Soooooooo ANGRY

[RoarsomeMum]

OMG, I am still so angry I am shaking...

Over cuppa's at break time, the convo turned to getting pregnant. Some-one in another department announced her pregnancy last week, and the consensus was she was too old at 27 to be having her 1st bub... I felt a bit shocked at that, concidering although my workmates do not know i am TTC, they know Id love to have kids and that DH and I have tried in the past... I brought up the point that A) I did not agree that 27 was too old to start a family and B) Maybe they had trouble gettign pregnant.

I was floored to hear the response. "there is a reason, some women cant have babies". OMG I thought I had misheard, and said What????

I was informed that what they meant were that women who could not conceive were damaged emotionally or phycially in some way.. not fit to be mothers basically:no:

Nup, had not misheard. This is a bunch of intelligent educated and (I always thought) Sensitive bunch of people (Women Mostly) Who honeslty belive this ****... I have only very VERY recently been able to remove that thought from my OWN head... I never expected to hear it from somewhere else.

I am too mad to look at these people, and I do NOT want to have to say, hey, you offended me.. I just wish people would THINK before they speak...... :banghead: :banghead:

[Billy]

OMG big :hugs: to you!! Some people DO NOT THINK before they speak :mad: and that is a complete load of sh!t that they were saying anyhow!!!

I am so sorry you had to hear that from people that you trust(ed)... Its just wrong wrong wrong!!

I hope your day gets better :fingerscrossed: :hugs:

[dannii]

obviously they think they have no problems conceiving then.
how ignorant of them. anyways its not true.
i can see why you'd be so mad :hugs:

[Jinglebells]

OMG I would be angry at that too :mad: , how dare people say that sort of thing, I would've got them to repeat what they said and then given them a ear full

[bigglet]

Oh my goodness I cannot believe some people even think like that!! And women too!?!? Hello!?!?

And saying 27 is too old for first bub? What the?!?!

GRRRR...... i would probably have said "You ignorant bunch of twats - for goodness sake have some sensitivity and sense" and then left.... grrrr.... but yeah :banghead:
(or I guess I could have said something in a much more diplomatic manner but I'm just not in the mood today) :p

[icugal]

Hey, I'm 33 and having my first baby...

On my behalf, please tell them to BITE ME !!! ;)

[RoarsomeMum]

Ohh thank you all so much.. I feel lots better after a good cry and reading your reply's..

I just wish i had the balls to say what you guys have written. One day, i will find my voice, and my confidence!! I am getting closer every day:yes:

I wont be joining them for coffee again....

[M O P]

Yeah tell them to bite me too- I was 30 when I had my first baby, man heaps old!

Obviously a very ignorant bunch!

[Alatariel]

What a bunch of morons! do they also believe that people who get cancer did something to deserve it? masturbating causes blindness?
what fools. and 27 too old?? well i better hang up my hat now!

[RedPanda]

Pfft! I would take no notice of them. Sounds like they just love talking about people!

[melbryan]

I had my first one month off my 28th b'day, I am not too old. Tell them to go get a life and read this thread for themselves.

[lilpearl]

You say they're intelligent? Obviously only in a limited area. Do they have children themselves? Sounds to me like pure jealousy on their part!!!

[Bron]

They sound narrow minded and offensive.

I'm 31 and expecting my first and I put forward a rather compelling argument if necessary. I'd like them to tell me that 27 is too old to be a mum for the first time.

[shed]

ha ha, what a cack. I wouldn't even let it worry you. You will be pregnant soon and full of happy hormones, so don't worry about it luv!!

So yeah, here's me at 37, no not 27...37 years old and just had my first bub. He is perfect in every way and a very very good baby thanks to a stress free pregnancy.

So anyway, two hours of pushing with no drugs, no stitches and home the next day - who's too old to have a baby??, not ME, that's for sure!! LOL.

We're just getting started too. Going for number two in a couple of years. Tell them that.

Its all the rage these days, don't they know anything?

[pookiesossige]

The stats speak for themselves! According to the hospital up here, the average age of a Victorian woman when she has her first baby is 30!

[RoarsomeMum]

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: I wish you all worked here!

I am also 100% happy to hear so many mums in there 20's and 30's... I cant wait to join you.

I should not have let it upset me so much.. I know they are full of S**t. I was feeling vunerable, and it just threw me...

Thanks so much for the reassurance bub-hubbers...

M

[Bubble*Crazy]

Do they have children themselves? Sounds to me like pure jealousy on their part!!!

I'm thinking NOT! And like Liana said - Intelligent? I think not.

Best of luck to you :hugs:

[reAllytee]

Thats hilarious !!!!!!!!!!!
Id like to see what they thought of my mum getting pg with me at just off 40yrs of age !!!!!!!!!!
My parents tried for a few years after my sister to have another bub & it didnt happen for them so they just decided that 2 girls was their family then next thing 9yrs later along comes me :D

Dont worry about ignorant people they are worth it :hugs:

[AngelGirl]

oh AnxiousEm! :hugs:

I am speechless, totally speechless....Who are these women you work with? Do they have their heads screwed on backwards??

Don't you dare take a word of that in, it is total rubbish!!

There are 2 women at my work who are both pregnant with their first, one is 30 and the other is 32. Two of my friends gave birth recently, 29 and 30. And then there's me TTC # at 29, same age as you!

xxx

[MariaO]

Lordy, they are just so very, very ignorant. They would probably be calling social services for me having had my first baby at 40. How terribly narrow minded and foolish they are - a shower of eejits!

[cmd'smum]

Ohh my thats horribel..many gentle hugs for you hun.

There is no right age..it is purely personal and for them to have said that is just ignorant and rude.
My cousin had her first at 36 and forher it was perfect timing.

On to the next comment wow...thats so disgusting.
I think thats what stupid people think..when tehy are ignorant of the truth.
That is so nasty and so obviously not true.
fertility has nothing to do with your ability to be a GOOD mother..my if that were true we would have a lot less children in this world.

Many hugs..

SO true!!

I'm embarassed that our own sex could think like that! :banghead: :banghead:

[mum2bubba]

:laughing: 27 is too old. That cracks me up.
They are probably childless themselves and jealous. Oh and ignorant. :yes:

[our little treasures]

Maybe you should say that the average age for a women to give birth to her first is in the early 30's. I was the youngest in my mothers group at 23 every other women was over 30 same with playgroup we know have a lady my age 26 and the rest in their 30's..

[sara_jorja'smum]

one of my family members had a lot of trouble falling pregnant and had her first at 40. she now has 2 beautiful girls. that have all the love and attention they need and nothing is slowing their mum down in doing everything she can for them. how rude 27 too old, never you are as old as you feel. and she says these two girls make her feel younger than ever

[bronny-jane]

wow is 27 considered old, i'll be 26 in december:eek:

i had my first bub at 22......i figured that was a tad young, i think being in your late 20's is a great age to start:yelclap: .......im mean once your 30 lifes over right:p ....jk:D

[RoarsomeMum]

YAY:yelclap: So many mums of all ages! Positive strong women who have their heads screwed on straight! Thank you all so much.

I am going to have cuppa's this morning with 'the ignorant' and lay my cards on the table... I dont really care if they change what they think, but hopefully they will think more about what they say... I want them to know they are WRONG and it was hurtful to say anything at all.

YOU GUYS ARE GREAT:hugs:

[TTannyaa]

Sorry but those women are morons, I had my girls at 29 and 31 and that was perfect for us, some people are ready to have a family young and some aren't for whatever reason, our reason was major illness. They would be horrified if they knew that my mum had me when she was 41, I was number 8, she had her first baby at 19. Big :hugs: to you, don't let the turkeys get you down. Good luck to you today and congrats on being as strong as you are. Let us know how you go.

[mum2bubba]

YAY:yelclap: So many mums of all ages! Positive strong women who have their heads screwed on straight! Thank you all so much.

I am going to have cuppa's this morning with 'the ignorant' and lay my cards on the table... I dont really care if they change what they think, but hopefully they will think more about what they say... I want them to know they are WRONG and it was hurtful to say anything at all.

YOU GUYS ARE GREAT:hugs:

Hey have you spoken to 'em yet? What was the outcome? (sorry, being nosey)

[littledarling]

I can't believe these women at your work!! 27 old! I've never heard such a thing! How old are they anyway? Gosh, I'll be 30 soon (like you!) and sometimes I think I should have started earlier, but then I still feel very young. It's only in the last 6 months that people have started asking me if I'd like to have kids soon, no one ever asked me that before when I was in my mid twenties! Do these women think it's the 1950s! I'm getting angry now too:mad: !!
And what they said about women who can't fall pg......don't get me started...:devil6:
Forget about them, they arn't worth the effort
:hugs: xx

[chameleon]

27 old... :confused: (Mind you this is coming from someone who is much younger then 27 and even I don't think it's old!)

My Mum was 35 when she had me. She is now in her 50's (won't menion her exact age :p ) and she still seems energetic. If I died I would leave her my daughter in a heartbeat and I am confident she would still be able to cope and run around after her!

I agree with Mum2bubba.. they are probably just jealous! ;)

[Butterflymumma]

Hey,

I just want to say that women just can't win these days! I'm 20, nearly 21 and i still get looks in the street as if to say "OMG you're so young to be pregnant" and people are shocked when you tell them, Then there are morons out there who say that 27 is too old!! I mean what are we suppost to do, all time our pregnancy's for when we are 23-24? that's ridiculous! I say go and tell those women, that your really dissapointed to hear they have that opinion because it shows how little compassion they have and how little they understand their own gender. There are women out there who simply dont meet the right guy until much later in their lives. I've got a cousin who is 32 and just had her first, and i say good on her, she wanted to travel and get her career sorted out first, now she's happy and going to have more.

It is absolutley DISGUSTING to suggest that women who have fertility problems are not fit to be mothers. So does that go to say that drug addicted mothers who get pregnant from a one night stand ARE fit to be mothers??? Where the hell is the basis for their information? I pity these women, and you should too, because they will go through life believing the most radical and unrealistic things, judge women left and right and then wake up and realise it was all a lie and they have wasted their time on *****ing rather than standing up for women. they are a dissapointment to all women around the world.

:hugs: hugs to you, I hope you realise how fantastic a mummy you will be, just for wanting a baby and being upset by these comments shows how compassionate and caring you are!!

And for any other mothers out there with fertility problems, hold your head up high, You will become mummies, because you know how much love there is to go around, and even if its not a child coming from your womb, they will be the luckiest child in the world to call you MUM. xo

[RoarsomeMum]

Hi everyone, sorry that I have not updated you guys on the situation. I did end up saying something, at first it was to the people involved, I told them their comment offended me. They got quite defensive straight away saying well, they did not mean me and if I had a baby at 30 it would no tbe too old..

I said thanks for that, but I am stil mad you said anything, Its not the only offensive thing I have had to listen too at break time, and that I did not want to share my break times with people who felt they had to judge everyone all the time. I was tired of feeling bad for not agreeing with most of what they said..

I reminded them of the comments they constantly make about Our local Koorie poulation, Drug users, Simpson wathcers, Single parents adn now old parents, and that was just in 2 days!!!! I highlighted that they have a right to their opinion, but dont have the right to express thoes ones at work..

So now, I am eating alone, feeling good that I said something, but kinda lonely..

My Area manager was very supportive, and told me her daughter just had her 1st round of IVF and it was a sucsess!! so she reminded me she is there if i ever need a chat...

Thanks for your support girls!

[~Alicia]

Good on you for saying something! :thumbsup: :hugs:

You're much better off eating alone than eating with those negative women (wanted to say another word there). :yes:

[littledarling]

I agree with mum21, good on you!:yelclap:
Just pretend all of us at Bubhub are eating lunch with you and you won't feel so lonely :thumbsup: