Tenacious Toy Thrower

[pipilongstocking]

:confused: Hi there. My little person is generally and has always been a pretty well behaved boy.Latley, at 16 months and just before, he has taken to throwing his toys everywhere- and at people (mummy has copped a few bruised noses from low flying objects!).
We have tried "no",smacking hands and putting him in his cot for time out but nothing seems to be working.I am quite sure he knows it is wrong as he has the devils grin happening as he's doing it:devil6:
Sometimes he will pass the toys to you instead to which we will respond to with praise and clapping,but it is rare that he will maintain this,and gets cheeky enough to "drop" them on you(well mummy it's not technically throwing is it??!!)
Any Ideas!!????? :fingerscrossed:

[TwoBlue]

We had this problem recently with DS#1 and we ended it very quickly.. it was actually quite easy.
Everytime he threw a toy we picked it up and said "we dont throw toys... bye bye toy" and placed the toy in a place that was visible but too high for him to get them (for us it was on top of our pantry)

When he asked us for it back we said "ok, but if you throw it again it goes away again..."

He only threw a handful of his toys and then got the picture pretty quickly

If he throws now (which he occasionally does) we do the same thing

:hugs: good luck

[Mamaduke]

I'm having the same problems with Lukey, and boy does that boy have a good right arm!!!
We've taken the toy away and put it on the fridge saying, "No throwing...bye bye toy" to which he will start headbanging the fridge door, and when that doesn't work he'll drag a chair across to the fridge, climb up onto it and then over onto the kitchen bench and reach up to the top of the fridge...we can't win!!

[TwoBlue]

and when that doesn't work he'll drag a chair across to the fridge, climb up onto it and then over onto the kitchen bench and reach up to the top of the fridge...we can't win!!

lmao thats why we picked the pantry .. its way too high! Even when he drags the kitchen stools over he still cant reach !!
*insert evil mummy laugh here*

[the_queen]

It's a challenging age, isn't it!! Testing you, pushing boundaries, asserting independance.... it's very very challenging!


OK If I was in your exact position, here's what I'd do:

Toys only come out at a time when I can sit on the floor and play with him. I would try to pre-empt the throwing and catch his arm before he does throw. I wouldn't see any need to smack or get angry - this is a baby. I would do lots of "giving" and "asking for" role-playing. ie give the toy to baby and say "here you go!" and ask him for it back, and praise him when he does it appropriately. I would say lots and lots of things like "it's nice to play gently with each other" and "toys are for playing with". I would not throw anything in the house, at all - no throwing folded socks into the sock basket, no throwing scrunched up paper into the bin, no throwing anything at all. But, LOTS of throwing balls outside. I'd do lots of outside play with balls, tennis balls and bouncing balls, saying lots of things like "it's fun to throw balls outside!" Lots of positive re-inforcement about how great it is to throw balls outside.

I think it's unlikely that he knows that he's doing the wrong thing - I think he knows that it gets a rise out of you when he does it. Try completely ignoring the behaviour. When he hands you a toy, don't just give praise, go completely over the top, lots of "WOW! Well done, good job!! You passed the toy so nicely, it is so great to be gentle!!" Lots and lots of cuddles when he does it right, lots of kisses and cuddles. Even if he does it once, praise him - and even if he then goes back to throwing, resist the urge to tell him off. Just ignore it, I know it's hard, but just ignore the innappropriate behaviour. Perhaps go through his toys, and take out the hard ones :p remove the ones that will hurt if they hit you, IYKWIM. Give him all just soft toys for a while, until this phase passes. It will pass.

Good luck :hugs:

[reAllytee]

I'm having the same problems with Lukey, and boy does that boy have a good right arm!!!
We've taken the toy away and put it on the fridge saying, "No throwing...bye bye toy" to which he will start headbanging the fridge door, and when that doesn't work he'll drag a chair across to the fridge, climb up onto it and then over onto the kitchen bench and reach up to the top of the fridge...we can't win!!


:eek:
Are you sure we dont get these kids on rotation ?!?!?!?!?!?!

We cant use our pantry cause it goes to the ceiling & im waaaay to short to reach that !
We just take the toy upstairs & hide it " saying thats it all gone ! " Harry of course proceeds to head bang anything in sight but we ignore this then move on !

It is really really hard but with a little patience & persistance things will get better :yes:

[Little Gorilla]

My son has been doing this for the last month.

If he throws a toy - regardless of what toy he throws - one of his beloved thomas the tank engine wooden trains gets put in the cuboard - he gets one warning....

"bubba, no throwing the toys, that is big ouchies - no more, it will go in the cuboard" (simple talk and I use words I know he understands "ouchies" "more")

he throws again

"bubba, mummy said no throwing toys, mummy is putting thomas into the cuboard"

so I put the train away - bub chucks a bit of a tanty

when he is a good boy - he gets thomas back with quite a bit of hooray..bubba is being a good boy...lets get thomas

but....guess what...no throwing for about 1 week now:yelclap:

[Mamaduke]

My son has been doing this for the last month.

If he throws a toy - regardless of what toy he throws - one of his beloved thomas the tank engine wooden trains gets put in the cuboard - he gets one warning....

"bubba, no throwing the toys, that is big ouchies - no more, it will go in the cuboard" (simple talk and I use words I know he understands "ouchies" "more")

he throws again

"bubba, mummy said no throwing toys, mummy is putting thomas into the cuboard"

so I put the train away - bub chucks a bit of a tanty

when he is a good boy - he gets thomas back with quite a bit of hooray..bubba is being a good boy...lets get thomas

but....guess what...no throwing for about 1 week now:yelclap:
I don't blame him...Thomas wooden trains are the best!!!
You are one tough Mummy!!! :D

[pipilongstocking]

:fingerscrossed: Thank you everyone for the great ideas-some which we are doing and need to be reinforced and others to try! Here's to no more busted noses!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:D

[JettsMummy]

We have tried "no",smacking hands and putting him in his cot for time out but nothing seems to be working.
Any Ideas!!????? :fingerscrossed:hi sorry to put my 2 cents worth in but i wouldnt put him in his cot when hes being naughty.. it'll associate bad feelings and pretty soon he wont wanna go in there either! i couldnt understand why my dear little cherub wouldnt go to his cot until i realised i was using it for the wrong reasons then expected him to sleep in it! whoops!