Life after co-sleeping/ bed-sharing ...

[LoCo]

How old was your baby when you put them in their own room after bed sharing?

I am not going to be to strict on this. When DD is ready then we will make the transition. The reason I ask is, she seems very very comfortable in our massive K size bed.

Surely they want to have their own space sooner or later right?

I co slept with my parents till I was 5 eek :) do they go for this long?

[Guest1234]

DD2 moved herself out of our bed at about 6-8months old. It was coming into summer so getting quite hot and she just seemed happier in her own cot rather than in bed with me.

[Laksa]

They were both 16/17 months. Both times, I got single beds so I could lay beside him when he needed me :)

[Tazzy]

I'm am currently trying (slowly) to get ds who is 18 mo in his own bedroom. Only because we have another baby on the way. Other wise we would probably continue co-sleeping for a while longer, but in that case would have to upgrade to a king size bed =)

[trishalishous]

we are hoping for around 2, before bellyfruit arrives, but are happy to cosleep with 2kiddies.
I coslept with mum till I was in kindy/early primary, then shared with my sister until she moved out

[Myztiks#1Fan]

I co sleep on and off with my almost 5yr old. He goes through periods of sleeping by himself to sleeping with me. There is only 2 of us though so the bed isnt squishy. We will continue to do so til he decides no more which i am kinda hoping soonish he will just sleep by himself.

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[shelle65]

DD didn't leave my bed until she was 4 and even then it was with a sticker chart because I was so over being woken up by her constantly during the night. She still comes in very occasionally but prefers to get a sticker..!

[missie_mack]

My DS was 5 and even now still occassionally comes in.

[VicPark]

My bubba co-sleeps at night (in a porta-cot next to me bed, arms reach). He sleeps in his own cot/room during the day. He will be moved into his own room at night at 6 months (when the SIDS risk declines). No offence but I do not want a toddler/older child in my bed at night. I like my sleep and snuggled with hubby.

[missie_mack]

My bubba co-sleeps at night (in a porta-cot next to me bed, arms reach). He sleeps in his own cot/room during the day. He will be moved into his own room at night at 6 months (when the SIDS risk declines).

The current SIDS recommendation is for babies to sleep in their parents room until 12 months, not six months.

[Jensha]

Dd who is 5 in June ends up in my bed most nights. She starts the night in her bed though. This started from around 2. I don't mind. It's just us 2 in the bed plus the dog. So if she feels more comfy/safe coming at night she's welcome.

[Opinionated]

My 4yo often ends up in my bed somewhere around 3 or 4am. I usually don't mind because dh is on nightshift. I am trying to discourage it now I am in the 3rd trimester because I don't want two in the bed and I am just so damn uncomfortable already.

[MummyBic]

We stopped co-sleeping about 4 weeks ago (so at 11months). Though DS wakes at about 4:30 - 5 and cone into bed for a cuddle and a feed (which I love)

[Witwicky]

DS2 is still in my room, he's 11 months. I won't be moving him out any time soon.

DS1 moved into his own room when he was 2-ish, as DS2 was waking him up throughout the night (although we always have an open door policy and the option was his). Now that DS2 sleeps for longer stints at night (5 hourly as opposed to 2 hourly), DS1 has chosen to come into our bed more often. We let him decide where he wants to sleep each night. Sometimes he prefers to sleep in his bed - I want the choice to be his :)

[Lillynix]

DS1 stopped bed sharing with us and went to his own room (totally drama free) at 2yo, when DS2 who was also bed sharing with us, was 1 month old. We did the move as DS2 waking was causing havoc on DS1's sleep.

DS2 stopped bed sharing with us again at 2yo (again no dramas) a few months before DS3 was born, we didn't want to have a situation like last time so moved him out before his brother was born, but leaving enough time so he didn't feel like he was being kicked out in preference of a new baby.

DD never co-slept or bed shared with us, but from the ages of 3 - 5 years, she would call out every night without fail and want DH to sleep in her bed with her, so he did. One night she just didn't call out and hasn't since, that was around 8 months ago.

[CheekyChicken]

We stopped in february, dd was 31 months and hasn't looked back. We had only just bought her her own single bed and she hasn't ever wanted our bed again though one of us needs to lay with her unil she falls asleep and go to her if she cries out. I don't miss the cosleeping as I am now 7.5 months pregnant and really need the space.

[MsMummy]

My son is 3.5 and he has no desire for his own bed or room.

We are moving him after Easter as I am having another baby in September.

We have just bought a double bed for his room, as we anticipate one of us will have to lie in there with him to transition him to his own room.

[VicPark]

The current SIDS recommendation is for babies to sleep in their parents room until 12 months, not six months.

Www.sidsandkids.org : recommendation is parents sleep in the same room as bub for the first 6-12 months. The risk is SiDS dramatically declines after 6 months.

Also, 6 months is when babies learn manipulation. I don't want to be stuck having to sleep with a toddler because I left it too late...

[Laksa]

Also, 6 months is when babies learn manipulation.

Are you serious??!! :no:

[Hunbun]

Www.sidsandkids.org : recommendation is parents sleep in the same room as bub for the first 6-12 months. The risk is SiDS dramatically declines after 6 months.

Also, 6 months is when babies learn manipulation. I don't want to be stuck having to sleep with a toddler because I left it too late...

I feel sorry for your bub

[Elijahs Mum]

Www.sidsandkids.org :

Also, 6 months is when babies learn manipulation. I don't want to be stuck having to sleep with a toddler because I left it too late...

Ahh that's why 17 month old DS still sleeps with us! That conniving little man! If I'd only known what he was up too!

[wannaBamumma]

We have coslept with dd in our own bed since birth and will continue to until she is ready to move out (we have a king sized bed). We also have a cot next to our bed which she starts the night in and when we go to bed she usually wakes up and snuggles with dh and I! I barely sleep when she's not in bed with me so I can't imagine how I'd be if she was in a different room!!!

[Witwicky]

Www.sidsandkids.org : recommendation is parents sleep in the same room as bub for the first 6-12 months. The risk is SiDS dramatically declines after 6 months.

Also, 6 months is when babies learn manipulation. I don't want to be stuck having to sleep with a toddler because I left it too late...

Why would it suck sleeping with your toddler?

Genuinely curious :) I love snuggling up to my gorgeous bubba :goodvibes:

[SassyMummy]

Learn manipulation? Huh?!

Babies might learn, "hey, if I cry because I'm hungry, my mother will meet my needs!" but that's not a bad thing. Babies SHOULD feel secure that their parents will make sure they're well looked after. A baby who DOESN'T feel that way... well, that's very sad.

I actually wonder if it's kid's that don't have their needs met that learn to use manipulation... because a child who's needs are met doesn't need to bother learning to manipulate their parents at such a young age.

[wannaBamumma]

Learn manipulation? Huh?!

Babies might learn, "hey, if I cry because I'm hungry, my mother will meet my needs!" but that's not a bad thing. Babies SHOULD feel secure that their parents will make sure they're well looked after. A baby who DOESN'T feel that way... well, that's very sad.

I actually wonder if it's kid's that don't have their needs met that learn to use manipulation... because a child who's needs are met doesn't need to bother learning to manipulate their parents at such a young age.

Totally agree!!^^^

[BigRedV]

I like my sleep and snuggled with hubby.

You're a grown woman and like snuggling, but you deny snuggling a baby and make them sleep alone because they manipulate? :eek:

[elleandsam]

Www.sidsandkids.org : recommendation is parents sleep in the same room as bub for the first 6-12 months. The risk is SiDS dramatically declines after 6 months. Also, 6 months is when babies learn manipulation. I don't want to be stuck having to sleep with a toddler because I left it too late...Are you joking?Babies aren't capable of manipulation, in fact a babies cry is precisely as serious as it sounds.As for liking to sleep snuggly with your husband, you're an adult and you don't like to sleep alone so why expect a baby to sleep alone in a seperate room? Makes no sense to me.

[jemmajam]

DD1 moved into her room when she was 4/5 months only because she had out grown the bassinette and we couldn't fit a cot in our room and bed sharing wasn't an option xdp was a smoker, then when she was about 2 I was single and she started sleeping in my bed and I love it I wish I had of done things differently with her when she was a baby, she moved into her own bed when she was 2 and a half and that's only because DD2 came along DD1 still sleeps in my room kinda she has a single mattress in my walk in robe lol she's always welcome in my bed but I'm bed sharing with DD2 so she prefers her own space I'll always have room for my girls whenever they need me they are only little once and I love there cuddles

[rocker]

DS is almost 18 months and is still in our bed (never planned it: just happened) and he's so secure that I know it's the best decision I ever made for him... We now have a cot with the railing down right alongside
our bed for want of more space...as we have a queen bed and DS is quite tall...but he's usually on our bed snuggled up to me.

Our society has never had more screwed up adults and children ever before in history and neglected babies with psychological problems is to blame in part... Demanding, unruly, disrespectful, tantrum-chucking kids is all a result of the lack of security. Parents have either no support and/or want the easy option out and society encourages it... with babies in child care, babies left to "cry it out", mum's being told that their babies will manipulate them and so on...
IMO you can never give a baby under the age of about 2 too much attention... Its hard work but You will surely reap the rewards later...

Ps- I'm no hippie...

[Nemmi]

Rocker my son is one of those tantrum chucking kids you speak of BUT he slept in my arms from birth til 14 months old,
I responded to every distressed noise he has ever made quickly and promptly even at 3 in the morning, he has never been cio'd and was allowed to ween from his dummy when it suited him and the same will be applied for nursing

I don't buy that theory at all as a direct result of my ds
He just has a short fuse and a loud voice and when he's cranky by god the whole world will know about it



Op - Ds is 22 months and spends most of the night in my bed,

My sister has 4 children 9, 7, 5 and four and they all sleep in the same room often the 5 and 4 year old share a bed with mum and sometimes the 9 year old does too

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[Little-Pink-Hen]

To answer OP

I had never intended to co sleep. How naive I was I didn't realise that we were co sleeping until dd was a few months old.

Dd slept in a bassinet beside our bed or at the foot until she was 5 months old. If she woke for night feeds than she would be bf in our bed beside me and remain in our bed no matter the time
At five months she had mostly outgrew her bassinet but more importantly was rolling over in her sleep so she was moved into her cot that was in her room since it didn't fit our room.
While I bf she would continue to come in and stay once she woke for a feed
At 14 months she stopped feeding so would only come in if she woke so it was less

Now she is 2.5 most nights she comes in by herself if she wakes during the night. Some nights she sleeps in our bed all night. (just because we want her there, she is sick, her asthma is affecting her more than usual, she is on medication,)

Tbh I miss her when she isn't in bed with us, I love cuddling with dh and I love cuddling with dd too. When she was first born I missed her as I would cradle my stomach at night to cuddle her in utero. so I missed her presence after she was born. Now im pregnant again I do the same thing.

My parents allowed us to come into their bed at night when I was younger and I remember doing it until I was 15 than no longer comfortable with it I stopped. But my baby sister would co sleep a lot with me from the time she was 9 months I'd say (i was 10) I used to put her into bed with me as she got older she would climb up to my bunk so she would probably co sleep with me more than my parents. Same with my younger brother we shared a room from when he was 1yr until he was almost 3. When he moved into his own room he would come to my room during the night that often my parents moved him into my room. Despite having a 3 bedroom house we shared a room until he was 5 and our sister was born.

[Gandalf]

OP - we've stopped co-sleeping at 24months, because in my bed, she will, without fail - turn so that she's sleeping across the pillows *every.single.night* - some nights i get her feet in my jaw, and other nights i get her head in my upper back.

So i started to transition her - and she coped well. if she wasn't so incredibly painful while she slept she could have stayed in my bed until she was ready to leave :yes:

[rocker]

Rocker my son is one of those tantrum chucking kids you speak of BUT he slept in my arms from birth til 14 months old,
I responded to every distressed noise he has ever made quickly and promptly even at 3 in the morning, he has never been cio'd and was allowed to ween from his dummy when it suited him and the same will be applied for nursing

I don't buy that theory at all as a direct result of my ds
He just has a short fuse and a loud voice and when he's cranky by god the whole world will know about it


There's always the exception to the rule... :) perhaps ur it...

[LoCo]

Thanks for the replies ladies. I guess I was just curious as I could sleep with her forever but that would be for my own benefit hehe and if she is ready at some point I'll know roughly when to transition but the ages are all over the place aren't they. Oh well she's only 8 months so I'll just enjoy for now.

[trishalishous]

i figure they will be easy to move when they are ready, it worked for us as kids!

[singa06]

DS is almost 3 yrs old and is JUST starting to want to sleep with me anywhere from 11pm/3am. At first I could easily settle him back into his own bed, but lately he refuses so I let him stay (and now love it).