futureherder
12-03-2012, 18:47
We as a couple are far from the 'strict' attachment/natural parents however I have tried to attend to my DDs needs as best as I could and feel I am nuturing who she really is.
DH has supported me through the baby wearing, cloth nappies and wipes and wipe solution, organic foods, min vaxs, natural remedies vs going to the GP, osteos and naturpaths, breastfeeding nightmares and many sleepless and unsetlle nights for 2 years until DD started sleeping through however she still has sleeping issues...anyway he has done his fair share of supporting my parenting choice however now that she is nearly 3 and REALLY testing his patients he is worried that this way of parenting is turning her in to a brat. This makes me feel so sad. I have told him that educating and reasoning with a toddler is hard and takes time (I hope what I say next doesn't insult anyone) but I have told him that I dont want a well behaved child who is only behaving out of fear and lack of self esteem or self worth. I want her to know I am her parents and need to be respected as I keep her save and alive but other then that we can work out the rest...he just cant seem to let go of the 'traditional' way of parenting and I dont know how to make him feel better about it???
I hope someone can share with me their journey with a spirited toddler and attachment/natural parenting so that I can then share it with DH?
TIA
DH has supported me through the baby wearing, cloth nappies and wipes and wipe solution, organic foods, min vaxs, natural remedies vs going to the GP, osteos and naturpaths, breastfeeding nightmares and many sleepless and unsetlle nights for 2 years until DD started sleeping through however she still has sleeping issues...anyway he has done his fair share of supporting my parenting choice however now that she is nearly 3 and REALLY testing his patients he is worried that this way of parenting is turning her in to a brat. This makes me feel so sad. I have told him that educating and reasoning with a toddler is hard and takes time (I hope what I say next doesn't insult anyone) but I have told him that I dont want a well behaved child who is only behaving out of fear and lack of self esteem or self worth. I want her to know I am her parents and need to be respected as I keep her save and alive but other then that we can work out the rest...he just cant seem to let go of the 'traditional' way of parenting and I dont know how to make him feel better about it???
I hope someone can share with me their journey with a spirited toddler and attachment/natural parenting so that I can then share it with DH?
TIA