at my wits end!

[Zada]

just need to get this out. ive had enough with my dd. All day every day she whinges, plays up, doesnt listen etc etc and this doesnt help when im trying to get ds to sleep or feed him. Lately shes started to yell at me and throw things at me i gt so angry cant help but yell at her and i hate it.
sending her to her room or smacking doesnt work either does ignoring her. she wont sleep in her own bed and wakes 4 times a night (shes slept with me from day 1 and now i sleep on the couch with ds cos he wont settle himself either trying to get out of that though cos i dont want the same sleep habits going on again.
I try and play with dd hard somedays though cos as soon as i put ds down he wakes up and cries.
So basically all day is one big tantrum i dont know how to handle it anymore.
probly doesnt make sense have no idea what im saying.

[MumOfTwoBoys]

All this looks to me like a classic example of jelousy. She wants all your attention back. I know it's very hard but may be you can try to give her a bit more attention. I don't mean full 1/2 hour sessions several times a day - it's just impossible in your situation - but a many small things.

I had a similar situation with my boys, may be not to the same extend though. What I tried was:

- Taking both out to the local park. The little one who was and still is a terrible sleeper used to sleep better outside in the pram. That gave the older one the chance to go to the playground and be with me like we used to do before DS#2 was born.
- I tried to make DS#1 to help me with the little one praising him like "I don't know how would I cope without you" and alike.
- I tried extremely hard to keep our night time story sessions with DS#1 unchanged. At least he knew that he will have "his" time with me at least then.
- I tried to give him attention whenever I could. Even coming for just one minute and help me beat the batter for the pancakes (he likes this).

- I always made sure that whenever I kissed and cuddled the baby DS#1 got exactly the same "set". They really control this kind of things.
- I always made comments to DS#1 like:"Oh, look at him (i.e. DS#2)! You used to do exactly the same!"

I know all children are different, but may be some of this would help...

[babyboo]

Im not sure about the jelousy thing or not. But I only have one dd who is 3 and she does all the same things - drives me nuts!!!!!

If she doesnt have my attention, she will do what she has to to get it and the annoying thing is that she has all my attention anyway, how much more do they want :banghead: there is only so much of me to go around (solo parent) which doesnt leave much for yourself.

Sorry, really not sure I can help. Just wanted to share that my dd does the same thing.

[Pinkbug]

My DD was bad too just similar to what u r going thru!! It is called Terrible Twos!!! she actually started be4 she turned 2!! was AWFUL!! but now she is a beautiful good girl now 3 and half years old... it takes a lot of ur energy I know but patience is something we all have to have when dealing with it... maybe u could put her in daycare once a week? that is what I do with my DD she needs to be with kids her age maybe that will work for you too??

[Zada]

thanks for the tips.....ive already got her in daycare on tuesdays she loves going there. We live across the road from a park so she goes there nearly every day and has a play but shes like it even when i am playing with her. cant win with her. I think half the prob is shes grumpy cos she wakes so much during the night shes tired even though she has a day sleep for a couple of hours.

[Pinkbug]

Yes it is possible lack of sleep makes her grumpy!!! I hate it when someone wakes me up thru the night or can't sleep myself and be grumpy next day its possible poor u honey!!! wish we could put a lock on our door to prevent them coming in lol :laughing: nah we're not that cruel we're just overtired mums :o

[jess_live_die]

sorry i wish i could help but my daughter aged 3 is going through the same thing now i just bealt her i know its bad and then shut her in her room. lately shes got me so mad sometime i feel like giving her up.

[Zada]

i have shut her in her room all she does is bang on the door and turns the light on and off. She thinks any sort of disipline is really funny :banghead: I just sat down for an hr before and had a big play but nup not good enough errr cant win. Thank god for abc kids right now lol