thank you and new question

[Sherilyn]

Wow ladies thank you so much for all your replies ,the positive and negative feedback was most useful to me and I will certainly use it as food for thought.

Just another question I have,is it controlled crying when you let the baby settle herself at night and at sleep times bearing in mind she has just had a whole bottlefeed then so there is no reaon for her to be hungry then.My thoughts are that she is in a campcot and when I put her down to sleep and she fusses I have been gently shaking the cot until she falls asleep.Is this not robbing her of the opportunity to learn to fall asleep on her own and could this also be the cause of the excessive night awakenings in that she hasn't learnt how to resettle herself?Would this be classed as cc and would it be acceptable to do at this age knowing she is warm and fed at this point?

I know some of the replys mentioned I should feed rather than give water during the night, but I must add that at some of the awakening(granted not the first one)she is hardly interested in drinking which makes me think she is not hungry.Could her problem be sleep association ie rocking to sleep and should I try let her settle herself at least at the beginning of sleep times?

Hope you all have a good day.

Sherilyn xx

btw I am in South africa that is why my posts are during your night times.

[Issey]

I just read your other post and have done cc with my 9.5 month old after talking with a paediatrician.

I don't claim to be an expert but rocking is 'sleep association', the idea is that bubs is left by themselves to fall asleep on their own. So your bubs may wake and think 'hey where's that nice rocking' and can't fall back to sleep. My DS is still waking but now self settles within 5-10 minutes. I can tell by his cry if he is distressed though and I attend to him in those cases. It hasn't affected his sleep as at those times he has needed me ie: wet, unwell etc.

In saying that I probably wouldn't do cc until bubs is past the six month mark so you can be sure it isn't hunger.

[rynosmum]

We did controlled crying with my son when he was less than 6 months old and within 3 days he had developed a great sleeping pattern. Controlled crying is a very broad phrase though. To us it meant:

Ensuring he had a clean nappy, full tummy, wasn't unwell etc
Getting him to sleepy stage (not asleep)
Putting him in his cot, saying goodnight and leaving the room
Listening carefully. If he fussed, we would leave him. If his cries escalated, we would go in and pat him a little until he calmed, then leave the room again
The first night, it took half an hour and progressively less for the next two
By the 4th night, there was no crying at all
By the way, if he got up in the middle of the night for a bottle, he would still get that. We used CC just for putting him down for his nighttime nap but any other night wakings were treated as normal.


The important part to remember though is that some bubbas adapt really well to CC and some don't. We were lucky that ours did and very quickly. If your bubba is hysterical or distressed, I wouldn't continue it at all. Sleep time shouldn't be a scary time for them.

Best of luck.:thumbsup: