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overcrowded
10-06-2012, 06:50
Hi all,
Just need to get this off my chest, i dont want to be whinging to my mum when i go down there later, she already knows about it but i just need to get it out of my system so i can enjoy my day. I asked my dp to ask his mum if she could have sd for the day this weekend, he was like yeah ok ill try but you know what the answer will be lol, yeah i did but i had to try, i just wanted a bit of time with my youngest while he was at work. (bit of background for mil, shes with a guy who has an 11 yr daughter, whos come to be in his full time custody, mil and her partner have seperated houses but since his daughter has come to live with him mil has been at his house to help him, which is great and all good on her) The response he got back to asking if she could have sd was, such and such is going to her bm for the first time in 3 months and i want to just relax and whatever.... whats really p#!*ed me off is that if she really wanted a break why doesnt she just go to her place on the weekends!!!! Ggggrrrrrr im just so over the excuses everytime, now she wants to come over monday arvo, im like nah we got plans already dont bother. I think if she did come over id still be so p#!*ed at her that id have trouble not pointing out the fact that she has her own place why not go there every weekend to get away from it all, shes choosing to stay there and not have a break thats her choice, I dont get a choice, sd is with me all the time, i dont have another house that i can go to and relax and leave sd with her father... its just so frustrating and i feel so useless cos i want mil to spend time with sd and sd really needs and wants to spend it with her nanny, but im at the point where its just not worth me getting so annoyed by her responses any more.
Dp wont say anything, cos he knows it wont make any difference, but in a way i kinda wish he would just step up and have a go at her.

sorry its so long and probably not making any sense lol

LotusMum
10-06-2012, 07:55
Its really tough when you dont get a break huh? Parenting your own kids vull time with no break is really really hard, but to also be parenting a step child (with issues as I remember you saying) has got to be even harder when her birth vamily wont even step in and give you time out.
I really veel vor you. I have no answers apart vom asking a vriend to have SD vor the day, or maybe seeking out respite care?

overcrowded
10-06-2012, 07:58
Thanks, i have a great set of friends that have offered to help out and am so grateful that they genuinely want to help ;)

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