Everyone is leaving

[Tubbychook]

Hi

I am feeling a bit foolish at the moment as im 24 and have been married for 3years on 12 oct and living out of home for 5 years in november, but i have just found out that my only brother is moving from Brisbane where he lives with his girlfriend to move closer to her parents in Mackay. We dont see each other all that much but i know hes only 15mins away now hes going to be moving so far away i feel really sad. My parents have reacently moved further away as well they are only about 30mins out of brisbane but they are not just around the corner anymore. Im 18 weeks pregnant with my first baby and just feel like im so alone now even though i have my husband here with me i have always been very close to my family as there is only my parents and my brother and me. I guess i just feel that when the time comes for bubba to arrive that no one will be here with me Mum is coming in to the delivery room with me and hubby too, and my brother has promised that he will be on the first plane back here once i go into labour but it just doesnt feel the same anymore. I was hoping that he would get to spend a lot of time with bubba once he/she is born and have the sort of realtionship with my child that we both had with our fav uncle. I am going to miss his so much and just really wish he wasnt leaving dumb i know.

Shannon
Bubba Squirt due 4/3/06 :D

[BubbleBelly]

Tubbychook, I understand how you're feeling. You have no reason to feel foolish at all! It's really hard when things don't turn out the way you planned them.

It sounds like your family loves you very much! I don't think you or your little bubba will miss out!

BIG BIG BIG BIG BIG HUGS!

[Tubbychook]

Thanks for the reassurance Bubble Belly. :) I feel better today now that its sort of sunk in that my brother isn;t just going to be around the corner anymore. I guess i sort of didnt realise just how much i was going to miss him. Growing up we fought like cats and dogs but now we are really close and i thought that maybe that was going to change with him moving so far away. I will miss him like mad but he says that hes going to be one of the first 5 people to meet Bubba Squirt when he or she arrives and one thing i can count on is him keeping his promise to me. And you are right my family does love me very much something that makes me very happy.

Thanks again

Shannon and Bubba Squirt

[BubbleBelly]

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better!

[j&k'smum]

Tubbychook, (ur name made me laugh :D )
I understand completely how you feel. My sister, who has been my best friend my whole life only recently moved up to Queensland with her little girl and partner. She has been in my life forever and we had gone through some really tough things together. Out of all the people in my life, I never thought she would leave me.
Thats how I felt at the time. I felt that I wasn't good enough for her to stay, that our love and friendship didn't mean as much to her as it did me, and basically she was someone else walking out of my life.
My dad left me when I was five, then when I was eleven my brother went to live with my dad, so I think I went back to feeling like a kid who was abandoned. Silly I know but thats how it felt.
The day before she left it hit me and I was just crying my heart out all day. My heart broke so deeply. I was hurt and accepted that it was ok for me to be feeling the way I was.
A few weeks after she left I got depressed because so much had changed. Sure I have my friends and my mum and a few other family members but it just wasn't the same. Our kids are only a few months apart too, so it was hard knowing they wouldn't be growing up together, how we'd talked about them doing.
Now though, its been about four months and I have accepted that she won't be coming back. Of course it will always hurt but I know that that is her choice and there is nothing I can do about that.
I think the hardest thing for me was trying to accept her decisions without putting it all about me. And it wasn't that it was intentional for attention or because I am selfish, I think it was just my natural reaction to a loss.
You will be okay and it will be something you get used to..cause you have to. What else can you do.??
Thank God for technology hey? Atleast u can email pics of bubs and chat etc..You won't even realise he has gone. lol. ( well not quiet...) :)