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Well I never thought I would find myself here but I am, I've decided an abortion is the best thing for me to do. I know I will not cope with another child and pregnancy right now. I am worried with hubby away how I will cope after, my mum is taking me and dropping me home but I will have to look after the kids myself, I have friends popping over but for the most of it I will be alone and I am really unsure how I will feel after.
Can anyone tell me what to expect physically?
Also I really can't wait for the morning sickness to go away can anyone tell me how long that will take?
I don't have any advice. I just wanted to offer you virtual hugs. Here you go :hugs::hugs::hugs:
No experience, but big hugs to you xx
Sending you massive hugs xxoo
Is there nobody you can get to stay with you at least til the kids are in bed?
When i had mine, it took me a lot longer then expected to snap out of the anesthetic at the clinic, then I was really sick for a few hours after (vomiting, dizzy etc). I was still pretty out of it that night, and needed help with my DD, getting her to bed etc.
You might be fine, but of you *can* get someone to give you a hand, it would be better for you as you won't have that added worry.
Good luck xxoo
You will be sore after wards & maybe a little feeling of the drugs they put you under. I had one last year & I found that the after affects like the bleeding & tissue was the worst. Make sure you talk to someone about it after, I found I didn't cope blamed myself for it & I have regrets that I did it.
I'm sorry to hear that Thermolicious :( :hugs:
Afterwards you'll feel tired and groggy (I had nausea and vomitting, but not everyone does) from the anaesthetic and I had a period-like dull ache for a day or so.
You really should have someone with you if you can. The last thing you'll feel like is preparing food and putting kids to bed.
The MS takes a little while to leave your system, it tapered off for me over a few days.
No advice, just :hugs: xx
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Sorry to hear you have to go through this. I have known a friend who went through it, I agree with others that you will want some help after with the kids. Sending you a :hugs:
When does your hubby get back? Is it vital for you to go in straight away as you have a bit of time? I know I couldn't do something like that without my husband there. :hugs:
Thanks for the advice everyone. Hubby isn't able to come home unfortunately, he is due back on the 20th. I'm prepping food today and I have a Coles order arriving Tuesday morning, just snack type things and bread/milk etc.
:hugs: and I know I'm a stranger but honestly I am here if you want to pm me. Take care of yourself xxxx
ETA: i have been to the place in midland for a friend and they are very understanding in there.
Hugs thermy. Sorry to hear it has come to this for you.
Is there no way someone can help with the kids after? You will need to rest for at least the rest of the day.
My experience i just felt tired from the anaethestic (can't spell) and had cramping like a period. I didn't have morning sickness at the time so don't know how long that will take to go away but perhaps you could ask for some anti nausea medication like maxolon.
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The morning sickness will be gone as soon as the procedure is done. I feel for you and well I know it must of been a very hard decision as was mine 10 years ago.
You will want support people around you and definitely want help with the little ones, there will be a lot of cramping and some bleeding. The worst part for me was the medication they gave me to soften my cervix I went to the bath room and there was bleeding so I realised that it was happening. With the right friends family and support you will get through this.
Feel free to pm me if you would like any more info.
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I second having someone there for the kids, you will be tired and lethargic.
I never experienced any pain or problems afterward, just the emotional side of things to deal with.
If you ever want to chat please pm me hun.
Not sure what else to say but wanted to send these :hugs::hugs::hugs:
I have no experience with this, just wanted to say I'm sorry to hear of this and very sad to hear your hubby won't be there with you. I wish you the best :hugs::hugs: Look after yourself beautiful xx
I have no experience but just wanted to send you some (((hugs))).
Sending you strength...:hugs::hugs::hugs:
:hugs: I wish you didnt have to go through this alone.
I am so sorry you are having to go thru this :hugs: I hope you can find someone to help you after. :hugs:
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Physically - mild to sever cramping, bleeding similar to AF bleeding, slightly groggy
Morning sickness will take few days to die down.
Sorry your going though this :hugs::hugs:
Massive hugs! What a tough decision to make. I had one 4 years ago after a contraceptive failure. I was severely morning sick before but as soon as I woke up I felt fantastic. No sickness at all. It was really quite surreal. I had planned to take time off work but felt great so went back the next day. I felt guilty for not feeling guilty, but knew that it was the right decision to make. I have only respect for you for knowing what is right for you and your family
I'm feel for you, it's a tough thing to do. It really depends. When I had mine I was fine a couple of hrs after it, had some cramping like period pain but not an extreme amount blood. If you're worried about how you'll cope then it's probably a good idea to have someone to be there for you
Thermo, i'm happy to stay as long as you need me there, I will at least be able to keep the boys out of your hair while you rest. And I'll bring something for dinner. Let me know what time you want me there
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oh hun, I haven't seen your posts so this is the first I have heard of this. Sending you much strength and totally understand (not that you need any of us to understand but you know what I mean).
I have had a termination at 6ish wks and a d&c at 9ish wks - both where quite similar. The recovery from the d&c took a little longer emotionally and physically.
I am not sure what you want to know, but happy to go into full details if you want either here or privately.
Sending you much love xo
Hi I had no pain whatsoever and can't remember there even being blood... If there was it must have been like a light period.... I was groggy the whole day of and some of the day after the anaesthetic... Good luck!!! Xx
:hugs: please have someone with you and also to look after your kiddies afterwards. You will be very groggy and likely will sleep the whole day.
Thinking of you.
Big hugs... It's not an easy thing to do. After the first day you will feel pretty normal physically. Look after yourself xx
I'm so sorry to hear you're having to go through this, :hugs::hugs:. Take care, sending you lots of strength.
No experience but tonnes of hugs. You're very brave to make this decision. I hope you a good recovery
awww hun, I'm so sorry to read that it had to come to this. I wish i lived closer to you so i could help you out, much love to you xxxx
I just wanted to give you some hugs :hugs::hugs::hugs:
Take care xxx
:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Big hugs. I know after my termination I was really sleepy and not quite "with it".
Is there anyone at all that can help you with your littlies?
Carpe diem 2013
Thinking of you.
I found the pain far worse than period pain. Make sure you have strong painkillers, a hot water bottle and someone to look after the kids if you can, for at least one night
Please, make sure this is what you really want before you go ahead with it. (I really regret the one I had 7 years ago, as I hadn't properly thought it through )
Bleeding was just like a period, morning sickness disappeared apart instantly.
the girls mum
Firstly hugs xxx
Granted my situation happened over 15 years ago now so Im not sure what has changed but I only felt groggy for probably a few hours afterwards.
I had no physical pain (I wont lie I struggled and continue to struggle emotionally however).
I think the docs will tell you things to avoid etc.
Just maybe be prepared to be emotional.
Im sorry your going through this x
Biggest of hugs, xx
I found I was quite groggy/sleepy/dizzy for a few hours after the d&c as the anesthetic wore off. Pain was just like achy period pain.
The day after, I was clear headed and physically ok, just felt drained and didn't want to talk to anyone.
The third day was back to normal. Until before I went to bed and took a shower and couldn't get warm. Turned out I'd developed a fever/infection that wiped me out for two more days.
I can come down to help out. Just let me know when (pm me here or FB).
More big hugs.
Thanks for the kind words everyone the storm conspired against today so I had to change my appointment to tomorrow I'm staying at my mums tonight and possibly tomorrow night as well if needed.
Pregnor thanks for your offer hun I hope u saw my Facebook post? I'm not sure what's going on on Wednesday but I will be more than likely home that day if you want to come over? Maybe M can come too. Hope your holding up ok in this storm xo
more hugs from here :hugs:
..and yep, please have someone there to help you with teh kids so you can rest.
Bleeding shouldn't be anything worse than a heavy period.
Sending more hugs your way. Glad to hear you're staying at your mums and seem to have support around you irl.
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I'm glad you're able to stay with your mum.
Sorry, I work Wednesdays, but if you need anything later in the week, let me know. Otherwise rest up and be kind to yourself.
Thermo, big big big :hugs:
i just found this thread and feel terrible for you (that you have to do this without DH there).
Good luck! glad to hear you're staying with your mum, i assume you will probably need some support/help with the kids!
Please let us know how it all went. will be keeping you in my prayers! try to get a good night sleep! more big big big :hugs:
Wishing you all the best. xxx
Thinking of you today.:hugs:
Thinking of you today, sending lots of hugs & strength.
I found the emotional pain worse than the physical pain to be honest, the physical pain i could deal with (painkillers, hot water bottles etc) but the emotional stuff is still raw for me.
Please PM me if you would like to chat, or add me on FB, ill send you my details x
Hope you're feeling as well as can be expected.
Best wishes x
Thinking of you.
I too found the emotional side of things much harder to deal with than any physical aftermath. Please always feel free to message at any stage if you need.
Hope you are okay and are being looked after xxx
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I hope you are doing ok today :hugs:
Thinking of you today!!! Hugs!!
I'm overwhelmed by the amount of loving pms I have received I can't possibly reply to them all so of I've missed you I apologize xxoo
The procedure went really well I was worried about how I would cope emotionally due to a few past incidences in my life but the staff were all really friendly and warm it was really reassuring :) physically I feel great I was a bit dizzy and lethargic after from the anesthetic but that only took a few hours to pass fully. I've only had minimal bleeding and very very mild cramping. Emotionally I feel fine not upset or guilty and I'm looking forward to working on increasing my booby juice supply for DD.
I wanted to thank everyone for your kind words again I was hesitant to post anything here on bubhub and I'm glad I did I hope by sharing other members or lurkers can gather strength and courage to seek out support from some lovely women here :hugs: everyone xxoo
That's terrific news Thermy :hugs:
Glad it went ok and your doing fine
Glad to hear it went ok, take care of yourself xx
Glad to hear you're ok :hugs:
Glad all went well and you're feeling okay!! Take care!
Glad it all went well M, and I'm happy it wasn't a terrible experience for you. I'm hoping they gave you a short course of antibiotics on discharge, as infection can be terrible afterwards.
Glad you are doing OK and it all went well.
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