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One of my family members is really really getting on my nerves. They're constantly taking over and telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing and they're always making fun of everything I do. I'm sick of feeling like I have to justify everything I do. It really upsets me because I'm only a new mum and not very confident yet. They're not the type of person that I could ever tell to back off as it would ruin the relationship but how can I deal with this and not let it get to me so much?? :(
That's a hard one. I totally understand where you are coming from: I had that with my first as well. It's easier to not rock the boat......even though it's rocking on their side.
How often do you see this relative? You may need to try and ignore what they are saying as in some weird way they are probably thinking that they are helping. Being a new mum is hard enough without anyone making you feel like you're doing it wrong - but if it works for YOU & YOUR CHILD, then it is the right way - maybe gently tell them of this...
Another thought......maybe when they tell you that you're doing something wrong, ASK them for how they would do it (in a nice way). The next time you see them, and if it comes up again, just say that you tried their way, but it just didn't work.
That's all I can think of at the moment - good luck with it :)
My strategy would be to listen or pretend to listen, agree, and... do my own way. And remember Mary Poppins - "I never explain anything". You don't HAVE TO explain anything.
I know how feel in regards to being a first time mum and being constantly told what you should and shouldn't be doing.
Totally agree with MumOfTwoBoys:thumbsup:
Tell them politeley that this is MY baby and I will raise MY baby how I want.
Thanks everyone. I think I'm just going to have to learn to not care what other people say so much, it's just hard sometimes when you're already feeling insecure and unsure and then someone makes fun of the way you choose to bring up your kids.
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