Help Please.....

[TwoBoysOnly]

I'm getting fed up. My DS1 goes to full time preschool and is going into Grade one next year. However so far this year I have been pulled aside so many times for his behaviour at school, spitting, showing his penis (on two seperate occasions at two different schools), saying he was going to take a gun and shoot someone there (and no he doesn't watch violent tv shows or play computer/xbox games that are violent and no he doesn't own a gun nor do we), and bullying. WHAT AM I GOING TO DO.....I just don't know how to deal with this behaviour and he is only in preschool...nearly 6 years old. Any suggestions....:confused:

[bishmum]

Have you tried to speak to him? You probably have so that is not really good advice.

Perhaps you should speak to you doctor. Your doctor should be able to help you and your son and if your doctor can't then they can tell you where you can get help.

Good luck......he will be fine (and so will you).

[mumof three]

I mostly want to send you a :hugs: because it's really tough to go through something like this!

I would definitely try and find out what's bothering him - there must be something up! Is he able to tell you what he's feeling?

[TwoBoysOnly]

he tries but he mainly says "I don't know", he isn't the best feelings talker....I'll keep trying..

[MissBrightside]

Could he maybe getting bullied at school? He 's probably learning this stuff from the other kids at his school.
I feel for ya cos it isn't a nice thing to be going through.:hugs: to you and I hope you all get to the bottom of where this is stemming from.

[Elfin]

I am so sorry you are going through this, it is really difficult and some kids go through some yucky stages. Has the teacher offered you any solutions or suggestions as to what you can do at home? I thought sometimes a guidance counsellor could help in a situation like this.

A few things spring to mind, firstly I wonder if your son is starting to get bored by preschool and that is why he is misbehaving, I know my son did this. He behaved a lot better in Year 1 as he was more challenged.

Secondly I wonder if it is tiredness. My son is basically a really good kid but if he is overtired he does some really out of character silly things.

Preservatives and food colourings can have a big impact on behaviour in some children especially the colourings. You could do a trial and eliminate artificial food colours and see what happens. www.fedupwithfoodadditives.info is a brilliant site or you could visit a dietician who could help you with diet modification. It is definitely worth a try and diet modification can make a big difference in some children.

Good luck:hugs:

[mumof three]

Would you consider taking him to a counsellor? Not because there's anything "wrong" with him, but someone who might be able to help him to express what is going on for him.

[TwoBoysOnly]

Thanks so much everyone for lots of :hugs: I am definantly going to try the food additives, have been thinking of that for a while now...I know he is bored with preschool, he is a bit advanced and really needs some bigger challenges for his little mind. I might leave the counsellor for a last resort, hopefully it will settle....thanks :)

[werdxela]

Talk to the preschool about seeing the guidance officer and asking them to help you find help for him. My son is the same and unfortunately it has gotten worse. He is in year two now and we have our good days and we have our bad days. I am lucky i have great support from the school and they are commited to helping. Definetly consider taking him to see a counsillor you can see them for free through smith family and community health centres (you need a referal from the school and your dr and there is a waiting list).

[jess_live_die]

:hugs: im sorry i wouldnt know wat to do but i send you heaps of :hugs: these best wishes