Are you close to your brothers or/and sisters?

[LoCo]

I have this mindset that brothers and sisters HAVE to get along and be the best of friends. I don't see my brother at all and dh would maybe talk to his siblings once every 2 months. It's just such a pity..!!!

All the siblings in my extended family are the same some talk some don't. One cousin hasn't spoken to her brother in 10 years.

How? Shouldn't siblings be close, stick by each other through thick and thin you know be each others ROCK!!! You've grown up together, have the same parents and share the same blood.

Are you close to yours?

[Mummybear3]

My two brothers are my rock(s) :-) they are the reason why I made sure I had more than 1 child.
My two boys are inseparable too and I'm sure it will be that way for most of their lives :-))

[MuminMind]

Siblings is an interesting topic. Particularly sibling position, but that's OT.:)

To answer your question, I am very close to my brother, who is 3 years younger. We are each other's biggest fan, and we can talk about anything. But... We live in different countries, so we don't see each other often. It breaks my heart, particularly when one of us are going through a difficult time. And he is an awesome uncle, but doesn't get to be 'hands-on'.

[LoCo]

My two brothers are my rock(s) :-) they are the reason why I made sure I had more than 1 child.
My two boys are inseparable too and I'm sure it will be that way for most of their lives :-))

That's awesome you are so lucky:)

[Cheerilee]

I think every family is different.

My brother and I have the occasional conversation on facebook. We talk on the phone no birthdays but that is it. I have not seen him once in the last 3 years.

We are not close. He is 6 years younger than me I moved out of home before he was out of his annoying stage.

My children are quite close although all they seem to do is fight. When they are apart they ask to talk to the other on the phone and they talk forever. I am hoping they have a closer relationship than I do with each other. However, I would not force them to have a relationship they had no interest in maintaining.

[mummykitty]

Mm I am close to different siblings at different times to different degrees lol. ATM I am closest to my brother he is who I call when I want to talk and he comes down for the night every couple of weeks :). I used to be closer to my sister but we had a disagreement and my youngest brother I don't have much in common with.

My kids are close, they generally play together they look after each other and they miss each other when they are apart. That's not to say they don't fight still but overall it's a pretty good relationship :) one I hope they maintain but I won't force them that's for them to decide :).

[Littlemissmetal]

My sister is my bestfriend :)

I am not that close to my brother though, I think the reason to that is because he is 7years younger then me, we have never had that close relationship, but that said we still get along.

My 2 boys have a very close relationship, I love seeing them grow up together :goodvibes:

[TinyLittleTootsies]

I don't think siblings have to get along. If you are born with different personalities and it takes work to get along, I don't think it is bad to say "you know what, let's see each other every 2nd christmas but other than that not get in each others way because we aren't a match!" I think problems arise whem siblings feel like they HAVE to like each other or help one another etc. Then resentment starts because you are going out of your way for someone who irritates you etc and I don't think that is healthy. Much better to mutually respect each other from a distance.

I think that not enough value is placed on wonderful, close, life long friends. With people you chose and whos personalities match yours! I would go first to a family friend of our parents before I went to my extended family but I grew up with close family friends and half a country away from family.

DH's family always go on about blood is thicker than water etc but they all resent/hate eachother and talk bad about each other simply because of big personality clashes and trying too hard to be in each others pockets!

I am actually close to my sisters, but I don't feel I have to be. My personality goes better with my youngers ones and my older sister and I can clash, so we aren't close like we are with the others.

adding: It was the same as kids, the two youngest got along with both of us, but my big sister and I only ever got along out of convenience, if it was just her and I, we have never been close... so it makes me wonder if it is something that is always like that for life if it is a case of personalities not matching!

[BrAins]

I have a brother and sister and we are all close, as well as being close to our parents. As well as being close to brother/sister wife/husband.
We were always quite close growing up and often shared friends, which as adults, now have the same friends. Our parents did nothing special I dont think to make us be friends as such, but everything that happened in our house happened as a family. Me and my sister would go to soccer games, my brother would come watch us do gymnastics, and as we have grown we have just continued that. If things are going on the whole family is there.
I hope my kids are close too and stick together.

[Witwicky]

I'm incredibly close with my younger sister. We see each other daily, even when not living together. We tell each other everything, she knows me better than anyone else in this world. We can relate to each other on every level. I would be lost without her.

My older sister I haven't seen in months and months. We are not close in the slightest, she hasn't even met my son. We only see each other at family gatherings.


Siblings is an interesting topic. Particularly sibling position, but that's OT.:)
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Do you mean like birth order, MiM? If so, I agree.

[Ana Gram]

I wouldn't say my brother and I are the best of friends. We are very different people and don't speak to each other than often. However, neither of us really feel the need to. When we see each other that is enough, we just pick up where we left off.

But in saying all of that, we are close enough to have lived together outside of our parents house.

[MuminMind]

Do you mean like birth order, MiM? If so, I agree. Yeah, that's exactly what I mean. I'm the oldest, so I am more academically inclined, have better health and am more awesome. *Settle down, everyone, I'm only kidding!* :laughing:

And now :backtotopic: (sorry about that!)

[Boobycino]

Very close - not geographically - but we talk every Friday night for usually 15-45 minutes, depending on what's new & crack each other up. We have very similar sense of humor.

[cindye]

I'm one of 6 kids and i consider my closest sister (in age) to be my best friend. We talk probably twice a week for an hour or so. And if we were living in the same city I'm sure we'd see each other at least a few times a week.
My other sister and brothers I see when I'm visiting home or when they occasionally visit. I

[LoCo]

Yeah, that's exactly what I mean. I'm the oldest, so I am more academically inclined, have better health and am more awesome. *Settle down, everyone, I'm only kidding!* :laughing:

And now :backtotopic: (sorry about that!)

Ahhhhhh so do you think that could be the problem with my brother and I we are 8 years apart have nothing in common we take every word wrong and when we do speak it always ends bad. I guess position is a big thing.

[Californication]

I don't think siblings have to get along. If you are born with different personalities and it takes work to get along, I don't think it is bad to say "you know what, let's see each other every 2nd christmas but other than that not get in each others way because we aren't a match!" I think problems arise whem siblings feel like they HAVE to like each other or help one another etc. Then resentment starts because you are going out of your way for someone who irritates you etc and I don't think that is healthy. Much better to mutually respect each other from a distance.

Could not agree more. Not close with my eldest sister. There's a big age gap and she was pretty horrible to me for about 20 years, so I don't rush to spend time with her now.

I would say I am close to my other sister, though I am pretty upset with her right now because she said some pretty hurtful things recently and can't see how she hurt me. So keeping my distance as she's had me crying too much and that's not what I need right now.

I think it's great when families get along, but don't think you should force it if they don't. You should see them because you want to, not because you have to.

[FearlessLeader]

no :( i wish i was close to my brother, but i'm not. I was just at my mum's house (he still lives at home) and he didn't even come out of his room to say hello. It hurts a lot because we were close as kids, but i have to keep telling myself it's not something i've done, it's just that he's grown up into a selfish pr!ck.

[Hamilicious]

My sister and I were very close growing up. She's two years younger than me. When I left home to go to uni we drifted apart and to be honest we have only just become very close again, after almost ten years - mainly because we have both had babies this year.There wasn't any reason that we drifted apart, I think just me leaving home and then my sister leaving home two years later and living in different places caused it. I am loving our improved relationship now.

DH is one of five and is very close to one of his brothers, who is two years younger than him. He has three more siblings which he is not as close to, but they are a fair bit younger. I know it worries him sometimes but we're working on strengthening our relationship with them and I think as they grow older it will get better.

[smallpotatoes]

I don't think siblings have to get along. If you are born with different personalities and it takes work to get along, I don't think it is bad to say "you know what, let's see each other every 2nd christmas but other than that not get in each others way because we aren't a match!" I think problems arise whem siblings feel like they HAVE to like each other or help one another etc. Then resentment starts because you are going out of your way for someone who irritates you etc and I don't think that is healthy. Much better to mutually respect each other from a distance.

I think that not enough value is placed on wonderful, close, life long friends. With people you chose and whos personalities match yours! I would go first to a family friend of our parents before I went to my extended family but I grew up with close family friends and half a country away from family.

DH's family always go on about blood is thicker than water etc but they all resent/hate eachother and talk bad about each other simply because of big personality clashes and trying too hard to be in each others pockets!

I totally agree. My sister and I live in different states and we get on reasonably as we only chat on FB/Skype. If we lived near each other and saw each other often I think it would be a different story. I love her dearly but we are just two very different people. My mum has the 'blood is thicker than water' mentality and doesn't quite get why I would prioritise friends who I would do anything for (and vice versa) over family (such as my aunts/uncles/cousins).

DH and his brother get along but aren't particularly close.

[Green Cheese]

I would consider myself close with both my sisters. We see each other every couple of weeks and we generally know what is happening in each others lives.

DH is the same with one of his 2 brothers and sister. He would be closer to the other brother but unfortunately his wife doesn't like us and is a complete cow to us. They get along fine when she's not there but getting him anywhere alone is difficult. The rest of us went to dinner last night and had a ball, the others were invited but wouldn't come.

[share a book]

I am quite alone, despite both brothers being fairly close by distance. One is an hoir away, the other is 15 minutes away. We do keep in touch, but are not close.

[EmPowering]

yeah were pretty close now days :) we were up until I was like 12 and then sorta drifter but now were both older and out of school we don't fight anymore

[LoCo]

no :( i wish i was close to my brother, but i'm not. I was just at my mum's house (he still lives at home) and he didn't even come out of his room to say hello. It hurts a lot because we were close as kids, but i have to keep telling myself it's not something i've done, it's just that he's grown up into a selfish pr!ck.

*Hugs* this sounds like my brother.

[Myztiks#1Fan]

Will never be close to my brother or sister. Never want a relationship with either.

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[Elijahs Mum]

Very, we are all close, my brother is 4 years younger and sister is 6 years younger, it helps my brother and DH are pretty much best friends now, he is closer to my siblings than his own! we were talking about it this morning, we were all never "forced" as such to hang out with or attend things together as kids but Dad was huge on the family is forever, your brothers and sisters are very important talks and even as kids if we fought dad always made us talk it out and make up and never hold grudges- whereas DH was "forced" to do things with his siblings all the time and ended up resenting it plus they never spoke or were allowed to fight so as adults it's all pent up frustration, they are fake friendly to one another and generally everyone is glad when they get to leave!

[Alimia]

My sister is my best friend! As for my brother I probably speak to him once a fortnight. I have a very close family

[CaydensMama]

Yes, we (3 sisters) are extremely close. We catch up at Mum's either Saturday or Sunday for lunch/dinner. We also happen to contact each other daily (mmmm... we must miss each other during the week). :eek:

[London]

Growing up my brother fought like....well..like brothers and sisters are supposed to fight. Now, as adults, he is THE most important person in my life aside from DS.

[Moxy]

Nope. My brother is almost 7 years younger than me. We get along fine but have nothing in common. I'm very protective of him but we barely talk on the phone and maybe see each other once every 4-6 weeks and only when I see mum (who he lives with). I don't think I'm particularly close with any of my family though. It's just the way we are.

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[bumMum]

My only brother has a number of mental illnesses. he can become psychotic (literally) at any time and become a whole other person, usually some kind of prophet.. Although he currently beleives he is half woman and wants to remove his penis.. He is also a drug addict. So no.. We are not close in a brother sister way.. as he is a virtual stranger to me most of the time. We do have a relationship, in that I help my mum care for him.. Check on him, help him get to appointments, remind him about things and counsel him through some rough days.. We used to be good friends growing up as we are close in age.. He Was like my shadow lol and followed me everywhere. Was a really sweet kid. Sorry for the depressing post!

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[carleena]

My brother and I are very close. He's 3 years younger but we had loads in common. He was living overseas for the past few years and we would only really talk via email and the occasional skype but now he's back so we see each other at least once a week. He's also been making up lost time with my DD who he only saw once in her first year and now she adores having him around. DH and his brother have a somewhat strained relationship. They are 18 months apart but have such different personalities that they aren't close at all.

[Bubbygirl]

Nope. I have 3 brothers & 2 sisters.

We all have kids tge excat same age but we dont get along. I see one regularly cause his pre-teen & 1 i see every few months, usually due to them being with my parent at the time

[MothersMilk]

I have nothing to do with any of my siblings (3 of them). Have not seen them for many years and never plan to, i doubt my youngest sibling even knows i exist tbh (she was a toddler last time i saw her and would be teenaged now). I guess i'm a classic example of siblings doesn't always = close.

DH has 3 sisters and is very close to all of them. He says he feels closest to the one born before him (he is the baby) but sees them all regularly/calls them regularly. He is a classic example of siblings = awesome, close relationships.

It can go either way ;)

[Hannahly]

Until my dad passed away my family was inseparable, but now my two brothers have had a falling out. It seems pretty irreconcilable at the moment, but there is hope. My sisters and I are extremely close, and I am close to my brothers too, just that they arent.

My DH siblings are very very close.

[our3boys]

I have a very close family I see all family members around once a week I'm closer to my younger sister then my older though always have. And dh get along awesomely with his 2 brothers as well family is a big deal to me. But I don't believe it has to be for everyone friendship are just as important.

[TripleTime]

I'm not overly close to either my brother or sister, they're 7 & 9 years younger than me which makes it hard.

It's like my parents have had two families.

My relationship with them in very one way, I'll help them all I can but they can't do much to help me.

[Ishtyban]

I have 2 brothers and 2 sisters.
All are half. The boys and i have the same dad and the girls and i have the same mum.
My sisters..
the oldest was adopted out and came to live with us when she was 16. We have an ok relationship.
The younger sister - we get along and we grew up together, she lives in the UK.

My Brothers.
1 does not want anything to do with the family.
the other...my baby brother is totally awesome. I have only known him for 9 years but he is my closest sibling.

[InBetween]

You've grown up together, have the same parents and share the same blood.

Are you close to yours?

I used to be concerned that I am not close to my siblings for the reasons you describe but I was given a very valuable adage that has served me well in life.

"It's not the blood, but the bond."

When I consider the people in my life who are not relatives but who have been inherently valuable to my life, I am no longer bothered that I don't have a close r'ship with my siblings. In fact, I feel very fortunate to have the friends that I do. To me, they are my true brothers and sisters.

BumMum, my heart goes out to you. What a difficult situation.

[maplefern]

My sister and I are like chalk and cheese! We used to fight all the time when we were kids (unless we were getting up to mischief). As we have gotten older the arguing has slowly become non-existent and we have become really close. She lives in NZ and we see each other only a couple of times a year, but when we do we always enjoy our time together and differences are put aside. Skype is a great invention too!

[Mum2Lil13]

I am very close to my two brothers and my sister. I am closest with my sister who is five years younger we are best friends and she is God-mother to my dd. I see one of my brothers and sister daily and speak to my older brother about once a fortnight and I see him about once a month. We all have a very close relationship but we have a lot in common so I guess that helps a lot.

[Nic86]

My brother is my rock.. We have been through so much together I couldn't imagine my world without him.. He is the most important person in my life, (apart from DH that is..) I love him to bits!!
I'm close with DH's younger sister but his older one, well that is a different story..

[onionskin]

No I dont get on with my sister at all. Complete polar opposites. It has been nearly 12yrs since I have seen her.

I also believe our problems stem from the way we were parented. A relationship was never encouraged.

[Niki24]

I used to be alot closer with them than I am now. We all used to be close, but have all drifted apart as we've gotten older, and they all make me so angry with how selfish they are, and that they seem to think my parents are their slaves. My younger brother lived with us for a while, and then got a gf and moved out, and now his whole world revolves around her, and he doesn't contact us unless he needs something.
My youngest brother is almost 16, and gets into alot of trouble and causes my parents alot of distress, cares about no-one but himself and can be really violent and aggressive, so I tend to stay out of his way.
My younger sister has just started being a teenager so spends alot more time with her friends, so I don't see her too often either.
Then there's my baby sister, who is almost 1. Love her to bits, sometimes she feels half like my own baby. I see her and my mum nearly every day.

DH on the other hand, is so close to his siblings it's sickening, Lol.

[zombiekitty]

I'm close to my brother but not as close as I was before he got with his now wife.


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[AngieH]

My family was kinda over the place lol. I love my brothers but we clash a lot, the eldest always has issues with us too so that makes it hard. He will be all 'let's move on' then bring up a random but old issue off hand and then discard it quickly. I grew up closer with my step cousin, we refer to each other as sisters and i love her to pieces though we are 7 years apart, and she has severe issues which had made things hard, I still feel close to her.

My Partner on the other hand had a close family and they spent a lot of time together and he is very close with his sister. My closest bonds have been forged with friends, who through trials and joys became my family. I adore the idea if a close family, but if all else fails - go set up your own! Either options can be perfect and just as fulfilling.

[JodiW]

No I have nothing to do with my brother. He always resented my mum when she was alive, I tried to get on with him for years. When mum died he turned his resentment towards me, the gist I get is that I ruined his life because I was born, he always got into trouble because of me, I hung out with his group of friends when I left school (some of them were my school friends too) this is coming from someone who is nearly 50. Anyway I got sick of the remarks and the nastiness and told him I want nothing further to do with him, I can't be bothered dealing with people like that, being a sibling makes no excuse.

[aprileviesmum]

Yeah I'm quite close with both my brothers. One is 6 years younger and the other is 10 years younger. They come to me for fashion advice sometimes lol. There are times where we have little fights but generally we get on great.

[mum2bubba]

I have this mindset that brothers and sisters HAVE to get along and be the best of friends. I don't see my brother at all and dh would maybe talk to his siblings once every 2 months. It's just such a pity..!!!

All the siblings in my extended family are the same some talk some don't. One cousin hasn't spoken to her brother in 10 years.

How? Shouldn't siblings be close, stick by each other through thick and thin you know be each others ROCK!!! You've grown up together, have the same parents and share the same blood.

Are you close to yours?

I am more closer to my sister in law who I consider one of my best friends than my own sisters.

[rainbow road]

My brothers are 11-15 years younger than me so it's kind of difficult to gauge. They, however, fight so often I don't think any of them will be close when they're older. I hope they prove me wrong!

DP isn't close to her sister, but it's improved since she had a baby as DP is besotted by her nephew. I see my family at least once a week and we see DPs once a week when she comes home for weekends.

SIL and I get on pretty well though. We used to run out of topics of conversation but now we can chat about most things. DP is a very complicated being so it's nice to have someone else who understands that.

I hope my children will be close with their siblings.

[madreader]

NO i have not had any contact with my brother for over 10 years now and i NEVER WILL again. He can rot in hell for all i care.:yes:

[Uh-Oh]

I am extremely close to my sister, even when we're living in different countries. We're close as in we know everything about each other, is my best friend and will always be the person I turn to (other than DH lol!) but not close as terms that we speak everyday, we might not speak for 3 weeks but when we do we pick up straight from where we left off. Might also help that there is only 12months between us so we have always been close. We grew up together, all of my greatest memories are with my sister.

I am also close to my little brother, hes 7 years younger though, I see him a couple of times a week and DS just adores him as he does DS. He will quite happily look after DS if I need him to.

We're also all close to my parents. We have dinner together twice at week at mum and dads (not my sis who is overseas), my brothers girlfriend also comes to these dinners.

DH is close to all his sisters, he has three, but hes the oldest and sometimes they are a bit much for him being the only boy! They idolise him and each have their own little different relationships.

[LoCo]

I am so jealous of so many of you wish I was close to my "only" brother. :(
We are just wayyyy to different!

[Maybelline]

I have 3 sisters we are all very close..even though we live in diff states..
I have one in the same state as me..we see each other probably once a week..the other two a few times a year (would love to see them more)
We all helped and supported each other and our dad when our mum was dying..makes me want my girl to have a sister!!

[SassyMummy]

My brother is a ******.

I'd like it if we were close... IF he wasn't a chauvanist pig who likes to upset people for fun.

Given that he is how he is, it's impossible to feel anything for him but extreme dislike.

[LoCo]

My brother is a ******.

I'd like it if we were close... IF he wasn't a chauvanist pig who likes to upset people for fun.

Given that he is how he is, it's impossible to feel anything for him but extreme dislike.

Sassy I'm going through exactly what you are at the moment!!! I have just come to terms it is OK not to be close to my brother if he wasn't my brother I wouldn't want to know him anyway. Oh it sux though hey:(