Help with hitting !

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Help :crying:

I am sitting here at the computer with tears in my eyes, and the sound of my beautiful boy, Hamish (17 months) crying upstairs.

We were playing happily all of half an hour ago, when he suddenly started to hit me (hard) on the face. He has done this on rare occasions for about a week now, but this became a really nasty episode. When he did it the first time (today) I grabbed his hand and said (very seriously) "No ... that hurts", with a frown on my face. As soon as I let go of his hand, he did it again. This went on, until I thought 'mmm ... this is not working' and then, after I said my line, I walked out of the room, leaving him sitting on the floor in tears. After a few minutes I went back, and sat down with him (he was still crying ... or should I say, screaming). No sooner had I sat down with him, than he hit me again. I said my line, and left the room again. This went on and on until in desperation, I made him a bottle of milk, and put him to bed (where he is now). My lip is actually swollen from his hits.

I just cannot understand why he is behaving in this way, and really need some advice as to how to handle it if the situation ever occurs again (and I fear it will, as he really did not seem to learn anything from my words or actions today).

Any help would be very much appreciated !

Thanks in advance !

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[TwoBlue]

:hugs: to you.. its so hard when our precious children go through horrid stages...

When my DS went through a similar stage we did much the same as you are doing.. except we put him in a naughty spot... after doing thise numerous times he eventually got the picture...

Hang in there you'll get through it...

Btw i cant believe Hamish is 17 mths! time flies !! and when is bubba #2 due? must be soon!

[annsam]

Im going through the same thing too, have been for a couple of weeks. I use the naughty spot too. He goes straight there if he hits me and its decreasing in frequency.

Not sure if a 17 mth old would understand the naughty spot though. How about withdrawing attention for a minute?

[Mum&bubs]

My daughter is going through the same stage. She hits me when she gets frustrated. She doesn't seem to hit her dad or anyone else.. just me. I tell her firmly no but she doesn't listen & just does it again. I don't know where she learnt this or what brings it but it is her way of lashing out when she is frustrated. It's been going on for about 3 weeks now & we have started putting her in her cot & shutting the door for about 5-10minutes. I'm hoping she learns soon & snaps out of it. Big hugs to you, can totally understand where you are coming from :hugs:

[Mum&bubs]

Oh also another thing we have tried is ignoring her when she does it. Because when my daughter does hit- she seems to like the reaction she gets afterwards so we ignore it- sometimes that works, sometimes she tries harder for the attention :rolleyes:

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Thanks for the help (so quickly).

I will give a "naughty spot" a try if (heaven forbid) I need to.

Tracey - # 2 has arrived. A healthy and happy girl called Emmanuella (but we just call her Emma). She took about 6 weeks to get the hang of life, but she is there now ! We are really enjoying having her around !

Thanks for the advice !! Will keep you posted if it happens again (heaven forbid).

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[TwoBlue]

Tracey - # 2 has arrived. A healthy and happy girl called Emmanuella (but we just call her Emma). She took about 6 weeks to get the hang of life, but she is there now ! We are really enjoying having her around !

Oh Congrats on the arrival of Emma :yelclap: How lovely
I am glad she has settled into life for you...

Perhaps his new baby sister has a little to do with Hamish's behaviour..?
Samuel had (and still has) some really feral days just out of the blue.. all in all he adores his brother but just occasionally *bleurg* i could give him away !!

Hope things improve soon