Feels like separate lives

[Issey]

Does anyone else feel like they live a separate life to their partner.:mad: He is always going out.

It really broke me when I saw our DS banging on his Daddy calling DaDa when he was passed out on the couch after coming home at 5am then he didn't even see his DS all day and missed his bedtime too. :crying: I realised then....what am I doing :banghead: :banghead:

[Whispers]

thats so sad i think you dp needs a wake up call tell it to him straight

[Mojogal]

Ohhhhh, :hugs: Debster. That's just not fair... :no:

[lovebeingamum!]

First off, its always good to start with a hug...:hugs:

This actually sounds like three or four weekends in my life over the last couple of months...
I feel like I 'give' and 'allow' him to go out and have fun with the boys, with I stay at home and deal with the night-time (like I do every night anyway...) and then the whole weekend is shot cause he's 'recovering'! Selfish, or what?

I think I'm at a point now where I just feel sorry for him... he's missing out on all that wonderful time with DS. He'll look back ne day and wonder where his childhood went. Unfortunately I have a DH who is following in the pathetic footsteps of his father... I just dont know where to begin to deal with that.

Debster, I'm only a PM away if you need to talk. :hugs:

[Issey]

lovebeingamum - it does sound like my life! Also feel free to PM anytime.

Last night I went through 'I have had enough' :ecomcity: :ecomcity:

Tonight has perhaps seen the light:idea: realising that I WILL leave if it doesn't change and has told me all these things he is going to do so he doens't lose his family and how he realises he is behaving how his Dad did while he was growing up and how it affected him.

I wish I could believe it all but will have see to believe. :fingerscrossed:

[bronny-jane]

he really does need to change....i dont see anything wrong with having a life outside the house unless it starts affecting the family, which it is:(

is he doing this all the time?

i personally wont drink around my kids, i get a babysitter to watch them for the night so i dont put them in any danger.......i dont get so drunk that i pass out though....not any more...

is he depressed? or is it just a lifestyle he's become accustomed too?

drinking heavily is usaully a way to escape something, maybe some councilling might help if he'd go.

i hope he changes:fingerscrossed: