please help me

[MeeG]

okay heres my problem or issues.... my daughter chelsea is 6 weeks old on friday :smiliedance: , and she sees her dad like twice a week ( becoming less and less thu but im not suprised) but his mum is a real pain in the a**, but thats a hole can of worms right there... todays issue is i dropped her there today so i could be my sisters make up model for her assignment, and when i got there she asked me if she could take chelsea to a wedding on the 27th of dec at caloundra! i straight away thought hell no i dont trust any of u!! what should i do i dont wanna b unreasnable i want her to know her other family but shes still s young..... how can i put it nicely saying i dont want her to go...???

[the_queen]

You say "sorry, but we have plans that weekend" and don't enter into a discussion about it.

[~rambox~]

I agree with the queen :yes:

[BlueEyedGirl]

I too agree with the queen

[Blessed Mum]

Being that your daughter is so so young still, I would definately say stand your ground, go with your first reaction. If your ex's family are serious about being a part of your DD's life they have years to get to know her & spend time with her & I'm sure when she's older & you feel more comfortable with it & see that she happily enjoys her time there etc there will be plenty of other family functions & do's for them to show her off at. Its a hard one but in reality as mums its pretty straightforward in these situations IMO anyway.

Good luck

[talon]

I don't think you even need to make up an excuse! Your baby is still very young and needs you close by. I would just be saying that you are not comfortable with that at this stage.

[Mojogal]

I can't believe they are even asking! I agree with the others - if you don't feel comfortable telling the truth, just tell em you have plans or that bubs has a docs appointment or something. Tell em a relative from afar will be visiting that weekend and you want them to meet your baby.

They have the rest of her life to take her with them and show her off - she's just a tiny newborn baby and needs to be with her mummy.

Stick to your guns - you are the mum and you know best.

[mz sv6]

I don't think you even need to make up an excuse! Your baby is still very young and needs you close by. I would just be saying that you are not comfortable with that at this stage.


i agree with Kriscee u dont need to make up an excuse and she still very young. my DS is 3months old and there is no way i would let his dad or other family member take him anywhere without me around and besides that wedding is 2 days after christmas u cant let them take her :no: :no:

[mum2bubba]

You're her mother, put your foot down and say "no" no ifs, buts or maybes, if you don't they will always tell you how to raise her etc for the rest of her life. Best of luck.

[Sholmes]

I'd just say that she'll still be really young and you want to keep her in her routine as she'll get all out of sorts otherwise. You are the mum and it is your decision and it's final! Don't let anyone persuade you or make you feel guilty! If anything negative is said about your decision, just say that it is your decision to be made and you'd appreciate if it was respected.

[pookiesossige]

Say no. You don't have to justify your decision with anyone either, but just in case: she is a newborn baby who needs her mummy right there with her and you will not have others taking her away for outings until you are ready.