Thanks For Your Help

[reAllytee]

Just wanted to say a big thankyou to all the lovely ladies who PM'ed me with all their wonderful help in regards to discipline !
I now have a great system in place that helps me keep Boof a little under control ( hehe he isnt that much of a problem yet ! ) it has helped me set up some boundaries for now & will also help me in the future when things get a little harder no doubt.
Im just glad we have found something that has worked plus knowing that he is now a little older understanding " no " has helped greatly !
You all helped me so much i wanted to say thanks :hugs:
Also big thanks to Tisme & Natasha for your wise words & encouragment :hugs:

[tickle]

I didn't PM you but will say, that's ok.:p
I have found that they really do get better as they get older. They say it's the terrible twos but since he turned two his behaviour has improved so much. I think the more language they understand and can communicate to you the easier it is for them. As soon as O has a meltdown now I just crouch down and ask him what he wants, or make a 'deal' with him. LOL Always does the trick.
:hugs: Ally, before you know it we'll be trying to work out a way to stop them from wagging school.:rolleyes:

[reAllytee]

LOL !
Yayayaya i got a sympathy post :smiliedance: :laughing:
Thanks tickle !!!!

Heheheh yeah its more the language barrier thats been an issue for us because he so desperately tries to get me to understand him. So last month i started showing him that if he comes & gets me when he is frustrated or wants to do something like go outside then takes me hand mama then understands he needs help or wants to go for a walk etc. Its made life a lot easier & he doesnt get as frustrated so quickly !

But yes you have offered me great advice in the past as has coopsntilly yet i forgot her in my post i put that down to being half asleep at 2am :p

Dont even get me thinking about the wagging school problem im dreading the first day of school as it is :crying:

[Rainbowbrite]

Dont even get me thinking about the wagging school problem im dreading the first day of school as it is :crying:

Yet another benefit of homeschooling :thumbsup:

Seriously though, Glad you've found something that works! Can you please share your methods :o MJs learnt the art of the tanty in the last 2 weeks & its not fun :thumbsdown:

[Tisme]

Yes please share .... I don't encourage you .... I'm a cow .... what you on about ...... HMMMMMMMMMMMMM???????????


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[reAllytee]

You do too in more ways than you realise !
Tis often just me asking simple questions etc that you dont realise that i get a lot out of it !
I also ask how you handle your kiddies in situations which then in turn helps me too !
Im sneaky berry berry sneaky :p

[Mojogal]

Sorry to butt in here, I just wondered - if it's frustration and communication issues with younger kids/babies - has anyone used or tried sign language? It's worked wonders for us and although we started by necessity, as my DD has a deaf cousin, I would seriously recommend it to anyone with a pre-verbal child, whatever their age. They seem to be able to use their hands earlier and more efficiently than their mouth, tongue and throat to speak. It's even used for disabled or speech-impaired older kids.

Anyway, I only posted here because i saw allyoo was talking about the language barrier and this has been such a huge help to us. Our DD has NEVER chucked a tanty cos she hasn't been understood, but of course has the regular toddler tantrums when she doesn't get her way or whatever. The older a bub gets, the quicker they understand the connections between your hand actions and the words too...

Anyway, I could rant all day about it, but I already have in another thread. But if anyone's interested in giving it a try to help bridge that gap between babbling baby and meaningful toddler-talk, I'd be only too happy to give you any info or help you need.

I hope I haven't offended anyone by offering my own advice here as I wasn't a part of the original thread, and I'm very sorry if I have. Go ahead and tell me to butt out if you like! :o

Suze

[reAllytee]

Yes we tried sign language back a early this year i think it was i did a thread about it myself.
Boof didnt want a bar of it instead as i was trying to teach him signs each day he started reacting to the words more & saying things himself ! Its also a case of as he gets older he understands more words so uses them or at least responds to them.
He started saying " yum yum " when he was hungry & if i ask if he wants milk or water he gets excited & nods or otherwise he will say " milka milka um milka ! ". If he has trouble with a toy or something he wants or even if he just wants to go outside or have a nappy change he will come & get me then direct me with what he wants ! They learn pretty quick !
I know sign language is often a great key for many kids but it wasnt for us with Boof.

[Mojogal]

:yes: It's great to know people know of it as a tool to try. You never know what success (or not lol) you might have til you try I guess.

[reAllytee]

Oh definately mojo !
I think its a great option & if Boof will let me i plan to teach him Auslan in the future anyways !
I learnt it when i was younger & while ive lost most of it ( so can teach myself as i teach him ) i really enjoyed that i had an extra "laguage" that often came in handy not just with my sisters deaf friends but when out in public with those who needed help !
Just like we are teaching Boof another language ( Icelandic ) i think its great to encourage & broaden a childs horizons :D

[Mojogal]

Yes I agree completely Allyoo :yes: We are learning Auslan as we go too, and it will be great to know we and our DD can communicate with her cousin, without the need for someone to be around to always interpret. And it will be a life-long skill for all of us and who knows where it may lead us?

Is your sister deaf?

[reAllytee]

No she isnt she made friends at work years ago when i was little thats how we both learned & she even went to TAFE to learn more comprehensively.
She hated how i learnt second hand but being young would sit & have full on conversations with all her friends in sign language while she struggled to keep up :laughing:
Just wish i had kept it up !!!!! Silly me !!!!

[Mojogal]

LOL!! :laughing:

You'll probably be surprised how quickly you pick it up again when you teach your bub :)

errrm.... seem too have hi-jacked your thank you thread.... sorry bout that :o

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[Tisme]

You do too in more ways than you realise !
Tis often just me asking simple questions etc that you dont realise that i get a lot out of it !
I also ask how you handle your kiddies in situations which then in turn helps me too !
Im sneaky berry berry sneaky :p

Naughty sneaky girl .... you need tmeout for trying to trick me!!! LOLOLOLOLOL

[natasha]

Wow I never even knew you started this thread! God im so slow!

No worries hunny. I think we both just bounce ideas of one another as we both have little tearaways.:D

Its hard sometimes (most times) but it's nice to know there are other people who know what you are going through isn't it.

Oh and about the sign language....If i tried to sit DD down and teach her sign language in order to tell me she wants something, she would probably laugh in my face and then scream and throw an tantrum because i wasn't doing what she wanted right this minute, second in fact!:rolleyes: ;)

Big hugs coming your way ally :hugs: