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I am a working mother of 7 and just found out a last thursday that i am pregnant it is a complete shock:freakingout: and i am not sure i can go through with it my last baby in 2010 ended with PPh and needing blood transfusions and tooks months to fully recover. i am scared to do it all again and with my high blood pressure and i am always getting sick when pregnant i just only made the desecision that i was done having children and i am going to sit back and enjoy my kids growing up and now is me time i even booked a cruise this year for our belated honeymoon. if i go through with this pregnancy i would have to postpone our cruise till next year even though i have been so looking forward to going and need a bigger car i would have to buy eveything again. I have always been against abortion for myself and said i would never do it but, Some of me wants to terminate this pregnancy but i am worried about my mental state afterwards and if my husband will forgive me he said i could terminate if it is buggin me that much but i know he doesn't really want me to:confused:.
having a abortion to me seems the easy way out i can go on with my life.
but i am worried about the regrets that come with it.
Not sure what to do????????
I got the abortion information emailed to me the other day and i just bawled my eyes out reading it .
this is the hardest decision i have had to make:(
Massive massive hugs to you, I hope someone can offer more than that to help x
Take a bit of time to think about it. Don't make any decisions until your sure you will have no or little regret with your choice. :hugs: can you speak to a counsellor to help you through this?
You need to make the right decision for YOU. :hugs:
Perhaps go and see your doc and discuss the risks. Your husband might understand if things were laid out in front of him. And high risks (emotional,physical or death) need to be known and understood.
Your kids that are here need you to stay here and be healthy.
I really feel for you. Information and analyzing everything may help you both see things clearer.
I had an abortion a few years ago and I found the right post abortion grief counsellor and it really helped to reframe it and put it into a different light. I'm not saying to do it but I am saying that if you choose to there are some wonderful counsellors who will support you.
My Beloved Ones
How far along are you? If you are only early then you will have a few weeks until you have to make your decision, maybe wait it out abit. :hugs:
no an easy decision :hugs:
I hope that you can get the support you need to make a decision that YOU can be happy with .. I agree to head to a GP (if for no other reason than to get a referral asap to talk to someone else about options/ choices)
thankyou everyone for your replies, i am going to see a doctor tommorrow and also going to speak to my old midwife hopefully they can help me make my decision i am starting to not stress as much as before about it and see what happens after that.
If you are not sure then don't make a rash decision. I can certainly understand your reticence. Have you tried imagining how you would feel if you had the abortion? (=not the same as imagining not having been pregnant in the first place). And then tried to sit with the decision to kep your baby and see how that feels.. Which sits better with you and do you feel at peace with the most. There are positives and negatives to both of course but one choice will feel right and one not so much. It is agonising to make a decision about wether or not to keep your baby, i know.. :(Go easy on yourself lovely and let us know how you go hey? :hugs:
Hi all thanks for all your advice i have finally decided to keep the baby after changing my mind four times i think emotionally it is the best position for me i have been given the all clear medically from doctors to go ahead so feeling better about it.
Aww congratulations :goodvibes:
I'm so happy for you :)
How are you feeling so far? Fingers crossed you don't get too sick this time around.
That's fantastic. Hope you have a great pregnancy!
I am glad you came to a decision you are happy with :)
well feeling ok have been having bad headaches and morning sickness but other than that i have been good must say though this time my boobs arent sore as they usually are when preg.
Hi I just couldnt read without sharing my experience with you, I am nearly 42 with 3 almost grown sons, last year I fell unexpectedly pregnant, I had never been so torn in my life, I am normally a very decisive person after much soul searching I decided to keep the baby, I eventually realised that if the decision to terminate was just too painful, well....that told me something.....last Monday I gave birth to the most beautiful baby girl - Grace Tabitha and I will be eternally greatful I listened to my heart. I wish you the best Anita xxx
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