Wishing Wells

[catalicious]

Do you think having them is a good idea??

I mean generally people live together before getting married now so that would help with their honeymoon, or to put money on or towards a house or fixing something in their house...etc

Im going to a wedding is all!!

What is an O.K. amount to put in, I mean I dont want to appear stingy, but Im also not rich either...

My sister reckons Minimum $50!!

What does everyone think!?

[pookiesossige]

Hmmm... DH and I put $70 in his sister's wishing well. They certainly didn't expect more then that- they're just not a very materialistic bunch, just needed some cash to help buy a car. We were happy with that amount.

We put $40 in a friend's wishing well, because that's probably what we would have spent on a gift. Also happy with that amount.

[Angelinalily]

We always put a minimum of $70 and that's for people we are not terribly close to. Family it would probably be between $100 and $150.

Edited to add, I suppose it also depends on what sort of wedding they are having. The weddings I have attended have mainly been formal, so we knew a lot of money had gone into the reception, dinner etc. Perhaps if it is a more casual wedding $40 or $50 would be fine.

[Mojogal]

I think wishing wells at weddings are a great idea, in this day and age. The money is such a big help after the cost of the wedding!

I think your mates will appreciate whatever you can afford, if they're true friends they will anyway. We usually go with $50 (we are not rich either) and only put $20 in one of our friends wishing wells and they were so surprised we had even given them anything, as they knew we were struggling financially and it had cost us a bit to even come to their special day.

You don't have to put your name in the card if you don't want to either.

[Mamaduke]

I know it's the 'done thing' these days (although I've never been to a wedding with a wishing well) but I think it's just so rude to ask for cash.
I mean, no one told the couple to move in together and set up house before getting married...so now they have everything, they need cold hard cash...well don't we all!

[catalicious]

"Well dont we all"

I know I do!!! mmm Maybe I should make a wishing well and put it out the front of my house and hope people feel like they wanna just give some away!! roflmao!

JJ

I dont mind giving money I dprefer that then you know something they dont want afterall they are paying for me to eat!! But I just dont wanna look cheap but I do agree they wont mind cause they are friends!!

[Frazzled]

Traditionally you are meant to equate the same as what they are paying to have you there. So if they are paying $100 per head, thats what you put in. Now of course you can't know that exactly but you can guage it pretty well by where the wedding is etc.

[catalicious]

Thanks, maybe i should give the wedding a skip in that case since both DP and I are going, I couldnt afford that!!

Oh well we will see I will prob put in $70 dollars or something, they are my friends so they know everything that is going on in our lives.

At least I have a month to save for it!! lol

[Frazzled]

Cat, I am sure that 50-70 will still make a difference. And besides, just cause they are having a wishing well, does not mean that you have to contribute in this way - you could always still buy a gift that looks like it costs a bit, but you are actually saving. Have you seen the Willow figures? There is a beautiful one called 'The Promise' and there is another one called 'Together', I always give them as engagement and wedding presents now, they are so beautiful. Setiments in mac square sells them, they are about forty $.

[Mamaduke]

Or you could make/buy them a personalised wedding platter...they wouldn't have one of those!
I made one for my cousin's wedding a while ago - it was in the States and we couldn't go so I sent it along with his parents and the happy couple loved it.
Here's a pic of one so you know what I'm talking about...
Wedding platter (http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b114/csbridger/000_0108.jpg)

[catalicious]

I loved that, that is a really nice idea thanks.

My sis makes cross stiches (nice ones that you wouldnt be embarressed of) with a similar style. You know names and date and stuff.

Thanks heaps for that

[Frazzled]

Or you could make/buy them a personalised wedding platter...they wouldn't have one of those!
I made one for my cousin's wedding a while ago - it was in the States and we couldn't go so I sent it along with his parents and the happy couple loved it.
Here's a pic of one so you know what I'm talking about...
Wedding platter (http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b114/csbridger/000_0108.jpg)

did you make that MD? What a clever little gymboree dudette you are!

[Mamaduke]

did you make that MD? What a clever little gymboree dudette you are!
Yes I did indeedy! Gymboree dudette...love it :thumbsup:

[reAllytee]

did you make that MD? What a clever little gymboree dudette you are!



Thats the only reason im staying friends with her :p
In the vain hope that one day when i finally get married i get one as a gift :laughing:




Oh & i have to say at my cousins wedding this time last year they had a wishing well & it was up to the individuals to decided how much they gave.
We could only afford $60 so thats what we gave !

[Mamaduke]

Thats the only reason im staying friends with her :p
In the vain hope that one day when i finally get married i get one as a gift :laughing:

Ha ha ha :rolleyes: ...very funny!
You know you don't have to wait until you're married...I could do you a 'family platter', it's just that you haven't finished having your family...might be a little difficult sending it back and forth for me to keep adding new family members!;)

[reAllytee]

Ha ha ha ...very funny!
You know you don't have to wait until you're married...I could do you a 'family platter', it's just that you haven't finished having your family...might be a little difficult sending it back and forth for me to keep adding new family members!


Awww arent you just lubbley :hugs:
Id have to make you something but you might get scared :p

Ok back to us being mean old cows :p

[Mamaduke]

Moooooooooo! ;)

[MissSparkle]

For immediate family we put in about $150-$200.

Distant family and friends $100-$150.

Thats more because in DF's family theres an unspoken "system" where if someone gives u a gift, when u give them a gift it should be of same value!