How do you not stress!!

[nicoleE]

Ok, so we all know its likely your chances of conceiving are somewhat higher when you are not stressing out about it all.. but that's easier said than done! How do you not stress!? :confused:

How do you not think about TTC when its all you ever think about now! When everytime you see a baby, child, pregnant woman, shop with baby clothes, junk mail etc, etc you are reminded of it? (not that you ever need 'reminding!')

I see a naturpath/nutritionist once a month who monitors my 'stress/anxiety' levels... Im not a huge 'worrier' (except when i think i will be late for something!) but my brain is always going at 100 miles per hour, i always have to be doing something, even if i do get to 'relax' and sit down to watch tv i have to be flicking through a magazine or doing something else as well, if i wasn't the add breaks would drive me bonkers! :laughing:


People always tell you to relax, you always hear of the people who were about to give up (or just had) on TTC and then - whalla! - they find out they are pregnant... I have heard so many of these stories.

So whats the secret! How are we supposed to not think about TTC, particularly when its still necesary to some point to continue with BBT, OPKs etc. I cant just 'go with the flow' personally because I need to take Clomid to make me ovulate...

Does anyone have any tips?? :confused:

[RoarsomeMum]

Hi Nicole,

Great Question! I am really working on that this month... My User name is pretty spot on, I get very anxious about lots of things..

Ive found my best results with imagery.. I breathe in through the nose, out through the mouth, try to hear the waves on the ocean, try to feel the wind and sun in my hair.. It really works some days..

On the other days, I have a small speed punching ball. I go nuts on that!!! Scream and punch, Scream and punch!

Oh, I also relax by net surfing!!
I found this site had some good tips too.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/stress_management_relief_coping.htm

It is soooo not as easy as i have made this post sound.. The main thing I have been doing differently is really accepting Stress + TTC = BFN.. Everytime I feel my body having stress reactions I think about my Baby2b, how soft and sweet, how will it smell, feel to grow inside me... I can feel myself relax when i do that.

:fingerscrossed: you can relax and enjoy this cycle! :)

[QTB]

ok... well this isnt going to help... but ill tell ya anyway :D

with my ds we were ttc for almost 2 years had had millions of tests done etc and got told i could never concieve naturally.... of course we stopped trying and after i got over the initial stress of that and i was relaxed we desided 2 go down the IVF path....

we had our first IVF treatment on 7th april..... 30th of march i had sooo many preg symptoms that i did a test to rule it out.... turned out i was 10 weeks preg!

as i said thats not gonna help... lol

its funny though cos as much as i KNOW that if i wasnt stressed about ttc i would have more chance of conciveing, i still cant relax and de stress this time round....

[Livy]

I know what you mean - it is sooo hard when you hear people say "just relax and it will happen" or "it won't happen if you stress about it". We started off ttc with the relaxed approach and that didn't work and now I need to keep temping for the naturopath and the fertility specialiast. I don't know how to stop thinking about something I want so badly :confused: and the more I think about it the more stressed out I get. It's even worse everytime someone we know gets pregnant - even though I should just be happy for them I can't help but feel really left out and envious. I am going to TRY my hardest to stop worrying about it so much - but I think it's easier said than done. Good luck I hope your wait ends soon :fingerscrossed:

[dani775]

Hi ladies, yes i am the same! For the past few weeks i have been waking up in the middle of the night and just thinking about falling pregnant and my future baby and our lives. and i keep awake for around 3 hours!

But what kinda helps me is my man. he wants to just try and see what happens. he doesnt want to know im on bubhub. he doesnt want to know im taking vitamins. he doesnt want to talk about TTC. So in some ways him being that way helps me cause i dont drive him mad, we still BD when eva i want (i just dont tell him im ovulating) and so at home we just dont talk about TTC.

On the other hand however i am talking about TTC daily wif my work colleagues...lol. But our work keeps us pretty busy so we dont get too much time to chat bout it.

But also another thing i like to do is Yoga! I know it helps me each week! And chatting to my man about our lives and planning our wedding and music etc etc etc.

Hope that helps a little:rolleyes:

[Kirst]

Nicole, I am going to try to bottle my mood for you, as I am the LEAST stressed than I have EVER been in the last 6 months of TTC.

What helps me is throwing myself into my family (DH and DD). I have come to realise that if they are all that I ever have, then I am happy, as they are wonderful.

I have also tapped into the right side of my brain, and started a short course at the local Community Art Centre in Drawing and Mixed Media. This is a great outlet not only for me creatively, but I am meeting different people who have no idea about me, and I can let them know what I want. We talk about stuff other than family and TTC. It's all art. And considering I have 3 science degrees, this is a real change for me, as I do't see myself as 'arty' at all.

I hope that something that someone posts here helps. But I think that it's also good for you to know that you're not in the boat alone. We're all in there with you at some time or another.

[Egall]

I sooo know what you mean - I think I have been totally unproductive in my work for the last couple of weeks due to thinking about babies!!

I have a general strategy though - I have always walked in the mornings. It's cool, it's quiet, I'm by myself and I just let my mind totally wander to whatever subject it likes. Well, you know what subject that will be . . . I use that time to happily day-dream and just let myself think about babies and falling pregnant, rather than just trying to stop myself all the time. I find when I have that nice thinking time to myself, then I can relax about it all and get on with the rest of my life for the day. Sorry if this isn't that helpful, but it kind of works for me. Just trying not to think about it all the time is too hard. I get stressed about whether or not I'm stressing!