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If I wasn't so sleep deprived I could wreak some havoc.
You know how the middies and advice books say to limit your chocolate and sugar intake whilst breastfeeding? Turns out babies don't actually develop an immunity to caffeine and sugar in the womb, even if you are in the habit of eating half a family block of dairy milk in one sitting quite frequently.
Now I know that large amounts of chocolate mean not only do I get fat, I get no sleep, projectile regurgitated on, grizzled at all night, and generally feel like a bad mother.
What if....what if....what if my baby turns out to be a health nut? What will I do??????????
Hi m_jelly! :wave: Great to have another October mum here! I tried posting a thread here about 7 times and it didn't work :gloomy: Glad we have an October thread now (not that there was anything wrong with the September ladies though!)...
Turns out babies don't actually develop an immunity to caffeine and sugar in the womb, even if you are in the habit of eating half a family block of dairy milk in one sitting quite frequently I know... such a shame hey! I haven't been game enough to have more than a party size twix and a can of diet coke...hours apart from each other!
Well we're an October baby too, but I was just sticking to the September threads :o
Eternity
20-10-2006, 22:35
Im an october mummy too!! Due date was september but little girl decided to arrive 11 days late:) So how is everyone coping?? Im a first time mum and just loving motherhood, other than the lack of sleep but everyday is getter better and better we even have a bit of a routine going on now 4th night in a row she has gone to sleep at 10.30pm waking at 3.30ish a 30min feed and nappy change and shes straight back asleep to wake again at about 7ish so after the first few weeks of having a noctural baby im one happy mumma:yes: Feeling so blessed to have a beautiful baby girl M_jelly I hear you on the dairy milk!! I ate a block of peppermint chocky in one sitting regularly:eek: hence my 30kilo weight gain have lost 15 kilos already so 15 to go:) Look forward to chatting to all u october mums
Hi girls. ANother October mum here. I recognise a few of you from the due in October thread too.
How is everyone enjoying being a mum???? I love it (most of the time) ....occasionally have my melt downs and thoughts of "this is too hard", but other than that it is GREAT!!!
Chlesea has a bit of conjnctivits and constipation (bottle fed) at the moment, but other than that she is doing great.
Cant wait to get to know you all and share mother tips and stories :wave:
Little Abbey is gaining lots of weight - even has a few chins now! I haven't taken her in to be weighed, but I can tell there is certainly nothing wrong with my milk or the amount she's getting!
Only troubles we are having are:
Regurgitation: I won't call it reflux because its nowhere near as serious as some other babies have, and it barely bothers her. It bothers me though - I spend soooo long putting all that milk in, and then it comes straight back out! I don't usually fill her up again straight away, I wait until she's hungry again. I think she's doing it because she gets hiccups so often, and sometimes its my fault. Like last night I put her on my shoulder to wrap a blanky around her, my boob pressed her belly, and blah :barf: down my back. Nice!
She's supposed to get 2 breasts if she wants them isn't she? She finishes one and if she's still awake and hungry I give her the second. I know she's her mother's daughter, but isn't it a bit early to establish a binge and purge routine?
Hiccups: 4 or 5 times a day! She gulps so much air that she is guaranteed hiccups at least this often, which of course doesn't help in keeping milk down.
Bathtime: She HATES it! She doesn't like being dressed and undressed, which is fine, but she really lets me know how much she hates her bath. I was wondering - what temp do you use? I bought a baby bath thermometer and it says 35deg is good, but it feels rather cool to me, and Abbey obviously doesn't like it. Maybe a hotter bath would cause less tension?
Shopping: She likes this slightly more than her bath, but not by much. We went shopping yesterday - the pram ride was ok for her, she went to sleep, but anytime I stop or go into a supermarket (still moving through the ailes) she gets very loud. I tried putting her on her tummy in her pram so she could superman around, but it didnt really help. When we got home all she wanted was snuggles, and refused to sleep in her cot. She had to have her nap on my chest while I was watching tv, and she even had a little nightmare! Tell me, what does a newborn baby know to have nightmares about?? Surely shopping isn't that bad!
We've both been getting enough sleep I think - my mum is always reminding me to take a daytime nap but I don't always need one as Abbey usually sleeps 3 hour sets from 9pm-9am, and only wakes for a 20 minute feed in between. She's pretty good at self-settling herself, provided its something she can fix herself, like a burp. She was having a good 5 hour sleep most nights, but she seems to have given that up for now. Hopefully my being happy with her sleeping routine doesn't mean she will up and change.:rolleyes:
Eternity
21-10-2006, 17:20
ok so how many of you are using the feed, play sleep routine, cause DD just wants it to go play feed sleep!! Every book I read recomends this but it just doesnt work for us, she is sleeping well so Im wondering if I should even worry??
Well we havent had a trip out yet on our own may sound silly but I feel nervous taking her out on my own with out hubby I worry I could have a car accident and silly things like that Im so over protective:o
Well i have my second child health appointment monday and I know she has gained more weight cause she doesnt fit her bonds 0000 wondersuit anymore
on the regurgataion business Bub hasnt vomited once yet! and doesnt seem to get much wind either so I am lucky so far with that, I ha a big scare this morning and it will NEVER happen again her early morning feed I put her ion my bed to feed lying down and drifted off accidently dont know how long id been asleep must have been more than half an hour cause I woke up and she had a pillow covering her head and sweat beads all over her head she was sound asleep I was so upset and felt like the worst mother I would have killed my baby but relieved she was breathing and ok :) I will never co sleep and always feed her upright now
Hi Girls
I'm so excited, I've just found this thread - yaaaayyy!!!
Although I had Lily on 28/9, I think I'll stick with this Oct Mummy thread if you guys dont mind, as I recognise the names here!
It will be soooo nice to talk to others going thru the same things on here. I feel relieved having found this thread.
M_jelly - I hear you on the hiccups subject, Lily has them at least 3 times a day & also had them heaps before she was born. It apparently doesnt stress them or anything, but does mean they bring up their milk a bit. I've found holding her high over my shouler after feeds for a little while helps a bit.
BrookeC - All the stuff about establishing routines seems to say feed, play, sleep, but it seems pretty hard working it that way. Lily gets so sleepy on the boob that it's hard sometimes keeping her awake. At other times she's really whingy afterwards. Maybe it's still too early trying to set too much of a routine, I'm not sure.
Anyway, again, I'm so glad I've found you guys. Hope you have a nice, relaxing Sunday.
PS Just tried putting up a photo of Lily but it didnt work - will try again another time.
PPS - Brooke, that must have been a huge scare for you, waking up with bubs head under a pillow. Dont feel too badly about it, at least bubby was ok & nothing happened. :)
Dangerkitty
22-10-2006, 17:03
Well at this stage I'm an October mum, howerver my DS is due late. The 28th, so I might end up a November mum! THought I'd post here to start. I'm definatley looking forwad to this baby getting here. I'm well over being pregnant!! Hope you all are doing well!!
Eternity
22-10-2006, 18:32
well we had our first family outing today. we went to church and then to aunty and uncles house for lunch then shopping with mummy!! she was such a good girl we arrived at the shops and was a little grizzly so we went to the mothers room and had a 20min feed and then slept for the rest of the shopping trip.I brought some new clothes cause I didnt fit anything:banghead: I did feel guilty though dragging her in and out of the car all day I hope she isnt unsettled tonight:fingerscrossed:
Annp- welcome its lovely to meet you Of course you can chat here in the october thread we need all the company we can get in here :laughing: we swapped due dates I was meant to be a september mummy
Dangerkitty- oh i so know how you feel the last stages of pregnancy are the worst I was the most impaitent pregnant woman and nothing anyone said made me feel better I was just over it and wanted my baby out:eek:
well bubba is a calling hope you are doing well
Love Brookexoxox
Good morning all. Hope you all had a good night.
Chelsea has her day and night routine all mixed up!!!! She sleeps for hours during the day and is awake most of the night :no:
DP starts back at work today :eek: so i am going to try and sort her routine out :fingerscrossed: Hopefully now that it is just me and her at home we can finally get things sorted out.
Have a good day ladies and babies :)
We don't follow a feed play sleep routine as such... I think she is a little young for it. Olivia tends to feed then sleep straight away for the first 2 feeds in the morning, then has an awake/alert stretch for about 2-3 hours, then sleeping again. I just watch her cues for wether she is tired etc. At night, her last feed is about 9 and she sleeps until 2:30-3:00 20 minute feed and then sleeps again until 6. So I can't complain at all!
M_Jelly, Olivia sounds just like your little one in regards to the hiccuping and vommiting! Although, we have some major projectile action around here every now and again! With the bath, I don't use a thermometer, I just test it with my elbow... I make it fairly warm, otherwise she screams! Most of the ladies in the Sept thread say that a little warmer than the testers works better for their bubs.
She's supposed to get 2 breasts if she wants them isn't she? She finishes one and if she's still awake and hungry I give her the second. I know she's her mother's daughter, but isn't it a bit early to establish a binge and purge routine? lol!
Yep, 2 breasts if they want. I was finding that Olivia would often be really unsettled after one, so I would offer the other and she would take it but then be more unsettled and vomit. It turns out she just was uncomfortable with wind and then would eat too much, making it worse :o So I play it by ear if I offer the second breast or not iykwim.
Did anyone else get labia/internal stitches? How are they feeling now? Mine are still hurting heaps bad :gloomy: I would have thought they would be alot better by now (Olivia is 3 weeks old tomorrow)
Okay, nap time for me! Hope u are all going well!
SalTheGal
23-10-2006, 13:56
Hey girls,
just quickly posting a hello as bubby Nedd is starting to stir for a feed.
He was born 19/10, so at not yet a week old we are on a massive learing curve at the moment!
Can't wait to chat with everyone, being a 1st time mum I am going to lap up all the info I can get- there is so much figure out!!!
Well best be going, chat soon
:D Sal
Hello all, like Ann mine is a September bub but as I have been chatting to you all in the October thread before Jordan was born, am going to keep on the October theme...
Ali3099 - what formula are you using? Apparently there is one that is reknown for constipation. Jordan is bottle fed (due to his problems at birth) and has no problems with that end of him!!! LOL!!! I think you just need to find th right formula.
Has anyone heard from Kirsten and how her bub is going?
Well Jordan is going well. Was weighed on Friday and is now 4.880 kgs. Growing boy!
His only issue is wind. I am trying to feed him with the bottle properly (I think) with the teet all filled with milk and holding him at a 45 degree angle but still he get massive amounts of wind. Always has. Even when I tried to breastfeed he used to have wind - out the bottom end at that!!! I can try to burp him for ages and still nothing happens until he is uncomfortable and then he lets them all go about 2 hours after a feed. If this didn't happen he would sleep for about 5 hours non-stop. Does anyone have any suggestions on wind?
Well our pool is ready for swimming, although I won't be in there for a while - has to be really hot for me to get in! We only have to concrete around the outside and all finished.
Hey for something really scary - 8 weeks to Christmas!!! YIKES! No I am not a nut case, just that my step daughter is arriving from NZ that day and she is counting the days down until she gets here and finally meets her baby brother.
Ann, how is Lily - Jordans cyber early twin? How are you recovering from your c-section?
Well I had better head off - need to put dinner on and Jordan's next feed is due at 6pm.
Take care all and will write more soon. Hopefully will be on again more often now that Jordan is sleeping a lot more and the visitors have calmed right down.
Love
Lucy
xxxx
Hi All
Just thought I would jump in and see how everyone in here is going. I will be an October Mum very very shortly! I am really hoping I go naturally tomorrow but if not we are trying for an induction on Wednesday so hopefully should be posting here regularly soon!
I have no idea what I am doing with babies - I haven't spent much time reading books etc as I don't want to get too many preconceptions before I start but I guess like many of you it is a learning curve and we will all get there soon - we wouldn't expect to walk in and do a completely new job proficiently from scratch would we!
Oh well good luck to all ans I am sure I will be back in here posting soon!
Morning ladies. A parents group hey. SCARY SCARY.
Trying to type one handed atm. James is being a little bugger and not sleeping alot but he makes up for it by being so cute.
Hes also been a bit constipated so am trying him on COLOXYL drops to help him out. Hes on KARICARE GOLD formula atm and I was thinking of changing it but he is bringing up all his wind and not bringing up his milk so I dont want change just incase it plays up with everything.
Ok so I am totally buggered. Not sleeping alot but it only affects me of a night, once the suns up, I forget I havent slept and just get on with the day..
Better run, take care..
Rian + James
Is it just me or does a cool breeze create a wet shirt for everyone? I feel so pretty!
My little Thunderbum is napping at the moment - I can't for the life of me work out her routine, it seems to change every day! Either she sleeps all day and all night, or she looks at me for hours on end, alternating between making beak and duck faces, then has a grumpy night because of gas.
I can't wait until she is old enough to play, so I have to resort to one-sided games where she waits patiently for me to get bored and leave her alone.
Brooke - what type of games do you play in your routine? Abbey tends to fall asleep straight after a feed too, and I'm loathe to rouse her.
I've got her mattress elevated at the moment, but forgot about the Angelcare detector pad underneath. Of course, its no longer positioned correctly, and the alarm went off last night. I have never moved so fast in my life, poking her to make sure she was alive! I think I will completely freak out the first night she sleeps through to morning.
Last night we tried a warmer bath, quite warm and pleasant. I even got a second opinion on the heat as I am notorious for my lukewarm water preferences. Nope, she still screamed and screamed. How dare I take her clothes off and put her in that stuff??
So I thought I would give her a relaxing massage....the only benefit was that she smelled nice when I was done, and was worn out enough to sleep for 4 hours. I'm sure these things will become more satisfying - eventually!
I'm also planning on teaching her sign language as soon as she can control her hands a bit better. Hopefully nobody teaches her the signs for "get away from me you crazy woman".
hey all
I was still posting in ther other october thread and now i have found you guys i am so excited
Montanah had her 1st early childhood nurse visit today at 10am she she has not grown enough and needs to be seen again on friday to make sure she is growing properly but other than thet she is good i will come back to read messages later we are going out for lunch now so take care all
It sounds like everyone is enjoying motherhood!!
lucy72 I started out with s26, then switched to s26 gold but that made no difference. After looking in the formula fed baby thread I am now thinking of trying NAN. WHat brand are you using?? I hope I find one that CHelsea likes soon, I hate changing them all the time.......
rian083 How are the coloxyl drops going? No one has suggested these to me..... every midwife I have asked has given me a different answer (boiled water, boiled water with brown sugar, prune juice diluted in boiled water) but nothing seems to be working. Do you reccommend the drops???? I am getting desperate!!!! Poor little Chelsea can be in SO much pain at times :thumbsdown:
Speak of the devil....nap time is over. Will be back later to do more personals. Enjoy your afternoon!!
Briannabear
24-10-2006, 13:22
Hey guys!! Just wanted to pop my head in and say hi to everyone!:wave:
Hope all these gorgeous bubbas are behaving today! ;)
Lachlan is a dream! Its sooooooooo much easier second time around! He's just so easy going - and a complete booby boy. (just like his daddy ...hahaha!)
Brianna is settling in quite well. She adores Lachie, but gets really frustrated that I cant pick her up.
Ali - whats the age difference in your two? How do you handle the adjustment with them? (that goes for any second or more time mummies too!)
Bye for now...... :D
Eternity
24-10-2006, 13:28
Oh what a night !! just as i thought we had a good steady routine she decides to change it:fingerscrossed: it was just a unsettled day and night yesterday. She decided to stay awake from 5 pm till 12.00pm to have a feeding frenzy:banghead: she fianlly drifted off only to wake every two hours for boobie and she was really restless while she was asleep,Might be the 3 week growth spurt I have heard people talking about:confused:
Anyway she is sound alseep atm and I have been cleaning all morning I should really sleep too im like you rian083 I forget I havent slept and get on with the day then at night I wish I had stopped and had a cat nap. but there is just so much to do and know I have guests coming today aswell
M_jelly - I hear you about looking forward to bubby being able to play, you cant play much with a newborn so its more like wake time at the moment a few play activites I do are smiling,talking,singing to her and gently moving her arms and legs and of course cuddling her just the obvious really I also try and give her a little time alone to watch her mobile or sit in her bouncer she seems to enjoy those but she doesnt sit in it too long. She absoulety loves her bath too I just gently sway her in the water she seems to complety relax and she loves a massage i rub moisturier in her legs while breastfeeding and she stretches them right out so cute
I cant manage to get her into feed play sleep she has the first two mixed up or she will feed play feed sleep I would love to be able to get this down pat so she doesnt have to rely on boobie for sleep it would be nice for her to learn that she doesnt need me to be able to sleep, but shes only 3 weeks Im sure she will naturally fall into this routine with my guidence
But overall I LOVE being a mummy the best job I have ever had and also the hardest sending you girls lots of sleep dust!!
Love Brooke xoxo
hello again
well i am back typing one handed because baby elmo will wake with a bell ache as soo as i lay her down can anyone help me she is on the heinz formula atm but keeps bring it up and is suffering realy bad wind pains and screams after every bottle the only way to stop her is to lay her on her belly but i am not a fan of that i am thinking of changing her formula but what to and what can you give them at 2 weeks for wind pains and vomiting PLEASE HELP ME i know it probely soundfunny coming from a mum of 4 but my others were not like this they were not sicky babys at all
thank you in advance for any replys
Ali- not sure if drops are working but will let u know how they go. Jmaes has only been on them for 24 hours but is still unsettled so maybe his prob wasnt constipation.
Lesley- When I was in the chemist the other day I seen alot of stuff for wind so maybe have a look in there. Also if bubs seems to have reflux maybe try a different formula, one I use to use is s26 AR for bubs with reflux. HTH
Brooke- I have been using "growth spurts" as an excuse for bubby being a little $hite for the last 2 weeks. He is going to end up a big boy...lol. This is my third and I have no idea how to settle him.. GGGRRRR where my instruction manual???!!!
Briannabear- So glad Lachlan is a good baby and that Briannas enjoying him. Give her a few weeks weeks an you'll be swing her around again....
Mjelly-. Babies never seem to enjoy the things that "books say" they should. "Take ther nappy off they will like it" NOT. They seem to scream the house down...lol
Ok so I am buggered and after the last few days I have had, I am about ready to leave dh. Btter get some rest before the next feed.
Take care
Rian + James
one hand typing happening here as jordan is in my arms!! sorry for mistakes/no capitals too hard...
Ali, Jordan is on NAN gold. Be careful as there is also a silver one which i got by accident and doesn't seem to be as good. The gold has a goldlid and the silver a silver lid - DOH!! I have increased his feeds to 150 mls every 5 hours which is good giving me an extra hour of sleep! yippee!
Only 2 1/2 weeks left until i can get out of this house! can't wait. pain in the butt not beng able to drive. tomorrow might take jordan for a walk around the block to get some sanity.
Back to normal now as Jordan is sound asleep and have put him to bed.
I too can't wait for Jodan to be old enough to play a bit. He has an attention span of zero, and loves looking at colours and lights. he readily recognises mine and my hubby's voice which is cool to see. Whenever we walk into a room and talk he acknowledges us.
Brooke, I have been told by a friend of mine, who works at a well known parenting / baby centre that bubs ally do not get a true routine until at least 6 weeks as they are getting used to everything. So until then I feed to a maximum of 150mls and see what happens. If he is tired I put him to bed, if he is awake I will lay him on the floor for some tummy time and "play" time or in his bouncer.
What I am getting sick of is the advice from people - well unwanted advice. I am still learning as I have never been a mother before and I know at times I do the wrong thing but hey I learn and next time I am better and know what to do. Today I had nearly lost it with my Mum.
I had to laugh in hospital as well as she was there every visiting hour and this seemed to be when Jordan slept. I was so tired and needed to sleep and all the time Mum kept telling me that this was the time for me to get some rest - how could I when she was always there!!!! AARRGGHH!!! that reminds me I might head over and put Jordan's birth story on here....
Well am off now - my whinge for the da.
Sleep vibes to all bubs and to mums as well.
Lucy
Briannabear
25-10-2006, 08:01
Lesley - Brianna had terrible wind pains as a little baby and we used homeopathic drops for it. 'The Rainbow Brand - Baby soothing syrup' (i think it was called), was the best. You get it from health food shops.
Hope it gets better soon.:hugs:
Will be back later to do more personals...
Hi all!
I started Sammy on a 'no feed for at least 2 hours' routine yesterday and he is sleeping peoperly. Although, I am a terrible mother because I gave in and bought him a dummy. Either that or he's hanging off me 24/7. I'm very lucky that he's happy with a bottle, forumla, breast and dummy. Nothing seems to phase him.
Lesley - Have you tried good old fashioned Gripe Water? Sammy had it before 2 weeks (almost 3 weeks now). The pharmacy sold me some for Sammy because he had terrible wind. Also, I rolled up two cloth nappies on either side of him and slept him on his side. That seemed to help heaps - he screamed when placed on his back. You can also buy another product that you give them before each feed. Can't remember what it is called but it helps them burp. I found the Gripe Water more effective though.
lucy72 - I have had so many conflicting pieces of advice it isn't funny. Several people told me it isn't possible to run out of milk and not to give Sammy a bottle but I had gastro and was chronically dehydrated. I gave him two bottles of formula until I could produce more milk and he is fine for it. Loved it, even! From now on I'm trusting my own instincts.
rian - You sound like you could use a break. Any chance someone could look after bub while you spend some time having a long hot soak or grabbing a cuppa somewhere? I had a couple of bad days where I teared up because I wasn't feeling well - hopefully today will be better for you.
BrookeC - I don't want to know about a 3 week growth spurt - I thought I finally had my bub figured out! Sounds like you are going through the same thing as I am. I spent yesterday making Sammy wait longer between feeds and it seemed to help. He used to stay awake heaps too.
bella's dad
25-10-2006, 08:33
Hi Ladies,
My partner gave birth to a beautiful baby girl on the5/10/06. We have been going through all sorts of emotions with her. She will be an angel one day and then the next, no matter what we do she does not want to settle.
She was not keen on a bath when we first arrived home, so I took her into the shower with me. She absolutely loves the shower and calms down as soon as the water hits her little tummy. Since she has been in the shower, she now seems to handle the bath well also.
Mum has been a little stressed as she is lacking sleep, but between us we are managing.
I am here as we don't have a computer at home, so I am getting all the info I can whilst I am at work and then we try things when I get home.
Hope it all goes well for everyone. Speak to you all soon
Good morning... morning is it????
Well jordan has had the last 2 nights not really sleeping at all and I am going stir crazy!!! I just get him settled and he wakes. I have tried wrapping him, changing his nappy, feeding him and burping him, so I think the 3 week growth does happen (Jordan will be 4 weeks on Friday - welcome Frday!!!).
I think I might try the gripe water. Jordan does get rid of his wind, but sometimes not until 2-3 hours after his feed. He is a lazy sod. Then he is waking to find himself hungry. Then will not go back to sleep.
Jen, I am going by my instincts. Mum feels the need to come up quite a bit to "help me out" but really at the end of the day she is causing me more work. I just don't know how to tell her.
Welcome Bella's Dad. Bathing is not fun in this house hold! He loves to sway arond in the water but start to wash him and he screams (I honestly think the neighbours think there is a murder going on in this house!!!! LOL). Sway him again and he settles. You can't win!
well I am off for some breakky. DH is still sleeping as he is working afternoons at the moment and doesn't start until 2pm - gets home just past midnight.
Love to you all and will hop on again soon - if Jordan co-operates.
Lucy
bella's dad - A midwife told me to put a cloth nappy over Sammy's stomach in the bath and to keep wetting it as it keeps them warm. He used to hate the bath but now loves it. Might help!
lucy72 - I know the feeling - for me it is endless visitors that are in the way when I need to feed. And you'd think they could make their own coffee!
jessgray
25-10-2006, 09:38
hi guys:)
i'm joining you all with my ds2 TJ:D
bella's dad - i was also told a similar thing that jeffy said but you can also use face washers i did for ds1 although he is now afraid of water but thats different story all together lol
Jen, I left the coffee and tea bags on the bench - when people arrive I tell them to help themselves!!! It is funny as I was told before the c-section that people will come over and offer help - still waiting. All they come to see is Jordan and have a coffee and then leave - none of this helping me get in the washing or helping me with the dishes, they are left for me - thank god my DH has been absolutely wonderful!
Hi Jess and welcome back! Easier to post here now than going between all the threads!
Eternity
25-10-2006, 10:32
I just spent 1/2 hour writting up personals only to loose it all:banghead:
I couldnt be bothered doing it all again.
Hope all of you with wind problems with your bubbys find something that works, it must be horrible to see you little one in so much pain.:crying:
Sophia has been quite good last night she slept all afternoon and early evening so i thought i would be in for a restless night she woke 3 hourly but went straight back to sleep after her feed:thumbsup: i even put her to bed awake now thats a 1st for us.
hope u all got a goods night sleep i dont think anyone can quite understand just how good sleep is untill they have had a baby:laughing:
Oh my goodness it has been busy in here!!!
Just have time for a few personals.....little miss is due for a feed and starting to stir.
lucy72 I bought NAN yesterday and am starting Chelsea on it today. The tin says it is NAN gold, but it has a grey/silver lid?????
Briannabear There is a 6yr age difference between my 2 girls. DD1 is being such a great help! THere are times when I notice her acting a little differently then I try and give her ALL my attention and she soon comes around. At the moment I am finding it really hard in the mornings getting her ready for school (her school is half hour away) and feeding Chelsea, but hopefully we will soon get into a routine. If we dont I am trying to stay positive because there is only 8 weeks left until the end of the school year......
Rian I bought some drops yesterday and have put some in 2 of her bottles.... hopefully they work!!!
Well now I am in real trouble with little miss chelsea.....its lunch time!!!!
Hello!!!
Long time no chat to you all! I've missed you! I've been trying to get on here for a week but just haven't had a spare minute - was either desperately trying to catch up on sleep, or feeding or cuddling an unsettled bub. I have to work out how I can feed him and log on and type at the same time, he seems to hate both slings that I've got :rolleyes: , so I have to figure something else out!
Jethro was born on Friday 13th October by emergency c-section after being induced at 6pm on the 12th Oct when I was 2 weeks overdue. Labour started at about 11pm on the 12th and they broke my waters at 8am on the 13th only to find thick meconium :gloomy: , so there went my hopes of a natural, water birth in the Birth Centre. I got put on the Syntocinon drip in the Labour Ward and all went pearshaped from there (was strapped to bed all day, had to have epi due to incredible pain from bub's head position, epi didn't work and needed top up, ended up paralysed in arms and legs and hard to breathe, bubs heart rate kept dropping and had to be monitored with clip in his scalp all day, the list goes on :no:). They still had me labour all day and I was fully dilated by 5pm, but it turned out bubs head was flexed and spine to spine (had been all day - hence the pain) so in the end they had to do a c-section. I found the birth incredibly traumatic, it was so far from the empowering, calm, loving birth I wanted to give my baby - I felt degraded, humiliated, terrified, unsafe, and useless - and I'm still trying to process it, but I'll post my full birth story in the birth stories thread when I get a chance.
ANYWAY I've been home for a week and while Jethro is just gorgeous and I love him to bits, I'm finding this motherhood thing a bit tough...he's been a bit unsettled, doesn't want to sleep in his bassinet, breastfeeding has been a real challenge as my milk is only just coming in now (due to the c-section they think), and feeding is really painful due to nipple thrush. I'm feeding Jethro every 2-4 hours and he has the 'required' amount of wet nappies etc, but he's only gained 65g since discharge from hospital a week ago, soI feel like I'm starving him, so I'm a bit of an emotional wreck right now! Had a visit from the early childhood nurse today who says the weight gain could be better, but at least he isn't LOSING weight, so fingers crossed things will be better this time next week :fingerscrossed:
Will do some personals next time!
Afternoon all.
Last night was the worst night so far. I ended up driving to the local truck servo @ 3am and sitting in the car park crying for an hour because bubby was awake all night and DH wasnt tending to my needs (me being a sook). I ended up sleeping from 4 30 am til 630 am so better than nothing.
I went out and brought James a ridiculously expensive fisher price Nature swing that does everything but cook toast. I am too scared to use it atm...lol
I have decided today to start controlled crying with James today and see how it goes. Hes eating plenty, bringing up his wind and ppoing like a champ now but still wont settle so I think this is the best thing for us.
Sorry to be a post hog..
Kimba- Glad to see you back hunny. Its a shame you didnt get the birth you wanted but Jethro is just gorgeous..
Ali- Can you let me know how the NAN goes. I was recommened it today by a friends mum who said she raised her kids on it and never had problems so I might give it a go..
Brooke- :yelclap: on the sleep. Give me some :D
Lucy- I just had MIL here for nearly 2 weeks grrrr. I got endless amounts of coffee made for me but she never did my dishes :crying: lol
Welcome Jess and TJ.
Ok so I better head off now.. Lots of sleep vibes to all....
Rian + James
SalTheGal
25-10-2006, 17:08
Hi girls,
Firstly RIAN big big :hugs: to you. I know it is probably no consolation but I know how you feel re DH. I have jsut hit the baby blues and actually gave DF a pamphlet to read a couple of days ago- so he knew what to expect, well that went in one ear and out the other!! Last night we had a tiff and I got so upset, then sat outside for an hour balling my eyes out, only to have him come out (inbetween ad breaks cause his shows were on), and basically tell me to get over it!!!! MEN- I tell ya- where do they come from?!?!
Kimba- I am hearing you re the feeding too, I am going through hell with feeding at the moment, my milk has come in over the last few days too, and my boobs are so full and hard that Nedd finids it impossible to latch on. It takes roughly 30-45mins just for him to latch, then the little bugger proceeds to fall asleep. I am spending about two hours just feeding. :sleeping:
I had the nurse out yesterday and she actually said that she is generally happy with a 60g wieght gain (my little budda has gained 200g :eek: ), so I wouldnt stress too much.
And it sounds like you went through such a rough time with your birth- atleast you have your gorgeous bub with you now, and things can only get easier.
Lesley- I have been using BRAUER infant drops- they are homeopathic and work amazingly.
Bellas dad- how old was bub when you went in the shower? Nedd enjoys his bath but DF would probably love to take him in the shower!
Lucy- I know what you mean bout your mum, mine calls like three times a day, it is getting exhausting telling her the same thing everytime cause not much changes in three hours!!!
Jeffy- Dont feel bad bout the dummy- Nedd had his at three days!!!! I only give it to him if I know he is full up just to settle him- but I'd be going insane without it.
All is going good here- Apart from being an emotional wreck the last day or so- baby blues have hit. but it comes and goes, this morning I was a mess, this afternoon I have been fine, so just working through it. And after DF stint last night he has been better today so hopefully he pulls his socks up and stays that way!!!
Feeding is SOOOO hard, but I know it will get better (it will right?!?) so just trying to be patient. My boobs are soooo sore, nipples tender, and breasts FULL- I feel like I am about a size G!!! I am using the cabbage leaves to ease the pain, and it seems to be getting better, so hopefully will have settled down in a day or two. And cause Nedd is having trouble attachinig and it is taking so long I am feeling a bit exhausted. But having siad that he is sleeping for atleast three hours between feeds- so can't complain too much, and settles really well- I am blessed there.
As for routine- what routine?!?! At 1week old I am just getting through each day without worrying bout routines!!!
Well tea is nearly done and the budda is waking for his dinner- so better get going.
Take care everyone, sleep long tonight bubbas for your mummies!!!!
:hugs: Sal
SalTheGal
25-10-2006, 17:15
Sorry- Just me again:
I forgot to ask-
Can anyone give me a heads up on foods to aviod while BF? Someone mentioned to me today you shouldnt' eat cabbage- I had no idea?!?! Shouldn't somebody tell you this stuff!!! Is there other things I need to avoid too? Thanks!!
:confused:
Sal, Evan thought I only b/fed for just over a week. I heard that you can pretty much eat anything you want in moderation. Bare in mind if you get heart burn from having a hot curry than best avoid it.
Well, sorry if TMI but I had chronic diarrhea again today (5 days in a row!). I had to send DH down to the pharmacy to get me some drugs!:eek: Thank god you can take something for it these days. So, my boob-juice failed again and I had to resort to another bottle this morning. Then, this afternoon after I had drunk twenty-million gatorades, I sat sobbing with bub until I realised nothing was coming out. So I have bitten the bullett and switched to formula feeding. I feel really bad about it but I promised myself I'd try to breastfeed for two weeks and at least I have surpassed that. I am feeling very emotional right now because all the information you are given is that breast is best and I feel like I have failed completely.
Anyhow - at least bubba has had a good feed and is getting some sleep. I had to give him gripe water again tonight but it worked wonder to bring up his wind.
lucy - my mum and mother-in-law have been wonderful. Everyone else is going to have to make their own - that is a great idea leaving it all on the bench! The MIL gave DH $100 today and is coming over to babysit tomorrow night as it is our 7th wedding anniversary. And we thought we'd be sitting on the couch eating frozen fish and veg again! So, I get to go out for a nice evening (but I know I will freak about Sammy the whole time).
kimbaleo - good to see you again! Sounds like you had a completely **** time of it. I think I was very, very lucky. Jethro isn't losing weight, so he is fine! You are doing a great job! The Midcall midwife told me they usually spend the first 3 weeks regaining lost weight.
Kimbaleo & Rian - Rian, you are not a sook. I am the least emotional chick you would ever meet but have cried almost everyday since I had Sam as I have been sick, tired, having trouble with boob-juice production...it is all normal, so don't beat yourself up. I have had bub in bed with me to feed and he also hates being in the bassinet - always wants to be held. It is slowly getting better though. I bought two baba slings (one for DH) but Sammy hates it. I went out yesterday and bought a front carrier pouch (don't know what brand but it was $80) and Sammy loves it!
Ask for help if anyone has offered. I refused to but DH did it for me. I wasn't coping, DH called his mum (the night my doggy got put to sleep I was also quite sick). Best thing we could have done. I had my mother over one morning and MIL that afternoon. Gave me a good break.
Sal - Routine?! I feel lucky to be dressed by 11. Most of the time I can't remember what day it is and I think it is later than it really is!
I just had to say that this forum has been a godsend. All the advice I have been given is ridiculous - what I get from you guys is actually practical and makes sense, so thankyou all.
Briannabear
25-10-2006, 20:06
Sal - As far as foods to avoid while breastfeeding are concerned, the basic rule is that if it gives you wind (or indigestion etc) than it will do the same to your baby. Eg, garlic, onion, cabbage, cauliflower, spicy food, sometimes even milk and chocolate. Once you've been feeding for a while you'll work out what are triggers for your baby.
Kimba - So sorry to hear your birth didnt go to plan. I completely understand what you are going through because I too had a traumatic first birth. It really helps to talk about it and also to write it down. Trust me it does get better, I know its really hard to see that far ahead right now. I thought Id never want to have another baby because it was such an awful birth experience, but as time goes on and you heal emotionally as well as physically your thoughts change.
Please PM me if you'd like to chat about it, or if you'd just like to vent. Im here for you. :hugs:
Bella's Dad - Hi and welcome!!
Jeffy - As mum's we beat ourselves up over everything dont we!! Please dont feel like a failure because of the bottle or the dummy. You love your baby and you're doing the right thing - thats all that matters. (and trust me, as a mum of a thumb sucker, a dummy in my opinion is much better! We've definately given Lachlan a dummy this time!)
I hope you feel better soon.
And to everyone who is feeling tired and emotional at the moment, big hugs to you all. :hugs: Im feeling a bit that way at the moment too. Trust me it does get better!
good evening...
Ali, they both are called gold. the one I have found better is the one with the gold stripes on the tin at the top and bottom. The powder is funny, it actually makes my blood run cold, is like corn flour consistancy. The silver lidded one has a green stripe at the bottom. The powder is more granular and more of a powder. Very confusing.... Big W sell the better one for about $19 per tin (on special this week so going in to stock up!) while the other on is about $16-$17 per tin. Maybe Chelsea may like the one you bought, try her on it. Jordan has been so unsettled the past few days and it wasn't until I realised that there was a difference in the powder that I realised this must have been why he suddenly went from a great baby sleeping, pooing and removing wind very well, to an unsettled bub. I changed back to the better formula last night and it seems to have done the trick. Tonight I put him down at 7pm and usually he is awake about 10:30pm for a feed... still up waiting for that last nightly feed so I can head to bed!!!
Well better head off as Jordan has just woken for a feed then I am off to bed :sleeping: . Will do more personals tomorrow.
Lucy
xxxx
Morning everyone!
Oh it's so good to be back, I've decided that I HAVE to log on here at least once or twice a day just for my own sanity :yes: Jethro is sleeping at the moment but I bet he wakes up now, he has a 6th sense I think LOL.
Thanks for your support everyone re: the birth, it certainly shocked me and I'm trying to deal with it as best I can. Speaking of emotions I think I've been through more emotions in the past 2 weeks than in my whole life put together! Not a day goes by without crying about something (either happy, sad, frustrated, or all 3!) so it's good to hear that others are the same.
Becca - I finally got a chance to sit down and write out my birth story yesterday afternoon, been trying to do it for a week since getting home but never had enough time to just sit and type and let the tears flow. Funny though because I do want another baby despite it all!
oops baby crying (see, told you! :laughing: ) will be back later to say hi to the rest of you...
Back again - Jordan was a dream last night. Makes such a difference when you have the right formula!!!!
Kimba, my heart goes out to you with your birth. It is good you are thinking of another and it totally did not put you off. Keep your chin up - it does get better (so they say). The main thing is that Jethro is here safe and sound. :hugs:
Rian, oh the tears and hormones. Mine came on in hospital. I would cry at anything. Then when I couldn't breast feed every time it came to feeding Jordan I was in tears again. He would sream I was crying - very pretty sight!
Jeffy, don't worry about using a dummy. If it helps then use it. My DH before Jordan was born was no way our bub will use a dummy, but he has now seen how much it pacifies Jordan. He had it from day 1 in hospital as it helped with sucking and get all the gunk out of his lungs and help him breathe when he was born and in special care. Jordan will spit it out if he doesn't want it but will also take it when he is upset to help him.
I can also empathise with you on the breast feeding front. Jordan will be 4 weeks old tomorrow and every time I tell someone he is bottle fed I feel the need to have to explain why and that I wanted to breast feed and tried but the connection just wasn't there for us and it was affecting both of us. Now he is bottle fed he is so much happier, I am enjoying being together with him and I don't feel like every time I am with him it is a battle. I was on the verge of a breakdown. I now get smiles from him and he laughs with me and even started to poke his tongue out at me!!! So cute.
Jeffy, have a great night out for your weding anniversary. To make me feel better I always come up with a positive to bottle feeding and yours today is that you can go out and have a lovely dinner with a nice glass of wine. Relax and enjoy. :hugs:
Well I better be off and hae a shower before bub wakes. going to Big W to stock up on the right formula!!!
Haven't had a hance to write out my birth story but will one day! Mine was very clinical! Not what I wanted at all.
Lucy
My baby is asleep and I am happy! Had a dream night last night. Sammy slept in his cradle and I didn't have to contort my body in order to keep him in bed with me. Sam loves the bottle and seems so much more relaxed and happy now. I am still expressing a bit each feed time to relieve engorgement, so he is sitll getting about 2 bottles a day of breast milk.
A question - Sam refuses to have his arms wrapped or under the blanket. Should I be worried about them getting cold? The rest of him seems warm enough. Maybe I should get one of those sleep suit bag things?
lucy - I hear you on the connection thing. I don't get frustrated any more, I am more relaxed and so is Sam. And now he is getting plenty to eat when he needs it. I am hanging out for a margarita; they shake them at the table where we are going and I have been waiting to have one since February!
Kimba - I need to log on here once a day at least because I need advice and a place to vent! DH is giving me the poos today. He is on parental leave but wants to go to the gym all the time and spends every opportunity on the PC.
Briannabear - Thanks so much for your words of support. I feel so much better about it today.
Well - bub is cranky, so better get going!
Jethro is having a cranky afternoon again...seems to be his routine now. He's been crying a lot (he's croaky from it!) which breaks my heart, and only settles if he's on someone's chest. I wonder how much of this is due to the less-than-calm way he came into the world. Anyway.
He's started sleeping in blocks of 3-4 hours at night (bliss!) with a quick feed in between so at least I'm not sleep deprived. But during the day he's either at my breast (and feeds take about 1 hour) or crying and wanting to be cuddled to sleep. He won't sleep in his bassinet in the day. So far he hates the Baba sling I bought and is too little yet for the Baby Bjorn so I feel like I'm stuck in a chair nursing or cuddling him all day, I get a bit frustrated thinking of all the things I need to/ want to do. At least DH has him at the moment so I've got a chance to sneak in here :)
Jeffy - Happy Anniversary! Jethro hates having his arms wrapped too, he likes them up by his face. I just wrap him loosely enough so he can pull them out if he wants to, he seems warm enough in long sleeves, and I put a hat on him at night to keep him warmer. I can totally empathise with you on the boob-juice issues too. You just have to do what makes both of you happiest, and what makes him thrive - don't feel bad about switching to formula! I might have to as well - apart from nipple thrush making feeds excruciating (getting a bit better now with medication), I just don't seem to have enough milk for him and it's really scaring me. I'm waiting for my electric breast pump to arrive and I'll see if that helps. If not, I think I'll have to switch.
Lucy - baby screaming and you crying, sounds like a familiar scene in our house too! I don't cope well when he screams, it's like someone is ripping my heart out. I'm still crying every day, I feel like a bit of a wreck. It's great to hear that Jordan is so much happier with the bottle, I won't feel so bad about it if that's the avenue I have to take with Jethro too.
Becca - big :hugs: right back at you!
Sal - re: what to eat, I was told to just eat whatever I'd eaten during pregnancy, 'everything in moderation', except alcohol. I thought I had to avoid caffeine and spicy food, but the EC nurse said it was OK in small amounts. I'm still steering clear of caffeine though because the last thing I want is a baby who's more wired and cranky than this one is already! :laughing: And re: feeding, my feeds are taking about an hour because he falls asleep at the breast and gets lazy with his sucking, and then in the daytime, by the time he's finished a feed he seems hungry and ready to feed again! At least at night he seems satisfied enough to sleep for a couple of hours (I've probably jinxed myself now). At least you have plenty of milk and you're able to satisfy Nedd long enough for a good sleep between feeds, well done!
Rian - big :hugs: for you, you aren't a sook at all!
SalTheGal
26-10-2006, 13:27
Hi all,
just a quick hello, I think I have an hour before Nedd wakes for his next feed so am going to try and have a power nap.
Kimba- isn't it heartbreaking when they cry so much they get hoarse? Nedd does that too- usually at the start of our feeds when he is trying to attach, and yes he iscrying and I am crying- seems we all have a familiar picture- but when he starts to lose his voice- it makes me feel so bad!!
Jeffy re formula, I used to work in pharmacy and did lots of training on formula- and honestly I know they say breast is best, but these days the formulas are SO good that really your bub is not missing enough to be worth the stress of trying to BF- go with the formula, you are doing the right thing! And happy anniversary!! Enjoy your margarita- I am SO jealous, I love them!! HAve one for me!:)
I had another visit from the mdwives today- and have been told to start waking Nedd during the day for his feeds four hourly- he is such a sleepy bub, this morning he feed at 5am then didn't wake for his next feed till nearly 11. This has been pretty much the pattern he is in- which is wonderful, I am up once nightly to feed- but apparently his blood sugar will get too low if I leave him too long, so now four hourly it is.
I thought I would post the arrivals list in here so that we can all keep up with oct bubs aswell as in the pregnancy section- so if you aren't on the list please add yourself and bub!
Well, off for my nap :fingerscrossed:
Take care everyone.
Cheers, Sal:hugs:
thank you all so much for your advice
i have changed montanah to nan and took her to the doc yesterday who told me to buy a thickner for it and see how that gose well it seems to be working she has uped her feeds from 50mls to 90-100mls and if i sleep her on her back but up right she sleeps for about 31/2 hrs and no screaming aftr her bottle and she seems to bring the wind up better i could almost say she is perfect well compared to b4 she is i guess i am one happy mumma now and my other 3 children are just being so good
well i better go get them from school now so take care all
:smiliedance: :smiliedance: :smiliedance:
Eternity
26-10-2006, 15:39
Well Sophia has been a doll she slept for 6 hours last night to have a 15inute feed and burp and back to bed until 7.30am, I’m one happy mummy:) she has had 2 good naps today as well. She is just sitting in her bouncer now having a good old bounce.
Kimbaleo- I can totally relate to your birth experience very similar to mine. After a failed induction and a scare where her heart rate when right down to 50 it resulted in a emergency c section, after a 16 hour labour. I was very teary from day 2 and felt exactly the way you described” degraded, humiliated, terrified, unsafe, and useless” it took me a good week and a half of tears from feeling so traumatised and telling a few people my birth story to be able to process it and let it go,so just keep letting it out, don’t feel bad about having a good cry and talk to your partner and friends about your birth, it worked for me:yes: How is your wound? Are you still in any pain? I’m feeling great now 3 weeks onwards even driving around now. if you need to talk about it Pm me:hugs:
Jeffy-:yelclap: On the dream night of sleep
Lucy- Noticed you had a c section too how is your recovery going? Gee Jordan was a healthy big bubby and he was even early, what does he weigh now?
Sorry little girl is cryin gota go
Love to you all- Hope your bubbys are behaving themselves
C-sections- Ladies I have never been there but you ladies who have had to have a c-section are tru champs. I believe you are alot stronger than you give urself credit for. I could not imagine having to take care of a baby staright after MAJOR ABDO surgery and the emotions that come with it. Your all bloody legends. ACTUALLY WE ALL ARE. YAY FOR
MUMMYS :D
Lesley- I hope the formula works for you. I have brought James a tin of heinz gold to try. Hopefully its the same as the Karicare gold but about 5-6 bucks cheaper. Since I stopped b/feeding James a week ago, he has been on 100ml feeds too little fatty but whatever helps him sleep of a night I say.
Sal- The list is fantastic, thnx so much.
Kimba- James has been a gem today. Only because I brought him a swing for $230 see here http://www.fisher-price.com/fp.aspx?st=2002&e=closeup&selCat=bgsw&pid=30548
Hes a spoilt bugger but it lets me have a rest and its hopefully teaching him the difference between day and night sleeps.
Ok better run. Take care
Rian + James
What a fantastic day I am having! I am feeling so much better today about everything. I am expressing breast milk so that Sam can have at least two full feeds of that each day. I even managed a decent walk today and as well as settling Sam, it made me feel better to get out of the house into the sun.
I was just sitting here reading all your posts when DH told me someone had pulled up out front for me. I said "How do you know it's for me? It's Australia Post". He told me to just go see and a lovely man plonked a huge pot of flowers into my hands. DH ordered them through Interflora a week ago. I never expect anything for our anniversary, so I am grinning from ear to ear. :D He even remembered that I had Irises in my bouquet and ordered them. I sometimes whinge about DH spending so much time on the computer and at the gym but I really am very lucky to have him.
Sammy has had two huge sleeps today and is so much happier now he is having the bottle, be it breast or formula. I have had a glass of wine and even had time to do my hair and put some make-up on. AND (sorry if TMI) I have finally gotten back into my g-strings! I HATE normal knickers. :D
BrookeC- You get 6 hours, in one go?! Lucky you! I'm happy if I get 3!
Lesley - So happy to hear you are doing better today. It's amazing what a relief it is when they finally settle.
Sal - I've already had a red wine and a champagne for you - I'll keep the margarita for me ;) I was an S26 baby (5'10") and so was DH (6'3"), so we are going with that. Sam seems to love the stuff and will take either anything that goes into his mouth. Thanks for making me feel better about it!
Kimba - Sammy has cranky mornings. He usually wakes about 8 and won't sleep again until around 2. Then he has a huge nap. He is asleep again now, so I'm pretty sure I won't get much sleep tonight! Might try the hat if it is cold again tonight. I have about 20 of the darned things. Also; I bought an Avent Isis pump off Ebay for $20 and it is wonderful. Took me a while to figure it out but now I find it so easy I am going to pump as well as using formula (I like being a C instead of A cup for a change as well!)
Well - time for another red! I am having one night off a week to eat what I want and have a couple of drinks. My fabulous mother-in-law is looking after Sammy.
Good evening all,
Sounds like some of us are finally getting a bit of "good times" with bub. Have learnt it is all trial and error. I try not to make too many mistakes, but I am learning!
Jen, how sweet of your hubby! Have a wonderful anniversary and a margaretta (however you spell it) sounds nice!
Brooke, my recovery from the c-section is going well. I feel "normal" so to speak, but if I do too much, ie: a lot of vacuuming, then mopping, then making beds etc I do feel it. Jordan also is at the length where if I put him on my shoulder his little feet kick into me and on the change table his feet come right to my wound. If he kicks it I feel it!!! I haven't driven yet as I am concerned with getting Jordan in and out of the car. My OB told me 6 weeks, but I feel okay now.... my Mum would kill me though if she found out I was driving. I think that and hanging out the washing are the only things I don't do. I think though a planned c-section is different to an emergency one. Mine was planned (as Jordan was breeched).
Jordan was weighed last Friday and now weighs 4.880 kg! He left hospital being 4.2kgs so putting on the weight fine. I thank god he did not go naturally!!! He is now getting too big for his bassinette and this weekend I will put him in his cot. Just have to organise it a little better. DH has now called him a tank!
Lesley glad to hear montanah is sleeping, eating and burping a lot better.
Well I am off, am about to have some dinner..... Chicken and vegetable soup.... Has everyone else got back to their before pregnancy eating habits?
Lucy
Hi all,
Just gave Jethro his dinnertime feed and he went to sleep on my chest, I was trying to get him into a deeper sleep so i could put him to bed and see if he settled for a few hours. But DH was jealous and wanted a cuddle so he took him, and I said 'If you wake him up now then YOU get to soothe him until he's ready for bed'. Needless to say Jethro now has hiccups and is wide awake and screaming, so DH is walking the floor trying to get him back to sleep :no:
Lucy - It's great that your boy is growing so well. I think that trial and error is the best any of us can do - it's amazing how much you can learn even in one day isn't it?
Jeffy - I had a pretty good day today too! When I got up this morning I was determined to have a 'calm day' no matter what, and Jethro has been pretty good except for his cranky spell this afternoon (he even cried through his bath and usually he likes the water once he's in). I think he's starting to get into a bit of a routine - very wakeful and hungry from 7am till lunchtime, gets cranky by about 2pm then by about 3 is worn out and ready for a long nap, wakes up about 6-7pm for a feed and some cuddle time then sleeps through the night in a couple of blocks of 3-4 hours with feeds in between. I hope that he sleeps well again tonight because it's great for me to catch up on sleep and not have to nap in the day. I can't wait till my breast pump arrives so I can top up his feeds with some expressed milk in a bottle and see how that goes.
Rian - that swing looks fabulous I bet James loves it! Jethro has a bouncer but doesn't like being awake and not in someone's arms. I sit with him in the glider and sing to him and that helps a bit.
BrookeC - 6 hours sleeping you lucky thing! I think the longest Jethro has gone is 5 hours. Sorry that you had a crappy birth experience as well :hugs: I agree, talking about it and getting it out really helps but every now and then I see or hear something and I'm hit with a wave of sadness again (like today I saw someone giving birth on TV and cried)
Re: c-section, I must have been lucky, I feel almost completely normal now, hardly any pain, although if I have to walk around a lot I feel it. My wound healed really well and at the hospital they couldn't believe how mobile I was, even a day or so after. I was pretty numb down there though from a bit of nerve damage, so I think that helped. You do need to take it easy though. Lucky DH is helping with housework and lifting etc and my mum stayed for a week which was great. For me the emotional wound hurt a lot more than the physical.
lesley - so glad to hear that your bub is happier now it must be such a relief!
OK well baby is still screaming DH is having no luck settling him (after stirring him up) so it looks like it's up to me...hope this isn't the start of a bad night!
Talk to you in the morning...
kimba.... i hope u had a good night with jet. My dh did a similar thing the other night. He got home from work and wanted to cuddle dd so woke her up and gave her a bath :banghead:
regarding slings, i can't do withouy my hug a bub (http://www.hugabub.com/) dd settles instantly and its nice bonding cuddle time too. I bought mine cheaper off ebay.
I understand what u are going through with not getting the birth u expected and it being traumatic, although mine is nothing compared to others. I ended up stuck in the bed for the last 5 cms and 5 hours, after arriving at the hospital at 5cms and spending 7 hours not progressing. The pain was horrible to due bubs position and not being able to help with pain due to being stuck on the bed. I felt so helpless and useless and like no-one was helping me. I ended up with very bad internal and perineal tearing, that now, 3 weeks later still has me in tears with the pain. The thought of EVER having sex again is a little scary, let alone having another child! I really need to write my birth story up to help process things, but atm I am just trying to keep up with my sleep and washing!
Jeffy, good to hear that you had a better day! Just take them one at a time I say! I am living from one feed to the next, but luckily, most of them are good atm!
Okay, I have much more to write to all you lovely ladies, but my post is so long already and bub has just finished her feed (gosh one handed typing takes so long!)... talk to you all later! Off to bed again for me... the next feed I do in bed and hubby brings her to me and does every thing else :yelclap: If only he could breastfeed!
Early morning all :D I cant really say that because I havent been to sleep yet so that makes it a bl00dy late night...lol
James is being an absolute bugger. He has his days and nights mixed up and I have no clue how to fix it. He seems to sleep better when the stereo is blaring and the kids are screaming the house down. ARRRRGGGG. I would love a nap but the kids wont let me.
Bubs during the day goes 5-6 hours without a feed because hes asleep and of a night hes hungry 3 hourly. DEFINALEY confused. Any ideas on saving my sanity? (Please please please).. Lol.
Well my sis and bro came up yesterday with there kids so its been madness around here. Bubs awake again. BBL.
RIAN + JAMES
Morning Rian,
Can only suggest a couple of things as Jordan had a few day / night issues early on.
The reason they say bubs can settle with loud noises is becaues it is so noisy in the womb, so when there are noises around they are better off getting and staying asleep. I can vacuum around Jordan and he usually will not wake up. So whenever I put Jordan down, I always have some sort of music playing and have it going for about 10-15 minutes. The Winnie the Pooh sound track is about to drive my DH and I to drink!!!
Another thing I did was I had a play mat and horseshoe pillow (larger one not the ones they have for head support in cars etc). After his feed and when he usually went to sleep during the day I would keep him awake (I would wake him by changing his nappy is he was asleep) and play with him for as long as he could stand it. At first he stayed for about a minute before he got restless, but now 2 weeks later he will stay there for at least 1/2 hour. allows us to have dinner as well without trying to workaround Jordan. I don't sit him in front of the TV, but he can hear it and see the colours out the corner of his eye if he wants to. I know have a couple of brigt coloured toys for him to look at as well. I also give him some tummy time then as well. I am trying to show him there is a time for play and then a time for sleep. We still have some nights where he is awake, but on the whole I think this is working.
One last thing... bath him always before he goes to sleep so he gets used to a routine as such. He will start to realise that after bath time is bed time and wrap him well. Jordan loves his hands so even if I don't wrap his hands I wrap under his shoulders so he can still movehis hands about.
Anyway I am going to fold some washing. Posted my birth story last night. It is long!
Catch up soon
Lucy
Thanks Lucy. They all sound like great tips and I will be sure to try them all. My DD'S never had sleep issues so I never had a problem. James doesnt like having his arms wrapped either which means he has to wear mits all the time to stop him from scratching himself. Ok better run. Thnx again...
I am in LOVE with NAN formula. Since putting Chelsea on it she has been sleeping like a dream!!! Last night we fed her at 8, she then woke at 1am then again at 5am and she is still asleep now!!!!! (if only I didnt have to get DD1 ready for school I am sure i would still be snoring with her :yes: )
It sounds like a few of us are going through the baby blues...... I am still crying over nothing (it has now been 3 weeks since c-section) and it is starting to send me insane. I am supposed to be going to a retirement party tonight, but the thought of socailisng and getting bombarded with questions about Chelsea (not that I dont like talking about her!!) is starting to make me a little nervous and anxious.....I am almost thinking I will give the whole thing a miss (eventhough I have already paid the $50 to go.....)
Sorry about the lack of personals this post. I think I will take advantage of Chlesea being asleep and get some house work done :banghead:
BBL :wave:
Hi guys,
I know technically she's a september baby, but I miss all you girls that I went through pregnancy with! So we're going to hang out in October instead I think.
Got to take myself and Ella off to the breastfeeding clinic today - you stay there for a feed or two and they help you out. Ella isnt' putting on weight quite fast enough, and since I don't think she's feeding as well as she was, the CHN thought the clinic would be a good idea. Hope they can help us out!
Only had time for a quick scan through but it's good to read about you guys again (& your new bubs!) :)
Bec.
Morning all! Dinner out was fantastic. We were only gone 2 hours but it seemed a long break. Sammy had a pretty average night but I don't mind because I got my (2) margaritas. I fell into the 'snacking' trap this morning and fed him befor he was due. He only drank half the bottle and of course, didn't sleep. I did that twice but have learnt my lesson! A friend gave me a playmat yesterday and Sam loves the thing. I had a chance to make breaky this morning because of it :thumbsup:
lucy - I haven't mopped or vacuumed yet - you are superwoman! I do all the washing and the house is pretty clean, though. DH does the rest when I go walking. I am back into my healthy eating habits. Lots of steamed fish and veg, stir-fries and grilled chicken etc. I am giving myself one night of per week to have a couple of drinks and a 'naughty' meal. I want to get back into shape and figure I may as well bite the bullett and do it straight away so I don't have to worry about it.
kimba - Sam's routine sounds so similiar to Jethro. DH pokes him sometimes to make sure he is still alive and that sets him off. I just bid on a benchtop steriliser through Ebay as the microwave one only fits two bottles and is giving me the poos.
Ikis - 3 weeks and still pain? That sounds awful. I will never forget the first time I tried to pee. The pain was worse than labour :crying:
rian - Sounds like you are having a horrid time of it. I have the same problem but only have Sam to take care of, so it doesn't bother me. He doesn't do more than 3 hours at night either. Sorry - no advice apart from putting grog into a bottle?! :rolleyes:
lucy - I'm off to check out your story while I have the chance!
Well - DH is peeing me off again today as he is off to train again. Parental leave, dufus! Time to HELP ME! Ah, well - I can't say much because a) there is no point because he sulks if I ask him not to go and b) I love him dearly and he is pretty good to me. So, I will deal with it and get my own back by heading out one weekend to go shopping :D
Hi all
I would like to thank the lovely ladies who recommended Infants Friend for colic and someone suggested overcoming bathtime woes by putting a flannel on baby's tummy so she doesnt feel naked. Both have worked wonders!
We had our first pleasant bath last night - nice and deep and warm, and i put a coth nappy in the bath under her, so she wouldnt feel the hard plastic on her bottom, and a wet flannel on her belly, and then whooshed her. She thought it was all very intriguing, and not entirely unpleasant. I think she will finally get used to her bath this way. I tried to massage her afterwards again, but of course that was still a traumatic experience in her mind.
Infants Friend - 2 feeds, 2 doses - she was getting grumpy and working up some good fluffs, and then all of a sudden, the fluffs got very wet! I hadn't realised she was having a problem with blockages as well as wind, but she seems to have cleared things up nicely.
Took her to the CHN yesterday for her first checkup - 2.5 weeks old, regurgitates or vomits after at least every 2nd feed, and she still managed to put on 750g since leaving hospital! She feeds from one breast every 2.5-3 hours, and of course, a comfort feed after shopping trips or massages (lol!). Night times she feeds every 3-4 hours, from one or two breasts, depending on how fidgety she is and how much I need sleep (my milk is a drug).
Does anyone else have a 3 door car and is struggling to get out and about without going mental? I have to climb into the backseat to put her in and out, bang my head getting out, almost trip as I try to squeeze between the folded seat and the door frame (am not a tiny woman) and not blind Abbey at the same time.
I also have a hugabub sling, but haven't used it in the field yet. I've tried it for a little stroll around the garden, but she keeps sliding down and sideways to my breast. Maybe I'm not tying it tight enough. I think it will be good when I'm back in the city and I can wear it around the big shopping centres - getting in and out of a sling and then in and out of a car is a bit too much inconvenience right now.
Definately think you are not tying it tight enough, m_jelly. I have a 3 door also and it is horrendous!! I have to use the sling when shopping as the pram is such a hassle to fit in the back, esp with the baby seat strap in the way :banghead: I found that after using it several times, tied different ways, I have found out how to do it properly so that she doesn't slip and it's comfortable. I put it on before I get in the car. She was just unsettled so I popped her in it and did the vacuuming... 20 seconds later she was fast asleep :smiliedance: Couldn't live without it... I leave it on for most of the day so it's at the ready! Great job with the weight gain! Isn't mummy's milk great!
Alright, I must go join bub with the :sleeping: before I lose the opportunity!
SalTheGal
27-10-2006, 13:08
Hey ladies,
well after being a busy bunch pre bubbies in the pregnancy thread (then things going quiet!!)- we are making up for lost time in here- there is so much to catch up on!!!!
Sounds like most of us had pretty cruisy days (if there is really such a thing!) yesterday.
Mine was pretty good aswell- but have been still having massive attachment issues, over the last 24hours it is not unusual for me to spend 45mins+ just trying to attach (we were both balling this morning from frustration), once nedd is on he is a dream to feed......However SO EXCITED- he just fed and attached FIRST time, I nearly cried from happiness- finally things maybe looking up for me.
Still trying to figure out this feeding thing though:
Can anyone tell me how do I know when one boob is empty? And if I need to switch him. He only had a two hour break between his last feeds- so I am wondering if he didn't get enough. But I finish his feeds when he still has milk in his mouth as he drops off the boob (and falls asleep). I am really finding feeding confusing- atleast with a bottle you can tell how much they are having!!
And when did you all start using your bouncer? The middie told me yesterday that all he should be doing at this stage is eating and sleeping, but he does have some quite awake periods.
Jeffy- you sound so great!!! It sounds like you are finding things easier everyday- I am so happy for you!!!!:D
Lucy- how did you know it is time for you to move to the cot? Nedd was 4.5kgs born, and I was actually just saying to DF this morning that I have no idea how long to keep him in the bassinet, I would like to keep him there as long as possible as I really enjoy hoving him in our room at night.
Rian- one thing I was told by the middies if he is confused re day/night is to actually not let him go over 3-4hours during the day, to wake him for his feeds if need be just to promote that activity during the day, and let him sleep at night.
Ali- Baby blues- tell me bout it, I seriously cry at the drop of the hat, and DF seems to be a bit flat as well so now I worry how he is going too, but everyday gets a little better, just gotta wade it out I spose!!
Welcome back Becbabe- its great to have you here too, can't wait for the rest of the girls to have their bubs so we are all in the same thread again!!
Ikis and Jeffy, re the pain from tears- my goodness youch!!!! Sorry if TMI but I have stiches (2nd dgree tear) and an open wound which kills going to the loo, I dread it each time.
M_jelly- isn't this place such a godsend, I would be lost without all you lovely ladies to ask advice of and vent to, specially not having any friends really who have kids, they jsut don't understand!!! I love knowing I can come to my bubhub ladies for great advice.
How much do you partners help out at night? My DF tells me to wake him if I need him but I feel guilty cause he has to work during the day, and I am hopeless at actually asking for help. HOwever there are so many times when I wish he would take it upon himself to get up and help me to settle Nedd so I can get some sleep, specially when nightimes feeds are taking a total of atleast two hours at the moment with changing, attaching, feeding, settling.
Well I have rambled for way too long so I won't bore you any longer!!!!
Hope you are all having a great day,
hugs to all the beautiful bubs!!:hugs:
Cheers
Sal
Eternity
27-10-2006, 13:29
Gee I think I might get a sling you girls make them sound so good. my pram is sooo heavy and getting it in and out of the boot took me 15 minutes cause its huge:banghead: so How long can they use it for, Sophia is one month on sunday and 4+ kilos do you think its worth it?
Do you recommend a certain one?
M-jelly- Congrats on your first pleasent bath:yelclap:
Jeffy- Lucky u I want to go out for dinner too, my wedding anniversay is next month but I doubt I will be doing anything maybe I might expess and have a glass of wine to celebrate
Rian083-:hugs: to you poor thing you must be so tired. I had the same problem at the start the child health nurse said to wake buba up every 3hours during the day, once I started doing that she sorted her self out. Might be a bit hard the first day or two cause he will be sleepy from waking at night so just try to keep him awake till he has taken a full feeding, it worked for me, hope you get some shut eye soon
Sophia slept again from 10.30 till 3.30am 20 minute feed and back to bed untill 7 so still one happy mummy. Meaning to ask you all does your bubs make lots of groaning and moaning before they wake. Sophia is very vocal but she isnt awake sometimes she is like that for an hour before she is actually ready to wake
Hope everyones bubbas are behaving their little selves
Well im off for a walk to try and loose this extra 15 kilos im carrying around now:eek:
Briannabear
27-10-2006, 13:52
Hi everyone!!
Just a quick post today...
Sal - on the breastfeeding issue: I find that changing sides and burping the baby inbetween helps with the falling asleep issue. While they are feeding give their cheek a little tickle, or unwrap them and tickle their toes. Another thing that works is to get a cool washer and gently wipe their face while feeding. If they fall asleep on the boob, sit them up while supporting their head and try to pat their back to bring up some wind. You could also change their nappy to wake them up a bit, then offer the other side.
My breasts usually feel soft when they are empty, but everyone is different. Hope that helps a bit.
Im feeling very sore today. :thumbsdown: My wound has been healing really well, but all of a sudden it has got a bit weepy and tender. The ob said to keep putting betadine on it for a couple of days and that it should get better. I really hope so because it sucks!
Anyway thats enough of a winge for now.... Be back later on to do more personals.
Hi all! Well; I have had a very difficult day. Sammy wouldn't sleep this morning, so I popped him into his carrier and went out shopping (Medicare, etc). He falls asleep in the car and settles quickly in the carrier. So I got him to sleep an hour. Got home, fed him and thought he'd sleep. He was awake from midaay until 4:30 and spent most of the time screaming if I didn't sing and walk around the hosue with him :banghead: He is finally asleep, than goodness. I am pretty proud of myself as I can't sing but am making stuff up and it seems to work anyway :o
m_jelly - Infants Friend - gonna try it! Gripw water seems to work OK but occassionally I can't seem to get the burps up no matter what I do. A midwife from Midcall suggested the nappy over the tummy to me because Sammy used to scream. I never would have thought of it. Glad it is working for you also.
ikis - I tried to take our pram out once as it fits in the boot easily but it is such a pain in the bum! Bub doesn't like being away from me anyway but I find the carrier is easier as I can go up/down the escalator as well. Sammy sleeps everytime I pop him in it.
Sal - I wouldn't be feeling this good if I was still trying tro breastfeed, believe me! I am happily expressing and using formula and feel like my old self again. The change in me and Sam has been amazing. I don't regret using the bottle at all now. Re: the empty boobs. I had to squeeze mine to check because I couldn't tell. I always thought it was empty but it wasn't. Sammy is too little for his bouncer yet - I tried it yesterday. He likes the playmet though and fell asleep during his tummy time on it yesterday. DH happily sat and watched him for an hour! Re: the tear - I had a 'labia to urethra tear'. I didn't ask how many stitches and DH told me all about it as at the time I refused to hear about it! I was very lucky and it healed perfectly with no pain afetr 10 days.
Re: my DH - He says he will get up but falls back to sleep. I always get up early and have to prod him to go change bub's nappy. I'm in the same boat and feel like I shouldn't have to ask. I decided today to join a gym and told DH outright that he will have to care for Sam three times a week, just like I do for him. No way out of it!
Brooke - Sammy sometimes squeals in his sleep and I always think something is wrong! And yes, he grumbles for a few minutes before properly waking up. I find the walking makes me feel better emotionally as well as physically - good luck with it! Sounds like you will lose that weight in not time at all - just don't push yourself too hard.
Sammy just screamed so loud I had to stop DH picking him up. I rubbed his tummy and he is still asleep :yes:
Brianna - That sounds painful! You would think that by now it would be feeling better. I hope it heals quickly for you. There is nothing worse than trying to sit down with that pain!
Well - I have had time to cook a large pot of Spag Bog (with heaps of hidden vegies). Best go and pour myself a champagne now that I have expressed!
Must have been a unsettled day for bubs all round!!! Jordan is so unsettled this afternoon. he has now been asleep for nearly 1 hour. I had a lot of visitors today and I think that upset him a little.
Jen - two margarettas!!! How lovely. Glad your dinner went well. Would have been good 20 minutes or 2 hours!
Sal, the reason for the move to the cot is because he is getting way too big for his bassinet. When he stretches up and out his hands go over the sides and his fee and head nearly touch the ends. The bassinet is actually better for me as the last few days I am still sore from the c-section and to try to bend over is not good on my tummy. I think I have been doing too much. So the move is more I have to rather than I want to.
Becbabe - I'm with you, even though I have a September baby, I am hanging out in the october thread as we have all been cyber buddies for so long and throughout the pregnancy! Good to chat to people you know.
Ali, so glad to hear NAN is working for you and Chelsea. Went to Big W yesterday to try to get some on special and they had sold out of the gold lidded one! Must be popular!
Well I am off now and will try to get some sleep now that Jordan seems to have settled for a good sleep and not a cat nap. DH is back to work and is working from 2pm to midnight at the moment, so I have one more feed before I can have a nights sleep, as Dh will give Jordan his late night feed as he cannot sleep when he gets home....
Catch up with you all soon.
Lucy
:wave:
Sal - regarding emptying the breast - they are never really 'empty'. I make sure I feel mine before the feed, and then after to see if it was drained well. Since my milk supply has settled down (I no longer have rocks for breasts!!) it is a little harder to tell. Don't get too worried about how much he is getting.. is there enough wet nappies? It is very normal for bubs to feed 2 hourly, it doesn't neccesarily mean that they are not getting full feeds. Olivia was doing the same thing, but now that she is having more alert time between feeds she mostly doesn't fall asleep at the breast anymore. Most of her day time feeds are 2 hourly, and at night they are a little more spaced apart.
I mostly do the nights myself, but if bub is taking a long time to settle after the feed I wake up DH to settle her. Don't feel guilty about asking him to help you... it's his baby too and gosh, with feeds taking so long, how are you getting enough sleep yourself?
Brooke - you must be feeling great! Yes, Olivia groans and even has little tiny cries for quiet awhile before she wakes up... it's like she wakes a little bit, realises she is hungry and tries to wake herself up a little more, but is still sleepy! I find that if I get her before she wakes up completly, give her a feed and put her back down, she goes back to sleep straight away!
Regarding slings, I use a hug a bub... it can be used up to 2 years (or longer, just depends on how much you can carry!). I find it much better than structured carriers, as it doesn't put strain on your back, and is ment to be better for baby's spine.
OK, going out to lunch now, and then grocery shopping! Fun times :rolleyes: Hope you all have a great day!
SalTheGal
28-10-2006, 14:08
Thanks ladies for the feedback re BF!!
Becca- the cold fash washer is a great trick and seems to be helping keep him awake.
Ikis- I never even thought to go by wet nappies- and he is definitely getting a heap of them, so that is probably a good indicator he is getting enough!
Well I have to say I have had an awesome 24hrs!!:yelclap:
I started waking Nedd every 3-3.5hrs for feeds yesterday, and he is now attaching really easily (I think he must have been getting too hungry and getting a bit worked up). Last night we feed at 9pm, 3am, 7.30am- how fantastic is that!!! And today I have ventured out (twice) by myself for the first time. Went and had a coffee with a girlfriend, what bliss to sit in a cafe and have a bought coffee and an adult girly conversation!!!! Now I am settled at home watching the Cox Plate (I love the horse races!!). Feeling very relaxed and proud of myself!!!!:smiliedance:
The downside is that I realised last night the poor little tacker has oral thrush, so it was a dash to the pharmacy for gel for that, and now I have nipple thrush which is not very comfortable- but if thats all that I have to complain bout at the moment I am happy!!!
Hope everyone else is having a great day too, and bubbies are all behaving themselves and being absolutely adorably cute!:yes:
Yay Sal & Nedd :smiliedance: I am very happy for you... and perhaps a little jelouse of the night you had! Bub was pretty fussy last night... so she ended up in my bed all night so I could feed her with me still half asleep :laughing:
Sal, are you taking anything for the nipple thrush? I have heard that gentian violet is a good natural remedy for thrush.
It's very quiet in here today.. probably people are busy spending time with there family!
My husband had the hide to say to me last night that he was deprived! :banghead: I could have killed him... he was just trying to say that he missed being close to me, but just doesn't understand that even the thought of sex at the moment scares me... and I would honestly rather sleep that cuddle at the moment! He said today "only 2 weeks til it's six weeks" and I honestly do not feel like I am going to be healed enough in 2 weeks. He doesn't mean to put the pressure on, he is just being male and isn't the one who has had his genitals ripped apart:rolleyes:
Anyone else having similar issues? Has anyone else resumed the horizontal tango?? 2nd timers, how long with your first did it take you?
boogernsqueak
29-10-2006, 00:39
hello luvies.
i usd to post a couple of times every blue moon in the due in oct thread, but gave up.
good to see another oct group going.
oh my goodness i'm sooooooo tired!!!
bubs is nearly 4 weeks old now, and she chops and changes her sleeping and feeding patterns every week!!! i'm trying to sleep when she does, but people are so noisy.
sophia gets the hiccups like 20times a day. poor bubba has always got wind and does bum burps allllllllll the time. my little gassy baby.......:kiss:
she is starting to get cradle cap too. does baby oil help with that?
anyone else startingto get smiles from bubs yet?
i got a big gummy grin when i tickled her mouth today. she was looking me dead in the eye and just grinned at me. it was gorgeous!!!
sometimes i sit there with my camera and wait for her to smile so i can quickly snap it, but she only does it when i don't have thecamera......hmmmmmm
when should i be putting her on her tummy. i was told to start doing it so she can practice using her arms to push herself up, and she's been holding up her own head andlooking around since the first week, so any ideas on when i should start?
Mornin' all!
candypants - My Sam gets the hiccups all the time too. It is almost impossible to lie him down and I have resorted to wearing him in the carrier most of the day! I think the baby oil is what my sister used for her bubs.
Ikis - I had Sam in bed with me last night and he slept 5 hours in a row! That's all the sleep I got but it was more than enough given it was all at once. Sam had an early evening nap and I jumped DH for some 'horizontal tango'. Must admit, it was great and so much easier without my tummy! 3 weeks since I had Sam. To be blunt, I had to ask him to go easy a little because I had stitches but no problems. :D
Sal - I let Sam go 5 hours last night and I don't think I will again because he projectile vomited his morning feed all over my hair! He got too hungry and ate too quickly. Next time I will definitely wake him after 4 hours - at least until he gets a little bigger.
Well - we are having an outing today. Off to see three households of our family! I am hoping everyone will want to play with Sam all day so I can take a break.....
Hi everyone!!
ikis84 and Jeffy I am sure my DP would love to do the horizontal tango, but I am still having blood loss (3 weeks on) arent you?? I thought it was supposed to last for around 6 weeks????
candypants My bubs gets the hiccups alot as well. DP cant stand it, i think he thinks it is hurting her or something :confused: I think it is cute. SHe got them alot when i was pregnant with her too
salthemum2b Glad to hear you had a good day. :fingerscrossed: they start happening for all of us on a more regular basis!!!
Hi to everyon else! Hope you are all enjoying the weekend!! I am off to read the papers now. DD1 is happily watching Madagascar and DD2 is happily sitting in her rocker..... (PLEASE stay like this for at least half an hour :fingerscrossed: )
Hi Guys
This will be a quickie as Lily is waking up. I havent been able to hop on here half as much as I've wanted to, but DH has returned to work today, so the computer will be much more free now.
I feel a bit daunted being by myself now with Lily, especially as DH does 12hr shifts, with tvl time included, he's away from home for 13hrs at a time. Oh well, will see how it goes - Lily's crying now, so definately awake & a hungry cry at that. Must run. Will catch up on everyone's news soon.
Hope you are all having a nice weekend & are enjoying your new bubs.
PS Lucy, I'm recovering ok from the cs. Scar still hurts a bit at times, but I think maybe I've been overdoing it a bit. How have you been feeling? I hope you're doing ok.
SalTheGal
29-10-2006, 11:26
Morning girls,
jsut a quickie as expecting visitors any min- hopefully lots of people to give Nedd cuddles all day, I am so not a clingy mum- happy to hand him off whenever the chance arises!!
Pam-THANKYOU so much for directing me to the ABA website!!! You are a godsend- it has been fantastic to read posts from others and know others are having the same troubles!! :hugs:
Re the sex issue- there is no way I would be going there anytime soon- the thought of any horizontal action scares the S**T out of me, hopefully it will get better with time (:fingerscrossed: ) These pesky partners of ours just better learn to be patient!!
Jeffy- thumbs up to you for getting into it though- I am super impressed!
Candypants- BUM BURPS :laughing: - I love it, they are now officially known as this in our house!!!! Nedd sounds just like Sophia, he has air escaping from every avenue, and hiccups to boot, poor little tykes- isn't it horrible.
Hope everyone is having cruisy days, and bubs are being angels.
Take care
Sal
Good morning all,
Just popping in for a little as Jordan has just gone to sleep and I am about to shower, wash the dishes and and do some laundry for the next couple of hours!
DH and I have tried a couple of times to do the "horizontal tango" but not real successful. It actually hurt quite a bit. I did read somewhere that your hormones can do that after birth and you can be "dry" in that department. Anyway hopefully soon all back to normal....
Ann, like you when I over do it I get in a bit of pain around my scar. At the time it is okay, but about an hour later it hurts. It is so hard to know when to stop. Lily was one month yesterday Happy 1 month birthday Lily!!!! Can't believe how time flies!
Well Jordan had his first bout of antibiotics this week.. and what fun that is! His little umbilical cord got a bit infected so the doctor put him on Keflex. That made him a little constipated, so yesterday once the infection went I stopped the anti biotics - now we have great action happening out the bottom end!!! But I tell you it is olive green colour, all sticky like paint and smells like a sewer!!! YUK! He just did another before this sleep. My god I needed a gas mask to change him. DH got the one yesterday as I was at the shops. Can't wait for the anti-biotics to get out of his system.
Jordan has now progressed in the huggies nappies to the next size up, so I have 2 1/2 boxes of newborn nappies to put away for next bub. He also slept in his cot last night. I think because it is so big and the bassinette was so snug and secure we had a few problems and up and down a few times. But he just went intoit no problems. I bought one of those snuggle pillows and have put that around him so he feels a little more secure. Can't believe though he is half way up his cot - not long before the bed - hopefully he will stop growing soon. In 15 years time if you ever hear astory about a mega giant named Jordan you can say you know him!
I forget who asked about tummy time.... I give Jordan some every day and have done for the last 2 weeks. He doesn't really like it, lazy sod, but he stays for a couple of minutes. it does get longer.
Well I am off for my shower! day light savings have thrown me out a little. Be back later.
Lucy
jessgray
29-10-2006, 14:12
hi all well life with 2 under 2 is crazy lol
:( ds1 just woke up lol got to go lol
Hi all,
Been out all day and I am very, very sleepy - a shame bubs isn't! As soon as you take him out of the car seat, there's hell to pay!:thumbsdown: Expecting yet another visitor soon, I could so do with some sleep this afternoon.
lucy - I have been wondering just how many newborn nappies to buy Sammy. I think he's probably 4.5 kg or just under, so have bought one more box and then I think I will have to start on the next size. I think Sammy will have to move into his cot soon as well. The snuggle pillow sounds like a good idea.
sal - I think the large glass of champagne I had gave me the courage!
Ann - DH is back to work this week and I am a little worried as well. We only have one car, so if I need it I will have to drive him 40 minutes to work. I am in the same boat with the shiftwork :( Sammy hates the pram (gets a lot of gas) so I will have to walk everywhere with him in the harness.
ali - My blood loss was only very, very occasional from 2 weeks on. I have none at all now. I really do think the raspberry leaf tablets had a lot to do with it all going back into shape quickly. I have been very lucky and managed to start my stomach crunches and some jogging after 1 week. Everyone is different though - my sister bled for a couple of months.
Well - might go bake a cake or do something domestic while I have the chance!
Evening all. I did a MASSIVE post @ 2 am this morning but lost it so didnt bother trying again...lol
Blood loss- I am 17 days in and am just having a heavy discharge no bleeding anymore which is good. Still enought to require a pad just so I dont feel like I wet myself.
Horizontal tango- I have been toey since I got home from hospital but DH and I held off til last night and it went off without a hitch. No pain or anything. I was freaking out about getting pregnant again though...
Well I better go, James wont settle. TC
Rian + James
Briannabear
30-10-2006, 09:08
Hi everyone!! :wave:
Sal - Glad to hear the wet washer is working!
Ikis - re: getting back into the sex life, it took months for me to be comfortable with it. We tried many times but it was just too uncomfortable. (not to mention dry :o - one of the downsides to breastfeeding). Once I finished breastfeeding my libido came back with a vengance and it was as good as it used to be. This time around Im healing better so might try sooner - but not for a bit yet.
Candypants - Just gently massage baby oil into your bubbas scalp and that will help with cradle cap. Johnson and johnson shampoo is notorious for causing it, so might be a good idea to switch to an all natural shampoo. (you can get a really nice lavender one from health food shops - cant remember the brand).
And as for tummy time, I can remember starting it really early with my DD. Just for 5 or 10 mins for the first few times, then increasing it as she was more comfortable. She had the best head control very early, and extreemly strong arms - which i put down to tummy time.
We had a busy weekend. We went to my sil's wedding in Toowoomba, and it was such a big busy weekend for the kids. They both did really well though. Lachlan was a little unsettled last night, but he's seemed to settle back down this morning though.
Hope you all have a good day!:D
Wow... I will NOT let DH read the post where some of you (rian and jeffy) have started having sex again! Good on you both though :thumbsup:
I am still having a little bit of lochia (hehe, to be technical) but just enough that I use panty liners. Last night there was none though, so we will see.
Last night felt like a bad night regarding sleeping, but when I think about it now, bub was not really any different to normal, it was just me being extra sleepy and out of habbit. Friday and Saturaday night I made DH get up to the baby and bring her to me, but last night I was ment to be doing it and it was sooo hard to get out of bed!
I too still have 2 packets of newborn nappies (and 2 in the next size up) that were a present from the baby shower, but as we are using cloth I haven't used them! I think I will give them to vinnies or something. Who else is using cloth? I remember that Kimba and Rian were... anyone else?
Okay, must go hand washing on the line! Joy! :rolleyes:
Eternity
30-10-2006, 12:05
Im a cloth Mumma too! I only started last night cause I was giving myself some time after the c section so I didnt have to do the washing but I have been doing the washing for last 3 weeks so I thought time to pull my finger out of my bum:o Is anyone using Terry flats?? Or are you all modern cloth mummies??
Sophia had an unsettled night morning but is asleep:fingerscrossed: she stays that way. Im really tired today Im dreaming about a full nights sleep:sleeping: Well no time for personals today better go and do some house work before bubba wakes up
Hope you are all having a good day:)
mumchristy23
30-10-2006, 12:19
Hi Everyone
I too have a September bub (originally due 8 October) so if its ok i might hang out in here too.
Took Jacob down for his 6 week check today. He weighs 4.5kg (9lb 9oz) and is 56 cm long..... At birth Jacob was 6lb 3oz and 50cm long.
At the moment i am BF DS, I BF DD1 and DD2 for 13 months, so unless teeth appear before then i will continue to do the same with DS.
When Jacob was born his left hip was a bit "clicky" (he was 3 weeks early) so I have to take him for an ultrasound on Friday to make sure it is developing ok. At his 7 day check up and now at his 6 week check the doctor said she thinks it is good now so :fingerscrossed: everything will be ok.
Well I better get going, Just thought I'd pop for a quick Hi :wave: as I have to go put Jacob to sleep...
Everytime I catch up on all the posts DS wakes or is due for a feed, so will be back to do personals later.
Christy
hey all
i just wanted to pop in and say hi too everyone
we are doing well tired but well my cs scar is getting really sore sometimes and is a little numb but all good
bubba is growing she has put on 120gs in 3 days and is having thickner in her bottle to help with the reflux she is really unsettled in the day but has her feed at night and gose back to sleep with the music from her mobil she really is a good baby
dose anyone else dh not hold the baby because they are to small that what i have gotten for the last 3 weeks he will have her if i pass her to him while he is sitting but not standing
as for the tango issue my dh asked me for it last night but i am still too sore as i can hardly wear pants on it coz its so tender
well bub needs to be put in her cot as she is getting heavy :laughing:
and i can no longer type one handed
so take care all
lesley and montanah:hugs:
Hi guys,
Ella is into 000's now! She seems to have grown in the last three days.
Still having some problems with feeding but I'm persisting even though it feels like she's onthere for HOURS at some feeds! Off to an ABA meeting on Wed, hope it will make me feel a bit better. Apparently Ella may be one of the rare babies who has nipple confusion from using a dummy... we are trying to go without to see if it makes a difference... it's a bit hard on me though!
re the horizontal tango...we're with rian, I was keen as soon as I got home but "the spirit was willing" but the body was too sore :p We've had a couple of goes now and it's nearly back to pre-birth greatness, but it can be hard to get my head in the right place. I have been using lubricant just in case, stops me being scared of it hurting. I can feel where the stitch was but it doesn't hurt, thankfully! But mostly we're just too tired to give it a go!
Better go feed the dear girl before she gets too stroppy and attachment just gets harder....
Hello everyone, oh my goodness it's been so hard to get a chance to log on here!!!! Have just had some really tough days with an unsettled, grizzly baby - doesn't it make you feel like cr@p when they seem absolutely miserable, despite your best efforts???
I think I hit rock bottom late last week, and really hated myself for momentarily feeling like I was hating BFing and motherhood (yes I'll admit it!) but everything is a lot better now and I'm loving being a mum again. Every time I look at that little face, my heart just feels too big for my body.
Big :hugs: to everyone out there with unsettled babies, sleep deprivation, feeding problems, baby blues and especially to those who are still dealing with their birth experience. Time does seem to heal it, or at least help to put it behind us, but every now and then I feel sideswiped by emotion again.
Jethro seems to have decided he doesn't like sleeping in the day - he does however sleep at night, in blocks of 3-5 hours with a quick feed in between, so I can't complain too much I guess! But in the day he just wants to feed and be held by me pretty much all day, or else he grizzles, and definitely won't sleep in his own bed (although he'll sleep on my lap or in my arms). Which is cute but it's driving me slowly mad as it means I get nothing else done :banghead: . I think I'm going to have to try buying a different sling, since he hates the Baba one.
Has anyone tried the Mother's Direct slings from the ABA? Any good?
I'm desperate to see Jet gain more weight this week and want to stick with BFing if I can, so I'm letting him feed on demand to try and increase my supply, which the ABA says is great even if it means hourly feeds, although my EC nurse says I should limit feeds to 2 hours apart at minimum - talk about conflicting information, so confusing. But he's happier when I just give him a boob whenever he's grizzly, and it's keeping me calm because then I don't have to watch him cry, poor little bugger, and if it helps my supply and helps him gain weight then all the better.
Re: getting jiggy with it - actually I think I would be up for it, if I wasn't so tired, but the lochia freaks DH out! :laughing: Speaking of lochia, there isn't much of it any more thank goodness.
Re: nappies yes Jethro is a cloth bum kid, even in hospital we were using their terry flats so I haven't used a disposable once. I use a combo of terry flats and modern cloth, still trying to work out which modern cloth are my favourites, I bought one or two of heaps of different styles. Every time I put one of the fancy, soft bamboo nappies on him he does a poo right away! :laughing:
Oh yeah - advice please!!! ATM Jethro seems to have the signs of colic (as if nipple thrush wasn't enough fun), he often cries when we lay him down - to change, to undress for bath, to sleep etc - so I think maybe that's why he's not settling in the day? does anyone know if Infacol is OK for babies his age (he's 17 days old today), or if there's anything else that's good for colic?
Sleep vibes to all...personals next time I promise!
SalTheGal
30-10-2006, 18:11
Hey everyone,
hope all have had a good day, and bubs have been behaving them selves!!
You know the one thing I think NO ONE can prepare you for before you become a parent is the sleep deprivation thing. It is so hard to come to terms with the fact that this little person is totally dependent on you- and if you are BF you only. When they cry you have to feed them- you can't ask them to wait half an hour, you can't tell them you want a full nights sleep for once- there is no negotiating that one!!! What I would do for a full nights sleep- I feel like I have forgotten what it is like to sleep for a WHOLE night, it has been so long!!! (possibly only feeling this way cause last night was C**P- I finally got to sleep at 3.30 for 1.5 hrs with Nedd in bed with me)
I feel so annoyed with myself this arvo- I feed for two hours (on and off) from 3.30-5.30, everytime I thought Nedd was full and put him down he started screaming again. The stupid thing was I though he was still getting milk from one side- so I didn't even think to switch him, but finally on closer inspection I realised I had been giving him an empty boob for goodness knows how long. Put him on the other side for five mins good drinking and he was happy as- went off to sleep straight away- how dumb am I?!?!? So now I am going to make sure I give both sides everytime.
Well thats my vent, its been a hellish couple of days- but as you said Kimba, my heart is still bursting with love for the little man- to be honest I can't get enough of him (cept for at 3am) so can't be too angry!!!
Well take care everyone, and sending major sleep vibes to all the bubs tonight!
Sal :hugs:
Good morning!
I hear you Sal. A whole nghts sleep is a god send. Sometimes at 4am you really would do anything to be back to bed. In my case Jordan has gone back to bed and I am left wide wake not able to get back to sleep -so doing some washing! :eek:
How are those whose hubbies went back to work doing? Mine has been back for 2 weeks now and there are definately good and bad days. Can't just get him to hold Jordan for a minute while I do something!
Hey Sal, don't worry about the boobie thing... Last night Jordan was fed at 11am and at 4:30 this morning when he woke screaming DH and I both asked why he would be screaming??? DOH - only his feed time... My brain doesn't work until the coffee has well and truly kicked in!
Well I better be off and get my clothes airer free so I can hang out this washing - still can't reach to put the clothes on the line.
Have a good day.
Lucy
PS - Jordan is now really laughing and smiling and really reacting to my voice. Yesterday I watched him follow me around the room watching where I was going!!! Made my heart melt.....
jessgray
31-10-2006, 07:09
my dp is a SAHD so he is here all the time:laughing: DS2 has become very unsettled the past few days he is still feeding well and doesnt appear sick he just has become hard to settle :( i said to DP it could be something like colic and he is sure it isnt.
:banghead: i'd like to see him find a reason that makes sense for a unsettled bub and try to settle a screaming bub for an hour and get a overtired hypo terror to take a nap lol
:wave: Hi Christy
Kimba... those pics of Jethro are so, so cute! You should be one proud mumma - he's so handsome! Regarding cloth nappies, I am using mostly baby beehinds on Olivia... we have some others but the beehinds work the best. I have terrys for emergencies but we haven't needed them yet!
I have one of the ABA's mei tais (sp?)... its good but not as good as my hugabub... you kind of have to tie it with bub in it, so it's a little tricky, but with the hugabub, you tie it first, then slip bub in. Have you seen this website (http://www.sleepingbaby.net/jan/Baby/#pouch)? It has patterns for different slings.
Sal, I don't think I would be able to sleep for a whole night... if Olivia sleeps for longer than 3 hours I wake up with rockmelons hanging of my chest!! But, what bliss!!! I just hang on to the fact that they are not little forever... so at some point I will get a good amount of consecutive sleep! I really don't know how people do it with toddlers... it would be so hard to sleep during the day! I take my hat off to you all who have more than one! And twins, don't get me started! I don't know how I ever wished to have twins! (Although, I still stand by it being good having to only go through labour once!)
Sal, I have done the exact same thing with not changing sides... but take heart, if you had of changed sides straight away bub still might have been unsettled. Sometimes we can never win!
Becbabe, sorry to hear that you are having trouble with feeding Ella.. hopefully it gets sorted quickly for you both :hugs: You are doing such a great job!
Lucy, it's so great when they smile at you, huh? I had my SIL over last sunday taking pics of bub (she's a photographer, great to have in the family!) and bub was all smiles... I was crying :laughing: But had to try to hide my tears, so people didn't think I was going soft or anything!! Those gummy smiles are just too cute! Talk about heartmelting!
My dh has been back at work for 2 weeks now also, and mostly its okay, but I am glad when he gets home, esp when bub has been grizzly all day! Sometimes she just needs to be settled by him because she can smell the milk on me and just wants to feed, but when I put her on she doesn't IYKWIM.
How is everyone feeling about being home all the time? I find I am getting a little loney... it went from everyone calling when bub was due (are you in labour, are you still pregnant ect) to now, when I can go a whole day without talking to someone except the baby!
SalTheGal
31-10-2006, 14:03
Hey girls,
Pam, I hear you on the lonely thing!! I make DF come home for lunch if he can just so I can have an adult conversation. I get a bit cabin feverish if I am isolated too long- I have always been a bit of a social butterfly!
I too take my hat off to people with toddlers or twins, they say you adapt- but my goodness, it must be exhausting! My SIL has a nearly 3yo, 8mnthold and is 15wks pregnant with no 3- I seriuosly do not know how she is going to cope!
Things have been pretty good here, we had a good night last night, and today has been fairly cruisy. Nedd is feeding every 2-3hrs during the day, but I don't mind cause he is sticking to his longer stretches at night.
Anyone elses DP given them the irrates yet? My insensitive brut of a DF absolutely floored me this morning. He usually gets up at 7am for work and Nedd woke just after 6 for a feed- so I brought him into bed with me to feed, that way we could go back to sleep when finished. And DF has the audacity to tell me off for bringing him in cause I deprived him of an hours sleep!!!!:eek:
OMG I just looked at him in disbelief- who is getting deprived of sleep?!? I haven't gotten him up once during the night- even on a couple of unsettled occasions I actually suggested he go to the spare room to get some sleep, and now he whinges bout an hour: what the?!?!?! In his defence he did apologise at lunch time- I think he had time to realise how stupid his comment was.
Men huh?:banghead:
Hi Ladies
How is everyone going? Hope you're all having good days.
We've been having our good & bad days here, which I'm sure is very normal, but hard to cope with on a bad day! DH went back to work on Sun & Lily was great that day - slept on and off all day & hardly cried at all. Yesterday was a different matter altogether. She hardly slept & cried heaps. You just cant pick it!!! Today she's been quite good. Both her & DH are asleep at the moment (DH works night shift tonight).
Saw the health nurse this morning & Lily is doing well - putting on good amts of weight etc.
I'm really on & off again about bf at the moment - well, I've felt like this the whole time really. I'm just soooo exhausted & finding it really difficult feeling like I'm one big milking cow & the only one able to feed Lily. I've also had to cut out all lactose as the nurse thought she was lactose sensitive as Lily was crying heaps & very unsettled after feeds. Cutting lactose out has calmed her right down, but I'm finding it hard. As there are no other issues with bf ie attachment, supply etc, I'm feeling really guilty about thinking about giving it up & switching to formula. I really dont know what to do & wonder if I'm being selfish. Is anyone else bf having these feelings?
Lily is still in her splint to correct her congenital hip dislocation which is making things a bit more difficult too. We see the orthopedic dr next wk again to check things out, but he said babies usually need to stay in the splint until 12 wks or until they grow out of them. I know it's for the best if it will correct the hip problem, but it's still hard at times.
Well, sorry for the whinge, but I feel better for getting things off my chest.
Sal - I would have just about hit my DH if he'd reacted like yours did to missing out on his hours sleep!!!! At least he apologised later on after he'd thought about it a bit. Hopefully it wont happen again!!!
Better go get a bit of housework done while I have the chance.
Take care everyone......
PS Everyone's bubs look sooooo cute - I will put up a picture soon. Tried the other day but it didnt work.
PPS Lucy - thanks for remembering Lily's 1 mth birthday - Jordon would have just celebrated his too. He looks very cute!!
SO VERY VERY TIRED. I am still alive and kicking just very sleep deprived AND I have an insensitive a-hole of a DH (which doesnt stand for dear husband) lol. But am in good spirits :D. Everyone seems to be doing well...
James woke @ 1 am this morning and has only been cat napping for about 5 mins every hour and has only just now decided to have a sleep.
I am looking at getting a hugabub sling type thing (;) thnx pam).
Off to eat my first bit of food for the day. Apparently coffee isnt a food group "who would have thought"
TC
Rian + James
p.s. ANN- I dont know from experience but breastfeeding is said to get easier but you do what you feel is right for you. If your not happy than bubs can sence it. Lily will love you and be a healthy strong little girl no matter your decision, so dont feel guilty hun. Maybe have a chat to a few different ppl and get some advice...
well i finally get to join the mummies group...yeah. really tired so i just read the last 2 pages. sure i will catch up soon. kane is doing well. he is bottle feed as he did not take to b/f at all and my colostrum dried up after a day of expressing. one midwife was mean about it but generally they were nice about it. he feeds about every 2 hours during the day about 50-60 mls at a time and has about 2 feeds at night drinking about 90 mls. jake is being a good big brother. sometimes he wants to help too much like measure the formula and its hard saying no youre too young. kanes a strong little man he is a week old and almost rolling...i kid you not. love him to deatrh cant stop watching him. c/section wound is ok. still hurts abit on long walks but am on no medication for it. as for sex well as a newbie here im still bleeding. anyone elses have a green colour discharge (sorry i know thats tmi). my blood pressure went up after pregnancy so its being watched by doc, also oedema is only starting to settle now. it also went to my hands and i could hardly shut my knuckles as they locked up. well i better go grab some zzzs while i can
tc all ox
Welcome to the mummies group Sue. I am bottle feeding as well as breast feeding just wasn't right for us. the midwives at the hospital I was at were horrible in regards to breastfeeding. They made me feel like a real idiot and a failure and to this day I feel guilty. I was speaking to my cousin last night telling her about it and apparently hospitals sign up with the ABA and as part of this the midwives are not allowed to suggest or even mention the bottle - even if they know that it would be best for Mum and bub. I know breast is best, but there are times when it is not. No wonder the cases of post natal depression are so high! If I was still trying to breast feed I know I would be mental by now....
Speaking of which... I am going crazy in this house! I am still not allowed to drive for another 9 days, which means apart from hospital and the trips to OB and the local coles or woolies, I am been in the house for 8 weeks!!! AAARRRGGHHH!!! I think once I am released I will be running the streets. DH keeps telling me to drive, but I am still a little sore sometimes and am worried about getting Jordanin and out of the car. Might have to practice to make sure.
Well yes, I am now preparing myself for number 2... what am I thinking! Jordan is out of newborn nappies, so they have now been put in the next bedroom. I will put the bassinette in there soon as well. Going to check out when we can start again. Have heard it is at least 6 months from the c-section so the scar can heal. Anyone know?
Well bst be off he is starting to stir for his next feed....
Catch up soon - have visitors tomorrow so not sure if I will get on line.
Lucy
Hi all,
Very, very sleepy so it will be quick. Sammy has been projectile vomiting and not eating much at all - about 1/3 of what he hsould be each feed. He doesn't have a fever but is very sleepy and after calling Parentline, they are pretty sure it is reflux. Poor little bugger can't keep it down and even after 1/2 hour or so, still struggles for breath if it all comes up. He gags a lot as well. I've propped his bassinett and pram up but he still feels best either in the pouch or car set because they prop him up enough.
ADVICE PLEASE?! How do I stop him gulping air down with his bottle? I am using Avent bottles and #1 teats but he gulps down so much air he burps about 6 times each feed. I am at my wits end. He had this problem whilst BF as well because my let down was too fast - says the midwife. Anyway; had a bad afternoon and had to put him down a sec, go down the other end of the house and scream but I felt better for that 60 seconds! Funny how just getting it out helps so much.
lucy - everyone can bash it re: the brest feeding. I tried and absolutely hated it, which I thought I would. Did it for 2 weeks and that was enough. Sam is better off with a mum who doesn't sit around crying all the time.
Suemp - Sounds like you had a **** time of it! Lucky for me, as soon as Sam came out my heart started behaving itself. I hope you feel better soon.
rian - It is so nice to know I am not the only person feeling absolutely buggered. The slings work a treat. Sam screams for all of 5 minutes, then goes to sleep.
Ann - Your post makes me feel so much better about my troubles with Sam! You are doing so well given poor little Lily has a splint on. It's hard enough changing nappies without that to deal with! And you are are still doing housework?!
Sal - I have had this conversation with my DH. WHilst he was on leave, too! He kept sleeping in and I was doing the last feed of the night. I think they just don't get it , sometimes! I hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Ikis - I had my first day by myself today. It is lonely but I took Sammy out for a 1/2 hour walk and felt better for it. It is hard to time it though and I can't manage it everyday. My DH didn't do much more than nappies anyway, so I am not really noticing he isn't home. The day flies past as I don't usually get out of the shower and dressed until 10:30 or so.
Kimba - Today I spent a good 60 seconds yelling in the spare room away from bub. I didn't know what to do for him and chanted "I can't do this" several times before getting it together. Everyone feels that way, I'm sure. I felt better for my vent, then went back to Sammy with a clear head and gave him a cuddle (then he chucked on me again!) I just sold my two baba slings on Ebay. They sucked. Sammy hated them. I bought a front pouch style and he loves it (probably because he is upright).
Re; INFACOL - Our pharmacist told us 1 ml (three drops) was OK for Sam from just on 2 weeks. Just go down to the chemist and ask. They are very helpful. I must admit, the Gripe Water worked better for us.
Well - time to shower and collapse into bed whilst DH is around to keep an eye on Sam.
jessgray - I thought Sammy had colic but they think it is reflux (the projectile vomit in my hair three times today kinda gave it away). If you think something is up, chances are there is. Is there a health centre you can drop into? There is one near me that I can rock up to three days a week without an appointment. Also, Parentline are great for advice.
Good early morning!! Seem to have myself in a pattern where I feed but then not sleepy - catching up on all tose fun shows in the early hours of the morning though! Petticot Junction, Married with children, Hawaii Five O!!
Hey Jen, Jordan gulps as well, but doesn't so much now he is on avent teats #2. I know they say from 1 month, but Sammy is nearing this anyway. Jordan also had a few issues and since changing him to the number 2 teat is much better as he is getting is food easier - gubba guts!!!!
Well he is stirring again... he has wind but too lazy to try to get it out himself! He just doesn't get it! Takes him about 2 hours to burp properly after a feed. Might try some gripe water to see if that helps.
Catch you later
Lucy
Hmmm 4 am hey. James seems to not want to settle so we are in the lounge room again for another day/night of no sleeping. As ususal his sperm doner is in bed snoring and has been from 5 pm last night because he was a feeling a little tired. So after James went to bed @ 930pm, so did I only to do his next feed @ 1230am and that was the end of my sleep. I have been trying to get him to sleep for a few hours now. I know hes not hungry because hes on 150ml bottles plus his night time one has some farex in it to thicken it up. He is having this every 2.5- 3 hours.
I am feeling very depressed atm, I am trying to take care of my 3 babys plus run a household AND I SERIOUSLY DONT HAVE TIME FOR A SHOWER.
I do nothing but cry 24/7 and S/D (SPERM DONER) just ignores me because its just hormones. ATM I hate myself and I hate my baby an I think I should leave my relationship before I completely lose the plot.
I have an appointment with the clinic nurse tomorrow and I just know once I have spoken to her she will say I have PND and I wholey and soley blame it on S/D.
Ok so going for a ciggarette (which I quit for all of my pregnancy but for some strange reason decided I best take it up again).
Ok well I better go. Take care
Rian + James
Good morning all,
Well - had a bad night and couldn't put Sammy down. Got about 3 hours sleep, which is better than nothing!
Lucy - thanks for the advice. I will try putting him on the number 2's.
Rian - You don't sound very good at all. Have you any family or friends that can help out even for an hour or two? Your DH seriously needs to pull his socks up. Drugs for depression won't help when you have a valid reason for being so run down!
Sometimes, you just have to put bub somewhere safe and shower anyway. I put Sammo in his pram in the bathroom with me and he cries the whole time but I figure it's only 5 minutes and I feel so much better for having a shower. Have you spoken to the S/D about it all or are you too scared he'll tell you you're being hormonal?
Well - Sam is quiet, so might run and have a shower!
Briannabear
01-11-2006, 08:17
Hi everyone!
Sorry just a quick post today, will pop on a bit later on if I can to do more personals.
Rian - Im so sorry to hear you feel so down. :( Is there someone that can watch James for you so that you can have some time-out? Just to do something that you used to do pre-baby, like get a haircut or just a treatment and blowdry? Im sorry to hear you and your partner are struggling also. Having a baby is a huge adjustment to a relationship.
Big hugs to you, and I hope things pick up really soon. (that goes for everyone who is struggling at the moment too!) :hugs: :hugs:
jessgray
01-11-2006, 08:38
Jeffy- my ds1 used to projectile vomit and gulped down air too with his bottles, slower teats helped a bit. you can also get these bottles that deflate on the inside somehow but i havent seen them anywhere ever:laughing:
we saw the mchn yesturday 1st time i met her as we had one who came 2 us with ds1 but ds1 now goes 2 this one too.well i mentioned how TJ gets unsettled and crys for long periods and her response was "its normal for babies in the 1st few weeks to do that" if its so normal why didnt ds1 do it:laughing: :thumbsdown:
jessgray
01-11-2006, 08:48
Rian- :hugs:
dont be scared 2 ask friends and family for help. even if its just help with your housework or shopping.it will make 1 less thing for you to do:o
i also find a walk with the pram (or without if someone can watch bubs) helps me when i get a bit down.
one of my friends wrote a list of all the jobs round the house that needed to be done each day after she had a c-section and was very down.her in-laws would pick jobs to do and cross them off and her mum did the same then her partner would see what still needed to be done when he came home from work :)
Well, I came in to have a brag... Olivia was such an angel last night :smiliedance: I put her down at 8:30pm.. she woke at 1:30 am, fed for 30 mins, woke next at 5:30am, fed then woke at 8:30.. she has just gone down again now! I am not getting used to it though - they change all the time!
I have started to put her down while she is sleepy but not asleep, and it is working really well :yes: My boobs are killing me though, they are huge... (I normally have to feed her every 2-3 hrs). It's a catch 22.. If I express it feels better but my body doesnt know not to keep producing that much milk :rolleyes:
Rian... big, big :hugs: to you. I agree with Jeffy, after you have fed/changed bub, put him somewhere safe and have a quick shower, even if he is crying. I have had to do that. You poor thing. How are your other kids going? Are they being good? Do you have family that can at least come and help with your other 2? Maybe you should write SD a letter telling him how you feel?
Where do you live? I want to come help you out!
Thanks ladies for listen to my early morning whinge. Once James finally went back to sleep I sat down and thought about it and NO I DONT HATE MY BABY, I hated the fact I was awake in the middle of night in general.
I dont have any family and friends where I live because I only moved here to fight my ex for custody of our daughters and the courts now say I cant move away until they are 18. But thats just another bag of worms all together...lol
I sometimes think S/D thinks I talk just to hear the sound of my own voice, but he is a great dad but he just needs to read the signs when to step up and give me a break.
I do seriously need a haircut and eye brow wax so thats next on my list. Well James is in a deep sleep (very pale, no dummy, no movement but hes breathing. lol) so I am going to have a shower. YAY..
Thanks for everything ladies
Take care
Rian + James
PAM :kiss: YOU CAN ALL COME LIVE @ MY HOUSE. I HAVE HEAPS OF COFFEE AND WE CAN ALL SIT AROUND ALL DAY IN OUR PJS EATING REALLY BAD FOOD WATCHING REALLY BAD MOVIES :smiliedance:
hehehe... sounds good Rian :thumbsup:
Enjoy your shower hun :yes:
well thats he last time im going to brag about having a good night feeder:no: we were up 9.30, 11.30, 2.30 and 4.30. only drinking bout halkf a bottle at a time and struggling to burp. he did look uncomfortable though so im gonna buy some gripe water which is ment to be good for wind. kane is already on coloxly drops to soften his poo. might have to change formula.
rian glad to hear your feeling better. ive been staying with my mum now im back at home im sure my s/doners lack of help will get to me soon. ill be in here whinging about mine along with you.
jeffy i also have a gulper (somewhat) he gulps the first half down so quick than its a struggle to get any more in him. he also hardly burps and wen he does it turns into hiccups. so im no help to you im afraid.
well off to bath kids and start on housework :eek:
oh and lucy im a naughty car driver from day 4 post ceaser ive been driving. my pain has been good and im sure its down to doing as much as my body could handle. i had this cow of a mother at pre school who has about a 2 month old come up to me at school (who ive never even spoken to before as she always gets her mum to drop her daughter off) tell me i was home too early from hospital , that she stayed a week, that i could kill myself carrying the capsule after a c/section (my midwife laughed at that one its so not true) and i was a bad mum for driving so early with my kids in the car.i nearly hit her with the capsule. luckily i had a bunch of other ladies there stand up for me by saying not everyone has the help she had. my sons school is bout 15 mins drive each way i definately cant afford taxis and he AINT staying home for 6 weeks.its not like i go on road trips, just shops etc!!!!!
BIG :hugs: to everyone is feeling a little down and a BIG :shame: to all DP/DH/DF (mine included!!) who arent being supportive of us!!!! I honestly think they have no common sense at all sometimes....... :no:
suemp and lucy I too am a naughty car driver after a c-section. I started a week after I had bubs (when DP was back at work).. DD1's school is half an hour away so she has to get there somehow..... I was also told that I was doing too much too soon, but what else can you do when things need to get done and there is no one else to do them????
Oh, who was it that was telling me about NAN formula (the one with the gold lid and the one with the grey lid)??? I bought DD2 the one with the silver lid and although it was a HUGE improvement over her last formula, she started throwing up ALOT after each feed, so I was wondering if NAN with the gold lid will make a difference (I hope what I just wrote makes sense....Hopefully someone who reads it will know what I am talking about) I think my pregnancy brain has been replaced with sleep deprived brain :rolleyes:
Hope everyone is having a good day!!
I understood what you wrote hun.... two sleep deprived brains think alike hey? Sorry, can't help you!!
Bub has been sleeping for over 3 hours again and I am tempted to wake her as my boob (the one she didn't feed of last time) feels like it is going to explode. It is leaking now as I type :o
I just posted my birth story here (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=47790) if anyone is interested... but only read it if bub has just gone to sleep and you have a cup of tea - it's a long one!
ali: when i was in hospital i had the choice of normal nan, s26 or s26 gold so i chose nan. i left hospital at 5:30 in the afternoon and the only chemist i could find open only had the nan gold (with gold lid) so thats wat ive been buying but as i said ds poo is hard needing drops to soften it and struggles to burp so im not sure its a great formula...for my bub but every bubs different, midwife reckons its the best for newborns.
ikis i will get to read story but this is day 1 on my own at home and struggling to get into a routine plus unpack after being at my mums resort. not to mention ds1 thought he'd "help " by breaking up styrofoam everywhere over the carpet. it was so much easier with 1 bub although he does help at timres. off to put dps cheque in the bank :wave:
ps ali shop around for the nan gold. i bought a tin in coles yesterday for 22 bucks than walked 20 metres to a chemist and they sell it for 16 bucks and that wasnt on sale :banghead:
mumchristy23
01-11-2006, 12:29
Hi Everyone
I have one DD and DS sleeping so am gonna try and catch up on as much of the personals as I can..
Pam - Just had a look at your pics.... Olivia is So cute. Cant wait to see some of her smiling! Whoever took the pics for you in labour did a fantastic job! Great memory pics.
Sal & Pam - I also know what you mean on the lonely thing. After the births of both my DD I had my family around me all the time which was great but then we moved to QLD and I had noone. I highly recommend looking into seeing if there are any mothers groups around or just getting out of the house atleast 1 day a week. I take my DD's to a playgroup and its great for them and also for me... have met some great people and it is also good to get out of the house.
Ann - I BF both my DD for 13 months and it does get easier. However, it is very time consuming and challenging at times ie. when they change their routine or go through growth spurts etc. I was lucky I had family around to help me out aswell. BUT do not feel bad if you decide not to continue with it! I agree with what Rian said "Lily will love you and be a healthy strong little girl no matter your decision"
Sue - Congratulations on the birth of Kane. (love the name by the way) Glad your other son is settling in with him. Sorry to hear about that lady.. HOW RUDE! Like it is any of her business anyway and how dare she say you are a bad mother! Im glad there was others around to defend you!
Jen - I agree with lucy. I would try chaging the teat. If that doesnt work let me know and I will ask my sister for advice. I think she may have had some trouble with one of her kids.
Rian - :hugs: Hope everything is getting better for you. I hope your DH (SD) starts listening to you and is a bit more considerate to your feelings! I too have to DD around the same age as yours and it is very challenging at times. I know what you are going through and believe me hun.... YOU ARE DOING A FANTASTIC JOB!
Hi to those I missed... will chat to you next time.
I hope you are all getting plenty of sleep and DH/DP/DS start pulling their heads in.
Talk to you all soon
Christy
The change to #2 worked! :smiliedance: Thankyou so much everyone. Sam is blissfully asleep, eating faster and not getting as much wind. I got to doze for an hour and even had time to eat lunch and marinate some meat for tea :p
I don't know what I would do without you guys!
Ikis- I'm about to check out your story. I love reading these. Hope Olivia has another good night for you - Sam will do one good night, one bad and keeps alternating like this.
ali - that's exactly what it is - my DH needs to be told to do things and I get frustrated thinking he should just know - no common sense!
Sue - I love the grip water; it works well for Sammy. I think it works better than Anticol. Sam gets the hiccups all the time as well - the new teats seem to have settled him down though.
Rian - Don't worry - last night I couldn't get Sam to settle and yelled out "F***!!!" at the top of my lungs. Made me feel heaps better. You have your good days and bad, hey?
jessgray - A walk with the pram always makes me feel better if Sam won't stop screaming. Sometimes it settles him as well. Definitely a good thing to get out in the sun even for 10 minutes.
SalTheGal
01-11-2006, 12:56
hi girls, just a quick one as doing the one handed thing!
Rian :hugs: Big hugs to you, I hope today is a better day. Sounds like you need a break- can you take bub out in the pram and get a coffee somewhere? I did that the other day and it was a god send to me. It was still me by myself but just to get out and drink REAL coffee and be in the presence of other adults was absolutely wonderful. As for your ?DH? they seriously do not get it do they, I know mine tries to do the right thing, and he is amazing with Nedd, but I don't think he has ANY idea how hard it is for us, and tends not to volunteer help- i have to ask for it.
The whole idea that these little bubs are totally dependent on us for everything I am finding so overwhelming!
Ann- I have thought twice several times bout BF, it really is hard isn't it. But then I will have a good feed and just sit there watching him feed off me and love the connection I feel.
Lucy- Don't you just love night time TV!!! I am having a ball finding out what is on each time I get up. Oh and kudos to you for thinking bout no 2 already!! That is awesome.
Jeffy- Hope things are a bit better for you today, sounds like you've been having some fun and games re feeding at the moment. Are you going to see a doc re the reflux? There are some really effective meds available for bub to help.
Well on this front things are going ok- cept I have discovered the perils of overeating chocolate!! Got a box yesterday and binged- only to have a poor bubby awake half the night with tummy pains and lots of poos. I felt so bad for the little tyke watching him screwing up his face and twisting his little body in pain- Bad mummy!!! I didn't even realise what it would have been till today. No more chocolate for me, DF is very happy as he gets the rest of the box.
He has been really good today though.
We are off to see uroligist this arvo to talk to him bout circumcision. We are thinking we will get Nedd circumcised- but want a bit more info before we make our final decision, so we will see what he has to say. Anyone else here going down the circ trail with their boys?
Cheers everyone,
Take care Sal:wave:
hey all
i just wanted to come on and say hi we are both doing well sleep what is that i can not remember what it feels like to sleep all night
as for the tango we tried it last night not to bad no pain just a little tender when you touch my belly but that was it
a question for all other c sectioners dose or did anyone still have any kind of stitches after 3 weeks i still have some where my drain was
we my friend had her baby on Sunday she was born by emergency c section at 38 week and weighed just 4 lb 4 oz she is tiny and makes montanah look like she is about 4 months old
well i better go the washing is not going to hang its self out now is it ?????
take care all
hey stupid question but what do these mean:bfn: :bfp:
brideofjabba
01-11-2006, 13:20
So i'm dumb and only just figured out where this place was! lol
I'll go back and read what everyone has been up too. The only issues i'm having so far is Nicholas is a very windy baby and screams alot at night but we found a pharmacy that makes their own miracle wind mixture and it IS a miracle! I have never seen anything like it. Total life saver...they should totally sell this stuff everywhere!!!
He's not sleeping too badly, for a newborn. lol Up every 2-3 hours. I'm pretty tired but not too bad.
Actually i'm going to go have a sleep...since both kids are down..i have a splitting headache:banghead:
Briannabear
01-11-2006, 13:36
hey stupid question but what do these mean:bfn: :bfp:
They mean Big fat negative and big fat positive. (as in pregnancy test) And its not a silly question!
Hi girls,
Finally had a chance to spend some time on comp and find where I was gonna type now lol. Things are going well here. Adam is 2 weeks tomorrow and my first lot of visitors are finally leaving. We've only had one day to ourselves since Adam arrived.
Apart from some slight jaundice and my milk being slow at coming in all is well. I have to express an extra feed during the day to keep milk happy which is fine. But then dear Adam slept for 7 hours last night so I flooded the bed, my singlet and pillow and I think nearly drowned the poor little mite when he finally woke for a feed :rolleyes:
Oh well, it will all settle eventually. looking forward to tomorrow ans some peace ( until Tuesday when next lot arrive). Had Mum fly up for a couple of days last week so that was lovely. Had a teary attack when she was leaving though. Had another one yesterday when John was feeding Adam the expressed feed. Kind of felt un-needed, which is dumb but thats the hormones for you.
Will pop back after and read how everyone is going. Hope all is well and all little miracles are being good.
Hi everyone! Congrats to all the new October mums, good to see you joining us! soon everyone from the old due in Oct thread will be here in this thread talking babies and feeding and sleep deprivation LOL
Today has been a pretty good day, after a pretty good night. Jet is sleeping pretty well at night, usually just waking for a quick feed at about 1.30 and then about 4, I just wish I could get him to 'sleep in' past 6.30am, but once it's light he just wants to be with me, not in his bed.
Still struggling with getting him to settle in the day, he won't do the feed-play-sleep thing that our EC Nurse insists we should get him doing (with him it's more like a feed-doze-play-cry-feed-doze-cry-feed-nap thing, LOL) and won't sleep in his bed in the day, he just naps in my lap. I'm trying a new sling today (a cheapie from eBay) and I think he likes it, but it's so squishy he won't be in it for long. I need to invest in a hugabub - once I sell my baba sling on ebay!
My main concerns at the moment are getting Jet to settle/ sleep in the daytime, and helping him to gain more weight by increasing my milk supply and getting him to feed more effectively (instead of dozing off at the breast all the time). I'm on Motillium now, and waiting for my bl@@dy breast pump to arrive so I can express to get my milk happening better and 'top him up'- I ordered it on Sunday 22nd and they're stuffing me around with delivery. I even told them my bub was losing weight to try to get it urgently but I'm still waiting :banghead:
Re: screaming and walking in the pram to settle. Jet often keeps crying even when we put him in the pram so I wasn't comfortable doing it at first, but now we just perservere and he's usually asleep within 5-10 minutes. Just have to grit your teeth and push the pram with the screamy baby for a while and ignore the looks from passersby!
Re: the lonely/ cabin fever thing. I totally hear you! Some days I'm sobbing in frustration at being stuck on the couch feeding/ soothing a cranky baby and not even being able to shower/ eat/ tidy up let alone get out and feel like an adult. Now that Jet's crying doesn't break my heart as much I've been able to shower whether he's crying or not and it makes such a difference. If anyone is feeling lonely and wants to chat on the phone during the day just PM me and I'll give you my number!
Jet is sleeping at the moment so I think I might even have time to do some personals!
Di matt - Adam is very cute! Jet was a bit jaundiced too. I don't think it's dumb to have a teary moment at an emotional time like this. I've been teary for one reason or another almost every day LOL
Andrea - that wind mixture sounds great I might PM you and get you to post me some hehehe
Lesley - I don't have any stitches that I can see, they used dissolving ones on me and they were gone by the time I left hospital (5 days). I didn't have a drain either. My scar is feeling very tender at the moment though, I think the feeling is coming back where it was numb before or maybe I've been overdoing it a bit.
Sal - thanks for the tip re chocolate, Jet is colicky enough as it is without making it worse. (looks sadly at box of Lindt that will not be eaten now). Re: circumcision, DH wants to have Jet circ'ed for religious reasons but I was always a bit unsure about it. Now that he's born I'm so protective of him that I don't want to get it done, it was bad enough seeing him in so much pain with a bit of balanitis (inflammation of the penis) when he was first born, so it's a bit of a bone of contention in our house! We might compromise and get it done when he's old enough for a general anaesthetic.
Jeffy - isn't it amazing how just one hours nap and being able to eat lunch and get dinner ready can make you feel totally human and on top of the world again! Hope you have more days like that.
Sue - welcome and congrats on the birth of Kane, love the name.
Pam - love your photos especially the black and white ones, they're fabulous!
Rian - :hugs: you poor thing my DH has been driving me up the wall too - he can be pretty useless and unhelpful, sometimes it feels like I'm here on my own, I might as well be! He's a shift worker (3.30am till 11.30am) and you'd think he'd help me or give me a break in the afternoons but no, he's sleeping at the moment while I nurse the baby (yet again). So much for letting me have a nap myself. Let me know/ SMS me when its a good time to call you so we can have a good girly chat and ***** about these bl@@dy men hehehe.
ok bub is crying gotta go...hope everyone has a good night!
Eternity
01-11-2006, 17:29
:wave: hey girls
I hear you I hear you all, Im soooooooo exhusted too:sleeping: I have the hugest black bags under my eyes all this broken sleep is hard. Sophia has been quite good though but she is starting to snack feed I have no idea why and I try my hardest to keep her awake for a full feeding she never use to have a problem with taking a full feeding:confused:
Rian you got me worried when I read your first post I wondered if you lived in brisbane so I could come and give you a break sweet heart but Im glad your feeling a bit better remember your not alone we are always here when it gets too hard feel free to pm me any time.
well sophia is grizzling so Im going to try and give her a feed :fingerscrossed: she stays awake and takes a FULL feeding, she is so sleepy but yet only sleeps for about 20 mins and wants more then asleep again arhhhh help me
Hi Everyone
This will be a quickie, as DH leaves for night shift in 30mins & I will try & get my tea ready & eat it before he goes (may not get a chance otherwise!!).
Rian - I really hope you're feeling a bit better. Hopefully your appt with the nurse will go well & you'll feel better after that. I hope DH comes around a bit too. Sounds like you need some more support from him. I'm thinking of you.....
Lesley - my obst took out my cs stitches on day 5, the day I went home. I didnt have a drain either. Maybe you should call your dr to see what the go is with yours?
I called my obst 2wks after my cs & was told I could drive after wks anyway, so have been driving for a while now. I get no pain etc, so it's all good on that front. I feel for you Lucy, as even after 2wks being stuck at home or relying on others to get around it was doing my head in!!
Welcome Suemp - I hope you start to feel better.
Really have to run or I wont get tea.....DH has the next 4 days off from tomorrow morn, so I'll get more time to catch up on here.
Thanks to those re advice on BF & how I've been feeling. I am still swinging from not minding it to feeling the opposite....will give it a bit longer as I dont want to make any hasty decisions......I know it should get easier too.
Hope everyone has a good night! Ha-ha, I think back to whinging about restless nights while pregnant, but that was nothing!!
oleander
01-11-2006, 21:58
I thought Id pop in and join the birth group. Leila's just had a feed so Im going to hop into bed with a dvd on and hopefully get a couple of hours sleep but I will try and read all the posts Ive missed tomorrow. I had a good 3 hour nap this afternoon but Im still feeling exhausted.
welcome back leilas mummy
had a bit of a melt down yesterday. talk about new mums being emotional and teary. once i started crying i could not stop. jake was such an easy new born. he'd feed burp than dummy than sleep. kane on the other hand wont take the dummy and his way of settling is with a bottle. so im making myself worried about am i over feeding him by offering bottle wen ever he cries...am i not burping him enough...etc. than dp finnishes work at 3 yesterday and goes straight up the road to his bosses business to drink for acouple hours, than comes home sits downstairs in the garage for another couple and tells me instead of working today they are going fishing. it just got to me that he shows no interest in the new bub and his prioities are all wrong and the least he could do is reassure me that im doing an ok job. feeling bit better today though. go to do groceries today. bit worried about lugging all the parcels upstairs. will just have to take it easy.
hope you all have a good day :D
Kimba it sounds almost like you could be living a copy of my life lol. Adam is the same during the day..that's why I put the tv on in our room (where his bed is for now). He seems to settle better then or if I put him in the bouncer in the lounge. I don't mind too much as I love the one on one time with him. Once everyone else gets home I feel a little lost as everyone wants their turn with him.
We had the circumcision arguement early on. My other son isn't done as I didn't think it necessary to put him through it. John was adament that Adam would be done from the second we learnt he was a boy. But the other night he told me he couldn't bring himself to put him through the pain and that he would just have to teach him to look after himself properly. They don't do it here until the baby is 6 months and can be put under for it.
I already had the breast pump but have only just started to use it to help my milk. I felt like I wasn't feeding him enough, now I wake up covered in milk and they hurt sooooo much if I don't have a bra on. Not sure what's worse lol but he is sleeping better than he was. Hopefully he will gain extra weight now also. Monday he was back to his birth weight ( he is 2 weeks today).
Oh the joys.....why do we always question ourselves about everything we do???????????
Anyway anyone else on the GC we are meeting at smilies at 11am today...look for a pram with a yellow balloon. Be my first time so it should be good to chat to some others.
Have a lovely day all
Hi everyone,
Welcome to our new mums, it's so nice to see you again & welcome to the new little babies! All the photos are so cute (we must be a good looking bunch:p )
I really feel like Ella and I have turned a corner in the last week. Since I gave up on all routine implementing (bar little things like a bath then a feed in the evenings) we are soooo much better! Ella gets the booby whenever she wants it, and while sometimes (afternoons/evenings in particular) it feels like she's never off it, she has been sleeping roughly 10.30-2, 30 mins to an hour feed, back to sleep til 5 or 6, then a feed , then sometimes back to sleep til 8 or 9!
It's been so much better for me to be able to feed her when she's crying instead of just watching helplessly and watching the clock waiting for the next feed so I could quiet her!
Only bad thing here at the moment is I'm really missing DP - I feel like we're not connecting at all at the moment - we don't talk much when he gets home as we "tag team" to have dinner & showers, then he goes to bed, and is asleep by the time I come in. Bit sad but I guess things will sort themselves out.
Kimba it seems like we've been going through a lot of the same stuff re feeding!
Rian :hugs: to you. I have had days where the same thoughts have run through my mind. But absolutely you can put baby somewhere safe & go have a shower - I have parked Ella right near the shower door and like someone else said, she cries but it's only for a few minutes and you feel sooo much better! & I know it's easier to say than do but getting out of the house, even walking a crying baby in a pram, makes you feel more human.
Suemp, sorry you are a bit down. I guess every baby is different. Have you talked to dp about how you feel? Sometimes they can be a bit thick.
AnnP it's not difficult to feel resentful about bfing sometimes! Who would have thought it would be so hard, and you have to spend so much time doing it! I have started having a Buffy DVD on the go all the time, so when Ella has endless feeds during the day I am thinking of it as couch/TV time instead of feed time :)
With the slings - I have a Kapoochi pouch/pack thingy that my sister gave me. She hated it but Ella loves it, even if she's howling she settles within 5 mins of being in it. I get tired wearing her for long but it lets me get the washing up done! I put some music on and sing to her she seems to like it.
di_matt, mums are great but it's scary when they leave! My mum is such a great support for me not trying to force a routine which I'm not getting from anywhere else (even DP) except the ABA and the feeding clinic.
BTW I went to an ABA meeting yesterday and was so excited to be having adult conversation that I had to mentally tell myself to just STOP talking!! :ecomcity:
im new to the site but seeing as my wonderful little girl was a 18/10 birth thought i would say hi here. still trying to catch up with life, kinda in that dream state between feeds and sleep and a 4yo.
when i had my son i had my mum around and it is so different this time not knowing anyone in brisbane other then the outlaws. Dana sleeps really well at night from 9-2 then 2-7 so i cant complain about that but i still cant seem to enjoy her, just worrying about everything and nothing at all, doesnt make sense really.
anyway housework needs doing :(
don't you just love it when you change your bub's nappy and they poo right after? Jet does it all the time! lol
Well todays stress is that since yesterday Jet has been really lethargic, floppy and sleepy and doesn't seem to be feeding properly: like he has no energy, at feed time he just has short snacks falling asleep at the breast without draining it. (Just when I was complaining that he's been unsettled and constantly feeding for the past week - I'm never happy am I!) He didn't have as many wet nappies yesterday as usual, so I'm worried he didn't get enough milk and that he's dehydrated. He even slept for 5 hours from 10.30 last night till 3.30 this morning, I had to wake him for a feed (which I should be happy about, LOL). I'm worried his jaundice is back & getting worse, or that he's sick, and that he's not going to gain weight again this week :(
I'm feeling stressed, sad and a bit tired of feeding being so worrying. I really want to see my boy thriving and happy and chubby! I promised myself I'd give BFing at least 4 weeks, and now that I've been through all the pain of cracked nipples and nipple thrush and getting my milk supply to increase at last, I really don't want to give up now, especially coz BFing is definitely getting easier for me. BUT Jet himself now seems not to be sucking properly/ getting enough and I really don't know what to do about it :confused:. I hope expressing and topping up with EBM in a bottle will help but I'm still waiting for my breast pump to arrive and just got told it could take another week! :banghead: so I'm desperately trying to track down another pump to use in the interim. I really don't want to top him up with formula and maybe mess up my own milk supply - but then when I see him not gaining enough weight I feel really guilty, and wonder if that's what I should be doing?
nitty - welcome and congrats on your daughter! it's hard when there's nobody around isn't it, all of my family live 4 hours away and my friends all work full time. There's plenty of support and advice on here though!
becbabe - I'm with you on me and bub both being happier when I just feed on demand and try not to worry about strict timing and establishing routines. My EC nurse says I should do otherwise (stick to 2 hourly feeds at minimum, and follow a feed-play-sleep routine etc) but it just doesn't work for us. I wonder if I'm setting myself up for problems in the future by doing it my way - but surely it's better to just do what works and let things come naturally?
Oh and on the adult conversation LOL I was the same at the clinic the other day when there were a couple of other mothers there for a feeding discussion. So exciting to be out and talking to people!
di_matt - I know what you mean about questioning ourselves I'm doing it constantly! At least adam is back to his birth weight, I wish Jet was, he was still 50g off it this week (even though he only lost 185g in hospital, he's only gained back 135g of it since coming home) and he's almost 3 weeks. I keep hoping that this week will be better and that things will suddenly work out and he'll start stacking it on...
sue - :hugs: sorry your DH is being so unsupportive. Mine can be a bit like that too, like if I'm having a meltdown all I need is for him to rub my back and say 'it's OK, you're doing a great job' but instead he can't seem to handle it and walks away or says 'what do you want ME to do about it?'. Would it kill them to just be loving and encouraging?
leilas mummy - welcome back! Getting into bed with a DVD sounds like a great idea.
AnnP - I am feeling exactly the same way about BFing - swinging between loving it and hating it and not knowing whether to stick with it or try formula, it's so confusing. For me it's actually gotten easier but bub doesn't seem to drink or suck enough, or something - it's so stressful to think you're doing everything you can but it just doesn't seem to be working the way you'd like it to. You are doing a great job though! and whatever you decide it will be the right thing for you and your baby.
BrookeC - Sophia sounds like Jet with the snack feeding and snoozing - the ABA said that maybe bub is just better at draining the breast faster as they get bigger, so maybe Sophia is doing that, if your breast feels drained afterwards? The snack feeds wouldn't bother me if Jet was gaining heaps of weight, but since he isn't, it worries me that he isn't getting enough. I don't know how to get him to feed better - have tried everything from a wet washer on his face to stripping him off to changing him then putting him back on. Maybe it's just a little phase they go through? Hope so...
hope everyone is having a great day!
suemp Thanks for the advice about shopping around for NAN gold. I bought a tin from woolies the other day for $22, but next time I am in the chemist I will have to see how much they sell it for :yes:
Well we had our first projectile vomit this morning :barf: Chels usually has a bit of a chuck after feeds but never like this...... Did someone mention putting bubs on #2 teats to help prevent this???? To tell you the truth I didnt even know avent had different number teats. I have just been using the ones that came with the bottle :confused:
becbabe and Kimbaleo I too have just been feeding Chels when she wants it. With DD1 I was really strict with the routine, and she handled it well. It is ALOT different this time around though. When Chels is hungry she wants her food and she wants it NOW!!!!! Much easier just to give it to her rather than have her upset.
Hope everyone is having a good day.... Will be back later to see what you are all up to :)
hands up to another with a snack feeder :wave: kane went from 3660 birth weight to 3440 he is only back up to 3520 and that was with clothes on :banghead: now he is only drinking 20 mls at a time :banghead: going to try the next teat to see how he goes cause he sucks and sucks for half an hour and i take it away to check and only 10-20mls is gone. dont have any suggestions for the breast though.
Afternoon ladies. James and I are having a good day today. I realised I have been over dressing him which is why he has been so unsettled. Hes now sleeping in a nappy and singlet and Ifeel so much calmer..
FEEDING- James has 7-8 100ml bottles in 24 hours. His last bottle of a night (830-930) also has a small scoop of farex in it to thicken it up. He is using #1 and #2 teats on his avent bottles for normal feeds. And I put in a #4 when he has a farex bottle. I was advised by the clinic nurse to take him off the heinz gold and to put him on the regular heinz formula, apparently the gold clogs them up..
BABY WEIGHT- I had James weighed today. He was born weighing 3400grms, and is now 4100grms..Little fatty :D
Kimba- I have an electric pump you can borrow. I can express post tomorrow and it can be there by monday....
Sue and everyone with DH troubles- GGGRRRR. Why do they have to be so mean. We are the mother of there children and you would think that should mean something but than again I was reading about Depression in new fathers and apparently it is quite common which is scary. Maybe some of our men are going threw this???
Nitty- F@rk the house work hun. Grab a baby sitter for a few hours. Have a cuppa, put your feet up and do something for yourself. You will find when you go back to your daughter she will seem like a different baby and you a new mum. I know its easier said than done sometimes but maybe a bubble bath while she has a sleep? Sorry to hear you cant seem to enjoy her I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU MEAN..:hugs:
Ok better hang the towels out while munchkin is chillin in his chair....
Take care....
brideofjabba
02-11-2006, 13:43
Hi everyone.
I hope things pick up soon for those going through feeding problems, i'd be super stressed too.
Nicholas only lost 80gs of his birth weight and when he was a week old was already 4.5kgs, so above his birth weight of 4.27kgs He seemed to be snack feeding too in those first few days but obviously was getting enough. He sleeps so well during the day i wish he would sleep like this at night!!! We are demand feeding aswell. Not sure how i could ever do it another way...i would feel too mean to try and implement a rountine feeding schedule like they used to do in the old days. lol
Re: circumcision - when we had our first ds, dh wanted him done but i put my foot down and said 'no way'! lol Hasn't mentioned it since, so both our boys are intact. I couldn't go through the heartbreak of causing him discomfort for something that isn't really necessary.
Re: dhs - To my utter astonishment my dh asked whether i wanted to express some milk so he could do some night time feedings to give me a break!!!! What? who is this man??? and what have you done with my dh?? I haven't taken him up on the offer though because i'm too cheap to buy a breast pump. lol He's been really good though.
I'm feeling pretty hormonal and cranky the last few days though. I've had a headache for 4 days!!! Its hurts. I know my necks out but i can't get it to go back in. grrrrrrrr i may have to go to a chiro. So yeah, sore head, exhaustion and now a new baby with a cold(developed a stuffy nose last night:crying: ) i'm not exactly Miss Personality.:banghead:
Thank goodness for my mum (she's been taking my toddler for a few hours during the day) or i'd be really insane by now.
Just read all the posts and have much to say, but no time for personals... just got back from playgroup (not that bubs can play, but it was nice talking to adults!) and am knackered! I have to do all the housework now too (people coming over for dinner or I wouldn't worry about it!).
Regarding snacking with bf babes, Olivia did that too, but now she is feeding roughly 2, or 3, or 4 hourly :rolleyes: ... although sometimes in the late afternoon she is a little fussy and just feeds, feeds, feeds!
Okay, gotta go... I'll pop in later if I have any energy!
RE CIRCUMCISION- Not happening to my little man. His dad is intact and I left it up to him to decide and he said no. Who am I to interfere with a man and his bits...lol
But I dont have a prob with other ppl doing it :D
Eternity
02-11-2006, 14:48
Its a scorcher here in BrisbaneI have Sophia in my bedroom with the aircon on so she can sleep. Im looking forward to the rain predicted 2morrow
Kimba- she has taken full feeds today :yelclap: Hopefully she will keep doing this she seems to have her off days I never know what the day will be like. how is Jethro going with feeding? Bummer about your breast pump hope it arrives soon. I have one worked wonders when I was in pain with craked nipples only used it for 2 days and nipples were back to normal.
Hope everyone with feeding problems they are starting to get better you poor darls but you are not alone gee it seems most people have them at one point or another :hugs:
Well I have just taken advantage of Sophia being so sleepy today managed to clean the house and wash and blow dry and straighten my hair so Im feeling at bit better about myself cause I have been feeling so gross in my appearance after having bubs- I think I might give Sophia a feed pop her in the car and head out for some retail therapy that always helps:p
Eternity
02-11-2006, 14:52
oww question about Birth Weight Sophia was 3.388kg born and on monday she was 4100kg she had put on 150grams during the week the CHN said 170 is the normal amount and she wanted to see her weekly Im happy to take actually I want to take her weekly untill she is 2 months but she got me a little concerned she made out like it was a big deal 20 grams doesnt seem like a big deal to me what do you think??:confused:
Okay, hands up who here has no sense of time beyond the current day? All my days are the same and blend into each other!
Abbey and I have been working on our playing, I'm sure she sometimes gives a gummy half grin that isn't caused by gas, but the rest of the time she thinks mummy is a git who should get out her milky bits instead of bothering her.
She's also taken to preferring to sleep on her tummy. I know SIDS recommend back sleeping, so I compromise with side sleeping (especially given her reflux - I hate to think of her vomiting in her sleep and choking because it falls back down her throat). She gets to sleep on her tummy during the day though when I can keep an eye on her. She pulls her legs up to her chest, tucks in her arms, makes little fists and generally looks like a sleepy koala. Tummy sleep=3-4 hour naps, side/back sleeping=10 minutes. Its an easy choice!
BrideofJabba - what's the name of this magical formula and the place you bought it from? Abbey has pretty bad colic and we've been using Infants Friend, but I think she may be having a reaction. She makes noises like a giraffe since I started her on it (for those who aren't giraffe freaks, this is a back of the throat nggh sound) and she goes for 2 days without pooping and then has an explodey liquid poop. I'm going to try Brauer colic formula tomorrow, but I'd love a back up suggestion. She is a Fart Princess on Infants Friend, so it does work, but we could do without the side effects.
Hey, has anyone else gotten really sore wrist/s since birth? I'm not sure if maybe I did something during delivery or if its from unfamiliar tasks.
My maternity payment and back FTB is coming tomorrow - hurrah! All those bills I have been putting off for the last little while can be paid and I can buy a couple more bras and shirts. Having a refluxy baby means I have nothing to wear that doesn't smell like mouldy milk! Bras tend to catch the throwup and let it slosh around on the shelf until your hands are free to take care of it - the books don't warn you about that one!
Rian and anyone else having a hard time - big hugs. I'm lucky I have my entire family in the same house right now (even though I complain) and I can't imagine doing it all without support.
With that thought it mind - YOU ARE ALL DOING A WONDERFUL JOB. YOUR BABIES LOVE YOU INHERENTLY AND NO MATTER HOW BAD THINGS FEEL RIGHT NOW, THEY WILL GET BETTER!:smiliedance: (lame cheerleader dance for you)
Snack feeding: Dana was doing that for a couple of days so i rang the child health line as i was in tears, breastfeeding every 30 minutes was a killer and was advised to strech the feed to 2 hours at least as it can often be that the baby has a tummy ache so wants to suck to feel better. i got out the dummy i had hidden in the top draw and streched a feed out, after an hour she feel alseep, we rocked then i put her in the sling, then after 3 hours she woke up and fed. if she trys to snack now i just put her in the sling and talk to her for a bit and if that fails gives the dummy. shes back to going 4 hours during the day for a feed and has a feed at 8 and 10 then 2 then 7 so im not complaining now. she was 2820 grams when she was born, dropped to 2620 and at her weighing yesterday was 3010. im not saying it will work for you but it did for me.
Circumsion: my dad wanted me to get my son done when he was born i just told them to cut his little finger off while they were at it. its a personal choice but u shouldnt feel like u have to have it done.
Dana's skin is peeling in these tiny soft white bits. im putting cream on it every change ( tummy, hands, head, feet etc) anyone else have this happening?
oh, i got sore wrists when i was feeding dana until i changed the position if that helps
brideofjabba
02-11-2006, 16:43
m_jelly - one of the pharmacies here make up there own wind mixture. It is supposed to be refrigerated(not sure how strict that rule is) otherwise i would send anyone who wanted some a bottle! Only costs like $5.
Nitty - my bubs is peeling too. totally normal! I've been rubbing him down with Bio-Oil...which is also good for cradle cap if anyone has problems with that.
SalTheGal
02-11-2006, 16:58
Hi Girls,
sorry no time for personals- and you chickies are way to chatty for me to keep up, we are starting to get into the pre bub swing of chatter we had, I had 3 pages of posts to catch up on!!!
But it does sound like everyone has been having some successes over the last few days, so yay for that!!!
We have had a so so day, Nedd has still had tummy pains, the ECN suggested I am feeding him too much from both sides and he is getting too much fore milk and not enough hind milk- so I am back to one boob per feed to see how that goes. The poor little tyke- I feel like all i've doen today is change pooey nappies. But he is such an easy baby to soothe I don't think we've had a point yet where he hasn't been able to console within minutes so can't complain.
Well must dash trying to get tea cooked and eaten before Nedd wakes for his next feed
Sending good nights to all.
Cheers Sal:)
Oh mjelly I missed u... you crack me up :laughing: :D
she thinks mummy is a git who should get out her milky bits instead of bothering her
Ditto
Bras tend to catch the throwup and let it slosh around on the shelf until your hands are free to take care of it - the books don't warn you about that one!
Ditto... isn't it lovely! Olivia does these great projectiles that always get down my cleavage (doesn't take too much talent, it's a big enough target!)
Do you find that you have a vomit/smell level that is acceptable? You know, one vomit you keep the shirt on, say 4-5 vomits you take it off? I may sound gross, but if I changed every time I got vomitted on I would go through my whole and DH's wardrobe every day! If you think I sound gross, I shower at least twice a day ;)
Hi Nitty and your bub Dana. Olivia was peeling a little too - I just give her a massage every now and then with olive oil - there are no nasty chemicals for her to react to in it - don't want to risk it - makes her smell tasty :laughing: I don't even use wipes on her toosh... just wet washers. Call me a nut if you will
I have to to exactly what you described, when bub is fussy with a belly ache... she seems like she wants more, but if I keep giving her more (she will pull off, cry, want to go again etc) then she majorly projectile vomits on me.
Hi Andrea! My DH offered to do a morning feed for me, and we tried, but he really had no clue how to give bub a bottle, and I had to wake up and express some anyway to relieve the pressure! At least he tried, unlike some other men! I've had a sore neck too - I think mine's from staring at bub when she feeds! Some deep heat and strong painkillers helped.
Briannabear
02-11-2006, 17:52
Hey all! :wave: Hope you've all had a good day today.
Sal - re: circ issue, my DH wants to get Lachlan done. He has quite a few reasons why, so although Im not real keen on the idea I do understand why he wants to. We have a consultation appointment next week to have a chat to them about it.
Well my c/section wound has finally healed from the infection and I feel heaps better. Back to where I was a week ago! :rolleyes: It feels so much better that sometimes I forget about it if Im thinking about something else and I twist in the wrong way and it hurts like hell! :eek: But I see light at the end of the tunnel... not long and I'll be 100% again and I can start exercising more to lose this baby belly!
If only I could stop eating chocolate.................................:p
brideofjabba
02-11-2006, 19:45
Becca - i hear you on the chocolate thing!! lol I got lots of it for my birthday, so i've been eating like crazy. Not good since i'm trying to get rid of my baby belly too. lol
Now theres a question of the day - How much weight have you lost so far and how much do you have to go to get back to your pre-preggo weight????
I have lost 11 kgs and still have 3.5kgs to go. Then i have another 6-9kgs to get to my target weight. I'm hoping i can do it!!!
bubs is crying...gotta go!
I have lost 12kgs, and losing more every other day! I have about 5kgs to be back at pre-pregnancy weight, and then want to lose another 5... After my 6wk check up I am joining weight watchers again (I was going when I fell pregnant).
Becca, great to hear that your wound is healing :thumbsup:
Morning ladies. REALLY bad night last night. I wont go into too much depth because you have all been there done that.
S/D is still being twat but he will get his own back.
Weight loss- I have lost 11kgs with another 9 kgs to get to pre baby weight, THAN I want to lose another 15-20kgs (wishful thinking). I t may sound stupid but if I want to lose weight I am going to have to start eating. I forget to eat or dont have enough time to eat. Just another part of mother hood.
Ok so bub is a bit dozy so I better do him some bottles up or he will starve.
TC
Rian + James
yesterday arvo i gave bub a bottle and he was grizzly till bed time with wind pain so i bit the bullet and changed formula to heinz nurture he slept from 8-1 than 1-6. could of been a coincidence but will see today. his a bit sooky this morning after b/fast so will try gripe water or something. i think ive worked out the hole dp thing. my dp feels helpless around new borns so he does not like to help...but he seems to think it just comes naturally for us mums, like we know exactly wat to do wen really we are only doing wat we thinks right because we have no choice.
betta go trying to balance a bub and type ill end up with rsi or something lol
morning! well we think jet's jaundice is back again :no: , he was so lethargic and floppy yesterday, it scares me, the doc said we have to take him for a blood test so we'll do that this afternoon when dh brings the car home. it worries me so much to see him like this especially because when he's so sleepy he's not feeding enthusiastically, which is really not going to help with his weight gain either :no: Its just so stressful and frustrating...i feel so useless and sad and worried. All I want is for my bub to be chubby and happy and thriving, is that too much to ask for? On the plus side he slept from 8.30 till 2am then from 3am till 6, so at least i got heaps of sleep last night!
re: weight loss I stacked on heaps of weight in the last couple of weeks of pregnancy (all fluid retention), but i've lost about 15kg so far, and I'm now only 2.5kg off my pre-preg weight :smiliedance: although haven't lost any yet this week. i really want to lose another 20kg though because i was way overweight when i got preg!!! I'm really hoping that BFing helps me take a lot of that off, but I'll probably be one of the unlucky ones who doesn't lose weight from BFing LOL.
anyway sorry no time for personals bub is grizzling and wants to be cuddled and this one handed typing thing is hard! have a good day everyone!
PS Pam and Rian thanks so much for your offers of help I'll PM you !!!
OH MY GOD!!!!! What a night from hell!!!! After having a MAJOR scream-a-thon with DD2 from about 6pm until she finally settled around 9 (at this time I still had to put fresh sheets on the bed because stupid me decided to wash them :banghead: and finish making the bottles) the phone rings at 9:30.... who the hell rings that late at night when everyone knows that we have a newborn baby???? Who else but my lovely mother in law :thumbsdown: after checking to see what number it was (thank god for caller ID!!) I quickly handed the phone over to DP saying he can answer it because I really dont feel like talking to his mum. She was ringing to see if she could come over to see Chlesea because she was on her way home from work and she hadnt seen her for a week and she missed her!!!!! And DP said yes!!!!!!!!!!! I was SOOOOOOOO angry!!! I went to bed and pretended to be asleep while she was here. Lucky for them they didnt wake Chlesea up :mad:
Eventhough I was so angry last night, after typing my story I kind of think I over reacted a little????? It was so late though, and I was so tired and I still had so much to do before I could go to bed.....
Well thats my rant for the day.... now onto some personals
Kimbaleo I am so sorry to hear that your bubs isnt well and has to have a blood test. Thinking of you and I hope everything is ok :hugs:
Briannabear Glad to hear the wound is healing, Do they know how it got infected in the first place?? My wound is doing ok, but I feel like I have done something on the inside...... have my check up next week so hopefully everything is ok
Weight loss Weighed 80kg when they weighed me in hospital, weighed 65kg last time I weighed myself 2 weeks ago (we dont have scales so have to wait until I am at mums....) hopefully I am back to my pre pregnant weight of 60kg though. But eventhough I have lost the weight my body is TOTALLY different. Flabby bits where there werent flabby bits before, excess skin.....oh the joys of having children.
Well I had better go before I ramble on more Sorry about the extra long post, I had to get that horrible MIL story off my chest....
Morning Girls
Looks like we are basically all having the same sorts of dramas at the moment. I'm with you Sue, about men thinking we know it all. There are times I just want to scream at John to leave Adam alone ( he is a perpetual looker....every 5 mins he goes to check on him until he wakes Adam up). But atleast he is trying I guess, I do get him all day to myself I spose. I feel like a big over protective mother bear. I bought some individual packets of s26 1 to make some top up feeds for Adam. he is feeding ok but sometimes he sucks forever and still wants more. I can feel how deflated my boobs are so I thought I'd give this a go. The worst part is because I express at this time of day when he has a long nap I find by tea time I am ready to explode. That's when John likes to give him the expressed feed. I think it's a comfort thing for Adam though to have Mum there. He always wants a feed directly from me before he'll settle. So I am substituting 9am feed with formula and expressing. That way I have around 80-120mls for John to feed him and then I put the old dummy ( that I was never using)in and pat him off to sleep in the feeding position. This has worked so well and have had two 7 hour nights.
Hope everyone has a lovely day...where is the rain in Qld that we were promised?????????????????????? Muggy again today, but I can see cloud :D
We had a great night, dana slept form 8-2.20 then 2.40 -7.30 so im really happy with that. i wish i could say the rest of the night went so well. im still really bluey and my "wonderful" hubby last night decided that telling me it was all in my head and i was doing it to myself really helped ( im sure u can all tell how sarcastic i typed that). so yeah dana had a great night but i had the worst one since she was born.
Tried to do some retail therpy today but after one skirt for me and 3 outfitts for dana she woke up and started screaming so i wont try doing that again by myself in a hurry. Although the outfitts are really really cute :)
Weight, i put on 1 1/2 kilos this pregnancy (im very overweight and was following my doctors orders). im now 5 kilos lighter then when i fell pregnant but still in a size 20. going to go back to weight watchers too when i can, i used to wear a size 26 so im happy.
Afternoon all. After mine and James' arguements last night I took him for a long stroll (4klms long..lol) this morning to the chemist to pick him up some new formula. I have taken him off the heinz gold and swapped him too just plan old heinz nurture. I also got him some infants friend (or whatever its called) and since I gave him a dose @ 11, hes been sound asleep since 12pm (knocks on wood)...lol.
I had a very sneaky friend (candypants aka Donna) offer me a sling for James that she had brought for her bubs Sophia but APPARENTLY Sophia didnt like it so she was going to send it my way. After a small arguement about me sending her money for it and Donna saying no, I gave in and excepted her gift.
WELL it arrived today, it was sent straight from the lady off ebay. Donna the sneaky bugger lied and brought me a sling of my very own. Sophia still has hers, a nice pink one and they brought James and I a black one. So the moral to my story is, that I think you guys are all so lovely and generous not with just material things but with advice and giving lots of hugs and I am so thankful to have you all :D sob sob :kiss: But also a big shout out to Donna, I love ya baby :yelclap:
Ok enough from me better get some sleep before bubs wakes...
Take care
Rian + James
SalTheGal
03-11-2006, 14:29
Hi girls,
I am sitting here tyoingwith Nedd in his sling cause he has decided today that he doesn't want to sleep in his bassinett- thats too boring apparently- we have so far been asleep today in the bouncer, in the pram, and now on me. But everytime I try to put him into his bassinett he screams. Little terror!!
Weight loss for me is about 12kg so far, with 4 to go to pre preg wieght. I am getting married in late jan so really want to shift another 5 by then- fingers crossed BF works wonders for me!!!
:yelclap: For Candypants- that is so sweet what you did for Rian.
Bubhub never ceases to amaze me- I never knew there were all these amazing lovely women out there!!!
Ali- my MIL called last night at 9.30 too- Df and I just looked at each other: like who calls that late when you have a new born?!?!? I was feeding at the time so DF got the honours.
:hugs: Kimba- hope the blood test turns out ok. Atleast if there is anything you will find out and hopefully be able to fix it. Good luck.
Rian I totally agree re the forgetting to eat. I usually end having a "brunch" somewhere through the morning- then struggle to eat anything till tea time. Not only do I forget/not have time- I also find I am not feeling very hungry, anyone else lost their appetite?
I also forget to drink much- and got a bit lecture yesterday fronm the EC nurse re dehydration, I need to carry round a drink bottle with me to remind myself to drink!!
Take care everyone
Sal:wave:
brideofjabba
03-11-2006, 15:09
We had a night from hell too!!! Oh gosh it was aweful. Nicholas started fussing at 4pm(which is normal for him) and that kept going until after 7pm..then it turned on to full on screaming until after midnight:( Dh and i took turns at trying to settle him because he was driving me CRAZY! I have no idea what time he did settle but i ended up sleeping with him on my chest in the recliner. He woke up then at about 4.30am and i tried to swap with dh but he wouldn't settle with him so i took him again until 7.15. That was our worst night yet! We hardly got any sleep at all. Surprisingly though i'm not that tired today! lol I bought a dummy today(i'm a total dummy hater but i'm desperate!!!) I only want to use it if he's fussy. I hope it works!
Sal - i'm not that hungry either..very thirsty though.
Kimba - i hope everything gets better soon!!!!
Nitty - don't let anyone ever tell you its all in your head!! I had pnd with my first son and it was horrible. It took me 11 mths to get help and those 11mths are a blur because i was so out of it,i missed that time that i should have been really enjoying my ds. I wish i'd got help sooner. I'm not saying you have pnd but be really careful ok. It got to the point that my dh was scared that i wouldn't be alive when he came home from work. I'm very vigilant this time about looking for the signs. ((Hugs))
2ndtimeMum
03-11-2006, 16:04
Hi everyone:wave:
been trying to catch up on all the pages briefly since was last on here, hopefully will be more frequent now but we have had a pretty dramatic week after saying goobye to my parents when they flew back to UK on sunday night......never say all is going well as it is just a curse!!! Harry has been an easy baby and following routine straight away ........ then Monday he started throwing up all his feeds, then not feeding off me and was worried about him dehydrating so was about to phone docs when changed his nappy and he had huge lump by his testicle, docs got me in straight away and said he had a inguinal hernia (where part of bowel had dropped down and got trapped when the testicles descend)which needed operating immediately, collected ds1 from school and took him to friends quickly as knew it would be overnight job, went to local emergency dept where dh met me and after being seen they sent us onto Princess Margaret Childrens Hospital in Perth as they could deal with it better.
Was upsetting to watch them try to put drip in for fluids and morphine as they could npt get a vein (bless him he has lots of bruises where they kept trying) eventually they put it in his head as head veins were more prominent, (he looked like an alien as they then taped a papercup over his head so it wouldn't be pulled out or rolled on) all the time he was screaming but once that was in he was calm and just looked so sorry for himself, they finally said I could feed him when they establish that op would be the next morning so that was huge relief to my poor boobs which had now been backed up all day!!!
Anyway to cut short, he had op under general (worse part as they kept stressing risks of general anesthetic for 4 week old and I finally cracked when they took him away, had been holding back the tears the whole time as only way I could cope), they did double hernia op and he has a scar matching my c section one and has coped so well you wouldn't know anything had happened, I spent 2 nights sleeping in put up bed on ward so am pretty knackered as all catching up now but it puts it into perspective when you see the seriously ill babies & children there that I think ourselves lucky and we had amazing care whilst there too.
Just one point for people with young children, whilst in emergency there was a drama going on as a brother had decided to face paint his little sister....with anti rust!!! they were still trying to figure out how to get it off when we moved up to the ward, so make sure the paint in your garage is well out of reach:eek:
So thats us, sorry no personals will catch up with all your goings on from now on,
Teresa
brideofjabba
03-11-2006, 16:13
Oh Teresa what an aweful thing for you to go through!! I hope Harry is ok and recovers fast! That would break my heart too, i'd be a complete mess. Take care ok.
Hope poor little Harry makes a speedy recovery for all of your sakes. What an awful thing to have to go through for you. Here's to everything from here on in going brilliantly. :hugs:
i hope everything is going well for your little boy and he comes home soon, make sure your taking care of yourself too.
Briannabear
03-11-2006, 19:25
Oh Teresa, sorry to hear about Harry being sick.:( I hope he recovers very quickly.:hugs:
Ali - They dont know how it got infected. At first they thought I was doing too much, but I hadnt been so it wasnt that. Just said it was one of those unlucky things. Good luck, I hope yours is healing ok and its just muscular pain you're feeling.
Teresa :hugs: to you and poor Harry! I can't imagine what that would have been like. Praying that he makes a speedy recovery. I just think what I would feel like if that was Olivia... must have been terrible!
teresa oh my goodmess!!! you poor things! i hope things are all ok now though. big hugs to you all :hugs:
Tereasa- Sorry to hear about Harry. Hopefully its all sorted now and you can continue baby gazing without worrys....
First up - Tereasa.... I am sorry to hear about Harry, but I hope he has a speedy recovery!!:hugs:
Lil Tyler is almost 3 weeks old and boy oh boy has it been a rollercoaster ride.... but I wouldn't give up one minute of it!
He is such a good lil baby. Wakes up and if he is starving will have a scream and then once his bottle is ready will drink like there is no tomorrow. Other times he will wake up and just lie there all inuisative like and look around at everything. The only feed problem I have is when he won't bring up his wind and he is blue and smiling like a trooper.... and they are the most beautiful smiles!!! :)
At night, once it gets to about 11, he is generally down. He wakes up at 1 for a feed, and then again about 4 or 5, and then up at about 730 to 8am. So we do generally get a small sleep. However, the last two nights have been a bit different.... he just doesn't want to go to sleep. He's all clingy and cries unless you cuddle him, and just doesn't want to be in his bassinett!! and I can't fall asleep unless I know he is.... so you lie awake waiting for him to put himself to sleep, and he just lies in bed with us as I'm too afraid to move him incase he wakes up.... he doesn't sleep lots in the day either... he's awake a lot so its not like he isn't tired.... I don't know... is it normal???
I still feel guilty about not being able to breastfeed him. Everyone is being supportive, well most people are.... I get horrid comments from the MIL, but she only beastfeed her kids for a week to 3 weeks and then put them on the bottle,.. but it just gets to me as it was something I really wanted to do. Tyler and I are more happy now he's on the bottle. But I still feel real guilty.
I have gone back to the way I was before I fell pregnant, I have forgotten how to eat and drink, so I'm lucky to have a can of coke a day and eat a snack in the afternoon and dinner. It's shocking!! so when I get a moment I have to try and remember to eat!!...
I have about 5 kgs left to loose to get back to what I was pre pregnancy, and by the looks of it these are the hard 5 kgs.... so once the rain in Bris clears up I think it's nightly walks for me!! I want to fit into my clothes, I'm sort of inbetween everything now. Don't quite fit in the bigger ones I bought for being pregnant and don't quite fit my pre pregnant ones coz I have a little bump.... but I also don't fit them cause my hips have widdened... and trust me they didn't need to!!!!... so its a shopping spree for me I think!!!
The lil man is screaming.... he needs a new nappy... sounds like he has finished disgracing himself!!!
So have fun everyone....and take care of yourselves and your lil ones!!!
SalTheGal
04-11-2006, 10:16
Morning girls,
Teresa, you poor thing....what a thing to have to go through, it must have been such a shock. I have to admit in my emotionalk state I had a few tears when reading your post- my heart goes out to you, but it sounds like little Harry has coped like a trooper- he is one tough little cookie!
Tylers mummy, I know exactly what you mean re the clingy thing. Nedd is proving impossible to put in his bassinett at the moment unless he is in a deep sleep. I have to nurse him through much of the day, caused me a minor meltdown yesterday....by the time DF got home I was exhausted!!
Got my mum with me today so that will be nice- I find that as much as I love my little man it is so tiring having to answer to his EVERY whim!!! She will give me a much needed break.
THen got Brother and SIL and their two little ones arriving tonight for a couple of days so I will probably be MIA till mon.
Hope everyone has a great weekend...
Take care and Hugs to bubs!!
Sal:hugs:
we had a great night, dana slept from 9 - 5 :) i was up cheaking on her but yeah. she went stright back to sleep then too.
Sal, do u have a sling? i put dana in her sling during the day and she is happy and i get a few things done. she hates her bed during the day now
Hi all. Well; have had a weird last couple of nights. Since I changed Sammy's teats, he sleeps so much and eats so much faster! He is a changed baby! Thanks so much for the advice. I am getting 5 hours, then 2 or 3 at night, so am functioning a lot better.:) We're off to a Ball tonight, I haven't had time to get myself organised as DH has not been helpful today - he needs more practice, I think. I seem to have mastered the ability to make up stupid songs and to walk a certain way to put Sammy to sleep. Poor bub went to the doc and has reflux, so he's trying infant gaviscon before the tougher meds. He does OK if he is tilted upright though.
Re; the weight - I have lost 12 kg and only have 1 to go. :smiliedance: I actually got back into my jeans yesterday but they are a little snug when I sit down! It was definitely my hips, as they didn't come close to fitting a week ago and I have not lost any more weight. I walk most days for 20 minutes around our hilly block just after feeding Sam and every second day do 180 crunches of different types. Having said that; my stomach muscles did not separate and I was a sporthead before getting pregnant; so don't hurt yourself trying it if you haven't had a medical check yet and your body is not used to it! I have reduced my calorie intake to 1500 per day and I keep a food diary to monitor what I am eating. Lots of fruit, veg and tuna. There is definitely saggy excess skin on my tummy though! I am starting on the weights next week for my bum and thighs - they are a bit wobbly. We have a gym set up in the garage though as DH is also sport-mad. We're not crazy though - there is a bar and a full-size fridge in there as well!
Teresa - I hope you, your other half and Harry are doing OK. I think I would have lost the plot and been hysterical!
Rian - I just sold a brand new black baba sling on Ebay - wonder if it is the same one?! Sammy hated it and prefers the front-carrier style.
Nitty - I only bought 4 tops since having Sam and am glad because my hips have definitely narrowed a lot over the last 4 weeks. I did have to buy an evening gown though and it was very difficult doing that with Sammy, so I can empathise! Lucky the sales girls took a fancy to him! 5 kg lighter! That has tp make you happy!
Tylers mummy - Sam does not sleep at all between 8 am and 2 pm. I can't put him down then either. I think it is worth it because he does so well at night.
Well - Sam is not asleep after all - better go! Let's make that doesn't sleep between 8 and 3-ish instead!
I decided to try shopping with Abbey in a sling yesterday - she didn't even realise we were doing something unpleasant until I was done and putting her back in her car seat. She had slept from car to sling, all around the shops, and only woke up then. I'll definitely be using it more often.
I did feel like a very bad mother when I took her out though - she had indents in her face from the beaded top I was wearing.
I'd gone out to buy some clothes for myself - all my old clothes are office wear since thats where I spent most of my time, and my maternity clothes are looking pretty dreadful now. I have no idea how much weight I gained and lost as I have no scales and am in denial. I did try on some pre-pregnancy jeans yesterday though - can anyone say M is for Muffin? M is for the Muffin I consoled myself with too!
I bought some Brauer Colic Relief yesterday too, she's been on it since around 4pm yesterday, had an explosive poo this morning with much pain and frustration, but is now having painful wind again and throwing up her milk constantly! Either the stuff doesn't work or there is a lot of wind in her and there is only so much it can do. I'll give it until tomorrow before reverting to Infants Friend - even with constipation and painful poos, its 2 good days and 1 bad day, not every day is a bad day.
BrideofJabba - please please please tell me the name of the T'wba chemist you got your wind formula from - I will drive all the way there to get some if I have to - I just can't bear to hear my baby scream in pain. I'm in Kingaroy at the moment, so its not that far.
I think I mentioned that my princess prefers to sleep on her tummy, in fact she sleeps so long (on non-windy days) that I think if I put her on her tummy at night she would probably sleep through until morning. But then I realised I wasn't ready for her to do that. I need to hear her squeak for a feed each night at least once around 3am or I worry that something has happened to her. I feel silly admitting this. I'm supposed to WANT her to sleep through!
hey all
Hope everyone is having a good saturday. It's raining on the GC so that is certainly a welcome sight.
I'm having a bit of a strange day. It's our first weekend with no visitors and I think John is trying to make up for having been at work for the last 2 1/2 weeks. I fed Adam this morning at 8.30 and haven't even got to nurse him since. I had a couple of expressed bottles in the fridge so John keeps feeding him. I am an emotional wreck but how can I complain??? My boobs are at breaking point and being pig headed I refuse to express any today so i have to get to see Adam tomorrow.
I feel like such a cow as I know he is trying to help but I think the last of my hormones are ruling my brain and I feel very resentful.
Anyway, sorry for the rant. Guess I better go and think about tea.
Have a great night
i'd express and freeze the milk stright away and tell DH your building a back up supply in case you need it for anything. my DH has had dana in the sling most of the day at the computer.
Oh Teresa :hugs: I'm SO sorry to hear about little Harry, you poor thing, I would be beside myself if that was Jet...makes my problems and worries seem so tiny in comparison! I hope all is good for him now.
I need to hear her squeak for a feed each night at least once around 3am or I worry that something has happened to her. I feel silly admitting this. I'm supposed to WANT her to sleep through!
LOL don't feel silly, I'm the same - if Jet sleeps for more than 4-5 hours (which is rare I admit) I either worry that something has happened to him (and have to check he's breathing) or else I feel guilty for not waking him for a feed so that he can gain weight!
Jet isn't as lethargic/ floppy today which is a relief (we can't get the jaundice blood test done till Monday now, because they couldn't do it Friday :banghead:), but I must have jinxed myself saying how well he's been sleeping at night, coz last night he woke every 2 hours for a feed and then took an hour to feed/ settle each time, so yeah not much sleep for me last night!
And today he's been SO clingy, constantly wanting to suck (although I'm not sure he's feeding 'effectively' as he still seems so hungry all the time) and then sleep on my lap. He won't sleep in his bed or a sling, or even go to his Dad for a cuddle or nap, if we try he just cries until he's back on the boob (2 hrly feeds all day). It's pretty frustrating.
I finally borrowed a breast pump (thanks SO much Pam! :kiss: ) and tried expressing last night, but only managed to get about 10ml - I know it was my first time, so I didn't expect to get much, but how much do ppl usually express? :confused: I was thinking it 'should' be more like at least 30-50ml, or more?
Anyway I topped him up with that 10ml from a syringe and he seemed to like it, I figured it was better than nothing! but since then I haven't been able to try expressing again because I can't get this baby off me for even 10-20 minutes today.
At least he must be getting some milk if he's on the boob so much, but to be honest I am THIS close to admitting defeat and going to buy some formula to top him up to see if that helps...I'm worried it will stuff with his breastfeeding but I would rather see him content and thriving. But I have no idea which formula to try? or whether to use syringe or a bottle and if a bottle, which one? Argh all this uncertainty it's driving me nuts!
Is anyone BFing and supplementing with formula and if so, what formula do you use and how are you doing it?
kim, have u treid to try and get him to focus on something else for a little bit. he might be getting plenty of milk but finding comfot in the breast so he wants that everytime he remembers hes not on it or could have a belly ache and be tyring to soothe it with sucking. i had a child health nurse tell me to distract dana until it had been about 2hrs since the start on the last feed before putting her back on when she was doing something similar. i found the dummy works if she isnt hungry but wats t suck. if shes hungry theres not soothing her without a feed
Kimba, at first that was all I was able to express... it was very frustrating! After a few goes, and figuring out what was the best time of day to express, I can now get about 80mls (from both breasts combined) in about 15mins... but that depends on when bub has last fed, etc. With which formula to use, I have heard that goats milk one is the best for breastfed bubs - something to do with the proteins being similar :confused: .... if you didn't live so far I would donate some of my milk :)... goodness knows I've got enough (I mostly only use the breast pump to releive engorgement). Good to hear that he isn't so floppy today... hopefully it will all settle down soon!
Jeffy, I know what you mean about your DH not having as much practice with the baby... my DH just can't settle her the way I do... he feels a little left out and sad that he misses out! Yeah, misses out on a screaming bub all day, and changing nappies!
Hi Kimba
I am b//f but also make up a`120ml bottle of formula for Adam to have either first thing in the morning or last thing at night. I am using s26 1 as with my older kids i found it great. also you can buy boxes in coles with 6 ready measured packets. this way the tin won't be off before we finish it. Adam doesn't seem to have noticed although he does get a little more excited when he sees boobies next time:D
I usually express around 60-80ml in about 15 mins. this is both sides after Adam has had a half feed from one side. but it is good for a top up later on.
Does anyone know if you can microwave breast milk to heat it? I use hot water but it can take a while
Hi Kimba
I am b//f but also make up a`120ml bottle of formula for Adam to have either first thing in the morning or last thing at night. I am using s26 1 as with my older kids i found it great. also you can buy boxes in coles with 6 ready measured packets. this way the tin won't be off before we finish it. Adam doesn't seem to have noticed although he does get a little more excited when he sees boobies next time:D
I usually express around 60-80ml in about 15 mins. this is both sides after Adam has had a half feed from one side. but it is good for a top up later on.
Does anyone know if you can microwave breast milk to heat it? I use hot water but it can take a while
Apparently breastmilk loses its nutrients and can become toxic if microwaved. I am not 100% sure how true this is but a g/f who b/f for 12 months warned me about it. HTH.
Rian + James
well dana got me back for sleeping through friday night, we were up all night last ngiht. every time i put her down she started screaming, really screaming. at one stage when she was asleep she screamed and went all stiff, scared me and i still have no idea what was wrong, she calmed down after about 4 minutes and slept for the next hour in my arms. going to call the child health line today and ask thema bout it. going to lay down now shes sleeping in the sling on her daddy
Hi All
I am still trying to settle in at the moment so not keeping up with all the posts that well!
I am still trying to bf. Had the bleeding nipple thing in the hospital and went for a bf day stay last monday which was good, however, my nipples were so sore that night I nearly gave up. Instead I was able to express and feed while they recovered. I was only getting 60mls to start with thengot up to 80mls at the end. Problem was that Kayley wanted just a little more than I was getting out so soon run out but lucky nipples were better and I have being going well on the boob since then.
Problem now is that last couple of days she has been feeding every 2 hours (or more on some times) and I don't think my storage is right back up by the time she wants to feed again. Last night was a nightmare - I could not settle her for ages. She is often staying awake for hours as well.
I was wondering if anyone has any advice about how to get expressing in this situation? I want to build up a store but after bf there is nothing left and I dont want to take it all to close to her next feed.
Apart from that everything is going well. Kayley has put on weight well and was only 10g under birth weight on Wednesday (1 week) which is good.
As for my weight, I have lost 9.5 kgs now but still have about 5 to go to pre pregnancy weight which is probably not too bad to this point. Still have a real belly though. Looking forward to doing some exercise soon but struggling a bit getting over my second degree tearing so probably a few days away yet before I can start walking etc (I waddle at the moment and get up and down very slowly)!
Anyway enought about me. Glad to hear most of you are doing well.
Hello all! Well, I had a fabulous night at the Ball and am paying for it today - feeling a little seedy as they kept topping up my champagne glass all night. It was worth it though! DH promised to drive and look after bub months ago, so I was really looking forward to it. Sammy slept 7 hours at Granny's after having stayed awake ALL DAY yesterday. :eek: Little bugger! I missed him terribly while we were out and couldn't wait to get back to him to have a cuddle. He didn't miss me at all though :no:
Went to try and find some clothes to fit me today and although I'm only 1 kg off my start weight, I had to buy a size 14 at Cotton On! I am usually a 10 and seem to be in between a 12 and 14 at the moment. Damn this flabby gut! Everything muffin tops and looks ****. Grabbed some cargos to see me through until I can fit back into some of other stuff. Saw some lovely clothes and felt all depressed :crying:
beck75 - You are an absolute trooper! What a major effort it has been for you. Does Kayley sleep longer at night? Maybe you could express then if she does?
nitty - Sammy spent all day yesterday just like that. I could not put him down at all. The stiff back thing could be reflux? Sammy does that and he has diagnosed reflux.
kimbaleo - I had the same problem with Sam feeding constantly. I ended up being told to make him wait longer so that the boobs could recharge! Good luck with Jet's tests.
di_matt - Granny bathed Sammy and fed him before I got there to pick him up and I felt the same way - like my baby was being taken away from me!
m_jelly - My jeans do up but yes; there is some muffin top happening and the gut rolls over the top when I sit down! :laughing: I hope Abbey is doing better today.
Well - time for me to have a nap while I can!
hi all - 1 handed typing, baby in lap, cant be bothered with punctuation or capitals lol.
jet slep like a dream last night - from 9 till 2, had a long feed, then from 3 till 6.30, then i put him in bed with us and he fed then snoozed till 9. Bliss! i feel so recharged.
hope he does it again tonight coz we have a big day tomorrow - have to take him for his jaundice blood test at 9 then go visit the lactation consultant at the hospital at 11.30 - dh will be at work so i have to do it on my own :eek: which will be my first solo outing with jet - a bit daunting, i hope all goes ok. first time driving too after my c-sect, but i'm not sore, so i'm sure that will be fine: if i can just remember how to work the baby capsule lol.
beck good to see you here and congrats on Kayleys birth! love the name. i'm having the same problem with expressing - i have to do it to build up my supply, and also want to top jet up, as well as build up a store if i can, the ec nurse wants me to express 10 min each side after each feed but its easier said than done! :no: there isn't much left after jet feeds and he's feeding for an hour every 2 hours all day, so i don't get much of a chance. might have to wake myself while he's sleeping at night.
di-matt thanks for that! i'll see what the LC says tomorrow about formula top ups - but i think doing one top up in the morning could be good and would also give me a chance to express.
re: m'waving breastmilk i was told not to because 1) overheating can break down the milk and remove its goodness and 2) m'waving heats unevenly and bub can get burnt...
lol at the muffin tops, i had one before getting preg, but its definitely much worse now - but at least i have an excuse :laughing:
oops jet is waking so no more personals but i hope you are all doing well and have a good night - and thanks for the kind wishes about jet's blood test, i hope it goes well too! :yes:
hi all, ive still been reading just not much to report.
kimba the other day at the chemist i saw bottles by tommee tippee designed for those who want to supplement feed. they are about 20 bucks each but are in the shape of a breast so as not to confuse bub too much.
kane has reached his birth weight again :smiliedance: . still snacking during the day (drinking about 50 mls at a time) but has full bottles 100ml at night every 4-5 hours.
anyone with older kids feeling guilty about the time they spend with bubs. jake and i are constantly arguing lately (he has a 5 yr old attitude) and it seems all i do is feed bub or burp him during the day i hope jake does not feel left out
take care everyone i have a mountain of housework to do :wave:
Kaiden makes me feel like im ignoring him when im feeding dana, he even trys to sit on my lap sometimes. i brought the feeding chair out into the lounge room so i can talk to him while i feed her but that doesnt seem to help. im started to put on one of his moives when im feeding and tell him we are watching it together maybe that will help. I get him a drink and a snack most times before we start but he always NEEDS something else that he cant do himself after ive been feeding for about 20 minutes. at other times hes ok with her, although he did ask me to bottle feed her so i didnt have to hold her, not sure where that one came from.
Dana slept again last night :) must have been a growth spurt or something that had kept her awake
must run shes awoken
mumchristy23
06-11-2006, 11:05
Goodmorning Everyone... hope you all had a great weekend. Got a wriggly, grizzly DS in my lap so i'll probably have to make this quick...
Re circumcision - DP and I decided not too mainly because
1. I didnt want to put the poor little thing through the pain
2. Decided that when DS gets older he can make the choice, rather than us making the wrong one for him and
3. Wanted DS to be the same as the majority of boys his age.
Having said that, I do not disagree with people getting their DS done and have also heard that it is not very painful these days... its a completely different procedure.
Re lack of help from DH/DP/DF/SD - I agree (Sorry but i cant remember who said it) that they just dont help as they seem to THINK we have everything under control and know what to do... I STILL have to ask (well really yell) at DP to help... around the house and with the kids. I can have 3 kids screaming at me at times and he still cant see that maybe i need a bit of help :banghead:
Kimba - How did Jethro go with his jaundice test on Friday? Jacob had jaundice when he was born and the health care nurse had to do 2 blood tests on the poor little bugger (had to make a little cut in his heel and get drops of blood - kinda like the heel ***** test). Everytime she left our house she said she would call that afternoon with the results and let us know whether we had to get readmitted or not so they could put him under the UV light at the hospital.
Jacob also stays on the breast for a while sometimes... not drinking though, just sucking! When I realise he is doing it I take him off and either put him over my shoulder to burp him, sit him up or give him a dummy... I find that if i just put him straight down afterwards he gets very grizzly.
Teresa - :hugs: That would have been horrible. I hope Harry is making a fast recovery. :hugs: for Harry too..
Cass - Jacob is also very clingy at times. Sometimes it can be quite frustrating if I have lots of things that i am trying to get done but other times i just enjoy the cuddles :D
I hear ya re: clothes. I have hardly any that fit me at the moment. The clothes that I wore towards the end of my pregnancy are too big and pre pregnancy clothes are too tight.
m-jelly - I put Jacob in the sling too to go to the shops. I love it! I find that I can shop for so much longer if he is in there than in the pram!
Jacob is going really good... putting on lots of weight which is great! Still no smiles though (he is 7 weeks now).... He just frowns a lot.
He sleeps really good of a night, goes to sleep around 8.30/9.00 and wakes around 1, then wakes around 5, then again at 7ish.
I cant remember if/who asked about BF bubs gulping down to much air when feeding.... but, if you are having those troubles... try feeding bub for a bit, then expressing some milk, burping bub... then start feed again.
Well gotta go, DS needs to go to sleep.
Hope everyone, including bubs, are well.
Talk to you all soon
Christy
Hi everyone!
I had a great surprise last night..... while I had a nanna nap yesterday afternoon, Dp organised for his mum to come over and watch the girls so we could go out for dinner and the movies!! Eventhough I missed them both like crazy, it was so good to have some uninterupted quality time with DP. It was only for a couple of hours, but it was great. Highly reccomend it!! :yes:
DD2 was 1 month yesterday happybirthday I cant believe how fast it has gone! Eventhough some days are really tough, I can no longer imagine our lives without her. She is starting to get a real little personality too. I think she is going to be a very stubborn little girl with a lot of attitude (obviously those traits come from her dads side of the family :D )
nitty Im hearing you LOUD and clear about older siblings acting as if we pay them no attention at all. DD1's teacher was holding DD2 the other day and she said "oh, I could take you home!", DD1 replied with "you can if you want!!". I get worried about the changes that she is going through (she has had the last 6 years with us to herself), but I think eventhough she was quite willing for her teacher to take her sister home, she does love her and will soon adjust to the changes :fingerscrossed:
Babys weight Glad to hear that our babies are putting weight on! How often is everyone getting their babies weighed anyway? Chelsea hasnt been weighed for 2 weeks now. I know she has put weight on though because her newborn nappies are getting VERY small and her OOO clothes are getting abit snug for her too.....
Kimbaleo How did bubs go with blood test today? Did you handle it ok???
Well, we just bought a new vacuum cleaner, so I am going to test it out while bubs is asleep.
Hope you all have a good day!!
I have had the WORST 4 days with bub :banghead: Feed times have become such a battle - she will feed for a minute, pull off, scream, arch back, go back on, pull off, scream, vomit, again and again until I just give up feeding her or she falls asleep. She will only sleep for 20-30 mins at a time, when before she was sleeping and settling wonderfully! I took her to the gp, he thinks it is reflux (well, I told him thats what I thought it was and he agreed). I now have some infant gaviscon to try her on, and we will see if it helps any. Jeffy, what are you using for your LO?
It is just so tiring, and terrible seeing her in pain (she does these high pitched screams :( )... and nothing really consoles her for long. My whole house smells like baby vomit!
Okay, there is my vent. Phew. I take heart that other people have it worse, and they get through it! They are not this little for ever, huh? Plus, she is still adorable :D
Nitty, a friend of mine was having trouble with their toddler not understanding the whole feeding thing and being jelouse of the newborn feeding - they got a doll for the toddler and he would pretend to feed the doll while mum was feeding the baby. Maybe that could help Kaiden? I think mothers direct (the ABA web store) has some good picture books about breastfeeding that could help also.
Jeffy, sooo jelouse of you getting to go for a night out... although there is no way I would be getting into a ball gown atm! lol! I ditto the muffin top thing! So not nice! I don't know how I would feel about leaving Olivia with someone else either. It just occurred to me... I have been always in the same room or just a room away from her since she was born.. at her beck and call, for the last 5 weeks! No wonder I am tired!
Have any other bf mums lost their appetites? I am losing weight, but I think it's just cause I am not eating much - only my 3 meals (okay, sometimes only 2, breakfast gets forgotton sometimes), and then they are not as big as they used to be. Not that I am complaining, mind you :D
Ohj Ali, now I am jelous of you too! I would love to go to the movies!!
Okay, can everyone tell that the walls are closing in on me! :laughing:
Regarding the weighing thing.. I had only gotten Olivia weighed at 2 weeks, and wasn't going to bother again until her 6 wks check, but the gp weighed her today to make sure the dosage was right for the meds... she has put on 770gms since birth.
Pam i hope the gaviscon helps her settle down. u must be so teird by now just one day of dana not sleeping had me almost in tears, although anything can do that atm lol.
WOW i just got a glass plate from my dad, he makes glass stuff, and its got a photo of dana in it, its a light pink plate with a sepia photo type thing in the actaul glass. ill post a pic when my hubby gets home as he has the camera
Ohj Ali, now I am jelous of you too! I would love to go to the movies!!
Pam Yeah it was great to go to the movies. We hadnt been since I was about 6 months pregnant. Couldnt really see myself sitting in the same uncomfortable seat for 2 hours while I was pregnant...... I hope the gaviscon works for bubs and you can get some sleep!!
nitty The glass plate sounds great! How thoughful of your dad :yes:
Vacuuming is now done and Chelsea is still asleep :smiliedance: My little brother is going to pick DD1 up from school for me too, so I dont have to rush off and get her either :smiliedance: Hmmmm what to do now :rolleyes:
hey everyone
I really don't have time for personals but just wanted to say a big HELLO to everyone my little angel well the youngest one is 4 weeks today happybirthday gee that has just gone so fast
hope everyone else is OK and bubs are behaving themselves take care all
Lesley :wave:
OMG! Sam's christening is on Sunday and I have so much to do as we are hosting a reception here afterwards for about 20 people. All family, but DH's nan is obsessive about housework and I have doors off at the moment because I need to paint them all. Sam never sleeps at all unless he is on me during the day, so I am having trouble getting things done. Still; my Ebay purchased electric steam steriliser came today, so that should save me some time now I don't have to do two bottles at a time :smiliedance:
nitty - that sounds lovely! Can't wait to see it.
pam - A nice frock covers a multitude of sins! No-one could believe I just had a baby because my stomach was hidden. It was a night I will never forget - sitting in Old Parliament House, eating tea looking through the window at New Parliament House! For the reflux, I am using infant gaviscon. Sam has been OK the last couple of days but he did chuck up down my back this morning! I only have a couple of things that fit me, so now I am in one of DH's tops. Looks reeeeal sexy :mad:
I have lost my appetite - I am pretty much eating the same breaky and lunch everyday, with a mueslie bar for a snack and lots of coffee! I have toast for breaky and tuna salad for lunch. I am more thirsty than anything else.
ali - Isn't it amazing how much better you feel even after a couple of hours out? So glad you had a nice night.
Well - going to run so I can scrape all those darned weeds off the gravel driveway - DH sprayed them weeks ago and it looks ****!
Hello, Hello!! I have finally made it over to the Birth group!! I have had DH home with us for the last two weeks, and have used as much of that time as I possibly could doing nothing....well as much nothing as a mum of three can do, lol!!
I hope you are all doing well. I have had a quick little look through the last two pages, but I'm not really up with all that's been going on with you all, sorry!
Jarvis is doing wonderfully. He too, needed a Jaundice test on day 4. Levels read 201...apparantly have to be over 280-300 before requiring the lights. DS1 needed to go under, and I was so relieved that Jarvis didn't need to. It would have meant that we would have had to stay in hospital for another couple of days.
We had the domicillary nurse out from the hospital two days after we came home, to check on his jaundice and check his weight, etc. He had put on 220gms in TWO DAYS!! :eek: Then, the Health nurse came out on Thursday, and he had put on another 190gms!! So, all up, he had gained over 410gms in 2 weeks!! :eek: I think I am going to have another chubby bubby on my hands!
B/F - I am B/F Jarvis every 4 hours, occasionally 3 hourly, depends on how long he decides to feed for. I have given him one formula feed as last week, I had a horrible night with him. He was unsettled for 6 hours, which was so out of sorts of him. He gobbled down the whole 120mls, then slept just beautifully afterwards! I decided though that I would venture out and buy a HUGABUB sling....best thing ever. It was that one night of him being unsettled that made me think "what if this happens during the day...I have two toddlers to chase after too". Highly recommend them. As Jarvis is starting to have more awakw time now, I can put him in there, and know that he is safe and sound, out of harms way, and continue playing with kids!
The whole weight loss thing isn't really happening here yet :thumbsdown: I was a size 10 before falling pregnant, and am now still wearing my maternity clothes. I haven't even tried squeezing back into them as I know it just won't happen. I seem to have a liking for sweet things lately, so anything even slightly chocolately is making it into my mouth. I have been for a couple of walks, but I tend to find it increases the blood loss (TMI) quite a bit, so I have decided to take it easy for a little while. As long as I can get my wedding rings back on in the next month, I will be ok with that!
Will be off now, I have probably prattled on for long enough now. Hope everyone is enjoying mummyhood, and for those of you with toddlers too, hope all is going well also...
2ndtimeMum
06-11-2006, 14:18
Thanks everyone for your kind words:hugs: , Harry is doing fine and we are getting back to normal this week, got to take his plaster and steri strips off the wounds this week, not looking forward to it as scared I might hurt him or it won't be healed properly. He is back in his old routine but my boobs are not producing enough for his hunger fests!!!
Kimba - Hope your little one is ok, I am supplimenting one feed a day at the moment with formula, am using Heinz Nuture - blue lid - and its working a treat, also using Avent bottles as they are supposed to reduce colic etc, have to say that both are doing the trick for us, will gradually wean him onto it, just keeping breast feeding to night and morning feed as he is such a guzzler I can't seem to keep up with his need but not going to beat myself up over it, feed ds1 for 6 months but he was totally different from Harry. Think the stress and limited feeds whilst in hospital didn't help and had no time to express then as too much happening.
Ikis84 - hope the gaviscon works :fingerscrossed: and that bubs calms down, its so horrible to feel helpless when they are going through it
Jeffy - brave women having a house full already, have a great day on Sunday!!
has anyones bubs smiled at them yet? and not the wind one, as can't remember how old ds1 was when he did it, just getting lots of looks and stares from Harry at moment, can't wait for the smiles to come!!
Teresa:)
Teresa, so glad Harry is doing ok!
weight - well i was quite ow to start with, I've gone from being 118kgs pre preg to 110 now... and like a lot of you, I keep forgetting to eat and not eating much. Very unliike me! But although my upper bod looks quite trim, my "butt huggin pants" from before are still a bit tight, and my tummy just looks much looser than it was! But Ella & I go for a 40 min spin in the pram each day, and it's v hilly here, so that should help.
Great 2 see you mumto2! Welcome to you & Jarvis :smiliedance:
I'm fiinally getting a few social dates back on the calender thankfully!
No formal balls yet Jeffy, although I have an empire line dress that would hide all ills! But I have a melb cup luncheon tomorrow with the mums group. Who are we all backing? I havent even looked yet.
Ikis, sending some good sleep vibes your way! motherhood fatigue is such a killer and feeding problems are really stressful as many of us are finding out!
Ali lucky you, couple time and kid free! Good for you. :D
Well Ellas getting fussy so its into the pram now.
Hello!
Well I'm proud of myself and Jet, it was our first 'solo' outing today and he was such a good boy! Took him to the pathology place to get blood and he cried a bit in the car but stopped when we got there and then didn't even cry when they did the heel ***** (and nor did I, LOL), he was amazing, I was so relieved. They couldn't get much blood out of him though, I think because he's a bit dehydrated? they had to do both heels but still couldn't get as much blood as they wanted. I just hope it's enough at least to test and check how he's doing.
Then I took him to the hospital to see the lactation consultant and he cried a bit in the car but stopped by the time we got there, it was great. The lactation consultant is just lovely and gave me so much good advice. She agrees with me that my supply seems low (I wasn't imagining it!) and that he's constantly wanting to suck because he's genuinely hungry (not just being sooky) and has given me a supply line so I can supplement each daytime feed with 30ml of formula or expressed milk, once I can express enough. The supply line is fiddly, but the LC thinks it's better than confusing him with a bottle at this stage, and at least he's still feeding from me each time which should help stimulate my supply. And my electric breast pump arrived today at last so I'll be expressing after each feed to try and stimulate my supply more, so hopefully I won't be using the supply line for long.
It's just SUCH a relief to see Jet sucking down the milk from the supply line and knowing he's getting enough and will be more satisfied and gain more weight. Hopefully his settling in the day will improve now too, if he's not so hungry! I gave him a feed with the supply line at about 1.30 and he was grizzly and wanting the boob again by 2.30 (but I'm not meant to feed him under 2 hours so couldn't feed him till 3.30), but then he settled and went to sleep in his car capsule, and is still snoozing! It's a miracle! :yelclap: I'll have to wake him for a feed in a minute.
Wow sorry for the long post (again) - I'm just so relieved and excited to have a solution to our feeding dilemma it's been really stressing me out. Will give him a feed and come back for some personals later :)
http://i20.photobucket.com/albums/b214/nittyj/DSCN0195.jpg
thats the plate my dad made me. hes done alot of glass work and hasa had a few shows too, im proud of his work.
ooer - I just expressed one breast as backup milk and got 100ml in 10 minutes before it started running out. No wonder Abbey has been regurgitating and lying back looking like an absolutely stuffed polar bear after a feed! And here I was constantly trying to shove a second boobie down her throat!
I'm sitting here using my new broadband connection to find a rental in Brisbane. Broadband-how I missed you! Pages actually come up before I fall asleep now. Hopefully Abbey and I can be out on our own by the end of the month. She won't appreciate it as much as I will though. Here she has an army of people willing to cuddle, snuggle and jiggle her to sleep whenever she wants.
Re the Hugabub sling - I learnt yesterday that you can't use them if you are in a hurry - I was sitting in the back seat of my toy car basically shoving the poor girl into it when she vomited down my back. It was stinky vomit too, like adult vomit is. We're seeing the gp next Monday for a checkup for both of us so I will ask him about it then. Breastfed babies aren't supposed to have stinky vomit so its a bit concerning. She hasn't done it since and isn't running a fever though.
Oh, some good news - I won $1000 in gold lotto on Saturday night. Sooo happy about that - when I left my ex I left a bunch of stuff I will need to replace when we move and that money will come in really handy. Next time, it will be the million and I can host a "BubHub spit up party".
Back to the house hunt...
Broadband is the best isn't it! Congratulations on winning the lotto, mjelly... definately make it a million next time!
My bubs vomit is always stinky - it's because it has come up after being in contact with the stomach acids... nice stuff :barf: Thats what I smell like all the time... Olivia's vomit is always curdled chunky stinky stuff that I have to scrape off. Not noice at all. I have gotten vomited on while wearing olivia in the hugabub - straight down the cleavage and there ain't nothing you can do about it! Gosh I love motherhood!
Well, the Gaviscon hasn't really helped at all I don't think - but it has been hard to get her to keep it down, so I can't really tell yet! Last night was a shocker, I think I had about 2-3 hours of broken sleep! But, this morning my dear, dear husband went to the chemist and bought some infacol - I don't know if it is just a coincedence, but bub then slept for 2 hours and fed without fussing and is asleep again.
I was a mess yesterday - bub was crying all day, and by the end of it I was crying with her. I felt like I should have been able to fix her, kwim? Nothing I was doing was helping her, and I felt like I was letting her down, as she is so helpless and was obviously in pain/upset. Well, hopefully today will be better :fingerscrossed: So far it is.
Kimba, great to hear that you have an action plan for your feeding issues with Jethro.. hopefully that will resolve itself very quickly and you will have a contented, full little bubba in no time!
Okay, I better go eat while I have the chance! Bub has been asleep for longer than 20mins, shock horror! :eek:
Wow it's quiet in here today *looking around* is everyone off placing bets and celebrating the Cup?
Supplementing breastfeeding with the supply line is going really well so far! Jet is already more settled and content, and is even sleeping in the day (he went to sleep at about 11.00 after his last feed and is still sleeping now) so it WAS just hunger after all, as I suspected. I feel so sad and guilty about not having enough milk for him :no: but I'm relieved that this is working so fast, and SO glad I went to see a lactation consultant and found a solution instead of just waiting for things to get better. I hope that following the LC's action plan sees my own supply increase quickly, so that I can stop fiddling around with the supply line and formula etc ASAP. It feels like I spend all my time either feeding or preparing bottles and tubes and pumps etc for the next feed/ express session an hour later. It really is consuming my life. But in the meantime I'm happy to do whatever it takes to feed and help my little man!
m_jelly: congrats on the Lotto win that's great! :yelclap: I'm envious of your milk supply - can you freeze some and post it to me LOL. The most I've been able to express so far was 15ml :o but I'm optimistic it will get better and better.
nitty: wow your dad is so talented! the plate is gorgeous. Does he do orders? it would make a lovely christmas present for a loved one.
becbabe: sadly I'm with you on the loose tummy thing. My muscles are still separates and haven't gone back to how they were so it just makes the fat on top look even worse, like I'm still pregnant, LOL.
Teresa: glad to hear that Harry is doing better now it must be such a relief for you all. Sounds like supplementing with formula is doing the trick for you too, that's great. It must have been hard trying to express and keep your supply up with hospital etc so well done for perservering!
Re: smiling. Jet has smiled in his sleep since day 1 (not his 'wind' face either, but real smiles, soooo gorgeous) it's like he's practicing or something. DH, my mum and I all insist that we've caught him smiling at us too, but I think it was more by accident than intent. I can't wait till I get a real gummy grin!
mumto2cheekyboys: welcome and congrats on the birth of Jarvis - cool name! (I think all our October bub's names are just fabulous). His weight gain is terrific, you must be giving him the 'Optimax' milk! LOL. Jet was jaundiced in hospital too but didn't quite hit the level of needing lights either (phew).
re: hugabub. Thanks to Pam (ikis84) I got a chance to try out a Hugabub this week and can now see why everyone raves about them. I just bought a navy one for us (Pam I'll be returning your pink one to you this week, since pink doesn't quite suit our boy, hehehe)
Jen: wow Sam's christening already? that came up fast. You sound like the real eBay wiz with all your bargains!
lesley: hi to you too. Isn't it scary how fast time is flying, Jet will be 4 weeks on Friday (would have been 6 weeks if he'd arrived on time!)
ali: lucky you going to the movies. It's all I can manage to get to Woolies or the doctor/ hospital/ health centre at the moment. Thank goodness for Foxtel or else I'd go mad! hehehe.
Pam: so sorry to hear of your feeding and reflux hassles. I can totally empathise with bub crying and you crying too and being frustrated at not being able to help - I've been there too! I hope that you're able to get some sleep and that everything sorts itself out soon, because Olivia is just too cute for you not to be enjoying every minute!
OK well I can't believe it I got through personals without Jet waking up HALLELUJIAH!
Hope you all backed a winner in the Cup!
SalTheGal
07-11-2006, 13:29
Hi Girls,
My goodness it is amaxing how much i miss catching up with everyone when I can't get online for a few days!!
So many posts so won't bore you with too many personals......
Pam: Hope you find some relief for poor Olivia soon, Nedd doesn't bring too much up so I can't imagine how distressing it must be. I have been told tht Infacol is the best you can get so hopefully that is working for you.
Kimba: I am SO glad things sound like they re so much better for you. Yay for JET!!!!:yelclap: He will be growing and thriving before you know it, and you will wonder where this little chubba came from!
MJelly congrats on the lotto win- thatis fantastic, I am very jealous!!!
Jeffy- OK, I totally take my hat off to you regarding your exercise regime- can you send some of your energy my way?!?!
Regarding weight loss, I too have such a flabby tummy- it is discusting!!! I can fit into most of my pre preg pants, but have a massive pot hanging out which is gross!! I have been doing some sit ups, and have to giggle cause when I clench my stomach muscles I can't even tell from the outside- there is too much flab!
Just a question regarding expressing- I just got my expresser yesterday, and if I am going out or wanting DF to feed Nedd with expressed milk, how do I know how much expressed milk to give him?
Nedd is going pretty well. I had him off to the Drs yesterday as he came up with a rash of blisters on his bottom overnight. I didn't think it looked like nappy rash but apparently it is a really bad case- I feel terrible!!! Poor little tyke must have had such a sore bot, it came up so quickly. But for a few days he was doing HEAPS of poos, apparently cause I was giving him both boobs he was getting too much foremilk, which was going straight thorugh him- and thus caused nappy rash. But now we are back on one side perfeed and he has slowed up with the pooing heaps and seems a bit happier.
Last night he fed at 11- then didn't wake up again till 5am. I had to get up a couple of times and check he was still breathing- he is in our room and usually a bit noisy but last night he was in such a deep sleep I didn't hear a peep from him!! I should be happy!
Well speak of the devil he is waking for a feed so best be off. Catch up again soon
Take care, Sal :)
hey all
i am having a bad day today
I am fighting with my DH he is being so selfish it not funny since bub was born he has fed her 3 times held her an extra 5 times and had her in the shower twice no offers to do a night feed or to pick her up when she cries or to make her a bottle he just Rush's out the door to have a smoke or use the phone to make plans about when he is going to go out next or his next hunting trip witch is this weekend i know he is working hard but really that is no excuse because he still finds time for the older children his friends and the pub IE last Friday night he came home got changed and went to the pub wrote him self off and passed out then we had sport all day Saturday and he went to bed early Saturday night to make up for Friday and then had to get up early because he CHOSE to work on Sunday morning
come on be fair we all need a break
now that we are fighting he has changed his 1st nappy and had the baby all arvo
woo hoo it will only last one day thought i am not getting to excited about it
i am just so over it and it good to know i am not alone
big hugs to everyone :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
big :hugs: for you lesley I think most of us can sympathise with you re DH's who aren't exactly 'stepping up' to help or support us as much as they could!
I am trying to 'train' my DH LOL - for instance at the moment Jet is grizzling and DH keeps saying 'he wants you' (and wants to hand him over) and I keep saying 'well I just fed him, so he isn't hungry - he has to get used to you, so YOU settle him down'. I wonder how long I can stand hearing my bubba cry though...?
SalTheGal
07-11-2006, 14:47
:hugs: Lesley.
They say men are from mars, women are from venus- and I swear it is none so obvious as when we give birth to a newborn bub. Sometimes they just don't get it do they?!?!
hey
thank you kim and sal i needed to hear that i am not alone coz it is heartbreaking sometimes :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
sorry guys not much time for personals as ive just gotten back from a melbourne cup lunch, i dont think i saw dana for 3 hours!!!!
will catch up later
oh my Dad would do orders im sure http://www.divineglass.com.au/ is his website. not sure if there up there yet as i hadnt seen him do them before and it was the most lovely suprise. we have kaidens feet in glass too on a plate which is really really cool.
Hi Guys
Like usual, I havent got a heap of time - have only had time to read thru the last few posts. Thought I'd say a quick hello before Lily wakes up for her tea & bath (any minute now).
I hope everyone is doing well. Things are pretty good here, although yesterday was a shocker - Lily cried just about all day & hardly slept a wink. Mind you, when she finally did go to sleep at 10pm last night, she slept until 4am which was lovely for me (but I had very sore boobs when she woke for a feed!!).
Lesley - I feel for you, with DH not helping you much. Hopefully he'll realise he could be doing a lot more & start to pull his weight a heck of a lot more. I'd be pretty miffed if I was you.
M_jelly - good luck with the househunting. I hope you find somewhere without too much hassle. I'm in Brisbane too - we live in Wilston. Where are you looking?
Well, better go - I will catch up some more in another day or so when DH is on his 4 day break & I have more time.
:fingerscrossed: to good sleeps to all the Mums & bubs out there for tonight.....
I've just caught up a bit more on the posts & just read about poor little Harry. OH MY GOODNESS!!! Teresa, that must have been just awful for you. I hope he's doing a lot better now. What a shock that must have been for you. :hugs: to you......
Boo I am still around :D Just busy kissing and cuddling my gorgeous little man, I have a new video of him if you would like to CHECK IT OUT (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=enDDDJj5BQM). Take care...
R + J
Morning all!
Well- had a dream day yesterday and a dream night last night. Sam slept from 8 until 11 yesterday morning, so I got out and weeded the garden. Looks SOOOO much better. I even had time to rake the gravel. Then he slept from 3 until 4 and I had time to undercoat my hall skirting boards. Now - he is still asleep! I think I am in for a bad day. :yes:
Ann - I am in for a day like that today, it goes good day/bad day for us!
kimbaleo - Exactly what happens with my DH! I told him if he wants to train two nights a week, I can have two off where he bathes Sam and feeds him, etc. He kept saying "He wants his mum". He honestly doesn't care who feeds him as long as there is a bottle in the food hole!
lesley - ONE nappy?! Whoa! You are a very patient woman, that's all I can say!
Darn it - Gotta go, Sammy has woken up with his hands in his mouth!
im with you lesley in having a useless dp. my tally so far nappies 0....bottles 1 and even then he whinged cas kane would not burp. last night kane had wind build up for 2 hours screaming while useless dp sat downstairs and played his play station. in the end i screamed at him for help while i ran a bath for kane. he came upstairs and held ds for bout 2 mins looking frustrated untill the bath was ready and went straight downstairs. in the bath kane let out bum bubbles and felt better.takin him to doc today as on top of that he is constipated. i have an internal infection.near where they did c/section. so on antibiotics. if it dont clear by fri doc said time to get worried
hey all
i am still not happy this morning DH thinks coz he had montanah for most of the afternoon yesterday that all is good now but what about the other 4 weeks of her little life where he was happy to be in another room and listen to her scream while i made her a bottle or kick me to get out of bed and feed her while he slept ONE night dose not make up for that and that is what he is being told too
trust me if you knew me you would know just how inpatient i am he has been hearing about this for 3 weeks now
sue
i hope your infection clears i know how uncomfortable it can bee to have the scar let alone an infection:hugs:
and to everyone else hope bubbas are being good for you today
oh yeah i won 120.00 on the melbourne cup yesterday go me that's 4 years running maybe next year i can win millions for me and my children i promise to share with you all :yes:
:hugs: LESLEY :hugs:
Hi all, well I've been up since 4.15am - it seems this kid is destined to make me into an early riser, for the first time in my life! Maybe not such a bad thing...
Lesley that's great about your win on the ponies yesterday I'll have to get a hot tip from you next time!
Sue hope that Kane's constipation is sorted soon and that your infection clears up, that's the last thing you need right now with your hands so full!
Jeffy - yeah my DH thinks that Jet wants boobs every time he cries (which is probably right come to think of it) but it would be nice if he'd at least TRY to calm him down rather than just handing him over each time. Hope you have another good day today! I think it's like that for us too - one good day then a bad one.
Jet was good again last night, slept from 8.30 till 12ish, had a feed and then slept till about 4ish, but wouldn't go back to bed after his feed :no: so I had to give him a quick top up at 5.30 to quieten him down. By then I was sh!tty and figured I might as well have a hot shower to calm down and decided to stay up, since it was almost 6 by then.
He's sleeping now though, has been since about 9.00 after his last feed, it's brilliant, this is the first time since hospital that he's been settling and sleeping in the day. I feel so bad now that all this time he's just been hungry, not 'difficult to settle' - what a terrible mother I feel like :shame: but hopefully from here it will all be good and no more dramas.
Feeding is still a total hassle because I have to make up a bottle (with formula, or expressed milk if I have some) and supply line every time I feed, THEN express for 20 minutes, feels like I'm constantly feeding or expressing or preparing a feed or sterilising the gear, but hopefully we won't be doing it forever :fingerscrossed: and at least when Jet has a sleep like he's doing now, I can scramble to do a few other things. have finally had a chance this morning to print off all our baby thank yous to post out! (it's only taken almost 4 weeks, oops)
DH is getting better this week, I must be a good trainer :laughing: He loves bathing Jet (because Jet loves the bath! LOL) and gets up in the night to change him then bring him to me for a feed, he's also perservering to learn how to settle him rather than just handing him over when he cries. He doesn't mind changing nappies now either, now that he's worked out how to do it. Thank goodness!
mumchristy23
08-11-2006, 12:17
Hi Everyone
Guess what..... Jacob smiled yesterday for the first time (7 weeks 5 days old) it was SO cute.
I had the worst day with Jacob and the girls on Monday. The girls kept testing me ALL day.. everytime I asked them not to do something they kept doing it and Jacob kept crying ALL day... he would have a little sleep for around 5 mins and as soon as I went to put him down he would wake and start crying again. :banghead: That night I went to bed late and had both the girls wanting to sleep in my bed around 2.30/3.00am... so I had to put them back to bed then Jacob woke so I had to feed him, back to bed at about quarter to 4, THEN the phone rings at 5.30am... my mum called cos my brother had just got taken to hospital because he was having trouble breathing and then the alarm went off :banghead: As you could imagine I was VERY tired yesterday!
My brother is doing ok now. They are doing allergy tests and sending him home today.
I'm thinking Jacob has reflux. I'm going to the chemist to get some wind drops and if it doesnt help will take him to the doctors to see what they think. How is everyone's bubs that has reflux doing? Did the wind drops (or other stuff from chemist work) or did you end up needing medication?
Sorry dont have time for personals today guys, Jacob is grizzly and unsettled so Im going to see if he will go down for a sleep. If he does (for more than 5 mins) I'll be back.....
Talk soon
Christy
Morning all!
Hay, I see you are in Canberra. I am too. I had a little boy on 3 October but have mostly been posting in the September thread because he was overdue.
Well! I finally managed to figure out how to get Sam to sleep during the day - I chuck a wrap over the front of the pram to make it dark. Got another hour of gardening done and i is finally not looking like such a dump! I am hava really hungry day today and am trying really hard not to get pizza or something.
Mia - Ooh - a Canberra girl; I'm in Tuggeranong where are you?
Christy - Sounds like an absolutely awful time for you. e Sam's reflux is OK now I have him propped up and I don't put him down for at least 1/2 hour after a feed. Hope your brother is OK.
kimbaleo - You are doing a great job! I cannot believe you have persevered with feeding!
well - the cat wants its food. Better go. (I hate the cat):mad:
Hi everyone!! It sounds like a few of you are having some luck with lotto and the horses yesterday. CONGRATS!! :smiliedance:
Sue Sorry to hear you have an infection. Hope it clears up ok. How did they now you had an infection in the first place?? I think I have something not right happening with my insides... I am 5 weeks tomorrow post c-section, but it just doesnt feel right. Sometimes it feels like it is burning, other times it feels like I have done something to a muscle :confused: I see my OB Friday week, but I dont know whether to see my GP before then......
Christy Glad to hear your brother is doing ok now
Jeffy We really need to do some gardening around here too. The trouble is we both HATE it with a passion...... Good to hear you are getting some done and you have figured out a way to get bubs to sleep during the day :thumbsup:
Well we have had a few good days. Nothing major to report, except Chelsea has gone from waking up once a night, to twice a night. I am praying that she isnt going back to her old ways :fingerscrossed:
Well I am going to grab a cuppa and help DD1 with her homework while bubs is asleep
Have a good night everyone!!
brideofjabba
08-11-2006, 15:08
Does anyone have a baby that sleeps horribly or am i all on my lonesome?? Nicholas will only sleep for 2 hours at a time and then can take up to 2 hours to settle back to sleep. I'm seriously sleep deprived and don't know what to do about it. He is sooo gassy. Even the wind mixture i bought isn't helping anymore. :banghead: He is usually fine during the day but nights are hell.:gloomy:
Hey everyone - just found where you all are posting now.
My little man was born just in time for the October group - Jayden Mark was 9lb 7oz and was born by c-section as he had his arm stuck over the top of his head and he was not going to come out naturally :no:
I have the same question as Ali - how did you know you had an infection??? My c-section scar is uncomfortable when I go to the toilet (TMI) sorry, and it still "pulls" when I move. Not sure if this is normal, my c-section was only 1 week ago so maybe I am being too impatient.
I have been keeping up with the personals and everyone is full of so much useful information - thanks so much.
Hugs to all those who are having sleeping and feeding problems :hugs: - fortunately, Jayden appears to be going OK other than not sleeping too well at night. But I am thankful there is nothing more serious.
You are NOT on your own... think of me when you are up at night! Bub used to only wake twice at night, now it is 2 hours between feeds, with feeds lasting about 30-40 mins. I am sooo tired! And soo sick of hearing her cry.
Days are worse though, the feeds are taking almost an hour, about three hourly, and she will only sleep for about 30mins. My nipples are getting sore again :banghead: (gosh I love that icon). Her sucking seems different half the time, almost like she is using me as a dummy - but, she will not take the dummy instead, and will cry and scream until I give her the booby back. Although, every other feed the booby does not even console her! I don't know what I am doing wrong! :banghead:
lesley. yay for the melb cup win... i never win anything!
sue.. :fingerscrossed: your infection clears up quickly - thats all u need atm!
ali, i think u should call ur gp and see what they think - better to be safe than sorry.
brideofjabba
08-11-2006, 16:28
Her sucking seems different half the time, almost like she is using me as a dummy - but, she will not take the dummy instead.
Nicholas is doing the same! My boobs are hurting again too when he feeds. grrrrr That sucks that she's not sleeping well during the day either. At least i get a break from it then..though with a 2 year old running around, break is not quite the word i would use. lol
brideofjabba
08-11-2006, 16:29
oh and i won $2.50 on the cup yesterday. lol spent $5 though so i guess i really lost $2.50.:laughing:
just a quickie cause im gonna grad some zzz while i can but i thought id answer the question re the infection.
juz a week later its normal to feel tender.esp on the sides of the scar as thats where they pull you open (charming heah). they assume i have an infection as a) i have the runs for a week (i know tmi!!!!) and there is a spot about a hand lenghth away from scar which is tender and underneath the scar is a "hot" spot ie if you touch it it feels hot. all 3 are signs of an infection. i dont feel too bad but thought id get on top of it
Morning all.
James is in bed with his dad and I have the girls up and we are picking out very girly outfits for today. I feel bad I dont get to spend much time with them.
ANDREA- :yelclap: on your win/loss (I think) I suppose you could have lost it all...lol
ANDREA + PAM- Sorry to hear your little angel/terrors:devil6: are keeping you awake. Have you tried setting a routine for them of a night? Evan though babies dont need a bath every night, I find James sleeps well after a bath so I religiously bath him of a night, evan if its only in warm water no soap.
I am sure you mums have thought of all this but otherwise I have no advice sorry..'
PAM- You are doing nothing wrong hun, dont ever feel that you are. Its not tru when they say babies only cry when something is wrong. If you are certain there not, hungry, wet, windy, cold, hot (sounds like melbourne weather,lol) maybe check for irritataing tags on her clothes, or irritation from clothes and things like that. If you can rule out all those things you can alsmost guarantee that shes just crying for attention and you can tell her to get over it and go make urself a cuppa..lol BUT IT DOES GET EASIER I PROMISE...
JUZP- Congrats on the not so little Jayden. I have no advice on c-section scars so sorry but cant help.
On another note, I am just noticing how many of us mummys have had to have emergency c/sections. A bit scary really when you think that 100 yrs ago (for example) there was no such thing as a c-section and alot of babies were stillborn because of this a alot of mothers died while giving birth. I wonder if the so called "baby boomers" generation were the first to see c-sections introduced hence there were a big boost in how many live births there were...
SORRY I HOPE I DIDNT OFFEND OR UPSET ANYONE BY TALKING ABOUT THIS, I HAVE A HABIT OF TALKING OUTLOUD..
Ok so I am all talked out. I hope everyone is getting enough rest and to those who arnt, Karma, if you persevere it will all be worth it in the end :D
R + J
Good morning! Just a quick post before I have to get DD1 up ready for school.
We had a good night. Chelsea fed at 9, then woke at 2, 6 and is back to sleep now. Having to only get up once through the night is pretty good for a 5 week old I think. :fingerscrossed: it lasts!! (Me thinks it wont though :thumbsdown: )
Rian I know what you mean about feeling guilty that you cant spend as much time as you used to with older children. I am going to leave Chelsea at home to spend some time with her dad on Sunday, and I am going to take Hannah out for a couple of hours. It is so hard to share your time around with everyone when there is a newborn in the house!!
suemp Saw your post in the caesar section and just read what you wrote here. Think I might call my OB and see what he says. I am not feeling that bad today though after a few hours rest......
Well better go get DD1 up or she will be late for school.
Hope everyone has a good day! :wave:
Good morning all *as she prys her eyelids open*.... glad you had a good night ali... I used to have nights like that, lol!!!
It was another 2 hourly night last night. Thanks for your encouraging words rian - its great to hear that again, and again and again - it will pass! We always bathe Olivia in the evening - she does need it, by then she stinks of vomit - there is no nice baby smell in this house, only vomit! After her bath, massage and a long feed she sleeps a long stretch (either 3, 4 or a few times it's been 5 hours!)
I am going to my first ABA meeting today - gee, it's the first time I have been out of the house for something other than a walk since sunday! Hopefully bub isn't too unsettled while I am out - oh well, at least there I can just sit and feed her if I need to!
Hi JuzP :wave: nice to have you back chatting with us, and congrats on the safe arrival of your big boy!
jessgray
09-11-2006, 09:12
:wave: hi all i dont get to come on here much now:crying:
lol how are we all? ds2 has become a spewy bub so we are off to the dr's to get answers today. so far the reality of 2 under 2 is harder then what i thought lol i have a insomiac 18 month old who has just started the terrible 2's lol ds2 spews after almost every feed and cries alot. the house looks like bomb hit it:laughing: the good part is ds1 actually slept through last night and i got a few extra hours sleep.
SalTheGal
09-11-2006, 11:32
hi girls,
well pam and andrea you have posted the exact thing I was going to ask bout this morning- sh**ty night times!!!!:banghead:
Nedd is going pretty well during the day- I think we have his routine well worked out. Mornings are his more alert time, he sleeps like a dream throughout the arvo. I can recognise his tired signs and am now able to put him down in his bassinett with little diffuculty to go off to sleep. He has a bath then feed bout 6-7, then sleeps till 10-11, and then the nightmare begins!!
Last night I got maybe 3hrs broken sleep, by this morning I was so stressed and in tears. The 11pm feed last four bout 40mins, then he takes a good 1.5hrs to settle, then he wakes bout 4 for his next feed and this morning he didn't settle till 7am, after giving him several top ups, and then he slept for 1hr:banghead:
Give us the strength!!!! He would be a dream baby if he would just settle after his night feeds- instead he is WIDE awake- like he thinks it his play time, little terror!!
Anyway- thats my rant for today, just a quick post cause I haven't eaten yet today so STARVING- Nedd has just drifted off so will make the most of some time to feed myself for once.
Sorry to hear of others troubles, hope the week ends on a great note for everyone.
I have MIL coming to stay for a few days this arvo so will probably be MIA till sat. Wish me luck- she is a bit psycho (think obsessvive, jealous of my family, self centered, moody- you get the idea) so the visit could go anyway at any time!!!
BTW love all the new icons!!! :wizard:
OH OH, I WENT TO COURT THIS MORNING AND WON THE ORDERS I WANTED. DD'S ARE NOW WITH ME FULL TIME UNTIL THERE FATHER FINDS A HOUSE THAN WE START SHARED CARE :D
AND WE ARE ALL NOW MOVING BACK DOWN NEAR OUR FAMILY IN HUNTER VALLEY NSW..
THATS ALL FROM ME
Sorry to hear about the naughty babies :( :shame:
Mia - Ooh - a Canberra girl; I'm in Tuggeranong where are you?
Weston Creek!
Ripley seems to want a feed at 5.30am no matter how we try to shift his times back a bit, the little rascal. I keep trying to crack the one-middle-of-the-night-feed but it's still usually two. He's such a smiley baby though, after a feed I call him Bashful because he lies there and looks at me like he is feeling all this embarrassed pleasure!
Hello all! Well, Sammy has decided he likes a sturdy routine. :D He seems to like 'Feed, sleep, play.' I am a very happy mum as he had his first nap in his big-boy cot today and is asleep in there again. We hope to move him in there next week as he snores and makes so much noise it is hard to sleep at night. I just had a nap without him in our room and slept sooo well. I have gotten so much done in the garden today that I am terribly sunburnt as well. Looks great though and it is fantastic exercise.
Mia - Literally up the road! I'm in Conder (darned Tharwa) Nice place to live with a view of the mountains but it takes such a long time to get anywhere!
rian - Congrats! I'll bet you are stoked to have the girls. I hope things are settling down and you are not overdoing it. You're so right about the c-sections. I was one of the few chicks in hospital that had no intervention, which surprised me.
sal - I have only had the occasional night where Sam won't settle - he doesn't sleep much during the day though. I stopped crying as soon as I started getting enough sleep! I hope things settle down soon with Nedd.
jessgray - Two under 2 and you have time for the internet! You are supermum. I don't know how people cope with more than one child!
Well - we have visitors tonight, so I am going to scoff my tea now as Sam will want food as soon as he wakes. Mmmm.....bean tacos.....
brideofjabba
09-11-2006, 16:35
Good afternoon. Thanks for the sympathy. I'm going to try a routine that includes his bath. i'll try anything!
Mia and Jeffy - i used to live in Canberra.....i've lived in 6 different suburbs. lol I moved to QLD when i got married just over 3 years ago. I miss Canberra!
Well I have done the reverse, moving from Brisbane to Canberra 3 years ago! Hi Jeffy, are you in any playgroups or mum and bub groups or anything?
after a feed I call him Bashful because he lies there and looks at me like he is feeling all this embarrassed pleasure!
Mia that is such a lovely way of putting it! Olivia looks at me like that too when she is actually alert after a feed! Isn't it heart melting?
Well, I have had a good day with bub - hopefully things have settled down now. I will blame it on a growth spurt, hehe. Anything wrong that you can't figure out, you can always blame a growth spurt or colic, lol. The only thing is, all that suckling she was doing 2 hourly has made my poor boobies very full again. Hmm... maybe she was trying to increase my supply :detective: Who knows!!
Do all the Sydney october mums know about the bubhub meet up at homebush on the 23rd November? I will be going... it would be great to see some of you there! Here is a link to the thread about it (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=48309)
Well, hubbie has bub in the sling and is making me a spesh dinner, and has told me to stay in the computer room while he gets things ready... who am I to complain???
Hope y'all have a great night.. me included! :rolleyes:
GeorgiaAnne
09-11-2006, 18:30
Hi everyone, finally back on the computer which menas back to work (a bit)
Just posted my birth story which was quite cathartic to write.
Have had a quick squiz through posts and it sounds like we all have our probs eh!
The last few weeks have been pretty difficult getting over c-section (still sore a bit) and getting used to being a mummy on call 24/7, I had no idea how hard and demanding it is and hats off to those of you with more than one. I don't know how you do it!!
Sophia is beautiful but not so keen on sleep but loves her tucker, gaining about 300g a week which I hope slows down or else i'll have a monster on my hands!
She is super alert and cries quite a lot (as they do?)
Only now just starting to enjoy myself.
Enough from me, glad to be back on bubhub.
Mia that is such a lovely way of putting it! Olivia looks at me like that too when she is actually alert after a feed! Isn't it heart melting?Yes! And look here, same birthday for our babies!
wow it has been busy in here
Hello to all
well DH has gone on his hunting trip just me and the kids for 4 days and already it is peaceful
i got my Robbie Williams tickets today i am so excited i am going with my sil she is great value
bub got weighed yesterday she has put on 300g in 2 weeks and between 100g and 200g per week is normal she has grown 1cm and her head the same
i can remember who said it but i know the feeling of your heart melting when they smile at you montanah is really alert now she goo's and Ga's and smiles at you it is so cute and to think just 4 short weeks ago i was still pregnant how time flys
well take care all i am off to bed now
PS i used to live in Canberra too Flynn kambah and warramanga my mum is in michelago about 30 Min's outside Canberra but its MSW
so she travels from MSW to act for work ha ha :laughing: :wizard: :angel: these are cool i love them
Good morning all,
Sammy is one very well-behaved baby. He ate at 8 pm, slept until 1, ate for 20 minutes and settled in 10, ate again at 5. I put him in his pram after the last feed to go to the loo and he fell asleep! He is still asleep. I just got up. I am one lucky mum. :D
Andrea - You miss Canberra and you are in Queensland?! You are mad, woman! Then again; I have lived here all my life and love it. I travel a bit with work and can honestly say I don't want to live anywhere else.
Mia - I'm not in any playgroups or anything. I am going back to work at the beginning of March :thumbsdown: . We just got Sam into a great creche down the road. I don't want to work but we have a mortgage, so I have to!
Ikis - Well; what was for tea?! What a nice hubbie, mine can't cook anything more than microwave steam gish and veg!
mummyg - Welcome back. I feel so bad for all of you who have pain from c-section wounds. I hope you get over it quickly.
lesley - I cannot believe how many people lived in Canberra! I thought I was the only one. Your mum is actually closer to town than I am!
Oops - Gotta go and feed monster!
Briannabear
10-11-2006, 06:41
Hi guys!! I cant keep up with you all at the moment!! :laughing:
Hope you are all doing well. Big hugs to those who need one. :hugs:
(sorry for the short post, but I dont have much time at the moment :o )
:wave:
I feel like a new woman!! :) It's amazing what a good nights sleep can do for you! Bub went down at 9, woke at 2 for a 15minute feed then straight to sleep and then woke again at 5, fed, then slept until 8!!! :smiliedance: And now she is alseep again. Sounds like your night with Sammy, Jeffy.
I think I have my easy baby back again!! Maybe it really was a growth spurt!?
Well, dinner last night was chicken breast covered in filo pastry stuffed with seafood and garlic butter, served with vegies! mmmm DH is a good cook :chef: I taught him everything he knows, lol.
And, he finally bought me a present for pushing his watermelon head daughter out - a nice bottle of perfume :D He also gave me a back massage till I fell asleep. It was very needed after the week I have had! It was nice having some special time toghether... things have been a bit strained between us atm
Becca - I can understand you not being able to catch up - I don't know how you find time to even come on at all with 2 little ones... I have my hands full enough with one... I really take my hat of to all of you with 2+ little ones. You are doing such a great job!!
MummyG - 300g in one week! Sophia is going to have some gorgous bubba chubba!!
Claire R
10-11-2006, 10:33
Hi All,
I never seem to get time to log on now I have baby Felix but just to let you know we are going really well. I had a miraculous recovery after my elective caeser, stayed in hosp a week and had a good rest and came home feeling fighting fit. Started driving after 2.5 weeks as I really truthfully had no pain or bracing at all. Baby is super good, very placid and sleeps well, putting on weight rapidly - 700 gms in 10 days! I hardly recognise him the last few days he is growing so much. My only problem is that I have carpal tunnel syndrome which has persisted even after bub is out. So finally had to give in and get hand splints and pressure bandages which are helping a bit...not real easy when you need to change and feed a baby regularly but you know one manages somehow! We are off to Brisbane for the summer in a week or so, hoping I don't have to wear the bandages any more then as it will be b**%^ hot!!! My best advice anyone gave me was to keep going back to bed when baby does until you have got enough sleep. Some days we get up at 10 or 11 but that does seem to be the secret for having a happy afternoon and evening - for both of us! Don't know what you do if you have a toddler also!! But as I don't have anyone to help me here in Tassie I know I need to make sure I can keep going! When we get to Bris we will have some good friends to support us and hopefully my little sis will take an interest so things should be even better up there. Very sorry I don't have time to catch up with all your posts - when you're this far behind how do you catch up?? I'm wishing you all the best though...enjoy those babies!! Love, Claire
Afternoon all. Well I am feeling a bit weird atm. My ex DH came around at 130 this morning to give me full custody of the kids. Of course I want them but I feel so bad he has hit rock bottom and feels he cant have them anymore. The only good thing to come out of this is he has agreed to let me move back home with the girls (I moved 400klms after he took the kids after visitation and than I started the court battle). I am now heading home to my dad and 5 brothers and 2 sisters. I am a bit confused about it all as we set finals orders yesterday in court and its all sort of blown up..
Ok sorry just had to vent/talk about it. I now have the task of finding a new house and organising 3 kiddies to move :eek:
Ok take care
R + J
Hi everyone :wave: I've FINALLY made it to the other side,
Even though I am technically a November mum, I have spent the last 8 or so months chatting with you guys so I have decided to post here...hope that's ok.
Well, we got home from hospital this morning after our little girl made her entrance into this world on Monday. We have named her Lara Juliette and she really is a little treasure (well most of the time...still early days so has days and nights confused etc). All went well with the induction. I had my waters broken at 7:15am and was in labour about 15- 20 mins later. She was born at 1:55pm.
She's feeding well, but I forgot how much your boobs hurt when your milk comes in. She's asleep at the moment, but I'm going to wake her for a feed soon...I hate doing it, but I really want her to work out this day and night thing soon. Once she has done that I hope to start feeding on demand.
Eloise adores her little sister, but has already tried to give her a small piece of her Mr Potatohead to play with :eek: . I'm not sure how she will be when she realises that Lara is with us for good...we'll deal with that if and when it arises.
I won't do personals now, but it was great reading about you and your babies and seeing that apart from the sleep deprivation and the unsupportive dh/dp/dfs, that you are all doing well :thumbsup:
Oh well off for a feed...
Briannabear
10-11-2006, 20:15
Hi Sare! Good to hear you're doing ok! Love her name too!
SalTheGal
10-11-2006, 21:53
Hi ladies,
what a busy bunch- but seems everyone is pretty happy at the moment, :fingerscrossed: it stays that way!
Rian- :hugs: for you, don't feel bad- what is important is that you have your girls, and hopefully your ex will get himself together, get a house and will be able to then share in their life aswell- I am rapt that you can go 'home' and fianlly have some support from your family, things will be so much easier.
Jeffy- hope the sunburn is feeling better!! I got out in the garden today too- it was awesome just to be out getting fresh air. I go back to work late feb- sucks doesn't it, but as you said the mortgage doesn't pay for itself. Our theory is to go back to work now, and work our butts of so that when we have no2 (and 3) I can take more time off then.
Welcome back MummyG, I know what you mean bout the shock of beck and call 24/7- no one can prepare you for it can they?
Lesley- I am sOOOOO jealous- you are going to Robbie Williams, you lucky thing. I am going to Kylie which is the same time in melb so couldn't be greedy and go to two concerts, but I am in total Lust with Robbie, he is awesome! Hope things go well for you wwhilst DH is away!
Pam- what a super DH you have, how sweet to be so pampered, sounds like a delicious tea, and a massage!!!! I can't remember the last time DF gave me one, I do keep hinting- he will figure it out soon enough hopefully!!
Claire R- poor thing putting up with the carpal tunnel- it must make things really difficult, but will the warmer weather maybe help a bit? Lucky you to be heading up north, being in ballarat I know how you feel, our weather is often likened to tassie! And as for getting up late- I totally agree, not good when visitors decide to lob on your doorstep at 9.30 and you are still in jammies!!!
Sare- WELCOME WELCOME, congrats on the arrival of LARA :yelclap: , beautiful name, looking forward to hearing all about how she is going, glad to hear Eloise is doing well with her too.
Well seems like it is the time for good nights at the moment, after hassles Nedd had a great night too (touch wood). On advice from the ECN, we pushed his bath back to 8.30 (was bout 6pm) then feed then bed, last night he slept from 9.30 through till 3.30, still hard to re settle but I don't mimnd so much after having a big sleep myself, so back down at 5.30 and woke again at 8.30.
I felt so much better today- and he has been a dream today too:angel: .
Mind you having MIL has worn the little tyke out I think- she has barely put him down all day, and has trouble forgetting that he is only 3wks old and is meant to sleep lots, she just wants him to play!
Well off to bed for me- shouldhave been there an hour ago when Nedd went down, I am such a night owl- hard to get used to going to bed early for a decent nights sleep.
Sweet dreams and long sleeps to all!!
Sal
Hi Sare :wave: we have all missed you! Congratulations on the arrival of Lara - that is a beautiful name too!
Rian - Congratulations on getting custody of the girls - I will be thinking of you over the next few weeks with all the changes afoot, :fingerscrossed: it goes smoothly and the move goes well.
Claire - good to hear that your recovery is going well. I know what you mean about going back to bed until you have had enough sleep... thats what I have to do when bubs has her 2 hourly feed nights... last night was one of those! It seems that just as you get back to sleep you get woken up again!
Some friends from DH's work bought Olivia a bouncer the other day - she loves it. She had a great time in there and was giving mummy lots of beautiful gummy smiles - I took some piccies - like my new avatar? :) I have added more pics to my flicker site too (follow the link in my sig).
So lesley - are you coming to the sydney meet up? Kimba, what about you? Who else is in Sydney??
well my son has been a ******* the klast few nights not letting me sleep. see technically i can call him that as dp and i arnt married lol. so way to tired to do personals but congrats sare great 2 c ya back
Oh sue, so nice to hear another mother call her baby a name...lol. I feel so bad when james is driving me batty and I tell DH hes a little **** or something like that. How can a little :angel: be such a little :devil6: ??!!.
I was making a salad this morning for a bbq and had James in his rocker on the kitchen floor. It took me 1.5 hours to make the bloody salad because James was being such a cutie and making noises and smiling at me so I ended up laying on the kitchen floor playing with him... Oh what these little creatures do to us... tee hee. I also have a sore throat from talking in the most ridiculous tones to bubs. Anyone else had this?
Ok gotta run..
Take care...
So very quiet in here.
Thanks for all the well wishes with my dilema. Had a great day with the 3 kids by myself. There all in bed asleep now so heading there soon myself.
I hope everyone is well...
SalTheGal
11-11-2006, 20:54
yep it sure is quiet- everyone must be enjoying the weekend, or frazzled by naughty bubs with no time to post!!
Pam- your avatar (or should I say your olivia) is absolutly gorgeous!!!
Good morning all,
Today is Sammy's christening day. There are going to be 20 people in my house and I am not looking forward to it. Sam did not sleep at all between 0930 and 1930 yesterday and I spent ALL DAY running around like a mad chook cleaning, cooking etc. DH spent the morning on the PC. I could have killed him and almost did. :mad: It was a tough day and DH and I had a fair few spats. It didn't help that Sam was unsettled most of the day.
So; I have just fed Sam and put him back to bed (night 2 of the big-boy cot in his own room). I was just about to go back to bed when he let out this almighty scream. I thought he had fallen out or something but he was fast asleep. It absolutely terrified me and now I am checking him constantly to make sure he is OK. :(
sal - definitely put me down as a frazzled mum! And the suburn has left me with a lovely stripe across my lower back. Darn short tops!
rian - Glad to hear things are going OK. Sounds like you have been through a lot with the girls and your ex. I hope your move goes well and is not too stressful for you all. All of them in bed by 9 is a nice touch!
suemp - I had a few choice words to say yesterday to my little.....dear!
sare - Congratulations and welcome to the thread! So glad to hear everything is going OK with Lara.
Claire - Sorry to hear about the carpal tunnel. Is it expected to clear up anytime soon?
Well, Sam hasn't made a peep so I had better get back to sleep while I can! Big day of cooking and learning about this whole Catholic thing!
Briannabear
12-11-2006, 06:45
Hope the Christening goes well today Jeffy! :)
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