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I am a new mum, blessed with a new daughter born February 29th of this year.
As per her DOB she is 2 weeks old tomorrow and I am scared to venture out with her. I'm not sure what I am mostly scared of?? Maybe her crying and not being in the comfort of our own home to settle her, germs, trying to do it by myself without my fiancé with me, upsetting her then finding it hard to settle her when we are back home??
Did anyone else experience this? Am I worrying too much or making her too dependent on me because she isn't interacting with other people? I need to get out of the house but am just worried.
I'm not scared as such but I'm really really worried about sick people out there coming near my DD till she's vaccinated. I don't think you're alone. *hugs*
Totally normal!! There is a lot more to think about with a baby esp one so young, I started with small steps, going out with DH or meeting a friend I knew had kids who could help if something happened which got me worried like crying or feeding. I'd also try to go for a walk after feed and nappy but always prepared for both just in case. You're not making her dependent she is only 2 weeks old and totally dependent no matter what you do, there is no bad habit setting this early IMO :)
Our first solo outing started off with a walk down to the shops up the road in her pram to buy a magazine and chocolate. She was only 3 wks. It's totally normal. Once u break the barrier and do it your confidence will grow. But only when u feel ready to!
Not bad at all. I never ventured out alone with either of my Bubs until at least 5 weeks. (c sections though). It's a lot to do especially if you don't live walking distance to anywhere. My girls now happily go to other family members and friends so staying home did them no harm
at 2 weeks old I really don't think you should worry that you feel uncomfortable about going out! Maybe when she's getting around 8 weeks if you're still really scared to go out it might be something you need to work on, but at 2 weeks really all bub needs is to be with mum. If you're feeling lonely make people come to you :)
BTW my Niece was born on the same day :) ♥
Yep totally normal I reckon. DD's first outing with me was just a slow walk round the block.....I wanted to take small steps and make sure I was comfortable with her crying etc before I took her anywhere far.
A week later I went to a cafe on my own with her for the first time, had a cuppa, sat back and thought 'ha, I can do this easy' lol.
It does gets easier but you have to make sure you get out, even if its just round the block, baby steps.
I read your post as you really want to go out, but you are worried about bub, so if this isn't the case feel free to totally ignore my post.
Bub won't suffer if you can't settle them as fast or as easily as you could at home. If illness is something you are worrying about, drape a blanket over the pram so people don't feel the need to get up in bub's face. See if another mum you know could go with you on your first outing. They may not be able physically assist you, but they will be good for moral support.
And don't feel bad if you don't actually want to go out. You've been through a major life changing event.
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I took ds to the shopping centre the day we left hospital as I forgot to buy a little rocks chair and I was holding him like he wa a brief case of a million dollars.. I refused to cross roads and made dp pull the car up to the curb.. The feeling passed as I exams comfortable but I recommend strolls in the pram till you get used to being out.. Shopping centers have come along way and you will find a lot of them have parent room with microwaves and couches some have TVs etc so you can be comfortable.. You will find people will think its adorable that your little newborn is crying and you will know exactly what to do when te time comes..
Thankyou everyone :)
I had a c section as well so I don't want to push myself although I feel perfectly fine. You right though, I do want to go out but just anxious.
I live on a property so I don't have the luxury of just going down around the block, unfortunately.
Fiancé and I are going to walk her up and down the drive way in the pram today so I get use to how she feels in there :)
Thank you again :) makes me feel more content that I'm not being paranoid :)
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