Self settling

[cheezelkat]

I've been so frustarted this past week in getting bubs to settle. He will only sleep in his pram during the day and getting him to sleep at night takes 3 - 4 hours of feeding. It's so hard.

I spoke to the nurse today and she said to cut out one of his night feeds and toughen up a bit. She says at 9 months he should be eating 3 meals a day (he has a few bites every couple of days) and night feeds shoulld be once. At the moment DS is awaking every 2 hours.

I just don't know how to settle him anymore. I hate the fact that each night is a big drama getting to sleep. What do you do to settle bubs?

The sling doesn't work anymore, breastfeeding works eventually but not easily, and patting or rocking him has never worked for us either. I feel like I'm going mad.

[Rainbowbrite]

Here, you need a hug :hugs:

:banghead: I find it amazing that we AP mums who respond to our bubs needs are always told to toughen up :banghead:

MJ at 17months is still not eating 3 solid meals a day, hate to know what she'd say to me.

Do you co-sleep? It makes feeding so much easier. I had the same thing with MJ waking every 2 hours all night to feed. I found that the only way to make her sleep was stretch the feeds out. It wasnt easy, she screamed, but I was right there with herEven now she wakes at 4am for a bf, then goes back off (if i'm lucky).

Sorry i'm not more help :hugs:

[meme]

how frustrating for you.
how did you feel about what the nurse said? sometimes what they *should* be doing is not always what you and your bubs want/need.

i am wondering if this is a stage that your bubs might be going through. maybe developmentally a lot is happenning at the moment?

my bubs is a bit older and she is feeding about twice at night. i feed her to sleep.
i know that i was getting frustrated by how long it was taking, especially because if she got distracted i would have to start all over again.
so now i just wait until i notice her getting tired. eye rubbing, crying a bit... we have a similar pattern of events to our evening with dinner bath bed and i set myself up in front of bub hub:D in the dark and just feed her. i attempt to get her off when i think she has just gone to sleep and then i rock her a little if she stirs. if she really wakes i feed her again.

it doesn't seem so frustrating anymore for me. if i get her at the right tired time she drops off quickly and i love just reading all the stuff on bub hub :laughing:

i hope this is a passing phase and it passes quickly for you:hugs: