I was still alive and if I was how was I?? Doctor sadi great saw her for her 6week check up and she is going really well. Apparently they were amazed I was alive as well. Very humbling!
Once again congratulations to you and your DH on the birth of your very special little girl. Wishing you lots and lots of heal quickly vibes.
Sooooo glad to hear from you Mam!! Congratulations on the birth of your baby girl and for making it through your surgery!! God dam pre-eclampsia, it's crap, it makes you unwell and can be life threatening as well, as if things weren't bad enough already, so glad they were monitoring you for it and things were picked up and dealt with!!
Your bubba is a nice size still and congratulations with the breast feeding, I think you will recover well knowing that is one thing you could control, I know it was important to you to breastfeed!!
I had midwives tell me that they all thought they were going to loose me, it is extremely hard to hear that, I have just read my medical records last week and now know exactly the extent of what happened, I was in no place to read them before now, but now I have read them, I feel strangely calm, I went through them with my counsellor and we did research and stuff together which was good for me!! I think it is a good idea that you go and see your counsellor, I thought I was ok until I had my mini meltdown 5 months later, I wish I hadn't of been so stubborn and had gone and seen her earlier!!!
I am so excited that you and your baby are doing so well, keep resting and recovering and just remember any questions you've got or even if you just need to vent, then someone will respond to you here!!!
P.S I was in hospital for 7 nights and the doctors and midwives couldn't believe that I wanted to go home, I guess if you want to get better and be with your family, then you will:)
:hugs:to you Mam
:flowerz:Peita xoxo
MyFourCubs
12-11-2010, 08:40
Oh Mam, I dont' even know what to say.:hugs::hugs: You beautiful, strong woman I am so sorry you had to go through all of that but you and bub have come through fighting and strong- yes a miracle, but testament to your strength also.
I was told after my first vaginal dleivery that ended up with me in theatre that I nearly died- it was placenta accreta but undiagnosed until they went in and they couldn't stop the bleeding. Nobody told me either until a few days later- I couldn't figure out why nobody was letting me out of bed and everybody was acting so 'weird." So yes, I kind of get that part.:hugs:With my last bub I also had the full placenta praevia with the blood vassels all attached- luckilylike you I had a brilliant specialist OB and they used the shunts. (I didn't have the bladder complication.)
What you have been thoruhg still far exceeds either of those deliveries- you are a champion Mam, I am so relived that you and bubs have pulled thorugh ok, we have all been thinking of you all week. Rest up, take all the time you need. All of us are here for you when you are up to it.:hugs::hugs:
Hi Mam, congratulations on your birth. I'm so glad all went to plan for you. I also had major blood loss, I had 10 transfusions and had plasma transfused as well. Very scary thought to have lost so much blood. I'm glad you are able to breast feed and your milk came in. Unfortunately for me I lost to much blood so the milk didn't come in. I still feel upset about this. How are you feeling about it all? Probably hasn't sunk in yet. It took a little while for me, but because I had experienced in my first birth as well I was sort of prepared this time so wasn't in shock like last time. It's been 5.5 months now and I must admit I'm starting to get a little down about the fact that I can't have any more kids. I know I have 2 wonderful boys but it still isn't fair. I feel so ripped off!!! Anyway that's my vent for today, keep us updated on your recovery. Take care I hope you are getting some rest.
The realisation came today that I haven't even started to deal with what happened yet. Still in survival mode.
I have kept diaries for each of my girls during my pregnancies. Share my experiences and thoughts, so they can read how I felt while pregnant with them.
I only just attempted today to start to write about Livinia's birth day and experiences. I really had trouble putting pen to paper. I couldn't find the words. Naturally what happened is only from what I was told, but I couldn't finish it, went blank.
Going to see GP on Thursday, do the K10 depression assessment to be able to go and see my counsellor to help me deal with it all. Really hope I can get in before xmas.
It is a process isn't it? Surviving the surgery is only part of it. Reading what some of you girls write, it may take awhile. Thanks for your honesty.
Mam
I struggled to breast feed for 3 weeks. I took tablets, expressed, pumped everything I could and in the end I couldn't do it any more. I mourned it deeply. I didn't realise how much until a friend had a baby almost 9 months to the day after and had no issues feeding baby latched on adn away they went. It broke my heart all over again. I cried and cried for days.
I had blood, plasma and fluis as well. They estimated I lost all but 2 litres of my own blood and at one stage it was coming out as fast as it was going in. I was having a transfusion reaction but they couldn't slow it down. Felt very wierd.
Mam you are right you do go into survival mode and it will take ages to sink in. I got so that I felt I could never be angry or sad as I was so lucky to be alive. It ended in a meltdown.
I hope you get into your councillor I couldn't recommend going enough. It is a long road, but you will get to the end of it. I feel it was like a griveing process even if I didn't end up with the hysterectomy. I went through all 5 fazes and I can say 3 years out I have finally come to acceptence.
I still feel ripped off even though I have my uterus. Ripped off that I didn't have a normal birth, ripped off I couldn't feed and ripped off my life will never be the same and ripped off at all the horrible things and pain I had to go through. I am and have come to terms with it but it will always be there.
Feel free to vent any time! We all need it, at least we all understand. As much as our families try it is something you can only fully understand after having been there.
Hi Rommi and Lorens,
just a reply to say that I had skin issues as well :-(, I also had to go to the physio for a few months to strengthen my lower tummy and fix the pain in my hips, I have had troubles loosing the excess weight too and the doc says it is because of stress, I also lost a huge amount of hair, I never lost any with my other 2 children and I actually had some balding happening, I have extremely thick hair, so it was a bit scary loosing so much, the body certainly does react strongly to trauma!!
I read over my medical records from the hospital 2 weeks ago and I strangely feel a lot better, I know exactly what happened now and I am not trying to fill in the blanks anymore, I was always too scared to read them, but now I have read them I would recommend that anyone who hasn't seen their own to sit down and read them... I had no idea where my placenta was attached and I now know it was attached to the fundus (top of uterus) and I think that is why it was missed in all of my ultrasounds, normally the placenta is attached somewhere at the bottom of the uterus, I also learn't about my blood loss, I lost 1.5 Litres when I had the hysterectomy and an additional 2.5 Litres from a bleed from my abdominal drain (stopped with a clamp on my femoral artery), this 2nd bleed was when they thought they haad lost me!!
I still feel guilty about putting my family through everything, but I do also recognise that what happened to me was extremely rare particularly because I had no abdominal surgery, no low lying placenta, no bleeds etc before I gave birth!! My family have told me that I shouldn't feel this way and they even tell me to stop saying thank you for everything they did because they love me and that's what family do for each other.....
I still think about what happened everyday, but I don't cry so much anymore and things are getting better!!
Thank for responding, it great to be able too have a vent and have someone say they know what I mean!!
Take care
Peita:hugs:
Hi Mam,
You will be in survival mode for a while yet, I think women are stronger than what others give us credit for.... You will keep going and get yourself better for the sake of your family... I did what I had to do to keep my family together and be the best mum I could be, no doubt you are feeling the same way:hugs: I think it is an awsome idea that you go and see your counsellor, I didn't go straight away and at 5 months on, I had my little meltdown, if you can talk to a professional before that happens, I think you will have a great emotional recovery!!
Those diaries you did for your girls sound like a beautiful idea, don't worry that you aren't able to finish the last one, it is still early days for you and in time you will be able to write what you need to!! I remember writing a post somewhere 10 weeks after I had my baby and I cried the whole time I typed! You will get there!!
Mam, how is your hubby coping??? Men don't tend to share their thoughts unless you ask, my husband was a bit of a mess as he though he had lost me, but he is stubborn and wouldn't talk much!!! I hope you are able to talk with your husband about it all, it does make it a little easier!!
Look after yourself Mam and give yourself loads of time to heal completely, what we have been through is a life threatening and life changing event and it takes a while to get used to that!!
xoPeitaxo
Hi peita , You know I started my baby´s scrap book 2 months before the c-section, I put pictures of everything, the mri, the ultrasounds(I had a lot !!!) pictures of me and her brother in bed , the things I knitted and sew for her, and 4 days before surgery I wrote a letter to her in case I died, it was like a goodbye love letter but a happy one, I wasn`t sure what was going to happen so...... But well, I could continue the scrap book , I put pictures of every moment of her life now , I`m a photographer , so I have thousands of pictures, jejejejee . That kind of helped me to understand and be prepared , it also gave me peace because I wanted to leave her something in case I died , you know???
As for my husband it`s just as you say, they don`t talk unless you ask them , jejeje , mine is a very quiet guy, my opposite, I like to talk a lot, jajajaja , but every now and then we speak about what happened , when I bring out the topic, jejeje , he suffered a lot with everything , I know , but in a way he was calm cause I was calm , and he says that helped him go through everything, it`s a hard moment, he took care of our litlle 3 year old tomy with my mother and he was wonderfull at that...
Women are very strong, if a man had to go through all what we`ve gonne through , they wouldn`t make it for a day, ejejeje, it´s a fact !!!!!! we`re warriors!! , jajajaja , tough women!!!!! I feel so proud about that !!!!
It`s great to know exactly everything that happened because that gives you kind of a closure and you can understand the dimension of the events , and what could you have done, that it`s practicly nothing, cause this goes way beyond anything you can do, I felt that impotence at the beginning of my pregnancy, I felt that I couldn`t do anything to change what was happening to me, and I was right!!!! When I understood that I got that peace...I read a lot on the internet , so when the docs spoke to me I already knew what was happening, I even told the doctor that was doing the first revealing ultrasound to look for an acretism , He wasn`t seeing it, but when I told him he looked and there it was!!!! Thanks to all that information, I had my early diagnose , and knew about everything from the early months of my pregnancy. It helped me to know everything , I told the docs I wanted to know everything , in my face , you know???
I`m so happy that we`re all in this page cause I don`t feel alone in this , I love to hear all your stories and if I can help any of you, I`ll feel great!!!!!
Byeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!
just a reply to say that I had skin issues as well :-(, I also had to go to the physio for a few months to strengthen my lower tummy and fix the pain in my hips, I have had troubles loosing the excess weight too and the doc says it is because of stress, I also lost a huge amount of hair, I never lost any with my other 2 children and I actually had some balding happening, I have extremely thick hair, so it was a bit scary loosing so much, the body certainly does react strongly to trauma!!
That is so wierd, I had never thought it had happened to other people that had been through what I have. Maybe I am not as weird as I though. I also have had ongoing pelvic issues, weight that is near on impossible to shift.
Up until say the last 6 or so months I have felt like a wound up spring, I never realised how much until I wasn't so much any more. I have had panic attacks which thank goodness are gone now, but I also now recognise the feeling as it starts and before I am at the panic attack stage.
So many things so similar to all of you, you have no idea how enlightening this has been and such a journey of healing, so thank you all for sharing.
Mam am thinking of you and I am guessin at this stage you possibly feel like you will never feel normal again. You will but you will need a little help to get you there.
Thinking of you and sending lots of healing vibes and hugs for all others touched by this.
I am not sure I am ready to read my notes as yet. It is all too scary.
Lorens - my pregnancy diaries that I wrote for my girls are there incase something happens.
I saw my GP today and got a new referral to see my psychologist. Haven't seen her since post natal depression with number 3. I really liked her and feel I would be comfortable with her again.
Feel much better for just taking the first step. Doubt I'll get in before xmas, but at least make an appointment.
What are the issues you guys are talking about with hair loss and weight gain? Are there more problems yet to come?!
Rommi - panic attacks! Great aren't they. I experienced them in hospital in the days before the surgery. Heart pounding and short of breath. I can feel them coming on when I start to think about it. Block it out, but will hit me eventually. With help, hopefully will deal with processing it all.
Definately long road ahead.
Mam
Hi again ladies,
Yes Rommi, I too had panic attacks, everytime I went near a hospital I would start breathing fast, my heart felt like it was going to jump out of my chest and I thought my head would explode, I also got very hot and sweaty!! My first trip back to hospital was a bit of a nightmare, it was to see my husband's cousins partner who had just had a baby! We got to maternity and it started, I had to make myself slow my breathing down because I knew I would hyperventilate, when we asked which room, I nearly fainted, she was in my exact same room, I eventually got in the room after an extremely long walk down the hallway and then I saw her lying in bed after a difficult birth and I cried, not the best thing to do to a new mum, but I couldn't help myself!! I had 8 friends having babies in the 6 months after I had my little one and I freaked out with all of them, I have great friends, I am so thankful they were understanding:) and then when my baby was 5 months old, my MIL was diagnosed with cancer, I had to get over my fear of hospital as she had a very long stay there and I wanted to go see her, I am pretty good now with it all!!!
Rommi I was also scared to read my hospital notes, but my councellor thought it would be a good idea, I made her read them first and then give me the bits that would help!! I cried when I read them, because I was unaware of the extent of everything (it wasn't just emergency, it was a huge emergency), bbut now I now exactly what happened, I am feeling a little more settled and calm about it all, I still think about what happened everyday, and I still have a little cry to myself on occassions, but I am a lot better than what I was!!
I also have moments when watching tv, where I get upset if someone is cut open or they loose a lot of blood or they have a baby, I was watching Supernatural last night and a lady gave birth to a half demon half human child and I lost it a little, WTF?? That show isn't even real lol!!! If I watch anything sad, I cry and cry and cry, I was never like this before and while I have more compasion for others (eg. a friend told me she had just misscaried a baby, she was so strong telling me and seems to be coping well and I cried), I feel really silly when I am watching tv with hubby and crying over stuff that isn't even real or its a news story where someone dies and I don't even know them and I cry!! I just tell everyone that I am an expert in cring now lol!!
Mam - I lost 14kg's while in hospital for the week when I had my bub, but since that initial weight loss, I haven't been able to shift any weight and my doctor has told me that stress can cause this, I have given up worrying about it now and guess I will lose it when it's ready to come off!! So glad you got your referral from your doctor, I think talking to someone will be great for you!!!!!!
Lorens - Men hey??? LOL I would be lost without my hubby, we are opposites too, he hates entertaing (parties, bbq's, dinners etc), I love it, he would be quite happy to just interact amungst his family, where I looove having people around me, I too love to talk and have a laugh.... What can you do though, they are what they are:)
Take care ladies, I love our chats we are having at the moment, remember Mam, ask anything and everything you wasnt or just have a vent and someone will get back to you:hugs:
I had very thick hair that grew like a weed always have. After each of my pregnancies I lost my ultra ultra thick hair back to the normal amount. Then after Nelson I had a major hair drop, then it grew back a bit then more and more and more. I lost about 2/3rds of my hair. It is still not normall and grows really slowly and has started going fairly curly for some odd reason! I now have a big shed around every 5 to 6 months instead of monthly. My hair is slowly getting thicker again but it a long way off what it was. Stress can cause the particular condition I have, or from the notes, a "major trauma" and preceed it. Um yep.
I also think it is has been so long because for too long I was like - nope I am coping I am going to cope and I am going to do it by myself. Big mistake!!!
Some people are like oh yeh I had a retained placenta that'a the same, ummm nope it's not!
I have also had periods of shocking fatigue where I can hardly talk or stay awake. They can come out of the blue and last a day or three or four. I don't seem to get that now though.
I also got diagnosed with an "excitable heart" basically I was having extra ventricular heart beats. So I would have a booming in my chest and my heart rate got up to 100 beats per minute. I have had to go off all chocolate, coffee, licorice and any stimulants of any kind. Now I am a bit better, but a small piece of licorice the other night made it flari up again. It also makes you very tired.
I honestly believe now that it is all attributable to the placenta accreta and all that happened on that day. I have never been a stressful or anxious person but I got phobic about pain, I normally have an extremely good pain tolerance but I would worry something might hurt. I am now starting to get my normal self back but their is a way to go.
I am totally phobic about falling pregnant again - ever! - to me it is a death sentence, even though I know that is not necessarily the case, my irrational part of my brain takes over. If I had another pregnancy I would need to be heavily medicated. I wanted to ge my tubes tied but cannot bring myself to have an anaesthetic as I had to have a Ketamine anaesthetic on the labour bed when all hit the fan. Not a nice experience and now the thought of a GA freaks me out.
I feel now I have sooo many hangups when I used to be pretty laid back and had virtually none.
Oh Pieta I think I cried more in the two years after having Nelson than I ever have before!
I am still very easily able to cry but have improved a little thank goodness!
Hi everyone, You know I asked my baby`s hematologist( blood doctor ) and she told me thoes skin episodes are because when they pass redblood cells they also pass the white ones , and the body has like an inmunologic memory and it reacts to that, but eventually it goes away with time, I don´t have thoes itchy episodes anymore. The hair I think has to do with the lack of calcium, nothing to worry about , grows again, ask your doctors about taking calcium suplements. Imagine!! the baby takes all the calcium from the moms body.
The only thing I would tell you mam is not to be scared if your little girl has anemia, they´ll surely make blood exxams to her, I`ve learnt that because they cut the umbilical cord soooo fast, that they cut a very important pass of blood from mom to baby that has a lot of iron ,and the lack of that iron produces the anemia on the next months of your babys life , but that has a good recovery by giving a lot of iron to the baby, my Lunita is 6 months now and she is on normal levels now, anyway she`ll take the iron until the year or so just for prevention , she was very anemic on her first month , but she recovered great from that. The doctors dont`t tell you about this cause I see there`s not a lot of information about the whole thing after , but it´s great to know that it happens and the reasons why, not to be scared but to do something about it.
As far as the panic attacks, I don`t know , in some situations I`ve noticed I`ve panicked but not in an uncontrollable way, I used to have panic attacks in my adollescence and took pills for that, but now it`s all gone, thank god I`m a stronger person now, this whole experienced has changed the way I see everything, I`m more possitive now than what I used to be. I`ll never be the same person again, this changed everything !!!! I thank god for all that i`ve lived because now I feel I can deal with anything in life......
Don`t be scared mam, you`ll make your own path and don`t neccesary have to have panic attacks or loose hair or the skin thing , it can happen or not, the great thing is that you`ll be alert and ready for anything and can do something about it, imagine I had the eruptions on my skin and got so scared cause in the wards they wouldn`t know what to tell me ,so imagine, I freaked out, now I know the reasons why!!!! thank god. The doctors feel so lucky that we`re all alive that they don`t tell you much afterwards .
Well bye everyone and hope this helps to all of us , :thumbsup:
its funny cause, that I`ve experienced, crying in front of the tv!!! , when I see something emotional or pretty or sad, it gets me to the deepest , but it`s good, the emotions have to come out some how!!!! now it`s like you understand more deeply any kind of suffering or happiness you see, emotions are stronger now, that`s what it is. While I was in bed rest or in the hospital I never let myself cry, cause I was scared that I might bleed or make everything worst, and 2 days before the surgery I spoke to the psicologist , and she basically told me that , yes, it was life threatening what I had and that if I needed to vent or cry that I should do it, she couldn`t tell me anything else, so that day I really cried !!!! I got everything out, and then I was ready for anything, just like that, it`s hard what I`m telling but I guess it had to be like that.......I remember that moment so clearly , I have that moment in my mind forever!!!!
When I watch my baby Kunita or my older son tomy I get so happy, it`s like a whole lot of love ready to explote , jajajajja, how can a person love somebody soooooooooo much my god, jejejee, well it`s the reason I`m alive for....... kisses everyone.
I feel much better after a good cry, it doesn't matter if it is a happy or sad thing I am crying at, it still makes me feel better!! I too was a very happy, laid back person before my Incretta, and I still am the majority of the time, it's just that something will trigger my emotions and I will be a bit emotional for a while, but then things settle down!! My husband now expects me to cry when we are watching different things, a while back I had been watching something about a lady with a young family and she was dying of cancer, I watched it on my own and I cried LOTS, afterwards, my husband asked what was wrong as my eyes were all red, I told him I cried at the TV and I explained that I always cry when something pulls at my emotions and that I used to hide it from him, he now knows I cry a lot at things and I am able to do it in front of him without him worrying!! Its awsome feeling like I can cry over things and hubby doesn't critisize or tell me I am being silly:)
I do appreciate my beautiful family and the life I have soo much more now and I also don't tollerate negativity in my life, I am much more assertive now and kinda feel like I survived Incretta, I am going to live life how I want to!!! That might sound a bit selfish, but as long as those close to me and myself are happy then life can only get better!!!!
xoxo
Hi guys. I have managed to get into my counsellor for this Tuesday. In some ways, it's too soon. I haven't cried yet. I had a few shaky words to DH when I told him that OB said he would have lost me if I hadn't had the stents done and had top gyno surgeon.
Don't think I have even started to process yet, still recovering physically. Weird and wonderful pains down there. Still hurts to go potty:(. I have metal clamps all over bladder. Clamped bleeding vessels and covered with membrane to heal. Wonder if I'll set off metal detectors at the airport??!!:laughing:
Still shaky when I do too much. No lifting of course, just walked around the shops and was exhausted and in sooo much pain. Feeling where the stents went in when I walk.
DH tells me that I have to give myself credit! It's only just over 2 weeks from my surgery. I hate feeling weak.
Loving Livinia. She is so sweet. I just want to kiss her squishy forhead all of the time. She has started staring at me when I feed her. She's nearly back to her birth weight. I am really glad I can breast feed!!:cloud9: I believe it is helping me recover. As soon as I can figure out how to put photos up, I will.
I'm 6kgs lighter now than I was when I first fell pregnant. Glad I had some "reserve" to pull on. Determined to keep it off. I usually lose heaps of hair after birth. Get bald patches.
Wish we were all local to each other. Would be good to meet and discuss everything and support each other. So true that others don't understand what we have been through. I want to help others like you guys have helped me.
:hugs:Mam
Hi mam, I WANT TO SEE PICTURES OF YOU TWO, you have to click in your user name, you see that I have a picture next to my name, well , you click in there then look for , control user panel, click that and then you'll see album , there you can upload pictures, I uploaded some pictures of us , I dont remember how I did when I put my picture next to my user name , I'll look again and then I'll tell you...
It's really amazing that you're walking bits now, my dad did the same to me , jajajaja, he took me to an artesany market at almost the two weeks after everything, he is a doctor so he told me that I had to get up, I was sooooooo tired !!!! but I did it :dizzy:. It's not just getting up and walk.... it's tough at the beginning , I remember being very afraid that the artery on my leg would explode or something, crazy idea .... but it was the feeling that I had. It's true that the legs hurt were they put the stents , it bothers a little. Then he took me to a mall, we had a tea and in a second we were leaving and I was throwing up!!!! what a shame, it was like I was still weak I guess.... he was really great with me, he lives in spain and came to argentina just to be with me at lunita's birth.
I wanna see livinia, she's growing great for what you're saying !!!!!
Well , hugs and kisses to everyoneee, I love talking to all of you....... bye mam....
Hi Mam,
That's great you got in to see your counsellor so quickly, she will help you to get your head around things a bit better!!
You are doing well getting to shops 2 weeks post op, it took me 3 weeks to go out and then I was nearly fainting from low blood pressure:( and only lasted about 40mins out, that included travel time, a few days after that, we went to my nephews christening and all I could manage was to sit at the church and sit inside when we got to my SIL's house, the walking back and forwards to the car was enough for me!!
It took me about 10 weeks to go out on my own, I had so much bed rest and hospital stays that I was extremely nervous to go out on my own, I was terrified that something would go wrong if my husband wasn't there, I had nothing to worry about though, things were fine:)
You sound very much like me, independent and hate relying on others to help you, I know people wanted to help me more, but I am so stubborn!!!! I have had friends tell me that they don't know how I manage with everything, none of them complain about much about anything around me anymore:laughing: It's kind of nice knowing that my friends think of me as a strong person!!!!
I keep thinking that I wish we were local too!! I guess we will just have to keep in touch over the Bub Hub for now:flowerz:
I am so glad that the breastfeeding worked out for you, I was shattered that I couldn't do it, but it always nice to hear when things work out for others!!!
Take care Mam,
Peita xo
Hi Guys!:wave:
It's been 3 weeks and 3 days. Took off my support tape from the vertical incision this morning. Ouch!!! Wish I'd been properly shaved before surgery. :laughing: Taking it easy today, didn't realise how much that special tape was actually supporting me. Feeling twinges and aching.
How long do the aches and pains go on for? OB said to expect it for awhile. Feel like I'll need some panadol.
Feeling much better after seeing counsellor. :thumbsup: I've seen her before for post natal depression, so have a good relationship with her. She had tears in her eyes as I told her my story.
She said to leave my diary until I feel like completing it. Memories do improve with time, but while the body is recovering and I'm sleep deprived, it may take longer. She believes that I prepared myself well for the surgery and coped well. Thanks to you guys for the support and info!!:hugs:
Counsellor not too concerned regarding post traumatic stress because I was well prepared and "knew" what could happen. She's more concerned about me giving myself time to heal and not doing too much. She knows me too well. I hate feeling useless!!! Also expects me to have some tears when I finally think about the fact that there will be no more beautiful little babies for me. It might hit me more in a few years when I'm at the stage that we are thinking about going again.
At this stage, I'm coping ok. Just sleep deprived. Enjoying my little girl, she's a real little person already.
Hope everyone is ok and looking forward to xmas!!:santa::snow::xmas::reindeer::noel:
Mam
Hi mam !!! It bothers for a while , but well , it´s the price we have to pay .... Are you using a... , I don`t know if I`m saying it correctly , a corset band or elastic band ??? that helps a lot, even if the doc tells you that it`s not necessary anymore, wear it, it feels like it holds everything down there , and it models your waist !!!! I used it like for 2 months after, (I know , very exaggerated!!!) and it felt that it kind of putted all together again, jejeje . It made me feel secure in some ways.
I`m happy to see you in this great mood, that is 100% recovery , you are making jokes about things, and that helps to break the ice in your head, 0 drama , washes away sad thoughts , even though is good to cry!!!! , but just to get everything out, wash the soul a little, jejeje .
I`m 7 months old now, jajajaja, and the scar still bothers some days more than others, but I have a bigger cut on my left side , it was because of the problem on the artery , but they cut on the bikini line... quite risky!!! I thought they were gonna make the other cut too , but they didn`t....
I still don`t sleep very well, and I`m working , sometimes I`m destroyed at mornings, jejeje, but what can you do.... my little lunita sleeps great , but I am always watching her at night , and that is a sleep killer, I`m trying to sleep more now, but it`s impossible!!!! jajajaa.
This is going to be a very emotional christmas I guess, yesterday I was in my little son`s end of the year kindergarden party, and I was crying as I watched him perform, it`s because a year ago at this very same time , I was pregnant and already bleeding and in bed, I made it to that party but then strict bed rest, so I couldn´t believe I was there yesterday with my babies!!!!! I was soooooo happy, I´ll upload pictures later so you guys can seee, tomorrow is my birthday , and I`m planing a great party, jajaja , I`m a singer , so I`ll play with my band !!!! party party party, jajajajaja. :smiliedance::wizard::ecomcity::laughing:
Welll everyone, see yaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!
bye mam, I`m happy cause I see you`re doing great!!!!!!
Mam, you sound fantastic! Very happy to hear that your counsellor visit went well, I have an appointment with my councellor this arvo and I am hoping it will be my last, I am feeling really good about things at the moment, and I am really looking forward to christmas this year, I was only 8 weeks post surgery last christmas and was still in pain and having BP issues and was a bit of an emotional mess, so it wasn't a great time for me!! I was diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress 5 months after my baby girl was born and they told me it was because my situation was such an emergency and I didn't have time to prepare myself for it:no:, hopefully your counsellor is right Mam and you won't have that problem:)
I was opened up 3 times through an inscision similar to a c-section and it took me about 10 weeks to feel ok at the inscision site, it took me a lot longer to get to feeling good when I did any exercise.... My doctor told me that it would probably take 12 months to start feeling like myself physically, I think it was around the 9 month mark when I thought, 'hey I feel ok'!!
I found the thought of not having any more children devestating to start with, I have always been surrounded with kids and I am a childcare worker aand even though I probably wouldn't of had any more, I think it was the fact that the choice was taken from me!! As my baby Alice gets older, I am feeling at ease with having no more children, I always said I wanted to be done by the time I was 30, and at 29yo, I had to have a hysterectomy, so I was definately done, I still find it a bit sad that choice was taken from me at such a young age, but I have come to terms with it!!!
Again Mam, I am glad to hear you are coping ok, I hope it keeps up and you have a speedy recovery:)
Take care
Peita xo
PS. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Lorenshappybirthday:flowerz:
happybirthdayLorens!!!:hugs::hugs::hugs:
I do feel pretty good actually. Tummy still a bit sore. Down days are usually due to sleep deprevation, Livvy not a good night time sleeper.
Looking forward to xmas and school holidays. Love having girls home with me. We do craft and have couch potato days and watch movies. When I feel up to driving, we do simple things like go to parks. They love it!!
I got on the scales this morning.:eek: I am 7kg lighter now than before pregnant. I really want to keep it off. Have a tendancy to have weight on because of slow thyroid. When capable of more exercise, I am going to walk. Great walking paths near daughters school, all paved, so easy with pram. Clears your head as well. Have to be patient and not rush it.
What incision did you have Pieta3? I had bikini with 3 earlier c-sections. This time it was a vertical incision so they had the room to work on bladder and do hysterectomy. It is neat, just off to the side a little. Bub was all squashed up on my left, so logical that they cut away from her. Don't see how it will flatten out. Early days. Still having to wear grandma undies so it doesn't rub.:laughing: Sexy.
Poor DH. No way do I feel like DTD. No action since week 20 when we got scan results. Did you guys find it an issue to get back into it with partners? Not ready yet, but frightened how much it will hurt because of changes inside. Don't feel like a complete female anymore in that regard. Were there any changes that I should expect? OB probably won't go into that much info. I don't know anyone close to my age that has had a hysterectomy, so no one to ask.
Mam
Hi Girls
Glad everyone is doing well, Mam can't believe how well you sound. That's great. It's funny my little boy is almost 6 months and is just starting to sleep through the night so I am finally getting some sleep and now that I am i have more time to think about what happened and process it all. The past 6 months have been all about Ethan and now that he is quite settled I am starting to process it all. I feel ok about it i guess I was prepared as well after having the accretta with my first born. It makes such a difference to be prepared rather then a shock. The only thing that is getting me down these days is the thought that I can't have anymore kids. This seems to be a common feeling with us all. I wonder if I will ever learn to deal with this. Mam, in terms of the pain, i was in pain for around 10 weeks afterward. I thought it would never end but it did. Hang in there it does get better. In response to DTD, i guess everyone is different it took me a while to feel up to it, but luckily hubby was pretty good and very understanding. I have a question for you girls, did everyone have a partial hysterectomy ? or full? I had a partial which means I still have my eggs, tubes etc. I don't have to take any hormones or anything, what about everyone else? Also another question, what happens with menopause? Do we still go through this? I think it is so weird not having my periods, I find it very hard to get my head around this.
I haven't started my Christmas shopping yet, starting to stress about it. I have my sons Christening on Sunday so have been busy organising that, can't believe how quickly Christmas is coming this year has flown. Anyway glad everyone is well , keep in touch
please don't laugh, jejeje, but i haven't had any action from the moment i got pregnant , cause i had bleeds from the very begining, and after my baby lunita's birth i still don't feel ready yet at all, also scared it might hurt; the doc told me to go back to my "love life" and said not to be afraid, that i have to start somehow, don't see how anyway cause with the kids and the little sleep i find it difficult yet, well, nice to know i'm not the only one in that situation.... jejeje. It's a whole other issue, i guess i don't even want to think about it yet , i don't know how to go back to action..... that's gonna be a problem to me:yes:.
thanks for wishing me a happy birthday girls!!!!, today it was all about cleaning , washing and bla bla bla, jajajaj, my house was a mess!!!!!!glamorous birthday, jajaajaa.
My goodness Jeles, 6 months!! Has it really been that long???? You sound like you are coping very well at this point, it's amazing what sleep can do:)
Ok, DTD, my doctor gave me orders not to do the DTD from 30 weeks, it was just another thing that would make my BP go up and at 7 weeks post op, my husband started trying, I was just scared because it had been so long I think, he just kept trying to convince me everything would be ok and at 8 weeks post op we finally DTD! I have to admit though, we are more loving with each other now and TD is not such an issue with us as it was before which is nice!!!
Mam, my inscision was the bikini one, they went in 3 times in 3 days to do things and a midwife explained to me that because everything was emergency for me, the surgeons wouldn't have been gentle and I would probably be a bit sorer than a planned procedure!
Jeles, to answer your questions, I had a partial hysterectomy and yes with a partial you still go through menopause minus the periods, so flushes and sweats an all that still goes on (at least that is what my doctor told me), if our ovaries had been taken, we would have gone into menopause straight away and needed hormone replacement therapy...alot of doctors are now doing partial hysterectomy so that there is no need for HRT, there is evidencce also that leaving the cervix in reduces your risk of having prolapse later on down the track, a lot of women who have complete hysterectomies have to go in for surgery for prolapse years down the track!!!!
I actually hadn't thought too much about what would happen with only a partial hysterectomy until my cousin asked what happens to the eggs when they are released, that's when I thought I should read a bit about it and found out a lot (by the way, your body just absorbs the eggs).
I have a question for you guys, after reading my medical records, I discovered that I also had a Subchorionic Haemorage which is a gathering of blood between the placenta and uterus which usually results in a bleed during pregnancy, if you don't bleed your body absorbs it usually by 20 weeks of pregnancy, aparently I still had mine there after I gave birth!! Did this happen with anyone ellse???? It's bizzare, eveything that happened to me is outside what is normal for these complications, the first thing that was out of the norm was I have had no previous abdominal surgery, then I never had plaventa previa or similar, never had a bleed during pregnancy, my placenta was attached at my fundus (I think that is part of the reason why the ultrasounds missed it, it is usually attached lower in the uterus), I had the Subchorionic Haemorage which apparently happens in about 50% of pregnancies, but they either fix themselves or you misscarry the baby if the haemorge is big enough and mine didn't dissapear and I still had my baby (it was a lot to get my head around when I first read the records)...after reading my med records, I have now come to terms with having no more children, I think that I was only meant to have the 3 kids I have, I hate to think how bad things would have been if I was able to have another baby!!
Anyhow, it is great to hear that you are both doing so well Mam and Jeles!!
Peita xoxo
I still have my ovaries, so no HRT. HRT is linked to breast cancer, so they like to avoid it now, especially in us younger hysterectomy patients. It will be something to get used to, the no bleeding thing. Will feel PMS as usual, but no bleeding. Hard to track cycle and link bad mood days with cycle.
I will find out at my 6 week checkup how much cervix I have left. They took part of it, the rest was too close to the bladder that had been repaired, so they didn't want to do anymore. Depending on how much is left will determine whether I have to have pap smears anymore.
My Aunt had a hysterectomy when younger and assumed that she didn't need pap smears. 20 years later a new doctor told her that she should of still been having them, did one and had cell changes. Lucky. They caught it in time and with treatment she's fine.
Glad to hear Jeles that sleep deprevation is improving. My Livvy is a night owl. Lack of sleep is what triggered my PND last time. I worry that it will hit me in months to come as well Jeles. So what if I've got 4 beautiful little girls, maybe I would have wanted more too.
I would have been 39 weeks tomorrow. Hard to believe that Livvy has been with us already for nearly 4 weeks and she shouldn't of even been born yet!! Also hard to believe that the surgery was nearly 4 weeks ago too!! Feels like longer. Not so focused on it now. Feel so good that it feels like it should be longer.
Wasn't sure how you guys would react to the DTD questioning. Some people refuse to discuss stuff like that. Thanks for sharing, makes me feel normal.
Off to do groceries, don't feel dizzy at all anymore. Yay!!
Mam
Hi everybody, I also have only the partial histerectomy I guess, my doc told me I have the ovaries and all that..., otherwise I would have had the menopause.
I dream with sleeping longer and all stretched out in my bed, jajajajaja, I sleep all bended and with my little two all over me, jajajajaja, always with a huge pain on my neck and back, I guess I have to keep dreaming, jajajaja.
I felt very not normal relating to the relations topic , I don´t feel ready for it at all, it´s like I´m still in denial regardings to it, don´t know why, but well, I´ll have to do something about it, not that I worry that much though......
Well see ya!!!!!!
Hi Girls, thanks for your kind words, not sure if i'm doing that well but some days are better then others. Just came back from a catch up with my mothers group and the girls were talking about having more kids, they all know what happened to me so they try to avoid the topic but it was brought up today. It's not fair. I wonder why this had to happen to me twice! It's so easy for some. oh well....hey Mam you mentioned in your last post that you have been feeling dizzy. I have too. I was really dizzy a few weeks after having Ethan and i went on iron tablets, then it went away. But since then the dizziness has come back a few times. It seems to happen when I am lying down and I go to get up. It's awful. It scares me. Did this happen to anyone else. I think I have to go get some blood tests done. I often feel worried about the amount of blood I received, scared that it was all safe.
Peita just wondering how did you get a hold of your medical records? I would love to see mine. I'm not to sure about that Subchorionic Haemorage I haven't heard of it before.
Thanks all for answering my questions about menopause/hysterectomy. I asked my dr at the 6 week check whether I have to pap smears and he said no, so I guess he took the whole cervix.
Take care all, thanks for your responses
Hi Jeles,
My OB is also my GP and I asked the office ladies if they could request them on my behalf, they sent an e-mail to the hospital and my records were faxed within the week.. You can also request them from the hospital yourself, they have to release them to you!!! I would reccomend reading them, it put everything into perspective for me and I am feeling really good since I read them, I now know exactly what happened and it is strangely calming for me!!!
How long is it since you guys had your Blood Pressure checked??? If you are feeling faint/dizzy when you stand, it is sometimes an indication of low blood pressure!! I was the same about 3 weeks after my ops, I would stand and nearly fall everytime due to dizzy/faintness, I had high BP and was medicated (all because of pre-eclampsia) and then the meds sent my BP low and caused the dizzy spells, just something I thought you could get checked out!!
xoxo
Beckbaby1
05-12-2010, 22:03
Hi all, I have just joined the site, while looking for others in my situation. so heres my story, I had an unevenful and great pregnancy up until 31 weeks.( i knew i have placenta previa but had never head of it and docs where not concerned, therefore i wasnt), dos also said the baby was big, anyways, i woke one sunday morning with a bleed, i ended up at the pregnancy assesment centre to admitted me to hospital and i was discharged three days later, at midnight the same night i had another bleed and was admitted back to hospitlal, this is were i stayed for three and half weeks, whilst there is was diagnosed with gestational diabetes( instantly had to inject insulin), and the baby transverse, doctors came in everyday and told me differnent things, in regards to how far the placenta could be from the cervix for it to be safe,.i thought this was a nightmare, but i was in for alot more yet.
I went home for two weeks and again on a sunday night( on our 1st wedding annivesary had a massive bleed at home, i went in an ambulance on all fours , as the bleeding subsided somewhat in this position, i was rushed through for an emergency ceasarian, all went okay(hated the feeling and pushing and pulling), but my baby girl was born safe and somewhat healthy
(floppy from diabetes). I was taken to recovery, and baby taken with husband to be feed because blood sugar levels where to low.
The bleeding would not stop and forms where signed by my husband to be taken back to surgery,. I woke up a day later with a tube down my throat(ICU) and told i couldnt not have any more kids. I almost bleed to death, my kidneys shut down and i have to be revived twice. I always imagine a family as at least two or three kids as im one of four. I am devastated and am still trying to come to terms with not being able to have anymore children, my daughter should have siblings, im thnakfu for this website because everyone else just says be thankful to have one child, but this is because they still have a uterus and have no idea how i feel....
What to do<<<<<<<
What an awful turn of events for you.
I had the issue on my second pregnancy so for that I am thankful.
I narrowly avoided a hysterectomy so do not know how that feels. I do however know what it feels like to be perfectly healthy one moment and have nearly died the next. To have your choices be taken away and to feel ripped off because of everything that happened.
I think it is very selfish for a person to say you should be thankful for the one child you have, yes of course you are thankful, it goes without saying, but you have every right to feel grief what you have lost. I always had a vision of two kids and to have the decision taken out of my hands would have only added to the stress, anxiety and grief I did feel.
It can take some time to get past what has happened. I would really recommend seeing a councillor I didn't and I ended up with depression and anxiety related illnesses which I am only know recovering from 3 years down the track.
You will go through all the stages of grief as you will grieve for what you have lost.
Lots of hugs and good thoughts to you from us, it is a turbulant journey you have been on and are on
Hi Beckbaby1,
Sorry you find yourself here, but you will get honest and supportive answers here, so I guess that is a good thing!!! My story was the first posted to this thread if you would like to read it, and I was 29yrs old at the time of my hysterectomy!! I had Increta that went undiagnosed until after I gave birth despite having accreta with my second and having 5 ultrasounds during my 3rd pregnancy!! You kinda had the works didn't you?? I would be devestated also if it was only my first child and this happened, I have 3 kids and still get teary and upset when people ask if I'm going to have anymore children, but it upsets me more when they say 'you have 3 kids, why would you want more?', it's hard to explain to people who haven't been there, I don't even really know why I am so upset about it, my counsellor thinks that because everything was emergency and such a trauma for me and the CHOICE was taken from me, that I am finding it hard to move on...All I know is that everyone heals at different rates and different ways and we all need to give ourselves time to heal both emotionally and physically!!!! I tried to get well too quickly and had a meltdown when my little girl was 5 months old!! This is by far the hardest thing I have ever had to deal with in my life!!!!
I agree with Rommi, it is selfish for people to say be thankful for the child you have, especially if they can still have children!! I also take offence to the comment, 'just be thankful you are still alive!!', I am extremely thankful I am alive, that is not was I was having troubles moving past, it was the fact that I almost died, that I had just about every drop of my own blood replaced and I wwas in intensive care for 4 1/2 days, some of that time was spent on a ventilator, it is really hard to hear those things and to make some sort of sense out of it, I asked myself why me for such a long time, now after assessing things and reading my medical records (13 months post op), I am starting to feel better about things, I still think about things EVERY day, but things are definately getting better for me:)
You will also start to feel better in your own time, if you ever want to vent or ask questions, feel free to do so, someone wiill respond and trust me when I say every response you get will help you in one way or another!!
Take care
Peita xo:hugs:
Beckbaby1. So sad to hear your experience.:hugs:
My little girl is 4 weeks old. I too had a rough time, the difference being that I was prepared for it. It was traumatic enough knowing what was and could happen. I can't imagine it all being an emergency and unexpected like you and some of the other girls had.
This is my fourth little girl and having a hysterectomy is still upsetting. I had chosen to have my tubes tied during this c-section, but having the choice taken away from you is greatly different!! I might have changed my mind and wanted another baby, have tubes rejoined. At least it was my choice, not a matter of life or death.
I simply cannot imagine it happening after your first.:no:
The ladies on this thread helped me prepare for my surgery and gave unconditional support. It's nice not to feel alone. Others don't understand what you've been through, the rough days that will come. I don't know anyone my age that has had a hysterectomy.
My OB automatically sent me for counselling after the birth. As I was prepared for surgery, I am at a lower risk of post traumatic stress. You're emergency situation would definately put you at high risk. Ask for help!!! GP can get you into a counsellor through medicare scheme. Only about $35 out of pocket per appointment. Maybe less if on health care card.
Feel free to vent here. Crying over movies, huggies adverts and for no reason is totally acceptable here too!!! Take some weight off your shoulders and share your troubles. It helped me!!!!:hugs:
Mam
Beckbaby1
06-12-2010, 19:25
Thank you so much for your reponses and support, its helpful knowing there are other out there that have experienced it.
this all happened 8 weeks ago, and i am 28 years old.
Thething is going into the caesarian, the anesthetist said that the odds of ending up with hysterectomy was 1 in 150,000, i replied im not worried, id rather win the lottery,hehe, Now i feel i should HEHE,
I think as it was only 8 weeks ago, its all still ll a bit raw an d i thought i was over it and had dealt with it, but have definatly not< ,
I didnt know the sex of my daughter and was given alot of hand me down clothes, i bawled my eyes out when i gave the boys clothes back, and i tend to see pregnant people everywhere,
Anyways i went to gp today and have been referred to councilor/psychologist.
So i will let you know how it goes...
Thanks again,,,,,
It is a hard time to go through. I didn't want any more kids after two myself, but it is very different when you have no choice and no imput.
I thought at times I was "over it" as well. Now I have come to the conclusion I will never be "over it" but I will learn to come to terms with it and the changes it has made to my life. It still afeects me to some degree.
I was late a day on my period and nearly past out as I was so stressed and wound up.
Not wanting to have sex in over a year becaue any time I had sex there was a chance however minute that I MAY fall pregnant and to me that mean't death.
There have been time that I wished I did have a hysterectomy so that wouldn't be such a stressful thing for me. But now I realise, especially from reading all your posts just how fortunate I was.
I always had a bit of a GA phobia -had never had one, since i had an energency Ketamine GA I have a major phobia as it was horrendous. I will do just about anything to avoid any sort of GA. I had Carpal Tunnel surgery under a Beer's Block as there was no way I was going to have a GA I would have put up with it.
The best thing about being in here, everybody understands and nobody will judge. It is a huge journey.
hi girls, welcome beckbaby1!!! , well I ´don´t know what to say about what you´re all saying, I guess I think to myself that I was ment to have 2 kids and I´m really ok with that number, I don´t really feel that I had the choice taken away from me, I wanted to have the histerectomy.
When my doc told me that they were going to have to do the histerectomy I told him that I didn´t have problems with that , cause as rommi says I knew it was a death sentence for me if I ever got pregnant again, my doc was estranged with my desition, very worried me being so young , but I didn´t see any other possibility , I wouldn´t have been in peace in my life if I had my uterus!!!!!!! and knowing I could be pregnant again like this.......besides I couldn´t do anything, it was uterus or dying and leaving my children horfans....I chose being in their life....this being emergency or knowing it, there was nothing we could have done anyway, this tipes of placentas cant be prevented and they have a hard treatment in the c section, so, no one took anything , it was something bigger than that !!!!! can´t fight over the idea of the what ifs... because you can drive crazy over that, I say it´s not a healthy thought.
Don´t feel bad when people say be thankful for the baby you have, cause they don´t even begin to imagine what we´ve all gone through and maybe it´s not a bad intentioned comment, it´s just that people don´t know what to say in this cases , it´s difficult because not even us know how we´re going to react with anything.
Sometimes now when I go to parties or reunions, my friends , mostly the man , say jokes as , hey and now close the factory..... and I don´t know how to tell them that I can´t have anymore kkids, jejeje, but I explain , and they don´t know what to do, but I say , hey , don´t feel bad , it had to be that way , only that I feel like a liar if I don´t explain , jejejee, and I feel ashamed for them...... cause they don´t mean any harm....it´s just uncomfortable , no one wants to hear the bad news, people are like that .....
I guess it´s true , we all have different times for healing, we´re humans !!!! and not the same , thank god!!!!jejejee, but that moment comes, the sadness it´s not going to be forever, mostly if you don´t let it darken the good things, cause believe it or not despite all the ugly , there´s a lot of beauty too!!!!!! treasure thoes beautiful babies of yours, being one , two, three or four ..... they need us , and we need them, I`m not much of a believer but maybe that was god´s plan for everyone of us.... I don´t know , everything happens for a reason....
I want to give a different view about this ,ít´s just that , a different view, but I think it´s great that we can all say what´s in our hearts and let it out, it´s the only way to get this weight off our shoulders!!!!cause it´s a huge weight and no one can hold it for a long time , it´s not good!!!!
I changed completely the way I see life , I used to be depresive , and now I`m suddenly finding myself loving life, and I feel in the need of helping all of us, jajajajja, this forum has become so interesting girls , THANK YOU ALL , it is helping me to deal with a lot of things.....:flowerz::sunshine::smiliedance:
Lorens, I can see where you are coming from, but you have to remember that some of us didn't know we were'nt going to be able to have any more children until days after the surgery, it was emergency surgery for me and it has been hard for me... My life has ALWAYS involved kids, growing up, my mum used to look after other peoples children in the family home, when I finished high school, I did a diploma in Children's Services and started working in child care centres, when I had my own children, I started doing Family Day Care (caring for children in my home) and so hearing that I could not have anymore children was extremely difficult!
After reading my medical notes and having all the problems I had with delivering my other children, I have now come to the realisation that I was only meant to have 3 children, I do feel cheated in some ways, but as my little girl gets older, I am realising that I really don't think I could go back to having a new born.. i am also starting to feel that me being only 30 and not being able to have anymore children has given my life a new direction!!
I don't tend to get as upset about people saying things to me about having more children anymore if they don't know what I have been through, it is when people says things and they know exactly what went wrong that upsets me! I had a lady who knew everything ask if I was still breastfeeding when my baby was 5 months old, I told her that because of the blood loss, it didn't work (I tried until my baby was 2 months old), do you know what her response was?? 'Well that's a shame you didn't keep trying!!!', I just wanted to slap her, as if I didn't feel bad enough about not breastfeeding, it's like she wanted to kick me while I was down! I am more assertive and less emotional now with my responses to people about everything that happened, but it has taken me a long time and lots of help to get where I am!!!
Beckybaby1, I am glad to hear that you got a referral for a psychologist, my psychologist has been a huge help for me and she is even going to put a group together of women who have suffered complications during pregnancy and birth which I think willl be fantastic, it will give me some local women to chat to!!
You crying about the clothes you gave back is completely normal, I still have things that trigger a cry in me and now that my baby girl is getting older, I have started giving my baby items away and it is soooo hard to let go, it makes it all even more final which is a little sad! Like I said though, I am getting better:)
Peita xo
hi Peita, yes!!! I`ll never forget that it was emergency for you guys, maybe I come on to strong on my words, sorry !!!!! I imagine that it was very hard on all of you, as it was also for me. You know that after reading all you girls last night I had a strange dream, it´s the first time I dream about what happened, I dreamt I was in the hospital , pregnant, and that I told the doctors , hey but I don`t have my uterus anymore, how can I be pregnant!!!! and that no one was saying anything..... scary to go back to that moment..... I had very few dreams about that, I guess the head takes longer to process , the subconscious . I know it´s hard on all of us the fact that we can`t have more children , I`ve always been a babies lover, I love to be surrounded by kids as well, I`m a kid myself, jajajaja. AS I said before , there`s stupid people and the rest, some women don`t understand at all what is a complication during pregnancy or at birth, and think that everyone should be the same, I would have kicked that lady too, jajajajaja, I´ll help you... don`t even begin to worry about that lady, I bet she has a sorry pitiful life and talks of ignorance, the fact that we all lived this scary experience makes us very superior people at some point you know....it`s true that now be become more direct and less emotional, that happened to me to, I used to be very emotional with things , not anymore.... You´ll never be the same , and somehow now you can actually put yourself in other people`s shoes and understand a lot of things , that maybe couldn`t understand before.... this changes a woman`s head forever, about everything; about how precious life is, how important the family is, how few are the real happy moments and that you have to try to hold on to them , cause life is really hard and people are very cold sometimes , it`s just how the world goes , but we can chamge that somehow from our little spots.....
You know I`m thoes crazy people that will never give anything away and I have tons of unuseful things at home, jajajajaja , I`m making pretty boxes with all my babies things , I don´t want to give anything, mostly because when they grow up, I`ll look at thoes things and remember when they were little, I could die if I had to give any of thoes things away, jajajajja. You know , the smells, look at the sizes of the clothes and remember how little they were , I don`t know , everything..... and also when my little ones grow , maybe if they have kids , all thoes things will be for my grandchildren , I hope they give me grandchildren , jajajajaa .
Everyday I wake up and I have a moment coming to my head about the hospital , or after lunas birth , always, it`ll follow me until the day I die , I`m processing very slowly I guess, little thoughts everyday , and I always try to get a good thought about it.
Well have to go back to work, I`ll keep writing later, bye everyone!!!!!
Sorry Lorens, I hope I wasn't too strong with my words either:) I can't believe what emotional creatures us women are, you are right, I do appreciate life and everything it brings a whole lot more, birthdays, anniversaries, holidays etc all mean so much more to me now!!
I always dream that I am pregnant, but it doesn't upset me anymore when I realise it's just a dream!!
On keeping baby stuff, I have some little things I have kept that are special eg. the hat the hospital gave my babies, a special toy or outfit, things that I am attached to!!! I wouldn't have anywhere to store the stuff if I kept it all!!! Besides, I like seeing my childrens little cousins wearing my kids old clothes and shoes and I do donate to charity shops, I think I need to move the things on so that there is a definate end to that part of my life, I guess we are opposites when it comes to the baby stuff and that is ok:)
Thank you with being honest with everything, it doesn't matter if we are healing differently, we have still gone through the same thing and hearing how everyone deals with things does help me!!!
xoxo
Afternoon ladies. Just an update. Little Livinia is doing very well. Putting on weight nicely and sleeping much better. She had her 6 week needles today. Scarey, those little legs getting needles.
I saw my OB this week for check up. Still have to have pap smears as I still have half of my cervix. Oh well, if that's the worst that I have to have, not too bad. Very happy with how I am healing.
Coping ok, no PTS. I've had some downers this last week that would make anyone struggle. I had to put to sleep my beautiful, loyal old dog. He was 16 and a half. Only 6 days later my other dog died in his sleep. I have lost all 3 of my furbabies in the last 3 months. Hard to take.
Hoping that there are no more negatives this year. Been a stressful year.
Hope all are well and coping leading up to the festive season.
Mam
Beckbaby1
17-12-2010, 23:43
i know how you feel,,,, had to take my bub for needles, thankfully i didnt have to hold her down, and yeah i still have to have papsmears, anyway i think i do, as i havent really been told much about everything.
Afternoon ladies. Just an update. Little Livinia is doing very well. Putting on weight nicely and sleeping much better. She had her 6 week needles today. Scarey, those little legs getting needles.
I saw my OB this week for check up. Still have to have pap smears as I still have half of my cervix. Oh well, if that's the worst that I have to have, not too bad. Very happy with how I am healing.
Coping ok, no PTS. I've had some downers this last week that would make anyone struggle. I had to put to sleep my beautiful, loyal old dog. He was 16 and a half. Only 6 days later my other dog died in his sleep. I have lost all 3 of my furbabies in the last 3 months. Hard to take.
Hoping that there are no more negatives this year. Been a stressful year.
Hope all are well and coping leading up to the festive season.
Mam
Gee you have been hit with a lot you poor thing.
I lost my beautiful Dobermann to hereditary heart disease 7 weeks before I had Nelson (I had also lost a cat when I was 7 months pregnant and OH was in another state for a month!) I found it very hard to lose her especially when she was only 8 and a half, but also because after all the crap I really needed her and we had always been together. I don't think that helped my recovery. I had decided not to get another dog until Nelson was at least one, but ended up really needing something else to think about other than kids 24hours a day(I sound awful don't I!) got a gorgeous little Whippet girl and had an 8 week old puppy, 5 month old baby and a 2 year old. It was the best thing I ever did - Now I have two!
I really feel for you and such a blow on top of everything else. I know your heart is breaking, but I hope that our hugs and Whippet kisses help you feel a little better.
All the best to you and your family this christmas and to everyone else as well :)
Thank you with being honest with everything, it doesn't matter if we are healing differently, we have still gone through the same thing and hearing how everyone deals with things does help me!!!
I wholeheartedly agree. We all cope with things the best way we can. I was like I am never going to take anything for granted again, I will be happy every day because I nearly didn't see it and to be honest some days I did feel awful and denying myself the right to just admit it was an awful day and I wasn't brimming with joy lead to a complete meltdown.
Having said that we all get their in our own time and hearing about other people their emotions and feelings helps me to realise their is no "right" way and we will get their in our own way and time.
Looking back 3 years I have been through the wringer and I honestly hope I never have to go through anything like it again. But I now have many more good days than bad and life is great - just took me a little bit of a detour to get there.
[Hoo!!!! so sorry to hear about your doggie babies, I can understand what you feel , I have 3 dogs in my house , they are my dog children , I love them!!! and I also left in my moms house other 3 , all rescued from the streets, they were all my first loves, sorry to hear mam, but well 16 years !!!! it´s a lot of time for a dog, I bet they were very loved and taken care of to last so long.
As for myself I had the most scary weekend ever !!!!! we got together with my ex school mates , children included , and my little tomy is restless!!! he was running in a beautiful grass field, there was a little cement tiles path, can you believe that he feel on one, and with the corner he made a huge hole on his forehead!!!!! we were very far , it was a country house, so when I saw the hole I almost die!!!!!
I passed all the meeting chasing him, cause I don´t let him be!!! poor baby, he loves danger and I`m always suffering with him when we go out, so imagine , we grabbed a car and went to emergency , nothing happened to tomy , no hache , no dizziness , nothing , thank god!!!! but they had to sew him , like 8 stitches!!!! he was a grown man !!!! he took it great, never even had needles for blood samples or anything , he is a very healthy kid , so never goes to the doctor, and in a minute we found ourselves with like 6 doctors around us, pretty scary , but an accident with luck !!! thank god..... I surprised myself cause I acted very cold and quickly, if this would have happened before I would have cried and maybe freeze, but it was all the way around , I held him and talked to him , didn´t want him to sleep , and I was beside him when they stitched him, talking to him and I didn´t feel impresion or anything, just felt I had to be with him.... When my husband took him home, and I went back to the country to pick up my little lunita that stayed there with my friends I cried a bit, but because it was too much stress together , but I surprised myself of how well I reacted !!!!! Now he is doing good thank god, it was a big scary moment only.
I also had a PAP , cause Ihad irritated and it hurt , but now I`m feeling better .
Well girls glad that you`re all doing good, bye everyone!!!!
Merry Christmas
Hope all you ladies have a wonderful festive season. Looking forward to spending this special time with our beautiful children.
Mam:hugs::xmastree::xmas::santa::reindeer::noel::e lf::snow: with lots of:dishes:and :banghead2: with:exercisebike:after!!
Thanks mam!!!!!!!!!!! Merry christma to everyone!!!! I`m very happy cause I`m going to sing to Chile with my band , we`re near chile here were I live, like six hours crossing the mountains, but it`s a different country and a great experience for me, I`m taking the whole family with me, we`ll see how it goes, hope tomy doesn`t give me a hard and painful time, jejeje, cause he loves danger, I`ll have to be behind him the whole time, and when I`,m singing , my husband will have to do the same, Lunita will be next to me in her stroller so.... I`ll sing with her next to me. Hope everything comes out fine, no accidents !!!! jejeje, I`m a little scared with that, but well , it`s our first vacation together and my first vacation in like 15 years!!!!! so I need a break, jajajaja. WEll, hope everyone has excellent time with your family , Love you all girls, see ya!!!!! Bye.
Hi to all, I have been reading on all your experience with Placenta Accreta, and it has been so heartbreaking to know all that you have been through, I just want to wish all of you speedy recovery and Best wishes for the future!
I am 23 weeks pregnant, and was also told at 16 weeks that I have placenta Accreta, this was only picked up because i kept having heavy bleed without clots fm 10 weeks, but at each scan i was told that this was due to a clot in the uterus and nothing to worry about, the bleed was on and off, but then it came to being so much when I was bleeding like half a can of coke, thats when they did a internal scan, at which point I was told of this condition. I then had a appt with the consultant at the hospital who explained what all this was, and what to expect, i was given my Anti-D injection, because my blood group is O Negative, and was prescribed 200g iron tablets to take twice a day.
After my 20 weeks scan, again I saw my consultant who advised still no change, so is now thinking of booking me in cesarian on the 5th of April 2011, I will be 37 weeks if all goes well, they will also arrange for the Intervention Vascular Radiology team to be present that day, to insert stent in my leg arteries to control the blood loss.
This is 4th pregnancy I have had 3 previous cesarian and have 3 beautiful girls, I have been told this is more common in previous cesarian cases, I haven't had any more bleeding after my Anti-D injection, I have been advise to continue to take my Iron tabs as this will help me when it comes to my surgery.
I have my next consultation on the 12th of January will keep every one informed.
Hi Babby4,
Sorry to hear you have accreta. Because you know from before your delivery I am sure your OB will have a plan in place to make sure everything goes as smoothly as possible for you.
I hope none of what we have shared has caused you any more anxiety or stress.
Mine was unknown until after I had given birth and was a complete shock.
Let us know how you go I hope everything is smooth sailing for you.
Merry Christmas to everyone and cuddles to all of your gorgeous babies and children.
Welcome Babby4,
I have alot in common with you!! I have 3 girls, birthed by c-section. Found out at 20 weeks of accreta, all planned the same as you. Had bleeding later in pregnancy, 30 weeks, ended up in hospital on bed rest at 32 weeks and delivered by c-section at 35 weeks. Turned out to be percreta, bladder involvement. Stents used too. Hysterectomy.
My 4th little girl is 7 weeks today. My recovery was great, everyone amazed at how quickly I've improved. We definately had the advantage of an early diagnosis. Most of the other ladies on this post were emergency.
Feel free to ask any questions about the procedure. The ladies on this post really helped me through my experience.
Try not to dwell on it, just rest and keep your stength. Stressing won't help, put your blood pressure up and increase your risk for pre-eclampsia. I believe pre-eclampsia is linked with the accreta from research that I did and it ended up happening to me.
Keep us updated.
Mam
Hi,
Thanxs Rommie & mam for your kind words.
Mam it was upon reading your experience that I found myself going through the same, I had a good cry for 2 days and then felt so much better that you have been through this what i'm going through, sharing your experience with us has given me so much strength that I cant thank you enough,
No one form friends and family understands my feelings regarding this, they keep saying everything will be ok, they don't know anything about accreta, and think i am over reacting when i do talk about it, so it all came flooding out when I read up on your experience, I agree with you that we are fortunate to be diagnosed early in our pregnancy were as the other girls have had all this come as a shock it makes it harder to deal with, as they say "A woman is like a teabag, you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water".
I pray for all who have been through this and those who are going through this, for a life full of laughter & happiness with their children every step of their life.
Best wishes &Happy New Year!!!! XXXX
I think it is quite normal for people to have no idea what you are feeling or what the actual issues are. Maybe because they just do not want to think of anyone they love having such a traumatic thing happen.
I know that no-one could understand what I was feeling or why I had some pretty down days. I got told more than once you are alive your baby is fine you should be happy. I was!! most definately but it still doesn't stop you feeling ripped off by the whole experience.
For me I had my baby in and hour and 3/4, no drugs (no time!) not stitches - wonderful! then all the crap hit the fan - I felt totally ripped off. It just wasn't the way it was meant to be - for me at least!!
I have also had people say oh yeh a retained placenta I had that as well, lost a bit of blood but it was all okay, or yeh me too but I didn't want a trasfusion so was anemic for a bit but it was all okay. Ummm people accreta is a bit different and I didn't have a choice, even with very quick multiple transfusions I nearly didn't make it!!!!.
I know knowing this early will have you stressed and it will be a big weight on your shoulders, but I am so thankful that your doctor knows and will have an action plan in place. I would like for no-one to go through what i had to. Be prepared that people will just not get it - they don't. One of my friends was my midwife and to be honest she does get it - she was there and I really feel for her because she knew how bad it was and had to remain calm through the entire time.
Mam is a total insipration and I am glad you came here and had the chance to read her story - truely insiprational. I am not sure if you have done it as yet, but get some counciling before would be good, but definately after. Even if it all goes very well ( and we all of course hope it does) it will still be a very stressful period in your life.
Keep us updated :)
Rommi You are absolutely right about the peoples response, thats exactly what they say to me,
I have now given up in explaining to people what accreta is, but at the same time so glad iI have met people like u to give me support through tis difficult time, Thank you!
I am trying to keep positive and praying that all goes well. Rommi did you not get any bleeding during your pregnancy?
Mam was u put on Iron tablets? I was told by my OB even though all my blood tests are ok, I need to take them as this will help when it comes to my Cesarian, and how often should I be scanned to be sure that I an being well looked after by the OB, not that I feel that im not, its just that I did ask him a Q about if my placenta growing outside the uterus and if it attaches to my bladder how will they know, he said I will start getting blood in my urine, but cant they do anything to prevent this? I mean if they scan me regularly.
Hi Babby4 I like the frase you used , about us being like teabags, it´s like that !!!!!! so true!!!! , you´ll discover you´ll never be the same after this, this experience makes you a stronger person forever , it´s like we´ve all had the priviledge to see life from a different perspective, never take anything for granted and treasure every moment,. I guess it´s what it did to me.... It´s a hard moment what you´re dealing with now, but it will pass, in some time it will be an anecdote , you just have to be peaceful and with that you´ll help the docs do their job.
How many weeks of pregnancy do you have??? Be peaceful that doctors know what they´re doing , were are you from? I´m from argentina and I had the luck to have a great team at the public hospital. it was the best way to go.
I hope you have a great New Year , it will come with all the energy!!!!! By this thime last year I was already in Strict bed rest and was resting until april 28th . Imagine !!!! 5 months withput moving:hoponbed:, I was freaking out, but I did it .....
Best wishes to all of you girls!!!!!! see you next year jajajajaa. :bee:
Me again, I had iron inyections , one every 2 days , like 10 total , cause since I was in bed rest I was going once a month to the doc , he didn´t prescribe them sooner and well I was a little anemic, and they had to put the inyections with short notice time , the nurses were great at the hospital , never made me hurt !!! great hands with inyections. In my case my uncle who is an obstetra told me that It was very rare me having percretta and complete placenta previa because of my age 33 and only having one previous c-section , but well it was , and the worse kind, I have only 2 kids , but it had to be .
There isn`t one single day that I don`t think about what happened , but when I´m having problems or feeling tired or anything bad, I remember all the moments that I thought I wasn`t gonna make it and all my actual problems become little things , or when I´m tired I remember when I dreamt of going out , even to the door of my house and couldn´t, I guess all thoes memories give me such strenght for life, and always remind me whats important !!!! I think this follows you for the rest of your life, but it can be used in a possitive way , to have a wider vision of things , it helps to learn I guess ..... Man!!! to much for one person !!!!
Bye again girls.
Rommi You are absolutely right about the peoples response, thats exactly what they say to me,
I have now given up in explaining to people what accreta is, but at the same time so glad iI have met people like u to give me support through tis difficult time, Thank you!
I am trying to keep positive and praying that all goes well. Rommi did you not get any bleeding during your pregnancy?
Mam was u put on Iron tablets? I was told by my OB even though all my blood tests are ok, I need to take them as this will help when it comes to my Cesarian, and how often should I be scanned to be sure that I an being well looked after by the OB, not that I feel that im not, its just that I did ask him a Q about if my placenta growing outside the uterus and if it attaches to my bladder how will they know, he said I will start getting blood in my urine, but cant they do anything to prevent this? I mean if they scan me regularly.
I had no bleeding, no anything abnormal. Blood pressure everything was all boring normal. There was absolutely no sign that there was a problem. I went 7 days past my due date, I had my rather chubby 10 pound baby in 1 and a quarter hours no medication, no sutures.
It wasn't until the placenta wouldn't detatch that the midwife called the doctor over as she wondered if maybe she wasn't putting enough pressure on it. The doctor did his thing it still didn't move and then I started to bleed. I remember telling them I had terrible veins at the best of times so if they thought they would need a vein get one as soon as, I took off my watch and had two catheters put in. They called in another doctor which I don't remember much about and apparently he told me what he was going to do and then knocked me out.
I woke up a while later having no idea what was going on as I was out of it when they told me. I had 6 catheters in and had fluids, blood and haemacell all running in at the same time. I couldn't move and I was very thirsty. I was told I wasn't allowed to have a drink as I may have to go to theatre for surgery and I was still loosing blood and I felt very very cold as I was having a transfusion reaction. Around 10 minutes or so -maybe more- after that they said that it appeared to have slowed down then stopped. I then had my uterus packed with gauze and that was not very pleasant at all!
They then weighed all the towels etc and told me I had lost over two thirds of my blood. It was only then that it really started to sink in that it was rather serious. later that night the nurse assigned to looking after me filled me in a bit on what had happened and what it meant etc. I was a bit blown away then but it still hadn't really sunk in. I had to have more blood as I was still anemic. I had that mnay nurses etc visit me as none of them could believe I was still alive. That was when I started to really get upset.
I even had one lovely young nurse say something along the lines of - Oh I wished they had called me in to see that, nothing exciting ever happens when I am on. Um yeh okay exciting, I could think of other things to call it!
Babby4 - I had my first small bleed ( still scared the hell out of me ) at 30 weeks. Given steroid shots incase early delivery. Went home on instructions of rest. At 32 weeks had a bigger bleed and clots. Admitted into hospital. Total bedrest. No iron suppliment ordered. Was kept in for 3 nights. Monitoring BP as it was going up. I was going home if ok. Major bleed that night. Scarey, had it running down my legs, after it had filled maternity pad. Seems like alot of blood, but OB assured me that it looks more than it is. Put it in prospective for me, when you give blood, they take a unit and all they give you is an orange juice and a biscuit. So not alot to actually lose. Also, baby is not affected by this blood loss, it's your blood.
In regard to scans, mine was found at regular 20 week scan. Had a follow up scan at 25 weeks to keep an eye on it. OB said I was to have an MRI around 34 weeks. More detailed. Important info for surgery. My MRI didn't actually supply anymore info than the first ultrasound. Accreta. As it turned out, it was perccreta. Mine had attached to the bladder, but it peeled off. Left me very raw and required mini clamps and a membrane to stop bleeding. Didn't actually go through bladder, so no idea what to look for if it goes through.
Don't hesitate to ask questions Babby4. Where do you live? Maybe one of us is close by.
Mam
Hi Ladies:wave:,
I have been trying to get online for weeks to catch up, but the silly season got to me and life was sooo crazy busy (in a good way)!!!! I hope you all had a fantastic Christmas and New Year, we did:), we had a beautiful tent holiday in Merimbula NSW (5 nights) and this year I had a ball:), last year, I was only 8 weeks post op and couldn't do much because I was still sore!
Babby4, I am sorry you have found yourself on this thread, but you will get lots of honest and helpful advice:), my Incretta was never detected before I gave birth despite having 5 ultrasounds, I lost 4 litres of blood and nearly lost my life, I went back to the hospital where it happened and was a guest speaker at National Midwifrey week conference (very difficultt to do, but very worth while) and that was the first time things were said to me that really upset me, they weren't bad things, I got hugs from midwives I have known for a long time as I have older children and they told me that they followed every minute of what happened to me and one even said 'as hard as it might be for you to hear, we all thought we were going to lose you, but everyone kept praying and you pulled through', that is the hardest thing I have had to listen to as it came from the professionals, but it kind of put a lot into perspective for me!
You will be well looked after Babby4 since they have detected your accreta early, OB's and their teams have great success rates for predetected Accreta, but in saying that, if you think things aren't quite right, speak up, I wish I had been more forcefull during my pregnancy, who knows, the outcome might not have been so traumatic, but, I can't change that now, and I am slowly moving on, my little girl has just turned 14 months, and my other 2 are 7yo and 4 1/2yo and I love them to bits:flowerz:
Mam, I can't believe how quickly time has passed and how old your little girl is, I hope things are going smoothly for you, are you still breastfeeding?? If so, that is fantastic!!!!!!! How is your tummy healing?? I hope there isn't too much pain any more???
It's a brand new year ladies and I am trying to be positive and happy with life, I hope you guys are feeling the same way and we can all heal together, thank you very much for the kind words and support over last year, they have helped me a lot, I look forward to keeping in touch!!
Peita xoxo:hugs:
Hi ladies,
Thanks lorens, mam, rommi and peita 3, for sharing what you had to go through, it helps people like me get through this difficult time, I just wished that no one had to or have to go through this but its by knowing what to expect and how some of us have been through the worse but are frotunate enough to be here and share this with us that makes us stronger.
lorens im just at the end of week 24,
Do you think I should insist on having an MRI scan?
mam was you awake during your surgery? recovering after a section is painful and slow it self, but how bad is the pain after going through what you have?
Do you have any follow up app at the hospital?
Lots of Hugs to all X
Pieta3 - so glad you had a great christmas. Especially a holiday break. Change of scenery does you good. Merimbula is beautiful. 2011 will be a healing year, I feel it.
Babby4 - I had an epidural first, to numb me for the stents/shunts to be put in at radiography. Canular and catheta put in after epi. The stents/shunts took about an hour to do. Didn't hurt, just stressful and draining laying there waiting for it to be finished,
Had a general for the c-section. Awake while they did all of the prep work. Literally only put under just as they were about to make the incision. Get bub out asap with minimal exposure to the general. They can get the bub out in as little as 3 minutes.
Recovery was more difficult compared to c-section. I've been through labour and emergency c-section as well as elective c-section. Definately used the morphine drip this time. Incision was vertical unlike other 3, which were bikini line. Better access to do the hysterectomy and bladder repair. Make sure you get a full shave before surgery and don't remove the support tape on the incision for awhile.
I think it was the blood loss that affected me the most. I couldn't keep my eyes open. I had Livinia on the Friday at 2.37pm and left hospital on Wednesday afternoon. Could of stayed longer, but I'd had enough after being in hospital for over a month already! Wanted my own bed and my girls around me. Don't do it though, unless hubby or mum are with you 24/7, as you can't do more than sit.
I have a lady in hospital that I roomed with, that I have become friends with. She's been in hospital since she was 18 weeks with a badly bleeding previa. She's 32 weeks this week. Planned to take bub next week. She's been asking me heaps of questions too, so don't hesitate to ask anything. She said it's helping her to see me and how well I'm healing and bub is doing. Knows she'll get through it ok.
Cheers!
Mam
Mam - I think you could be right about this year being a healing year:) I had a visit with my counsellor on Tuesday and I found myself talking about other things besides my Incretta, she told me that if I really wanted to continue visits, then that was fine, but she told me what we had talked about in that session and said, that I really don't need to visit her anymore, having a professional say that to me made me feel really good:smiliedance:, I was on a high when I got home and I am now noticing that I am not thinking about everything so much!!!
Babby4 - I never had any previous c-sections, and even though I have a high pain tollerence, I was very sore after my ops (3 in 2 days), but I wasn't that sore for long, I think it was 2 weeks I was extremely sore for and then the next 8 weeks it got better, I had just a constant dull pain, that ended up being annoying, and was restricting what I could do!! It does all get better though - eventually!!!
Again, thank you to everyone for your kind words and support, hopefully we can keep on helping eacg other:flowerz:
Peita xoxo
Hokey Pokey
08-01-2011, 08:58
I had it with my second aswell as placenta praevia. I had to have a csection no doubt about it.
Pieta3 - I'm off to my counsellor on wed. Nearly cancelled my appointment as I feel so good. I've been having an osteopath working on me. Realigning pelvis and all that. It's really helped, but she's encouraged me to keep appointment with counsellor because she believes in treating both in unison. Mind and body. One so reacts to the other!! Great that you are ok to discontinue seeing counsellor. Definately a healing year!!:yes:
Babby4 - How are you going? :wave:
Lorens - I bet you had a great New Years Eve!! Singing gig. Did family love it too???:celebrate:
Rommi - 2011 a healing year for you too!!!:hugs:
We have had some people interested in buying our house!! We are ready to move on now. I would love to get into our new place by xmas this year. Fingers crossed. We have also put our name down for a new puppy. Will be born mid year. Missing my furbabies.
Mam
Greta to hear you are feeling so well Mam. Sounds like you stillhave a lot going on moving house and new puppy!! How exciting what kind of puppy are you getting???
As 2011 and rolled around I sat down and thought yep this is it I can finally step forward. Interestingly it has been over three months since I have had a massive hair drop and it was just about continuous at once satge so maybe that is getting a lot better??? Who knows if and whne the next one will come but to be honest I am just not worrying about it anymore. Maybe because I really now feel at peace with it all my body has let go of the extra anxiety and has given it's self a chance to finally rest and recooperate.
Hope all is going well Babby4
Hi everyone, yes, I had a very nice new year, Singing everyday by a pool and went to the beach one day, I was really looking forward to see the sea, My little Tomy was fascinated and lunita played in the sand , she started to sit all by herself that day on the beach. I wanted to cry that day, I felt so emotionall, when I was in bed rest everyday I thought, I wish I was in a beach ..... and us being there , Lunita here , I dont´t know, it moved a lot of things inside. I had one particular episode with my husband that made me realize Im not over this at all, the band and us were all in a hostel, you get to share the bathrooms , and so we didin´t bath that much , everyone was saying that as a joke and I told everyone that when I was in bed rest I only bathed once a month cause I wass so scared to take a bath , and when I did I touched my belly very gently , was sooooooooooo scared in the bathroom when ever I took a bath and so my husband said as a joke-truth , hey shut up we´re eating, no one cares about that it´s not a nice thing to talk about ..... I felt so humiliated that I got up from the table and everyone was like ....????? I felt that no one actually really cares, and thought that no one begins to imagine of what i´ve gone through , felt that it´s something that has to be forgotten , and the fact that I took everything so well doesn´t mean it doesn´t still hurt now and then, I had to cry. Then my husband apologize but iot was late, I said don´t even begin to say a word , I was so angry at him , cause he humilliated me in front of everyone , at least that´s how I felt , make me feel that all what happened it´s worth for nothing..... I guess it hurt a lot.
On the other hand I felt great because in the hostel there were people from around the globe and I got to speak in english all the time, it was liberating, jajajaja , my band mates don´t understand a word in engli¡sh so..... that was great and I miss it. I´m uploading photos now so you guys can see....
As for what you were asking babby4 about the scans and everything I did one per month and I drove my doc crazy for him to do the MRI , anyway the best moment is from the 5th or 6th month , that´s were they can really see if the placenta is going to the bladder, I did the MRI at my 6th month. I had iron inyections , like 10 , and by my 5th month I had an urinal infection and had very very little of blood on my urine, as for the blood on urine if the placenta takes the bladder dont know, I never had bleeding and my placenta was attached to tghe bladder , my obstetra uncle told me the same as they said to you, but I think they can know best with the MRI. You´ll be great, they know everything and it´s under conttrol, thats very relieving!!!!
Well , I had my little breakdown , I´m ok , just mad at my husband , anyway we´re never very well, I hate to fight but he likes to discuss everything and that is nerve wreaking .....
Hope you all had an excellent end of year and the begining of a healing year, I guess that would be the biggest gift to all of us, Love ya girls!!!!!:babydust1:
Hi again everyone:wave:
Mam, I had physio for 3 months to help my pelvis annd lover ab, it was awsome! I now am having issues with my feet, the doc thinks my arches have fallen and I get x-ray results today and a trip to the pediatrist soon, the doc thinks this has happened because of all the bed rest and me not being able to shift the weight I gained, I have never been this heavy for this period of time, it sucks, but thankfully, the weight is starting to come off now, 4kg's gone:) I am very happy to hear that you are feeling so good, my counsellor made me do the 6 visits with her over a 6 month period and has said if I ever start to feel down again, just get another referral from my GP and I will get back in with her, I guess it's nice to know she won't just put me to the side!!!!
Mam, where are you going to move to?? What kind of puppy are you going to get?? I will be devistated when my dogs move on, I have an American Staffy and an English Staffy an they are awsome pets and as much as I complain about doing everything for them, they give me that unconditional love and pretty much only respond to me which I laugh about, my husband really wanted them and they don't really listen to him:)
Lorens, you sound like you had a fantastic time, apart from your husbands comment, I have been very lucky, my husband hasn't ever said anything hurtful or wrong in my eyes, my younger brother has also been quite supportive, I think what happened to me shook him pretty bad and he realised exactly how much he loved his big sister:) my dad doesn't talk about what happened at all, but he hasn't said anything bad, I just don't think men are very good with women and their emotional issues, they don't really think a lot before they speak do they?? It is hard, everyone does seem to forget and move on a whole lot quicker than you, I am finding myself thinking about what happened less and less, but there are some comments or things on tv that set me off still.. The one thing that really upsets me is when other women compare their birthing stories to what happened to me.... 1 story was from my husbands cousin and the baby got stuck in the birth canal so she had to have an emergency c-section, no blood loss, no other complications and she said to me that 'we should compare war stories' with a little laugh on the end, this was when my baby was 4 months old and I just smiled and moved on, I don't see my Incretta as a war story to joke about, I see it as the most horrifying, near death experience, and it is something I wouldn't even wish on my worst enemy, I also find it hard when they compare their labour to mine, my first was 38hrs, my 2nd was 6 1/2hrs and my 3rd was 1h 15min, yes my last labour was fantastic, but what happened after that seems to be forgotten and I have actually had a lady say, 'well at least you had a short labour, that has to count for something', I would rather have 38hrs of labour and not have the trauma that followed.... Any way, some people are just insensitive or don't know how to respond when someone goes through something like this, this is something that has taken me a long time to realise...
Rommi, great to hear about your hair:) I have begun to loose weight which is something I have been trying to do for nearly 12 months, so I must be feeling better.... How was your Christmas and New year, I hope you enjoyed yourself..
Peita xo
Hi every one,
I had my appointment with the OB today, they have made arrangements and have given me a plan,
Planning to deliver at 37 weeks, date given is 04-04-11 if all goes well :fingerscrossed: they have arranged for the intervention radiology team to be present for the stent insert, they are also arranging cell storage, this means as they said to use my blood lost during surgery, cleaned and put bck in to me at the same time, will be asking more abt this next time, :rolleyes:
I have my GTT test on 1st of Feb followed by Anti-D injection on 4th of Feb
I will again see my OB at 28, im at present on my 26 week
Booked for a scan at 32 weeks to check growth of placenta
Booked for steroids at 34 weeks
it all seems full on, but I do feel that i am being looked after well :), I just pray all goes according to plan :fingerscrossed:
Mam when did u get 2 see your babby girl after delivery?
I feel pretty great atm!! I saw my counsellor yesterday and she doesn't feel the need for any more appointments. Coping well. Healing well too!! To make it all even better, I had Livvy weighed today and she has put on 1kg in 6 weeks. She has caught up to what my other girls weighed at the same age. Grown 8.5cm in length!! That is one massive growth spurt. Obviously my milk must be good. I don't feel run down at all. Sleep is ok too. I'm overjoyed!! So, take heart Babby4, look how quickly it turns around!
In response to your question Babby4 of how soon I saw Livvy after birth : My surgery took 4 hours, hubby was with Livvy in NICU while they finished. He was called down to recovery to be there for me when they started to bring me around. As soon as I was with it, I was wheeled down in my bed to see her in NICU. I got to touch her. Not hold, I was too weak. I then went back to delivery where they kept me for nearly 2 nights. I was told it was ICU quality care I received, but they kept me there because NICU is next door to delivery and Livvy was bought to me often and I got to hold her. Because she was going so well, she was left with hubby and I for long periods of time. I really wasn't up to having her with me all of the time.
Your bub should be pretty strong at 37 weeks, especially after steroid injections. At that age, sucking should be developed too, Livvy was at 35 weeks. Write down and sign a request of how you wish to feed bub. I wanted to breast feed and they did everything they could to help. I was hand expressed at the beginning. Ouch!! Breast feeding strongly, even after requiring 8 units of blood.
My hospital buddy with complete previa is being delivered tomorrow. She's having stents and hysterectomy too. Her little boy will be 33 weeks and 2 days. Naturally she's stressed, I am too for her. Fingers crossed.
Hope everyone is well.
Mam
BABBY 4, it sounds like you are being well taken care of!! I was induced at 37 weeks and my bub had no issues at all, her apgar scores were 9 and 9 and she was only in NICU because I was in ICU for nearly 5 days!! Mam is right, make sure everyone knows how you want to feed, I told the midwives I wanted to breastfeed just before I was put under and the ICU nurses told me that they came and expressed while I was out, and then nurses and hubby bought my little girl to me as much as they could!! I was very busy during my pregnancy too, I was sick for a long time, then I had to do the 3hr Diabetes test (it came back ok though), I was given Anti-D injections, at 30 weeks I was medicated for high BP, I was on weekly checkups from 30 weeks,, at 34 weeks it became twice weekly, at 36 weeks I was hospitalised for 2 nights, at 37 weeks I was Induced for pre-eclampsia, and, I had 5 ultrasounds during the pregnancy, it was exhausting...Just keep in mind, that it will all be over soon and you will have that precious little baby with you:) I have a real soft spot for my youngest (which will probably be a bad thing in the long run lol), but I worked so hard to get her here, that she can't be anything than a perfect little angel LOL!!!!!!!
Livvy sounds like she is doing well mam:smiliedance: I am so glad that feeding is still going well for you guys:) I felt so good when my counsellor said she didn't think I needed anymore appointmens, it was great that a professional told me I was not a wreck any more:flowerz: :fingerscrossed:we stay healthy and happy:)
Take care everyone xox
I'm very protective and clingy with Livvy. I feel the same way as you do Pieta3, she's my special baby. Last as well. Always be my baby.
Hi every one,
Well I had a bleed on Thursday at 10pm, was hospitalised, didnt expect to be as the bleed was not much, but was told with previa & accreta things change all of a sudden so they wanted to keep me for observation!!!
I was expecting to go home on Friday as I didnt have any more bleeding that night, but they will still keep me in, they gave me another shot of Anti-D, I was just praying that I didnt get any bleeding or I will not be going home, my girls were so upset they wanted me home, it broke myheart to see them like that, it was also my eldest birthday on Monday!amily
Today in the afternoon I was said if I have someone with me 24hrs I am allowed home with very strict instructions on things not to do, like told before, but I was to come to hospital if I had any kind of bleeding! Yessssssss
I was so pleased & so were my girls! its horrible having to stay in hospital u feel so helpless an cant stop worrying about your family. I was also told by the doctors to expect to be in and out of hospital as this is the case for this condition, so I had to sit the girls down and explain this to them, so that they are prepared but they are so young it just not easy, but they now have seen me go and come home makes it easier I suppose.
Babby 4 scarey about the bleed but I am glad you got to go home fairly quickly. I guess you may be in and out a bit so hopefully your girls won't be so upset next time.
It sounds like your team has your care all under control. Good to see they will be taking great care of you. It is a worrying time but I hope that it all goes smoothly for you and you have no more hospital visits until your precious baby is due to be brought into the big wide world.
Babby4 - sorry to hear that you had the stress of a bleed. My first was at 30 weeks. Rest is important and it is hard for little ones to understand, they just miss mum. I hated being away from them.
Bleeds are going to happen doesn't matter what you do. I had my worst bleed when I was in hospital after 3 days of bed rest. Middle of the night. Didn't do anything to bring it on. One thing, the blood you lose is yours, doesn't affect bub.
Keep your chin up.
My hospital buddy had her baby. 33 weeks and 2 days. He's in NICU on CPAP, but doing well. 4 and 1/2 pounds. Mum had hysterectomy, sore and tired but well. Starting to express. So relieved for her that it's over and both well.
Mam
Hi everybody.
Babby4 , sorry that you had a bleed, it´s very important that you don´t do anything at all, and it´s so hard on the little ones, my tomy was 3 years old when I had the strict bed rest, only getting up to the bathroom , my mother helped me to take care of him, I directly went to my mothers house for 5 months and stayed there and tomy was with me all the time when he wasn´t in kindergarden , I had to entertain him from bed, jejejeje , draw , watch cartoons , play with cars...... It was hard mostly because at the beginning he wanted me to get up, but within 2 weeks he kind of understood that I had to stay in bed . The most important , don´t do anything , be exagerated , I guess it´s the best way to get your pregnancy to the term the doctors want and since the tipe of placenta we had bleeds it´s better to not move at all !!!!
They sound great at the hospital, it´s relieving that they have everything controlled .
Mam and peita , I´m also too protective with lunita, all this last days I´ve been thinking...., my god !!! Lunita came no matter what, she was kind of determined to come to this world, jejejej, Was thinking about me having the diabetes , the percretta , the complete previa, everything against us..... and anyway we made it!!! it´s a sad and a wonderful thought at the same time. I still have a thoughts from something of what happened everyday, either from the hospital , my bed rest, the times doctors told me hard things, everyday something comes to my mind . Today I remembered one of the nurses at the hospital, she was hard on the beginning but then she was a great support . Was remembering when we cried with my room mate at the hospital, I always tried not to cry, but she made me cry sometimes because she was crying for me, she couldn´t believe what I was living and all the things I spoke to the doctors , she couldn,t believe it!!!! thank god for thoes girls , they were great support .
When ever I go anywere, everybody stops me to see my lunita , she is special, she has something , in Chile , in the streets everybody was saying, hoo my god look at that baby, how beautiful, jajajaj and I think to myself, If only you all knew how she came to the world , it´s not just a pretty baby , kejejeje , she´s a warrior!!!!
I´m so glad all thoes little diamonds are great and all the moms too, jejejeje ,
babby4 I´m sending you all the energy to overcome this and I know you will, everything sounds prepared and ready that´s the most important.
Bye everyone !!!:wave:
HELLO - ANYONE OUT THERE!!
You have all been pretty quiet! I'm hoping it's because all is well and everyone is getting on with it. No vents required!?
I can share that we've sold our house at last! We can finally build our dream house!! Yay!! Going to be a great year.
Livvy and I are going extremely well. I hope bubs and mums out there are good too. Babby4 - thinking of you, how is it all going?
Mam
hi mam !!! I've just been wihout time !!! between kids , work and house jejeee, we are doing well, I was readig about the floods in australia , I feel so helpless when I see the images , we're really very far, hope they can stand up after this.
So glad for you mam , the house is the most important thing in a persons life , evrything will start to go to it;s place , you;ll see , no storm lasts a 100 years.....
Also thinking of babby4 , how are you doing??? all my energy for you.
Well got to go, I'm cooking and trying to write , impossible!!!! jejejeje
Bye , I'll write later , love ya all !!!!!!
Hi there, yes, I think I have been a bit quiet because I am feeling so good!!! Like Lorens, my life is just busy which is great!!!! I have also started going out a little (I lost a lot of my confidence after I had Alice and can feel that coming back), I did a hens night and actually went clubbing which is something I haven't done for years and years, it was a fantastic night:) and I have had dinner out with friends and I was child free:smiliedance: A new house sounds awsome Mam, I hope everything is smooth sailing for you!! So glad you are still doing well too!!
Lorens, the floods are so sad, I live in NSW, but most of my extended Family live in Queensland, thankfully they were all safe and no-one close to me have lost their homes or their lives, but there is so much devestation and loss, I cried everytime I watched the news, Victoria is now flooding and there are towns that they think will be cut off from everywhere for up to 9 days.... I guess it is mother nature at it's best, the last time we had floods like this was in the 1970's, so they are a rare occurances, my home town river flooded before Christmas, I had never seen it burst it's banks and I have been living here for 15yrs now, it's just crazy!!
I too hope everyone is doing well, BABBY4, I hope you are ok and I will be thinking of you!!
Take care everyone:wave::hugs:
Hi,
I just about lived to tell my story!!!
Where do I start, Babby is here at 26 weeks, he is doing ok but has problems breathing as his lungs didn't have time to mature, but the staff at the hospital have been amazing in the care for myself and my babby!
Well I started getting contractions at 3.30pm on the 18/1, didn't first think of it as contractions until it happened again at 6.00pm, called hospital was advised to come in straight away!!!
Went to Labour Ward where they monitored me for 2 hours and said if it is contractions they will give me a drip to stop this, soo I was sent to the ward to be kept under observation, as i they were handing me over to ward staff, i felt something come out, told the nurse as advised, who checked and I was bleeding, within secounds the bleed became so severe doctors were paged i was rushed in to theatre my waters broke it was total panic in the theatre as they knew how rare condition of placenta accreta is!
I dont know what happened after that, but when i came round the next day in ITU, I was told I was very lucky, I lost 5 and a half litre of blood, 10 units of blood was given aswell as pallets and other fluids! I eneded up having an full hysterectomy as they could not control the bleeding, I had pipes stuck in me every where, my throat, my neck, my nose IV in my hands drainage and catharet!!!
I was kept in ITU for 2 days, my baby boy was kept in special care, and given all the care, he needs allot of help in breathing and this is expected with a babby this early,
My consultant is still in denial and can not believe i have had my babby this early, he could not stop saying sorry!
I made a good recovery, even the doctors are amazed, all the staff & doctors in the theatre at the time keep saying to me how lucky i was and that they have never seen anything like it, I was discharged on 23/1.
My baby is still in hospital who I go and see every day, I am expressing my milk as they have said this will help him even though they are giving small amounts but the rest is being kept in the freezer! It gives me so much strength to see my baby I just pray he gets better soon and that i can hold him, it breaks my heart to see what he is going through!!!!
Babby4 - congratulations on the birth of your little one! I'm so sorry it all turned into an emergency. You'll come through it stronger. I definately feel stronger, I can cope with anything thrown at me. It takes awhile to get there, but have faith that you will pull through, just as your little one will.
As I was told, it's amazing that you can still have your milk come in after that large a blood loss. Keep at it, bubs will blossom on mums milk.
Keep in contact. By the way what is bubs name, weight and length?
Mam:hugs::hugs::hugs:
You`re so lucky Babby4, I`m in shock while I was reading you , I can imagine what you`ve gonne through!!!! So blessed to have had the doctors and everyone for you . It`s also great that you have milk, that is 100% help for the little one , my lunita was very skinny when she was born , and with breast milk she got fat and beautiful so fast, breast milk is magic !!! and you`re blessed that you can breast feed even if it`s in little amounts , it`s magic!!!!
Mam was worried , she said everyone was very quiet this few days, she felt what was going on ..... but well, it`s over, sooner but over , now it will all be about giving everything to that little boy so that he can recover, and he will !!!! I imagine he is very little, but they are soooo strong even though they look so small. All I can say is that I`m so happy for you that everything came out great considering the circumstances.... and send you all my energy!!!! Love to you!!!! :babydust1::babydust1::babydust1::babydust1::babyd ust1::babydust1:
Oh my, Babby 4, I am so glad you made it through and your bub is doing well despite the fact he was born so very early! Congratulations to you all and I hope you have a speedy recovery, The doctors couldn't believe how quickly I recovered either, I had 7 nights in hospital, I don't think that women are given enough credit as to how strong we are, all of this trauma, and look at us all, we have pulled through and being strong for our kids!!
I am so happy that you are able to express milk, it will make your recovery a lot easier (emotionally), I couldn't breast feed, even though I tried and tried for 8 weeks until the small amount I had dried up!
Wow, I am so sorry that this turned into an emergency for you, the one thing with Accreta/Incretta/Percreta is that it is extremely unpredictable as you have sadly found out.....so glad evverything is over and you both survived....
Take care xoxo:babydust1:
Babby4 - hope you're healing well. Bub doing well?
Pieta3/Lorens - how did you feel around 12 week mark after surgery? I seem to very easily pull muscles in stomach. Just rolling over in bed can do it. I feel the strain pull right around to hips and back. Feels like that there is no support for lower back.
I sent off DD#2 to kindergarten yesterday, she was so confident. DD#3 also went off to preschool. I had to chase her to get a kiss!! Toilet training went really well with her too. Growing up quickly! I only had Livvy yesterday at home.
Got ok from bank to proceed with building house!:smiliedance: Will hopefully exchange sale contracts on our house this week. That means it's packing time and have to find a rental. Not alot of rentals at the moment.
Going to be busy, so don't stress if I'm not around, nothing wrong. I promise not to lift too much and take care of myself.
You all take care and I'll pop in and catch up.
Mam
Hi mam, at that time I started to work, yes, too soon for me, but didn´t really feel more of the pain I had everyday, just the pain in the wound , but I discovered cause of my little tomy, that he hits my butt cheeks (sorry to say it like this but it´s the most specific word I found) and I feel a pain on the cheeks , more on my left cheek were I had the explosion of the artery on front. It feels like muscular , but don´t know , don´t have time to think about it, and on the front , on my legs I have less sensibility on the side the artery exploded , and if my tomy sits on my lap or makes tough movements it hurts like hell still now. Not a pain I cant handle , just a bother lets say...... I imagine it will be less and less as years go by, cause this takes a while to heal, anyway it´s not a big pain.
I´m also potty training with tomy, he is 3 and a half years and he didn´t want to sit on the potty, totally negative about it, jajajajaja, but I bought him a very cheap potty to try again , and he liked it and he started doing there. At my house we have a very fancy potty with a toilet shape and everything but NO , he didn´t want to use it, now he started to use that one too, THANK GOD!!!! I can´t believe he has grown so fast!!!!
Lunita is 9 months , only 3 months to go for her birth day; That I really can´t believe, time has passed tooooooo quickly for me, and I think I will really get emotionall for her first year of life, I can´t believe we´re here!!!!! I´m overjoyed!!!!
How great you are going to have your own house , I´m in that situation too, hoping we can buy the house we are renting for now, well my mom will buy it, cause I can´t afford that , hope some day...... It´s so important to have your own house , I guess it´s something that gives peace , to have YOUR PLACE....
Mam, you never uploaded pictures of livy , I want to see the picture of triumph of you two!!!!! like the one I uploaded . You owe me that picture !!!!!
How are you Babby4 , I´m thinking of you everyday, how is your babby boy??? I hope everything is going well . How are you feeling ??? We want to know about you so if you have time try to keep us updated. God , you were a very big tea bag, don´t you think ???? sometimes I feel like crying when I read all of us over and over again , cause I can´t believe how tough you all are, how strong !!!!!! When your little one gets better I also want to see a picture of triumph of you two, it´s the least we can do, know our faces , we talk everyday and share something sooooo deep as our babys births , I uploaded mine!!!!!
Well please keep in touch everyone , I send all my energy to all of you!!!!!!! Bye. :wave:
Hi Ladies:wave:
I hope you are all well, I am still doing fantastic, and plan on staying that
way:)
Mam, I still can pull my lower abdo muscles if I move too quickly or awkwardly, it used to be really bad and about 6 months post op I went to the physio a few times and she gave me exercises to do that would strengthen my lower tummy muscles....it was awsome, I don't get pain very much anymore, I used to get hip pain a lot too, but that all stopped when I started physio, my doctor sent me to the physio at my local public hospital and it didn't cost a thing and they were awsome!!! I think I mentioned my feet to you before, I have fallen arches and something called Plantar Fasciitis (I have damaged the tendon that runs from the ball of your foot to your heel) and it is PAIN, I had some orthodics made for my shoes and do exercises every day to try and get better, but the pediatrist said 6 months before improvements and they think these problems are from all the bed rest I had having Alice, I was stubborn and didn't go to the doc, I have had this for over a year now, that'll teach me I guess, better to get a check up than not!!
That's fantastic news about the house Mam, hubby and I have been looking into buying another property as an investment somewhere down the coast, we live right near Canberra and would love a property we could rent out or use as a holiday house!!
Lorens, the first birthday was extremely hard for me, but after that, it was like something clicked and I have been doing great!! I had a little cry to myself that day and just kept myself busy doing things with my husband, we built a new garden that day and I kinda look at it as my rememberance garden, it is very basic, but oh so pretty and the plants are thriving:) Maybe you could look at doing something like that too!!!
I also tried uploading some photo's, but it kept coming up with an error, so I sent off my concerns to one of the directors of Bub Hub, so hopefully I can fix that soon!!
Ladies, are you on facebook???
Peita:wave:
Hi everyone, seems we´re all very busy this days , How are you all doing?? hope great!!!!!
Babby4 We don´t know anything about you, how is your baby boy ??? how are you feeling ??? I imagine you are very busy , hope you´re ok and I´m always thinking of you.
Mam , Peita , how are you!!! yes peita I´m on facebook as Lore Esbry or Lorena Esbry , don´t remember, please send me a friend invitation. Bye everyone, have to go back to my job, please keep in touch ...... Bye.
Hi guys!:wave:
Life is certainly busy Lorens! We have to be out of our house in 5 weeks as we have sold. Building new house and planned to rent. Rental properties are hard to come by and we were concerned where we would end up. Scarey when you go to a viewing and 10 groups come to look. Apply and hope land lord likes you.
It may not be an issue now. My DH went up to Queensland for work last week and they have asked if he would be willing to do a temporary transfer for awhile. DH assumed I'd say "no way", but I feel so strong and an adventure would be terrific!! Waiting to see the deal, but we could go for 6 - 9 months and build our house to come back to.
I have surprised myself, I'm excited at the prospect, not scared!!:eek: Must definately be stronger and more confident that I can handle anything! Take my DD's to Great Barrier Reef, Australia Zoo and not have a cold winter. Lowest average night temperature in July is 11.4C!!
Livvy is doing extremely well!! She gives the most beautiful smiles and I nearly melt. I feel so much love and I'm enjoying all 4 girls more than ever before. I appreciate things more and don't dwell on negaitives. Going through a rough experience like we all have certainly changes you.
Personal question about DTD. Did it hurt alot the first time after surgery? Or am I just out of practise. Felt like there was alot of scar tissue down there, internally I mean. No pain with the incision, just internal. Makes me scared to try again. Poor DH, no action from week 20 of pregnancy. That's over 6 months!:no: OB did say internal healing could take as long as 12 months!
Hope everyone is well. Catch up.
Mam:hugs:
Hi mam, how wonderful you´re doing so good!!! that´s how it should be , and doing things is the best way to heal I guess ....
You know about what you´re asking....., I still didin´t start that ..... I´m having stupid issues about it , like at some point I have this nonsense paranoia that I could get pregnant again wich I know it´s impossible , but is a paranoia, I have to go talk to my doc and tell him about this ilogical fears, but haven´t got time, I´ll see if I can get an appointment this week, I completely forgot about myself, too dedicated to my two monsters, jejejeje. I´m also afraid it might hurt , and mostly not doing very well with my husband , sometimes we don´t get along well and I cant just get into the action if I´ve been arguing with him, but nothing serious , just that the lack of sleep , lack of time and all my crazy paranoia has put me were I am, and the fact that I don´t even think about it at all, very bad, have to do something about it, jejejejeje . It´s just that I´m to focused on my kids and have to start doing something for my self and my partner tooo, so I cant help you on that one right now, as soon as I get to work on that í promise i´ll tell you...... :goodvibes: Have to go, I´m late , but I´ll write back!!!!!!! I´m worried about babby 4 , she hasn´t writen , hope they´re doing fine . kisses everyone ... Bye mam!!!!
Hi Ladies,
I guess life is very busy for me too... I have been working and nearly every weekend we have had an event to go to, we have had a Wedding, an Engagement party, a 21st birthday party, hens and bucks nights, this weekend we have a 1st birthday party, it's crazy but has been sooo much fun..and we still have so much more on this year, I have no time to dwell on the past as I am really looking forward to all that is ahead of me this year:) I am feeling fantastic about everything still and even though I still think about what happened all the time, I have come to terms with it and am loving life:)
Mam - I was horrified at the though of DTD after my surgery, but 8 weeks post surgery, my husband told me that he was going to get me over that and he did LOL, he took his time and there was a little discomfort, but it wasn't painful, you will get back into it in your own time, DH sounds like he has given you lots of time to heal, just keep telling him and you that slow and steady wins the race LOL!!! It is great to hear you are still doing so well Mam...
Lorens - I had that same irrational fear about becoming pregnant again, but after the first couple of times DTD, that fear was put to rest, DTD is a big part of my emotional relationship with my husband, maybe if you get someone to help you put your fears aside and into perspective and you are able to DTD then your relationship with your husband may improve, DTD isn't what defines my relationship with my husband, but it is a big part of it!! Any way, this is just my opinion on DTD, I know lots of others who feel differently.....
Babby 4 - I hope everything is ok and your tiny bub is doing well, would love to hear from you again:babydust1:
Take care everyone, catch up soon:hugs2:
Peita xo
I have been a bit busy as well!
We are about to start calving so I will be checking cows twice daily and attending to any calvings are required for not quite 3 months.
We have also just bought a small amount of sheep and will be breeding those as well when the time is right. We have a Ram due to arrive in the next week or so.
My eldest is a full time pre-primary and my youngest starts Kindy next year - where does the time go??
As for DTD, I can't remember how long it took us not a really long time, but I didn't have the surgery you all did.
I still have an irrational fear of falling pregnant, but the possiblity is that I could and to me to fall pregnant again means I will die. Now I know that is not necssarily what will happen, but that is how it feels. I honestly do think think I could mentally make it through a pregnancy knowing that what I had or worse could happen again. I want to have my tubes tied but I have always had a bit of a fear of GA's and now after having a Ketamine anaesthetic and all of the horrendous side effects that come with that I have a huge fear of the GA so I am rather stuck.
I have nightmares that evolve around the whole thing.
On the upside I am keeping busy we have a new gorgeous young ALpaca that has come to live with us, the young horse is getting broken in adn we are looking to have a litter with our ***** towards the end of the year. The kids are well and healthy as are we and I really do feel like I am powering forward.
I hope everyone else is well.
Hi there, just me again:wave:
My goodness Rommi, busy times at your house, you sound a little better in your last post, I hope we are all moving forward and enjoying life.... Where do you live to be able to have so much going on??? It sounds to be a lot of fun, as well as hard work, I love animals and am itching to get some sort of hobby farm or property, but saddly I don't think that will happen as my hubby is a bit of an opposite, he loves shops and tv etc. We are complete opposites in a lot of things, but I do love him to bits....
Mam, I meant to say before that a move to Qld sounds fantastic, even if it is only for 6 - 9 months, I have a huge amount of family in far north Qld and would love to spend time there, it is a very different lifestyle there, I love it.. Wow, it seems we all have things to look forward to and to keep us busy this year, I am really excited about what the year has in stall for me :hyper:
Well, take care everyone:wave:
Peita xo
Hi Ladies!:wave:
Everyone is busy!!! Great to hear! At least we are healthy and moving on with our lives.
Rommi - I'd love to have a hobby farm. Love to have a horse or two. Use to show golden retrievers and considered breeding. New puppy on order!
Pieta3 - glad you're so positive about the year ahead.
Lorens - important to work on relationship with hubby.
Me - I don't know what way is up atm! Packing the house up, boxes everywhere. Can't get a rental. Not going to Qld now. Looks like we're moving in with my parents while our new house is being built.:freakingout: At least we'll save a heap of money, enough to have back yard landscaped and blinds! :smiliedance: Only problem is that I'll have to drive 45 minutes each way to drop girls off to school. DD#2 has just started school and loves it. DD#3 loves her preschool too! Don't want to change their routine for 7months. Oh well, I'm sure that's in the job description somewhere for a full time mum. :confused: It will be worth it. Fingers crossed that I can at least get school girls into OOSH so I only have to drive them in. DH can pick them up on way home.
I also start back to my hobby/job tonight. I'm a Tupperware demonstrator. I do a few parties a week when DH is home to look after girls. Helps with the bills and keeps me in contact with the world. A bit of me time, I love to socialise and have made some really good friends doing it. With customers and other demonstrators. Feel strong enough to do it now, just probably bad timing, considering the move. Oh well, that's life, roll with it.:laughing:
I'm so glad we all seem to be in a positive place right now. Keep smiling.
Mam
glowingglittergirl
04-03-2011, 11:37
Hi everyone :wave:,
It's been months since I've posted on this forum but I wanted to let you know that I receive all of the updates and see all of your posts and you are all still on my mind. Sorry I've been a stranger to the forum.
Even though I ended up having a good delivery with Brayden I still can't stop thinking about how bad my delivery with Madison was. It upsets me that I couldn't breastfeed her and make that special bond, I feel Brayden and I have really bonded because of the breasfeeding.
Since having Brayden (who is now 9 months old already) I have been so clucky!!!!! :babydust1: I really want to try for another baby already but my husband feels differently. I don't know if its just financial, I think its to do with the scare of having accreta again :freakingout: I really thought I was in serious trouble with Brayden and I was absolutely terrified when they wheeled me into the theatre to deliver him.
Anyway I just wanted to say hi again and say I'm glad you've kept posting on the forum. I feel like I know you all from reading all of the posts, and going back re-reading our first posts brings tears to my eyes :hugs: So, I hope your all well and I won't continue to be a stranger, I'll try to get on more often and say hi. I'm going to try and put a photo on my username so you can see my beautiful miracles, Madison (2 and a half) and Brayden (9 months). The little joys of my lfe.
Love to you all,
Fiona xxx :hugs:
I live on the South East coast of WA. My FIL has retired - well he still does lots of jobs around the place - and now I run the cattle adn now sheep on the property. My husband works in town.
We also have trees on the property which is leased by a tree farming company.
I have been feeling really good of late as I went to my first dogs shows and trials since I was 8 weeks pregnant with my now 5 and a half year old. My dog I had then has since passed but have two beautiful Whippets now. I live at least 475kms from the nearest shows and trials and 750kms from Perth,so it is a huge organisational feat to go anywhere.
Congrats on your new puppy to be Mam - we have 3 new golden babies in our local dog club :)
It was great to get away just overnight and do something again that I love. We also got some passes towards the dogs obedience titles and didn't fair too badly in the show ring either!
I guess I feel like I found myself again.
GGG - did you have accreta with your first but not your second or with both??
Good to hear you are going well.
Everyone is so busy - life keeps marching on doesn't it!
Hi everybody !!!! yes we´re all full time job moms , we´re heroes , jajaja. I´m always really tired !!! I wish I could sleep, eat, sit and watch tv, jajajajaa,something !!!!!!! in the only place I rest is at my job, can you believe that !!!!!!
I see we´re all animal lovers, I´m a dogs fan , here were I live there are a lot of abandoned dogs on the streets , and you find them with all kinds of illnesses , before getting pregnant I used to bring all the dogs I found to my mom´s house, cure them , and then find them homes, it´s been a lot of doggies, !!!!! now it´s harder , cause I haven´t got time or place cause I have my 3 doggie babies in my house and don´t have place for bringing the street guys, anyway haven´t found any other dog lately, but that gives joy to my soul, it´s something I love to do , I´ll do it again when my little ones are bigger so they´ll help me, jejejeje .
My little Tomy started to go to hockey on skates , he has extremely amounts of energy , and at kindergarden the teacher told me he never listens and doésn´t obey orders, so I have to do something for him , so he waists a little of that extra energy!!!! I´m worried but I´m getting busy into that. He loved hockey and he learned the first day to skate!!!! he is 3 and a half so imagine !!!! He is very smart and gets bored very fast if is something he is not interested in , but he has to learn obedience , it´s esential!!!! we´ll se what happens .
Peita your kids are beautiful !!!! I saw all your pictures , and I´m so happy to see your face cause we talk all the time , things that are soooo special and didin´t know our faces , it´s great to meet you, jajajajajajaja!!!!
glittergirl, welvcome back, jejejeejeje , we love to chat here as you can see .... so you can say what you feel that we´ll listen !!!!!
Mam I want to see the picturre with Livy !!!!!!
Next mnonth is my Lunita´s birthday, I cant believe it´s been a year !!!!
You know I went to my doctor , the one who was in my surgery and asked him about that irrational fear of falling pregnant , he says it´s impossiible, that I should enjoy life basically, to live life!!!! I´ll try, jejeje . They don´t want to tell me much of what happened , and I need to know some things , I don´t feel comfortable with that , cause they tell me to not think about the whys and focus into the future, wich I´m certainly doing!!!! I just want to know details to ease my mind , not that it affects me , just want to know and close a chapter , you know........
they filmed my surgery and I asked the other doctor to please give me the moment were Lunita comes out , but now they tell me they can´t find it, I know they dont wanna give it to me , cause its a medical record and I feel dissapointed, I wanted to see that moment, ,. I missed it !!! They probably can´t cut that little piece and probably I´m filmed with all the tubes and sleep, but I wanted that, I have a picture they took of her at the nmoment they took her out, that picture was showned to me by my husband when I was in intensive care, but I wanted the film!!!! jajajajaa, hard head!!!!!! I wanted to see that moment I guess I´ll never see it ......
Well girls , I could chat for hours !!!!!!! see ya!!!!!! great recovery for everyone .
PD: Babby4 send you all my love, hope everything is ok. Please update us if you can.
Morning Ladies!:wave:
I must be crazy!!!! Packing house, only 2 weeks to go! Started back at my casual job and building a new house. Paid deposit on both land and house build. It's finally starting!! Yay!!:cheerleader1::cheerleader2::hyper:Fingers crossed we'll be in our new house for christmas.
Health issues too. I have been excessively tired, but assumed that it was because of being too busy. Losing heaps of hair, but don't we all after bub?! Put on weight, even though I'm breast feeding. All adds up to one thing. My thyroid gland has gone on strike again.:no: Blood tests indicated that my levels are really low. Need to increase my medication. It will take a couple of months to feel better and possibly 6 months until stable levels. This happened after every bub. Frustrating.
Good news is though that blood count great, cholesterol good and ok otherwise. Didn't need one iron tablet after blood loss! How great is that!
Glad to hear everyone is doing well. We're all moving on. Time does heal physical and mental injuries.
Livvy doing really well too. She had her 4 month needles yesterday. Poor bubba. She's got a temperature, but asleep atm. Best to let her sleep and get through it. Just growling at DD#3 to be quiet, she doesn't know the meaning of QUIET!
One of my friends had her baby a week ago. A little girl, popped her out without an issue. Great for her, just a bit jealous really. Her little girl is not that much smaller than Livvy is now. When I saw them next to each other, I realised just how precious Livvy is and I nearly cried. I think I'll be very protective of her for 2 reasons. Being my last and difficult pregnancy. Hope I don't smother her.
I'll keep in contact, but will be absent for a couple of weeks until I get set up. Take care and I'll see how you all are later.
Mam:hugs:
Hi there,
Fiona, great to hear from you again, you sound to be doing well, so glad breast feeding worked out for you this time, I still feel bad that I couldn't breastfeed for long, but know I did what I could under the crappy circumstances after all of my childrens births, breast feeding caused many tears for me and many trips to the clinic to try and make things work, but it wasn't to be unfortunately! I understand if your husband is scared, my husband didn't want anymore after our second because of my placenta getting stuck and the blood transfusions, I convinced him everything would be fine, how wrong I was, he thought he would lose me next time in childbirth and he was right, he very nearly did lose me, obviously my situaltion is a little different to yours, my condition was never picked up during pregnancy and if you decide to have another one, you have the knowledge and understanding to get you through it, it is a big descision to make after being through Accreta once before and good luck with making that descision, whater you guys choose to do!!
Busy times ahead for you Mam!! I love being busy, it keeps my mind off things!! I have finally got my but into gear and am getting my baby girl Christened in a few weeks, she will be 18 months old, but it is something I am looking forward to doing!! We pretty much built our house Mam, not sure if I would ever want to do it again, it's hard work, I hope you enjoy the process a little more than I did! We did our place as owner builders and worked on it in the evenings and on the weekends for 2yrs until it was nearly finished, it was chaotic, but now I think about it, it was worth it in the end!!
Lorens, I saw the pictures of Tommy on skates, too cute, so little to be getting into something like that, but looks like he is having a great time!!! I love that I got to see all of your pictures, I think we both have beautiful children:)
Babby4, I'm still thinking about you, I hope all is well?
Bye for now
Peita:wave::hugs:
glowingglittergirl
26-03-2011, 22:41
Hi Everyone,
Hope your all well this week. I feel like I've got a cole coming on so I'm feeling a bit crappy at the moment. My kids started daycare a month ago and we've all been sick rather often since then... I started work again when Brayden was 8 months old, I'm allowed to do one day in the office and one day from home. Its hard to get motivated at home but the 3 hours of travel a day to commute to the city and back are reason enough to be motivated.
I've also started going to the gym, I'm trying to go as often as possible because I have put on sooooo much weight since having the kids that its depressing!!!!! :crying: I weighed myself and I'm about 110kg's (which is soooooo overweight), I began to become depressed when I look in the mirror. Anyway over the past 2-3 weeks I think I've lost 5kg's :celebrate: My husband is fully supporting me and he looks after the kids to give me a chance to go. I cant believe I let t get this bad before doing something about it!
So between work, the kids and gym I've been pretty busy. I'm also trying to get night work because the daycare fees for 2 kids is $150 a day (before govt. rebate) so it makes me want to work overnight where I can know I'll bring home all of my pay and not fork it out on childcare.
Anyway enough of my winging!!!!!
Can any of you tell me how to add pictures, I want to add a picture to my profile name and also a few pics so you can see my kids.
Speak to you all soon, enjoy the rest of the weekend!
Fiona
HI glowingglittergirl. I'll send you the explanation of how to upload pictues, hope I explain it well...... I had to discover it by touching everything here, jajajajaa. here goes:
first you click on the little square with the picture of a mommy with baby that is beside your name when you write a reply , it will probably ask you to log in, you log in and then you look for control panel on top , then you click control panel and below it will appear a menu , you have to click edit avatar to put a profile picture and your information for people to see and pictures and albums to upload pictures, it allows you to upload 3 at a time.
Hope this helps it;s difficult to explain it like this but......
see you all !!!! I see you're all doing great and it;s very relieving.
Babby4 please update us , how are you, how is everyting, we don;t know anything about you..... I;m always thinking of you......
Howdy Ladies!!
I'm back! God it was exhausting moving! Still not organised, but getting back into some sort of routine. Mum and Dad have been really helping and so far seem to be enjoying the company. It's nice to have upstairs, our own area. Mum is not a keen cook, so has let me take over the kitchen a bit. I'm extremely organised in the kitchen, have to be with four kids!!
Hope all of you are well. I'll be on more often now I'm set up. Looking forward to things settling down and having a break. We should be getting the money put in the bank for our house we sold today! It was sad to see it all empty, I took 3 babies home to that house. My 3 year old, didn't like it all empty ( apart from the echoing! ), she got back in the car. The move doesn't seem to have upset them too much, probably because they're enjoying being with nana and poppy. Eldest has hugged me when I drop her off at school and thanks me for making the effort to drive them back to their school, instead of changing schools until the house is built. It's a 45 minute each way drive! I'm a full time mum, that's my job, to keep my girls happy and settled!
We will officially own our block of land next week, fingers crossed building will follow shortly after, only council approval to go.
Feeling tired, but strong! I can do anything!
Mam:smiliedance:
FallenAngel14
02-04-2011, 18:42
Hi All,
I've been on bub hub for a while mostly just stalking the forums.
I have read your stories on placenta accreta, and they are very heart breaking and VERY scary. I could really use some advice on this condition.
My story so far... I am 27 and I have 2 boys both delivered via c-section, the day after i had my second my OB said that my Uterus was very thin and that I should consider not having any more children, which near drove me mental thinking/researching about my condition until my 6wk check-up where my OB went through all the issues that I needed to consider IF I did have a third. Obviously there is a risk of uterine rupture due to thin uterus, and that I would need to be delivered 4-6wks early, I could lose my uterus (only want one more anyway) and that I needed to wait at least 12 months before trying for another one. So now my little one is 7 months old and we still want another one so I thought I would go see my OB with a long list of questions and just get a refresher on my condition.
So Thursday last week off I went feeling confident and well researched and then she hit me with more bad news, something she hadn’t mentioned to me before was the risk of placenta accreta increta and percreta. Apparently she had just attended a conference on repeat C-sections and risks and she was all very doom and gloom and was spouting really scary stats like I have a 30-60% chance of getting placenta accreta cause of rpt C-sections and that I really shouldn’t fall pregnant again.
So the advice I need is if you guys knew that you had a risk like that, of getting accreta and now being on the other side of the it would you risk having another baby? Any suggestions about what I can raise with my ob in regards to managing the condition if it does happen? Other than U/S or MRI. One thing my OB didn’t mention is the stints which I find very interesting. The other thing if it’s known as a risk with close monitoring and a plan can’t the condition be somewhat managed?
This whole situation is SO hard, I haven’t stopped crying since Thursday, My husband is extremely freaked out and is pretty against it atm. I still feel like I want to TRY again even given the risks and reading your stories. I just don’t think I can live with the regret of not at least trying. How are you supposed to move on emotionally knowing that this is it? No more children? I still have a uterus, what the heck is it for if I can’t use it?!
Okay, This is coming from someine that has had accreta and still has a functioning uterus.
There is no way I would go back and risk having this happen again. I have been told I could go back for another if I wanted, I would ideally donate my own blood first before falling pregnant, have a caesar(2 natural births previously) and I could still have a major bleed with the potential life ending complications and would likely have to lose my uterus.
My condition was undiagnosed until the birth. So I guess possibly you can factor in abrupt trauma as I had no idea until I was trying to bleed to death and it was all hands on deck.
There are people who have had accreta gone back for another and had inccretta or pericreta. Even though they knew prior to the birth they have still ended up having a life threatening bleed and ended up in ICU.
Personally there is no way I would risk that. It has taken me three years to get over the emotional trauma and stress caused by my accreta. I have have had stress manifest in physical symptoms from this condition. People do die from this condition.
The way I look at it for myself is why would I risk my children growing up with no mother???? I want to be a part of their lives and I want them to have a mother they remember.
Personally I do not believe the risk is worth dieing for. And yes the risk of accreta(and others) increases with every caesar you have. I have never had one and still got it.
The trauma you go through and the what if's can be paralysing, at then end of the day the decision is of course yours, but having had accreta there is no way on god's green earth I would risk going through that ever again.
Howdy Ladies!!
I'm back! God it was exhausting moving! Still not organised, but getting back into some sort of routine. Mum and Dad have been really helping and so far seem to be enjoying the company. It's nice to have upstairs, our own area. Mum is not a keen cook, so has let me take over the kitchen a bit. I'm extremely organised in the kitchen, have to be with four kids!!
Hope all of you are well. I'll be on more often now I'm set up. Looking forward to things settling down and having a break. We should be getting the money put in the bank for our house we sold today! It was sad to see it all empty, I took 3 babies home to that house. My 3 year old, didn't like it all empty ( apart from the echoing! ), she got back in the car. The move doesn't seem to have upset them too much, probably because they're enjoying being with nana and poppy. Eldest has hugged me when I drop her off at school and thanks me for making the effort to drive them back to their school, instead of changing schools until the house is built. It's a 45 minute each way drive! I'm a full time mum, that's my job, to keep my girls happy and settled!
We will officially own our block of land next week, fingers crossed building will follow shortly after, only council approval to go.
Feeling tired, but strong! I can do anything!
Mam:smiliedance:
Great to hear Mam, Great to hear about the block.
Hope all continues to go well
Hi there FallenAngel14,
I am sorry you find yourself in this position, but I have to say I agree with Rommi! My Increta was found after delivery despite 5 Ultrasounds and it ended in an emergency hysterectomy and a massive Femoral Artery bleed! I know you may think you will be ok, but like Rommi said, the truth is that women do still die from this complication.... Your Uterus already being thin and you already having 2 c-sections (I had a 'natural' occuring Incretta, no c-sections), means you are setting yourself up for very real and dangerous complications if you choose to go ahead with another pregnancy.. The emotional stress that myself and my family have been through has been awful, I am now 18 months post surgery and feeling great, but it was a long road of visiting doctors for skin conditions, hair loss, weight gain and seeing a psycholigist to help me recover emotionally... I have a little bit of guilt still over what I put my family through, my husband had to ring my mum and dad and tell them to get to the hospital because no-one knew if I was going to survive, the look on my children's faces when they came to see me on day 3 (still in ICU), the surgeons registra actually cried with me when he came and saw me before I went home, he had never seen the condition before and while it was a learning experience for him, it took it's toll on him, he off on sick leave for the week after my surgery, it was 9hrs of waiting for my family to hear I was ok!! With all that being said, I don't regret having my baby girl, but do wish things had gone differently, I had problems having all 3 of my children!! I would never knowingly put myself in that situation, it is the most traumatic experience I have ever been through!!
Also, I had decided that I wasn't going to have any more than 3 children, but when I woke up and was told I couldn't have anymore because of the hysterectomy, I was shattered, after all I was only 29yrs old!
You say you wouldn't be able to live with the regret of at least trying to have another baby, these are just some things to consider: how would you feel if your uterus ruptured and you lost your baby or your baby was born premeturely and survuved with disabilities, does the prospect of death for you and your husband raising your children on his own not frighten you?? Your husband has very real fears and you need to listen to him and understand where he is coming from too!!
I was told that 1 in 3000 pregnancies is Accreta/Incretta/Percretta affected and the majority of those cases are attached to the c-section scar from previous pregnancies... Please think very long and hard about having another baby, I personally wouldn't have another one knowing all the risks...
Hi Mam,
You sould so happy and busy, I am so glad things are going well for you and your girls sound just beautiful:) I hope the house gets started soon and everything goes smoothly!!
Take Care ladies:wave:
Howdy Ladies!:wave:
I've read your comments for Fallenangel14. It's a very emotional subject for us.
I had 3 c-sections previously and not once heard of acretta/incretta/percretta. Elective c-sections and OB never once mentioned these terms. All I had heard of is an increased risk of requiring a hysterectomy. My condition was picked up at the 20 week scan, so we could prepare.
Fallenangel14 it was stressful and scary. I had percretta, bladder involvement. Even with all of the preparation and hospital bed rest, I could of died. I didn't really want to think about that too much at the time, but apparantely my family did. It affects more than just you. That has to be taken into consideration!! My DH comes out with things sometimes that makes me realise just how bad it was for him. I think he's still holding onto some stress from it.
My little girl was delivered 5 weeks early to minimise risks for me, so it affects bub too. She is fine and now thriving. I will always hold a special place in my heart for her, so precious, we could of both died.
Even though I now have 4 beautiful girls, I will still think of what if I could of had another. Look, if I had normal pregnancies and deliveries, probably would have had number 5. Even if my uterus had been saved and I was physically capable of having another bub, I couldn't go through an experience like I had again. The thought of choosing to risk my life and leave my girls without a mum is terrifying. DH always supports me in whatever I choose to do, but I'd say he would object to that risk again.
I am thinking about fostering in a few years instead. When my girls are older. I can help other children that need a loving environment. Maybe that will help fill the void of not having anymore kids. Maybe time will just help. I don't know. None of us do. We just roll with it and try to cope. Some days are harder than others, but we survive.
Considering what I went through, I'm great! Dealing with it better than I thought I would to be honest. I love my girls, but there is no way I would of considered doing it again.
You may be lucky and not develop acretta, but still have the risk of your uterus rupturing. Get some counselling, you are dealing with the grief of losing the choice. Or at least being aware of the massive risks. We all understand that here.
Take your time with the decision. Make sure you have healed well. Maybe get a second or third opinion. Make an informed decision. It's your decision, but please listen to all the information and don't just assume you'll be ok.
All of us here were a support for each other. We were already pregnant and dealing with it, didn't have a choice. You are in control.
Hope everyone is well.
Mam
Mam
FallenAngel14
04-04-2011, 10:48
Thankyou everyone for you honest advice. I am booked into see someone to get some counsiling and i'm also off to see a High risk OB for a second opinion. Even with everything you have all said and knowing how dangerous accreta is, I still feel like i need to try. Maybe the counseling will help. This whole situation is so confusing.
My first c-section was a so called emergency due to a failed induction (after the dr only trying for a day!). Our local hospital didn't deliver babies anymore so everyone from our town has to travel 40mins to the one that does, and then we get transfered back to our local hosp via ambulance if we have had csections etc. Looking back and having a bit more knowlege about the situation i think the final decision to have the csection was more about getting me in and out back to my local hosp to free up beds, that what was really in my best interest. As according to my current OB my notes don't suggest a c-section was really nessesary.
What makes this whole thing so hard, is that i was NEVER told that c-sections can affect future pregnancys and fertilitly and may cause life threaten conditions. It makes me so angry thinking about this. There really needs to be more info about the future concequeces of c-sections, not just the imediate risk. Especially when it's not a dire situation and when your so young (i was only 21). At the time had i known that I could be in this situation in the future i would never have concented to the c-section cause it was the easier option.
Sorry to ramble...so many things going through my head and really just need to vent.
Hi everyone , Hi fallenangel4 :
What can I say that haven´t been said by the girls ..... I know it´s a persistant thought of having another baby when they tell you that you can´t , but if I had to say something I would say to think about your 2 boys ; today all the medical techniques and advances are great , but I don´t see the point in putting yourself to such risk having the choice not to ..... humans are not perfect and medicine neither , if you had no choice , well ok , the only thing you can do is have faith and peace and just have patience , but if the doctors are telling you before I wouldn´t put myself in risk, the problem is not only that you put yourself in risk , is that the baby risks in dying too , or be born premature and suffer , I don´t know ...... I have 2 kids and I´m soooooooo ok with that number , it´s a lifetime job , jajajajaja , and exhausting . Maybe you should realize that you have 2 beautiful kids to take care of, and what if things didn´t come as you guys are planing them.....
It´s so hard , I don´t know what to tell you. Maybe all of our experiences are scary , and we all made it , but it´s really very traumatic, I dealed great with it , but even though I was very possitive I´m having some issues now, this haunts you for the rest of your life, If I had my uterus I wouldn´t be in peace, Never in a hundred years I would risk my life like that again , I knew about my condition at the 4th month of my pregnancy , and my doctor told me so direct , he said , you should be in strict bed rest , don´t even move , you can have a massive bleed and die, your baby could die, before the 24 weeks if something happens i´ll have to interrupt your pregnancy, imagine!!!!!! I knew this for another 4 months and a half, and the only thing that was heartbreaking was the thought of leaving my kids without a mother .... your babies need you , think about them , put them first , why go through all that stress and think that if you do have acretta , you´ll have to be in strict bed rest, who´ll take care of your kids, cause you won´t be able to do it, more with the thin uterus ..... think about all that , you´ve got the mother award already , you have 2 kids !!!!!!! Maybe you are meant to have 2 kids and give them all the attention.
I know it´s not what you would want to hear , but well, we have all gone through this experience and I think it´s not a good idea just because you feel the need of another baby to throw away everything you have built , I´m being tough , sorry!!!! but it´very dangerous and traumatic . Think about it very much, sometimes our dreams can´t be stronger than reality you know..... I mean this reality , that there´s a very big risk ahead .
Please don´t be mad at me , I´m saying this very strongly because I suffered too much emotionally despite I was very possitive , but even till today I cry when I remember everything that happened . I´m making a video of my lunita´s first year of life for her birthday and everytime I´m in the computer I cry when I think of what happened and that I´m here now with her, but it could have been very different......
The last desition it´s yours obviously , but please think a lot before doing anything , you have been blessed with 2 beauties, think about them .....
Bye everyone !!!!!!! and hope you can have a peace of mind with this, you´ll see everything will be great if you realize that you already have a lot to be happy for.
I agree Lorens, it took me three years to feel human again, to get past the depression that snuck up on me, the anxiety and panic attacks were very hard to deal with and while I still have some medical issues I am improving, mentally I am much better, but it is still there, I still shed a tear about how the birth of my second baby went, how it ended up so far from perfect, how the first year afterwards I really cannot remember except for the fact I felt completely empty.
To be honest there are many times I wish they had of just taken my uterus out because now I panic if I am half a day late for my period because to me to be pregnant means death. I have already come far too close to that one to wish to do it again.
I think it is a great idea to see a councillor and to see another OB but just remember there are already two little people in this world who need you very much are you prepared to potentially take that away from them????
Hi Ladies!!:wave:
Life has slowed down a bit thank goodness. Looking forward to spending the Easter Long Long weekend with hubby. Extra travel for him to work is taking its toll, he's tired. Girls are all well.
Little Livvy is now eating solids. Rice cereal with apple for breakfast and baby custard for tea. Still breast feeding and I can see her growing and developing everyday. She is such a happy baby, smiles all of the time. Beautiful.
Trying not to eat too many chocolate easter buns. They are rather addictive. Easter bunny has minimised chocolate eggs this year. x4 gets a bit too much. Naughty tooth fairy didn't get my email regarding our change of address. He owes me $2!!! The things you do for kids. Can you believe my 8 year old DD still believes it all? Innocent. Doubt we'll be as lucky this xmas.
Hope all are well. Plenty of hugs and kisses and chocolate for easter.
Mam
:)Hi Mam,
Glad things have slowed down for you a little.. I am on 1 1/2 weeks holidays which is nice for a change for me:)
The Easter Bunny has cut back a bit in our house too, I have noticed a huge difference with a 3rd child!! My 7yo said to me about 3 months ago, 'Mum, did you know that the tooth fairy isn't real, it's just your parents putting money there' :( I was hoping he would believe for a bit longer, but he has a greed to keep going along with everything so that his sisters can have the magic for a little while:)
I have been having a great run with life, we finally got Alice Baptised on Sunday just gone, it took me nearly 18 months to feel up to it, but we got there, and it was a beautiful day with lots of family and great friends:babydust1: I have also been doing a few things like going out to dinner with friends and getting back into contact with old friends, so I have been having fun:)
FallenAngel14 - believe me when I say I know about the desire to have more children, after my 2nd child, I retained my placenta and my husband was adament we weren't going to have anymore because he thought he would lose me next time, I convinced him that everything would be fine, and guess what, he was right, he very nearly did lose me :( While I wouldn't change anything now that I have my baby (she has a huge character and I love her to bits), I wouldn't wish what I went through on anyone, quite simply it was one of the best days of my life (I got my baby girl:)), but, it was definately the most horrific day of my life... I hope some counselling helps you clear your thoughts and put things into perspective for you a little more, you are in a very tough emotional position and need all the help and support you can get from those close to you, just remember to listen to your partners fears and concerns as well...
HAVE A GREAT EASTER EVERYONE, ENJOY THE BREAK WITH YOUR FAMILIES AND I AM LOOKING FORWARD TO HEARING HOW EVERYONE IS GOING SOON!!
Take care
Peita :hugs::wave:
Hello everybody!!!! i´ve been out!!!! lots of work, house work, babies work!!!! I long for a little bit of time for me..... jejejee. This saturday it´s my Lunitas birthday, I put all the energy in the video I´m editing that I have lot´s of things to do now, but not freaking out, Today I´ll resolve some of the things regarding to food , souvenirs , invitations and thoes things..... I´m making a Barbie cake, you know, barbie on top and the skirt is the cake , hope it comes out pretty, I`m not a very good cook, so..... jajajajjja .
I´ve been with a lot of things so that´s why I couldn´t write , luckily I could find home for 7 doggies of the ones born past month , but I´m still having one doggie girl that I can´t find house for , but it´s only one , thank god!!!!! She´s fat and hairy , beautiful , and she´s going to be enormous , yesterday we went to a fair here were you give the doggies and cats for addoption , and next to me there were great dane dogs , with the same exact days of life than mine , and mine was bigger!!!!! my god, I saw the father of this babies, and was like a black wolf , gigantic, I hope I can find her a home soon !!!!!
Weel girls , I have to go, love to everyone and glad you had a great easter celebration !!!!! :celebrate::wave::smiliedance: Bye!!!!!
FallenAngel14
27-04-2011, 12:48
Hi Everyone, Hope you all had a great Easter break :D.
I thought i would just give you all a quick update on my situation, Last week hubby and i went off to Sydney to see a High risk OB, with all my records from past pregnancies, to get a second opinion... And guess what he said? He thinks that i have a VERY low risk of actually getting accreta something like 1 in 1000, AND that the only risk is, if i have a low lying placenta (which i previously haven't had) which then the risk increases to 6 in 100, which is still quite low... much better than the 30-70% i was given from my OB here in Canberra. He said he is would be happy to deliver me in Sydney even if everything looks to be OK if my OB doesn't want too!
I was absolutely floored!! So was my husband. This has been almost 8 months of stress and worry and heart ache, for virtually nothing. Yes there is still possible risks, and we still need to really think about things and I'm seeing a counselor as well.... But i really feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
I know this is going to sound like i'm whingeing, or being ungrateful especially for those of you who wanted more but can't... but now that i know the option to have a 3rd is there, do I really want a 3rd, or was it just because I was told no? Anyways now that i know the option is there, I have plenty of time to think it all through.
Thank you all for your honest advice and sharing your stories... It has defiantly opened my eyes and made me really reassess what is important.
Hi there FallenAngel14,
I didn't realise you are in Canberra, I had my Incretta baby at the Canberra Hospital (I live in Queanbeyan), I just wanted to say that Canberra is more than capable of dealing with Acretta, just look at me:)..... I was all emergency so I don't know any high risk OB's around here, the surgeon who looked after me was Dr Knight at TCH, maybe you could contact the hospital, explain your situation and go from there, they are a fantastic group of midwives, I actually went back about 5 months after my surgery as a guest speaker for National Midwifrey week, and they were all so good to me then as well! I educated quite a few people at the hospital, because Canberra isn't a very big place, there aren't many cases of Acretta/Incretta/Percretta that go through the hospital... My GP/OB is from Queanbeyan and he has been an OB for 15yrs, I was only the 2nd case he has ever dealt with in his career, he now knows that Incretta can happen without previous abdominal surgery, I taught him that......
Just on the numbers you cave, the 1 in 1000 etc.. I was told by everyone looking after me that there was a 1 in 3000 chance of Accreta happening, a 25% chance of the 1 in 3000 being Incretta and a 5% chance of it being Percretta, this complication isn't always reported and everyone has different numbers on this.... I am not meaning to argue or upset you or even disagree with the OB, but this is just information that was passed on to me by several different professionals whom I have spoken to... Also, you have to remember about the warning of your Uterus rupturing....
I think after I had my hysterectomy, I was so devestated that I couldn't have children anymore, but I think it was because I had the choice taken from me, someone made the descision for me, I know I needed the surgery to survive, but I still felt chaeated that it was all over.... I am ok with it all now, as my girl gets older, I am realising I really don't want to go back to the newborn stage!!! Good luck with all the counselling and descision making:)
Lorens - you sound so busy, I hope you enjoy your little ones birthday, it was bosth sad and happy for me, sad because it was a reminder of what happened, but happy and fun because it was her first birthday and I did survive and make it to her 1st birthday with her..... ENJOY.....
Take care everyone:wave::hugs:
Hi girls !!! I just wanted to update youguys , Lunita´s birthday went great, the video came out beautiful, I didn´t cry!!!! jajajaj , I cried everytime I edited it so by the time of the birthday I was strong , jajaa. i´ll upload photos of the birthday, I didn´t have time to think about anything , had to serve everybody and do everything. It came out great, I´m very happy, had my little melt down the day of the birthday itself, not the party, I remebered evrything and had to cry, relived some moments, but then I was ok . I´ll upload the pictures then I´ll be back, jajajaja , bye everybody.
Hi Lorens, sorry for such a slow reply, life have been really busy on my end:)
I am so glad to hear that you had a great time at Lunita's party, I was the same as you, I had a mini meltdown on the actual birthday, but coped well at Alice's party.... I think it is good to have a cry when you feel like it, if you hold it in, things seem to get worse... Once I got past that first birthday, I started to feel so much better within myself, I am feeling great about things at the moment:) I hope things are going in a positive direction for you and big :hugs:to you and Lunita for making it to that first huge milestone, Happy Birthday Lunita:celebrate:
Take care
Peita:)
:wave:Hi ladies. Been a little while, I know.
Hope you are all well. Great to hear milestones have been reached! Birthdays and acceptance.
We are living with my parents, going well. House building is frustrating and not a single grain of dirt has been touched yet. Paperwork!!:hair:
There are certainly long term effects of the surgery alot of us ended up with. Hysterectomy. My thyroid has not stabilized yet, medication changes, blood tests. Found out that will probably go through menopause early after hysterectomy, even though ovaries were left. Still changes hormones. These hormone changes are affecting my thyroid. If it can't be stabilized, might have to have it zapped with radioactive isotopes or removed.:eek::eek:
The things we go through!!
All worth it when I look at my beautiful little girl. She's 6 months now, eating solids and quickly catching up. Proud with myself that I am still breast feeding. Intend to keep going as long as my health allows.
I'm already planning Livvy's 1st birthday party!! It's a celebration of both of us pulling through. Parents opened up more as time went on, they thought they were going to lose me. Definately need to celebrate. I don't dwell on it too much. Feel pretty good actually. Changed my outlook on what is important in life.
Who would of thought I would be this good after only 6 months!
Does anyone know how long after a blood transfusion that you can donate blood? I really feel a need to donate. After 8 units and platelets, I want to donate to help save someone else, as it did for me.
Later.
Mam
Hi Mam,
You sound like you are doing fantastic (apart from the building house thing lol).. WOW, 6 months old already, time certainly passes by quickly doesn't it... Sorry to hear about your medical issuees, hopefully things will get sorted for you soon...
I read that you have to wait 12 months minimum after you have a blood transfusion to donate blood, I am like you, I think me donating my own blood would help me to heal even more, I am trying to work up the courage to go, I have quite a big fear of needles and blood now, but I know I will get there eventually, just like I got over everything else in time:)
Your parents are probably loving spending this extra time with you:), trauma like we went through, effects everyone:(
I am putting my recovery (emotional and physical) skills to use at the moment, a very close friend of mine has been diagnosed with a 6cm brain tumor behind her left eye (diagnosis was last week), she goes in for surgery om Monday and once they remove the tumor, they will test it to find out what is going on, they believe there will be 1 of 2 outcomes, either they remove the tumor and that is it, she will be fine and can choose wether or not to have chemo or the tumor is grade 4 tumor which generally means that's it and she will only have 12 months to live, we are all so sad and scared for her, she is 33 years old and has 3 children, 1yo, 5yo, 7yo, all boys:( She is a very strong person and we have been encouraging her to stay positive.... My friends and family were there for me when I needed them, now it's my turn to give back to one of them in the best way I possibly can......
Anyhow, glad to hear things are going so well for you and your family:)
Stay positive and take care:wave:
Peita:hugs:
Pieta3- how stressful for all involved with your friend. Glad you feel strong enough to support her through a difficult time. Make sure you look after yourself as well. It might bring up issues for you.
Our new puppy is due in 13 days!! We are excited to welcome another furbaby. The girls have decided to call her Pippa. Yes, they watched the royal wedding! If we cannot get a girl, we'll take a boy, but haven't decided on a name yet. I thought maybe Pedro. Nice to have something positive to look forward to.
Lorens- hope you have kept positive after Lunita's birthday. Sounds like that special milestone has helped you as well. I'm planning Livvy's birthday already!! Important for me too.
My girlfriend had her baby a week ago. She had her fourth boy. Glad to see her have a healthy bub. She really wanted a little girl, but after so many miscarriages ( they assume she can't carry a girl and miscarriages ), she's accepted a healthy boy is better than nothing. Both are well, that's the most important thing.
Picking bathroom tiles tomorrow for the new house! Kind of decided already, just trying not to let the costs blow out! It's so easy to overspend.
Keep smiling and good health to everyone. :smiliedance: Hugs and kisses to our beautiful, miracle babies!!:cheerleader1::cheerleader2:
Mam
Hi girls!!! yes lunita´s birthday was great for me, I made the cake !!! imagine, jajajajajaja. I´m very tired this days, just because I´m working and not sleeping well, and always on the car, going from my house, to work, to my moms house; we have a crazy life, it´s how we are, but I´m exausted!!!! I´m a little down because I´m too skinny, I´m weighting 44 kg , it´s nothing for my height !!!! it happened the same with tomy , and it´s because i´m still breast feeding and don´t want to quit it, as soon as I stop breast feeding I´ll gain weight , but it´s awful to be so skinny , it is embarrasing for me!!!! I´m surely anemic, I´m taking vitamins , but nothing!!! jajajaja , still skinny !!!! but I know that I´ll recover from this, I have to stop breast feeding , and my lunita is first!!! jajajaja.
It´s so pretty to plan the little ones birthday, I enjoy it a lot!!!! If I can help .... I´m here mam, can give you tips on the cake, if you can , look at the pictures I uploaded, it´s from the birthday.
Peita, it´s been a long timeee , jajajajajaa , hope you can help your friend , I was reading you, and got the chills .... but your friend is really lucky to have you around , we all know how important friends are when you´re ina situation like that , it´s vital .
Have to go, I´m at work, love ya girls, see you later!!!!!
Can you believe I've booked little Livvy's birthday party already!! Got a great place that has a kids playground. Can even bring our own cake. Lorens I don't think I'll make it myself. I love the Cheesecake shop. They make the yummiest mudcake and decorate it. Bit easier.
Pieta3- we are coming to Canberra for a few days break with my 4 girls the next school holidays. No one else fully understands what we went through and I appreciated your advice during my hard times. Would be good to meet.
Mam
Lorens, 44kg's is skinny for anyone, that could be part of the reason you feel so tired as well, I never lost weight when I was breastfeeding my kids, it would have been a nice bonus for me lol!!!
Mam, I would love to meet you..... I actually have time off in the school holidays too, If you would like, Private message me with the dates you are coming and we can sort something out.... Maybe we can meet at a park somewhere since we have 7 children between us:)
My friend came through her surgery and is doing extremely well, the operation went for 7 1/2hrs as the tumor was bigger than expected (they thought it was 6cm's, not sure what the final size was in the end, 6cm's was big enough I thought), but the surgeon thinks he got it all and now we just wait for results on Monday.... Would you believe, she had the op on Monday, they finished about 6:30pm, and she was home from Sydney by 5:30pm on Wednesday arvo, it is amazing how quickly you can recover from brain surgery... only side effect she has at the moment is short term memory loss which is already getting better and also some swelling.....
I'm glad everyone is doing so well,
Kepp in touch
Peita:hugs::wave:
Thank you every one for all the Best wishes!
It has been a very difficult 4 months, alot has happened, my babby thank god is doing ok now, he was in NICU for 13 weeks came home on 2nd week of April
he has been through alot bless him but he is a fighter,
He is has been discharged on oxygen but its very low, he may need it for another few weeks, but him being home is so nice,
I have to go as he is getting up, but will try my best to keep in touch
Lots of hugs 4 all, X
Babby4 - that is wonderful news!!! They're stronger than you think!
Takes awhile to get back on your feet, so don't rush it.
Keep in touch.
Mam
I´m crying babby 4, I was so worried about you, since we didn´t know anything elese , it´s so wonderful to know you two are fine, Send you all my love!!!!!! and I want to see pictures of that baby boy !!! obviously when you are able to upload, I imagine it´s a lotttttttttttn of work !!!!! Best wishes , have to go , but will write later!!!! bue everyone,.
Mam and Peita , if you two ever meet eachother please take pictures of that moment, and upload it or send it to me , jejejjejeje,.it´s going to be historic, or upload it on facebook , I want to see that meeting, I´ll virtually be there ,jejejejejee , I´m a little far though, jejejejee .
I´m so happy you are back to this forum babby4 , I have been thinking of you this past 3 or 4 months, lost the count , I want to see all you guys faces!!!!! We already met with peita on facebook , you should all join us, ejejejeje .
See you all !!!!! You all owe me the pictures !!!!!!!! Bye.
:wave: Hi Ladies!!!
My new furbaby has been born! We have our little girl. Name will be Pippa. Beautiful Golden Retriever puppy to look forward to bringing home in 8 weeks.
All good otherwise. Just busy with driving girls to school. Tiring quickly of it. Won't get into the new house until after Xmas now.:( Red tape delaying things.
Oh well, that's life.
Hope all are well.
Mam
jenk3698
29-06-2011, 07:12
Hi! I had placenta accreta and had my uterus removed after I delivered my daughter. It is now nine months later and I have developed high blood pressure, heart palapatations, and high blood sugar. I am only 30 years old and not overweight. Has anyone else had health problems after going thru placenta accreta?? Thanks!
Hi Guys
Glad to see everyone is still keeping in touch on this thread and all are doing well.I am good, Ethan turned 1 a few weeks ago, time goes so fast hey. The last year has been a whirlwind for me that's for sure. I thought I might be a little upset on the day but all was good. I think I have finally come to terms with it all. I did think about what I was going through last year on that day but not in a sad way. I'm back at work part-time now which is good, a few days at work and a few at home a really good balance. All in all feeling good, healthy and happy!
Take care all xx
Hi jenk3698 , when I was pregnant with the acretta I had gestational diabetes , after my girl was born the sugar in my blood came down very fast, but 2 months ago, I´ve noticed that I have sugar levels a little bit higher than before being pregnant, that were very low before . I don´t know if this is influenced by the fact of having had the gestational diabetes or to another facts, don´t know really, and I´m very very skinny . Also what I don´t know if it´s possible for me to be entering the menopause, due to the hiterectomy as you, maybe the heart palpitations are because of the changes of mood, wich I´ve had !!! jejejeje. didn´t ask the doctor, just because they wont tell me jajajajaja , and anyway there´s nothing I can do about it, it´s a natural change I guess . Don´t know about the high blood pressure, didn´t check that on me , I´ve always been very low blood pressure, but don´t know, acretta deffinitely leaves some marks
on the body , but I´ve noticed that there´s not a lot of information about the after acretta . I´ve learnt a lot of things by speaking to all the girls here. Bye everyone, hope you´re all well !!!!!!
Hi there Jenk3698,
so sorry you have been through this, I was 29 when I had Increttta (31 now) and was relatively healthy until the Incretta, I had lots of things happen after, things that didn't happen after my first 2 children! I lost a lot of hair (to the point of balding in some places), my skin was terrible for over a year and at 20 months post op, I still have breakouts occassionally, I have been having a terrible time trying to lose weight, my doc keeps checking everything and everything keeps coming back as normal. My doc has put everything down to stress, everyone reacts differently and he thinks this is my bodies way of coping. I am like Lorens, I sometimes wonder if I am going through menopause, maybe I should get a check up and ask!! There is next to no information on post accreta symptoms!!
Hi there Jeles, I can't believe how quickly that year went, HAPPY BIRTHDAY to your little man:celebrate: I'm glad the day wasn't upsetting for you, you sound like your recovery is going very well:)
Babby 4, so glad to hear things tuurned out ok in the end, we were all a little worried when we didn't hear from you for so long, I hope you and bub are still doing well:)
Stay happy everyone, thank you so much for all the info and personal stories you have all shared, it certainly has madee my recovery just that little bit easier. Keep in touch xoxo :hugs::wave:
jenk3698
01-07-2011, 12:02
Thanks for responding, it's very frustrating not being able to find any information and not knowing anyone who has been thru it! I was only the 2nd person my hospital had ever treated with accreta. I also had gestational diabeties during pregnancy and am guessing that is causing the diabities now. I went to a chiropractor who also is an alternative medicine doctor. He said that my lower spinal cord was out and the surgery and all I went thru made it worse to the point it was pulling the spine down and pulling on my brain stem. He said this caused my body to go into a stress induced hypertension and after he put me back in he doesnt think I need the blood pressure meds. It's been two days with no meds and my BP is perfect! Let's hope that is all it was, it would be a miracle if the fix is that easy after everything I have been thru!
Hope everyone is doing well, thanks for your stories!
Hi Jenk3698
I too have had some medical issues post accreta. Amny which are still on going and some which are a bit puzzling.
I have major hair loss, heart palapatations, skin issues, fatigue attacks and various other things. I also have very low Vit B and Magnesium deficiency.
I did not have a hysterectomy - I stopped bleeding around 10 minutes before they had the surgical team mobilised - I live in a country centre so it took a little bit to get everyone in.
ANyway, after my first child I did the normal lose my hair then back to normal, felt tired for a bit then normal.
After my second I battled depression, major fatigue, skin issues, hair loss and balding issues, heart palpatations.
I ahve had many blood tests, heart tests etc. It found I have low blood sugar and lower thyroid levels - but still within the normal levels. To be honest I started to think I was going mad.
It is nearly 4 years since mine and while I am not back to "normal" as yet ( not that I honestly remember what that was) I am slowly getting there. I have learnt from being on here that I am not mad and other people have had similar issues. I do get sick of being told that I am disgustingly healthy as I feel anything but. I recently diagnosed myself with magnesium deficiency after riding my bike as training for an Endurance trial with my dog. Since going on Magnesium my heart palpitations have disappeared, my muscles don't hurt and the muscle twitches have gone. I do not feel as dizzy either which is good. My blood pressure is good, but my heart rate was a bit high for a while.
As I really don't know about how supplementation of one thing can affect others I have an appointment with a natropath to ensure I am not going to create any other issues.
I do yearn for the day I am back to normal but to be honest I am not entirely sure I will ever be what I was before all this happened, mentally or physically. I am MUCH better than I was, enjoying life and doing things that I haven't been able to do due to having small children, so life is good and I will keep striving to be as healthy as I can be.
I do not stress about my hair any more, I did at one point, now I figure I will cut it short and wear scarves if it all falls out. I do wonder though just why it does what it does.
And yes you are right Lorens, there is next to no information about what happens after accreta, increatta and pericretta. I am just glad I found this place it was a bit help in getting me past some issues and back to healthy :)
Are we working yet? Just a check post.
Yay!! I've been trying to post for weeks!! Had nice long posts that disappeared into cyberspace.
How is everyone? Hope all are well and babies thriving.
Livvy is doing so well. 9 months now. Has it really been that long? Some days it seems longer and others just yesterday. She is sitting up by herself and saying mum.
House still not started. Had our puppy for 2 weeks. Started new job last week. Busy, busy, busy.
Health issues after our birth conditions need to be followed up. We all seem to experience problems. My immune system is rebuilding after blood transfusions and I recently had a case of shingles. Not bad, just mild. Had allergic reaction to antiviral medication can you believe!
I swear by osteopaths and herbalists. I feel pretty strong. Herbalist is helping with hormone balances. I've experienced skin and hair changes. Even though ovaries were left, we still apparently go through menopause earlier. I'm in the early stages. Only alternative is HRT. No way thanks.
Lorens - Pieta3 and I met on my trip to Canberra. Check out her facebook, she took a photo of us both with our special bubs.
Now this thread is working again, catch up everyone and let us know how you're all going!!
Mam
Hi Mam , and hi to everyone, we`ve all been lost, it`s funny cause today I was actually thinking that no one wrote back to this post and suddenly I get a reply from Mam, jajajaja . I`ve been super busy, tooooo tired with my job, my work apart from my actual job, kids, house , and everything!!!! Iwant to rest a little, god hear me please, jajajajajaja . I guess everyone it`s doing great and that`s how it should be , we all deserve it !!! I`ve been waiting on thoes pictures Mam , today i`ll get into facebook to see them , I have facebook blocked at my job, so I`ll see them at my house, I want to see them now!!!!!! I`pm going to have extra work because I have my Tomy`s birthday at the end of this month , I haven`t even started to see what I`m going to do, what a mean mama, jajajajaja . well , please keep posting everyone, have to go now, but will come back!!!!!! Best wishes to all, thanks Mam for writing back!!!! bye bye!!!! :cheerleader1::cheerleader2::smiliedance::babydust 1:
Hi everyone:wave:
I have been trying to post for a while, but it wouldn't work!! I hope everyone is well, I am doing well, my little girls 2nd Birthday is coming up at the end of October so I have a few emotions rising. I am looking forward to the next 4 months, I have Alice's birthday in October, a weeks holiday in Brisbane in November, my son and husbands birthdays in December, then Christmas and a weeks holiday in Coffs Harbour, I can't wait, we have been planning everything for so long:)
Can you believe it is September already, Christmas is approaching very quickly, it is my favourite time of year though, bbq's, parties, holidays etc....
Well, I just thought I would give a quick hello, I have my 2 girls home sick today, so it's pretty quiet at my house.... Keep in touch everyone, keep on smiling:)
Peita:hugs:
It is my boys 4th birthday in a few weeks and I can finally say I am looking forward to his birthday with no weird emotions kicking in and nudging my happy emotions around. I seem to be losing less hair and it is actually growing after months of barely growing. Not quick back to it's normal weed like state but it's getting longer. I still lose more hair than the average person but not as much as I was.
I am feeling better after having vitamin B injections and taking regular high doses of magnesium, but if I miss one I know as I start getting muscle twitches within 12 hours.
I have had to change my contraceptive and that is playing a little havoc, but also some very promising things so I am hoping the not so good things settle down and it will eb all good.
It is hard to believe that it has been nearly 4 years. Finally I do not feel totally ripped off when I think about his birth, I think of the little man I have now and the rest is starting to receed back into the depths of my memory.
Hope everyone else is going well and all are happy and healthy
Hello Ladies!!
I'm glad to hear that birthdays have been a little easier for you ladies. Little Livvy is turning one in about 8 weeks. The venue is booked and I'm planning a no stress, no clean up party that I can sit and enjoy, instead of being exhausted and a messy house. I can't believe that she will be one. Has it really been that long since the surgery? I can still get twinges and pain, but accept that it could take another year to heal.
At this stage I'm not feeling too emotional regarding her birthday, just thankful that we both made it and I have a beautiful, healthy, happy little girl. Most days I do have a thought go through my head, a memory, a smell, something. The hand soap at work triggers memories of the hospital. It must smell the same. If I'm feeling down, I can dwell a little, but it doesn't consume me. Sounds like I'm a lucky one. I really feel for you ladies that have breakdowns still. Do you think it ever goes away?
My girlfriend that had an ectopic pregnancy and miscarriage while I was pregnant, is pregnant again. I'm happy for her, especially considering that she lost one tube and was told to prepare for IVF. She fell pregnant naturally. I don't feel jealousy or a yearning to be pregnant again. I find it brings up my stress levels to hear of her pregnancy. She has gone to my OB, as he was so brilliant with me. I fear for her I think. Do you ladies fear pregnancy now? Fear the things that can still go wrong?
Pieta, how is your friend that is dealing with cancer? I hope she is coping with her treatment. Don't forget to drop in on your way to Coffs Harbour!
Lorens, keep singing!!
Rommi, enjoy your little mans 4th birthday!! Special memories. To think that we may not have been here to see them grow. We are certainly blessed.
I love spring!! I smile and feel alive again. I missed last spring. In a few weeks a year ago, I was in hospital, on bed rest, in fear of bleeding , losing my little girl and not surviving surgery. Life is precious, smile and enjoy the beauty of spring.
Let us know how the precious little ones birthdays go.
Lol. Mam.
I found with my little mans birthday I didn't get hit with the emotions until the day and kinda bang out of the blue and I had a private cry. It did improve as they day went on though and after that little cry even though at times I thought about it, well I felt a whole lot better
Yes as I didn't end up having to have a hysterectomy pregnancy is a real fear for me - huge!! To me pregnancy - for me- means death. I have been told people have had babies post accreta and have not had the condition again, but I honestly do not think I could survive mentally through a pregnancy with the knowledge it could be as bad or worse next time. I think to a degree ignorance was bliss in a small way, going into it knowing that that could happen again I think would honestly send me well over the edge mentally.
I got the Implanon implant and although my skin is running a bit of a muck I honestly feel much less stressed since I have had it in (not to mention far lighter periods and very little pain). I know it isn't 100% but I feel happier. If I forgot a pill I would be in melt down waiting for my period just in case, if It was a day late I could barely function, the fear was paralysing.
Spring is great isn't it, I have new little lambs bouncing around the paddock, the days are longer and warmer - sometimes :) - and spring is definately in the air. I still have dog training most weekends, my few hours of my time, and I think that helps me as well. I love it, can have a few hours of concentrating on something I really enjoy and look forward to. We have graduation this weekend so here's hoping we pass. Having said that I noticed after this evenings zoomie session my girl has a bit of a limp - oh well :D
Life is very good and I am really glad I am in it :)
Hi everyone!!! I`ve been really lost for a while !!! it was also my Tomy`s 4th birthday and had little time for everything, work, house, kids and birthday!!!! it came out great , we celebrated at kindergarden and then at our house with all the family and neighbour kids, I`ll try to upload pictures , I´m feeling good, don`t have any time to think in anything actually, need a little rest sometimes , but it`s nearly impossible !!!! I`m exhausted all the time, but that`s because I never stop , I`m also still breast feeding and I don`t have a clue on how I`m going to stop, my Lunita is to attached to breastfeeding, it`s going to be a problem !!!! jejejeje, but well I`ll try to come up with something, don`t want to put that pressure on me now. I`m so happy everyone is doing so good, we all deserve it!!! jejejeje , life starts to get it`s course and we just have to live!!! so great to hear from all of you , byeeeeeeee , have to go !!!!! :wave:
Hi ladies, I've been looking forever for a forum that shares stories in placenta accreta.
I've had a little read of your stories, wow, it's scary but comforting at the same time that you've come through to tell your stories.
My story is as follows...This is my 5th pregnancy, our surprise baby. At my 13wk nuchal scan they picked up that my placenta was lying very low, I had another scan at 15wks where they confirmed placenta praevia with possible accreta, they were fairly confident that my placenta was starting to attach to my uterus.
I've since had another 2 scans, the morphology scan at 19wks, which they confirmed accreta, and my last one was at 22wks, I also had a MRI at 22wks, which I go back next week to get the results of.
I'm currently 24wks, and feel pretty good, considering. I've had no bleeds at all, but have been told that it's a great possibility.
They've told me my chance of having a hysterectomy is very high, so I am prepared, and like I've said to my medical team, this baby was unplanned, we weren't having anymore after number 4, so they can do whatever it takes to save me and our bub.
I have great confidence in my team, they have looked after me very well and have been right on top of getting things done.
This will be my 3rd c-section, oldest two kids were natural deliveries, #3 was an emergency c-section and #4 was planned.
I've been high risk with a few of my pregnancies now, after #2 I developed a DVT in my left calf, spent time on blood thinners for that (8 months) and had a major bleed 17 days after I had her due to retained placenta.
#3 I did blood thinning injections right through my pregnancy and 6wks post natal, did the same with #4 and I'm currently on the injections with this pregnancy also, which they've said throws a bit of spanner into the works as they need to keep my blood thinned, but I'm at a higher risk of bleeding due to the accreta, catch 22 really.
With #3, she was born nearly 5wks early, I got an infection in my uterus that crossed the placenta and affected her, after delivery I got septicemia and was very quite ill. Bub spent 2wks in SCN, but is now a healthy nearly 6yr old.
With my last pregnancy I developed GD, that was insulin dependent. They took her 2wks early and apart from her sugars being a little off, she was really very good, she only needed 24 hrs in SCN on a sugar drip. I recovered really well after her birth and we both went home on day 4.
I've had a GTT at 16wks for this bub, and all was great, much to the surprise of med team, they want me to have another test at 26wks.
Um, what else, they've told me at this stage if all goes well they plan on taking bub around the 35wk mark, so that will be around the 1st wk of December.
Oh, and this is our 4th Princess, our oldest is a boy-he's 18yrs, girl-13yrs, girl-5yrs and girl 2.5yrs.
You can't believe how good it is to read your stories :wave:
Hi Jatsmum !! well here we have supported each other a lot!!! it`s been great for me too, I learnt a lot of things I didn´t know about placenta acretta and all, you can talk to any of us when ever you feel the need !!! we´ll listen , you have tyhe same plan I had, only that at the last week the docs decided to make the delivery one week early at 34 weeks , don´t do anything, rest a lot!!!! and be peaceful, it`s the best advice I can give you , that will help you to get to the terms the docs want , you´ll see everything will come out great!!!!! I`m very happy that our chats help you!!!! were here for any questions or just to talk , bye!!!!!
Hi Lorens, thanks for the welcome.
Well I had my appointment yesterday. MRI showed them what they already knew, but they have added 'possible increta/percreta' to my notes. Not too sure how I feel about that.
Said with where my placenta is sitting, bub is sitting very high up because my uterus is being pushed up, so I'm measuring 31wks instead of the not quite 25wks that I am.
Have told me that I will need a classical cut, so up the tummy rather than along the bikini line.
They won't give me date for delivery yet, have told me to take it one day at a time, but did say if I lived further away from the hospital than I do then they would've admitted me yesterday until delivery. That was a bit of shock.
They've decided that they want me to start having steroid injections from 28wks onwards, so weekly visits back to the hospital to get them.
I've got my GTT, a med appointment, an Ob appointment and another ultrasound booked in for the 11th Oct, busy day that day.
Thanks for the chat :wave:
Hello Jatsmum, well, what you´re telling me reminds me exactly to what they told me , when the docs discovered in the MRI that my placenta was possible acretta, it was actually percreta , passed thru the uterus and attached to the bladder , it wasn´t very attached though as they thought, but well , it´s quite a shock!! mostly because they tell you that you probably will have to go to the hospital more often and all that..... But think that you have the diagnose and that is the best think that can happen to you because they´ll keep a very close eye on you .
Always be prepared for any event , be ready for if you have to go quickly to the hospital and mostly don´t do anything at all!!!! I asume the docs have told you that, no cleaning , no dishes , no cooking, nothing!!! let everyone else do the house work , or any work !!!! strict bed rest it´s the best for this cases . take the computer near to your bed, do things for you , watch tv, but don´t do anything else !! jeje . Take the rest of the time left before your delivery for you , dedicate time to yourself so you´ll be better prepared to the delivery, it´ll be easier . Now you know that they know exactly what to do, medicine is so advanced that each day it´s more prepared for our situations.
You know that they wouldn´t want to tell me what cut they were going to do, finally they cut on my old c-section scar , and know it´s almost invisible again, maybe they took a risk there, I don´t know . It will depend on the moment, they´ll do what they have to , but anyway there are great moisturizers or creams ( don´t know how to call them ) that erase a great part of scars .
My baby was also way up high in my belly, I had her under mi ribs and across my tummy , poor thing , she was very uncomfortable, I uploaded a picture of the MRI if you want to see how I had her in my belly.
Try to stay very very calm, don´t think about anything, try to keep your mind in pretty thoughts , cause believe it or not , that is a big part of going thropugh this process the best way, the mind is so powerful ..... doctors sometimes tell you things in a very cold and drastic way, but it´s only to get you ready and scared a little so that you do all that they tell you, as not doing any work at all for example, jeje . But you´ll see everything will come out great . At this stage of your pregnancy it´s the point were all this acretta thing starts to really appear , the scans start to show the real diagnose and it´s a moment of shock, but it will pass and next month you have to try to relax all you can , try to breath a lot , like concentrated I mean , that is great , I sound crazy but you don´t imagine how that helped me !!!!!
Well I´ll keep in touch to see how you are, please keep us informed on how you´re going , and if you need to say anything , just say it!!!! we´ll understand here....
Kisses to you and to all the girls , keep in touch !!!!
Bye!!!
Hi everyone, how are you all??
Hi jatsmum, sorry you are going through this, but glad you found us:) like Lorens said, everyone on this thread is great to chat to, we are all as honest as we possibly can be and are more than willing to answer any questions you may have.
I had Increta that was found after a vaginal delivery, everything was emergency for me and I am very lucky to be here, my case was at the point where the hospital asked my husband to call family in because they didn't know if I was going to survive, with that being said, Accreta has been caught early for you, you have a plan in place and if you do everything the doctors tell you, I am positive things will turn out great for you.
Rommi, you sound like you are in a good place at the moment, it sounds great to hear you happy. I hope your little man's 4th birthday is fantastic for you and him.
Mam, my friend who had the brain tumor is doing fantastic:smiliedance: She had the operation to remove the tumor and apparently it was around 7cms in size, she then lost her short term memory and had to work hard to get that back, but the greatest news was that the tumor was a High Grade 2 which is so much better than they predicted and she won't need anymore treatment, she will need to have checkups for the rest of her life, but for now she is clear. It's been about 4 months since her op and she is nearly completely back to herself, we even managed a girls night out a couple of weeks ago:)
Mam, that is exciting news for your friend, a natural pregnancy after eptopic is really hard to achieve, it's great to hear stories of triumph after tragedy, it makes things seem a little brighter in the world...
Well, I've go to go, but stay happy everyone, keep on enjoying life:wave::hugs:
Hello Ladies!!
It's been awhile. Life has been busy.
Welcome Jatsmum.:hugs: I'm the placenta previa and percretta mum here in oz. My little girl is 11 months old today! Invites out for her 1st birthday.
It is a great relief to know that you found us here. These guys certainly gave me support.
It dawned on me that the friday of the october long weekend was when I experienced my first bleed. It seems a long time ago, yet just yesterday. In another week it is one year since I ended up in hospital until little Livinia was born.
As much as it's really scarey to know what can happen, it is at least controlled.
Don't hesitate to ask any questions. We've all been there, just slightly different cases, but all extremely risky.
Hope all are well otherwise and in great health.
Mam:hugs:
Beckbaby1
07-10-2011, 09:42
So on Monday my daughter turns 1, i really want to celebrate and enjoy the day, but cant help but think about what happened twelve months ago. It was our 1st wedding anniversary the same day. And almost bleeding to death, being told you can have no more children after 1, and our daughter also has an undiagnosed disorder is all so hard to take. I want to be thankful that i am here to celebrate with my husband and daughter as they are my whole world.but cant help thinking why me...
I have a cousin who is due the 1st week of december, i am very happy for her. but cant help be jealous. I almost cry when i see other pregnant ladies as i know this will never be me and I loved being pregnant.
also i still have my maternity clothes and bubs outgrown ones, as i just cant bring myself to give them away, although we will never need them. I suppose i just cant imagine someone else wearing them.
On a Great note, My health is fine. and Although Bub has a disorder(still can not sit up at twelve months) which is still being diagnosed. she is in good health and such a good happy baby.
This post is awesome, I live in Tasmania and noone i know has ever heard of placenta increta,accreta or percreta.so better go, i need bub to have a sleep cause at 12:15 she is having her 12 month needles and check up. poor bub, she is so sick of doctors and being poked and proded.:cheerleader1:
Hi Jatsmum,
Hoping all goes as well for you as it can. Yes you will be frightened but you will have a great team who will have everything under control. Take thinks VERY easy and keep your baby in there as long as you can.
Hi Beckbaby1
I found my sons first birthay a lot harder than I thought I would. I actually thought I was coping okay, until I had a moment on his birthday.
I didn't lose my uterus but came moments away, the only reason I didn't was I was in a country hospital and it takes a little while to muster a theatre team. 2 minutes before they got the nod my bleeding reduced dramatically.
You will feel ripped off and feeling jealous is very very normal. To a degree I still feel ripped off that it all went so badly and I ended up very very close to death.
I am very sorry your daughter has an undiagnosed condition, the extra pressure would make it far harder.
From my side though, in time the feelings of being ripped off do get less, they will never go completely but they do become a background noise so to speak instead of a focus.
Looking back I went through a lot and I should have sought out councilling. It appears I may have had PTSD or many of those symptoms. Finally 4 years on I am looking forward and at my sons 4th birthday 2 weeks ago I actually really enjoyed it instead of having "moments" and flash backs of things that happened on that day, the intense emotional feelings and conversations, which then played over and over in my head.
If you haven't already I would really recommend some form of councilling as we have been through one hell of a lot and it takes years to recover.
I wish you the best and hope your little girl didn't get too upset at having to have her needles.
Best of luck :)
Hi ladies, thanks so much for the replies.
Well I had a check up yesterday, had to have another scan and on the scan you can now see where it has attached to my bladder. I knew it was a possiblity, but still it was a shock to hear them say it definitately has.
They still don't have a set plan in place for me yet, they're going to discuss it with the other surgical teams that will be needed and see what they all agree on.
They've told me that along with the c-section and removal of my uterus I will now require a bladder reconstruction, so that now means a general and my hubby is not allowed in theatre to see bub being delivered, that plus they've told me I will go to ICU for the first 48hrs, I cried bucket loads yesterday when they told me that. They did say if bub was healthy enough then she can go straight to hubby, they've also said hubby can wait for me in recovery, so that's something at least.
They gave me a fair amount of info yesterday, and to be honest I didn't really take it all in, they've mentioned something about the balloons up in my veins in my legs for the blood loss, having plenty of blood on stand-by for me and something to do with stents for my kidneys when they do the bladder reconstruction.
On a positive note bub is doing really well, growing well and all seems to be perfectly fine with her :smiliedance:
I hope those that have their little ones birthdays coming up are enjoying their time with them. Must be such an emotional day, to have been through so much and come so far.
Best wishes and thoughts to all xx
Hi jatsmum, well, I can really understand what you feel, I`m reviving everything with you ,´now you are in the moment of shock cause they tell you a lot of things and info and everything, but you´ll get used to the idea of what´s coming and eventually be in peace with everything, if you feel like crying, cry as hard as you can, and get it all out, it will be a relief . You know that they told me that they were going to do the bladder reconstruction to me too, and they did, but it was insignificant, and I didn´t feel a lot of pain or bothers there , it sounds more awful than what it really is . And if you try to focus on being well fast , the days in ICU will be less and everything will pass quickly, they were telling me that I was going to be probably a lot of days in ICU and at the end I only spent a day and a half there , cause I wanted to get out and did everything they told me to go fast, you know the head is stronger than any other organ, and if you are strong in your mind everythng becomes easier , I know for experience..... I´ll tell you this a million times , but now try to digest all the input they give you and then try to stay relaxed and calm , try to see a pretty side of life and everything would come out as smooth as possible , all the things the doctors are planning are the perfect plan , they know how to handle your case, so better yet . All they are planning for you is exactly what they did to me and everything came out great!!!! it will be the same for you, have faith in the doctors .
You know in my bed rest I became quite an artist, jajajaja , I knitted a lot and sew a lot of things for my lunita , she used all that clothe when she was born , try to keep your mind in thoes things that could distract you, and don´t need for you to move at all. sorry if I`m a little repetitive , but it´s a great therapy . Well , have to gooo , I`m at work , but please keep this chat and keep us updated on everything . Best wishes and take care!!!!! Bye everyone!!!!!!
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