Pregnant with 3rd husband doesn't want it

[chaddy83]

I'm 5 weeks pregnant with 3rd child our other children are 5&4 so my husband has taken this one by surprise. He doesn't want it. He has said that we are financially stable now what's it going to be like with 3

[Lemonhead]

Maybe you could suggest to him that if he is so worried about another baby that he could go and have a vasectomy.

I dont know what you should do, but whatever you do make sure its what YOU decide.

[SammiAnn]

No advice but lots of :hugs::hugs::hugs:.

Take care,
Sam :)

[hopefully2]

Oh gee, it's tough. You need to decide as a couple how to go forward. If this is not financially viable I understand your husband. Having another or any child should be the wish of both parents. Sit down with the figures and see if you can work it out. Be practical, men relate to that. If abortion is totally not an option for you either then find a way to reach an agreement so it is financially viable. There is no point being hot headed it won't win for you. Hope with a chat and strategy you can make it work.


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[Opinionated]

Did he wear a condom? I assume he sure wanted to be involved in making it.

[DarcyJ]

He might come around, eventually. I know someone else who was in a similar situation a couple of years ago, her husband said he wanted her to have an abortion and she was devastated because, although she hadn't wanted another child, once she knew she was pregnant she was already attached (of course) and didn't want to end it. But of course she didn't want to leave her husband either.
Anyway once the shock wore off he apologised and told her he would never pressure her to have an abortion etc etc and now they have a happy little family of five.

Having said that if he's adamant that he doesn't want another kid you need to weigh up your options. If you want to have the baby and he doesn't warm to the situation you might need to think about counselling etc to see if you can work it out.

[Ginny83]

I agree with DarcyJ, he might just need a bit of time to think about it and get over the shock of it.