:-(

[MissSkittles]

Due to my health (severe epilepsy) I can't keep my child...I'm 7 weeks and I need major brain surgery.

Anyplaces in Melbourne, Victoria that are safe? AND don't have protestors???

[Pinkzy]

I am so sorry :hugs::hugs::hugs:

I don't have any advice but couldn't read this and not reply. I'm sure someone will be able to help.

[MoonGecko]

Oh Skittles, :hugs:

Did the surgeon say if you wasn't pregnant they could re-schedule the surgery quickly?

[NancyBlackett]

Oh Skittles. I'm so sorry. xx

[happygirl1982]

Oh that's so sad. :(

[bunkx]

im so sorry to hear that

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[SuperGranny]

i feel so very sad for you. I hope the brain surgery goes well. Im sorry but I dont know any clinics for the termination. Children by choice??? I will pray for your good health. Marie.

[Californication]

I don't have any advice either, but just wanted to give you some :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[lambjam]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

[TripleTime]

Sorry to hear :hugs:


ring the woman's hospital www.womans.org.au

[mrsdj1234]

Sorry that you have to go through this :hugs::hugs:
As this is for medical reasons, you would probably be best off trying the 2 public hospitals that perform this procedure, because apart from anything else, there should definitely be no protesters.
This link (http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Abortion_services_in_Victoria) has info on the hospitals and also the private clinics.

[ElastiGirl]

Maria Stopes International.

The one on Dandenong rd, has no protesters.

[mummykitty]

Due to my health (severe epilepsy) I can't keep my child...I'm 7 weeks and I need major brain surgery.

Anyplaces in Melbourne, Victoria that are safe? AND don't have protestors???

Try talking to your hospital or gp about RU486? that may be a good way to avoid protectors and be in the comfort of your own home. I'm so so sorry to hear you can't keep your gorgeous bub :cuddle: I can't imagine how devastating that would be :( I hope your surgery goes well.

[MissSkittles]

Thank you all so much.


I am devistated....

Monash Medical Centre have services which is great as one of my neurologist practices out of there.

[GluttonForPunishment]

Oh you poor thing. Hugs for you darlin.


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[insanity]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[MissSkittles]

<3 you're all so lovely <3

[mummykitty]

I hope it all goes ok (well as ok as it can go in this situation) please make sure you get plenty of support for yourself and dp, a termination is difficult to go through when it's wanted and planned but harder still when you want that bub, often they will do an ultrasound, some techs if you ask nicely and explain will give you a photo as a keepsake (from memory you're early so you won't see much but it's something you may like) let yourself grieve it's normal to hurt over this as it's a very sucky situation. Be gentle with yourself Hun and remember we are all thinking of you :bee:

[waterlily]

:hugs: I'm sorry your going through this. Good luck.

[The Fox]

Your care provider should have organised everything for you, im shocked and appalled that they have left you to sort this out yourself :(
Good luck with your brain surgery i hope you have a speedy recovery and sirry your in this position

[Pinkzy]

I am with The Fox. I've never heard of doctors telling someone they need to terminate and then sending them on their way - it's almost unheard of.

I can only imagine how hard this must be. I am aware that with severe epilepsy, and with all the different combinations of medications and treatments the patient must have, that it's extremely difficult (for most, impossible) to fall pregnant. I really hope that the brain surgery goes well and that you'll be able to have children one day.

Please do contact your hospital though...if you don't mind me asking, which hospital are you at? In this sort of instance, they always organise the termination. Always. Obviously something's gone wrong and I think it's most likely they've given you the wrong information so I'd be on to that ASAP.

How are you feeling now?

[babyspice]

:hugs:

[lovelymum]

Thank you all so much.


I am devistated....

Monash Medical Centre have services which is great as one of my neurologist practices out of there.

So very sorry you have to go through this, I went through the private clinic next t Monash Medical Centre (Monash Private) when I was younger and there are no protesters and the staff were lovely. Please bear in mind with this clinic it is part of Monash IVF which in itself may be very emotionally confronting. Great big hugs and I hope everything works out for you, life can be so unfair sometimes.
Thinking of you xxx

[babyspice]

it is a bit odd that your doctors have just left you, usually there would be open lines of communication between the specialist, the neurologist and the family doctor...??

(my sister has been in a similar situation)

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[Pinkzy]

OP, how are you today?

[MissSkittles]

Its the Austin hospital :-(

I'm feeling SOOOO low...I couldn't even let my partner rub my tummy...made me feel like a murderer :-(

[mummykitty]

Aww hun no.. You're not a murderer :cuddle:

[lambjam]

You're not a murderer, you're a good person who has been put into a heartbreaking position. Has any counseling been provided for you?

Take care :hugs:

[GluttonForPunishment]

Oh darlin, you're no murderer. You need this operation. There's nothing you can do about it. Do you have access to counselling? My thoughts are with you.

Hugs.


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[MissSkittles]

I'm going to look into counseling because I don't know how I will honestly cope!!

[GluttonForPunishment]

I'm glad to hear it. I know that I and probably the others here are here for you whenever you need us!


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[MissSkittles]

All of you are just AMAZING!!
And I thank you all...so much!!!!!!

[Daydream Believer]

Ohh, honestly. I feel like crying for you. I wish there was something I could do for you. If I lived next door I would come over with a casserole for your freezer, a block of chocolate and a terrible movie to watch and laugh at.

I have no words. Just thoughts xxxx

(I would imagine keeping it all in would be terrible. I hope you and Mr. skittles are supporting each other) And as a pp said. Be gentle and kind to yourself. :cuddle:

[LamaBana82]

I can't imagine the decision you are having to make! :hugs: I think counselling would be a good idea, I can't believe your doctor would leave you in such a heartbreaking predicament. Just remember you have a great bunch of supportive ladies in here :hugs: :hugs:

Any typos are thanks to sausage fingers and a touch screen

[MissSkittles]

I just can't get out of bed.
I'm so stressed I keep having epileptic fits :-(
I'm just so lost.
You are all so supportive it's amazing!!

If any of you want to add me on Facebook

Grace de Carteret.... Search me :-) xx

[GluttonForPunishment]

Can't find you on there!!

[MissSkittles]

Oh shivers I changed it too..just

Grace Caroline!!

I'll change it back!!!

[Pinkzy]

Just added you :)

[Jakois]

OP, I'm so sorry for all you are going through :(

[TinyLittleTootsies]

Hey, i have been reading along, haven't been able to post yet, but am adding you to facebook :)

[over excited]

I've added you as well, have you got family support?

[bellalika]

Its the Austin hospital :-(

I'm feeling SOOOO low...I couldn't even let my partner rub my tummy...made me feel like a murderer :-(

The Mercy has MACC, which is fertility but have councelling on site. Is it worth investigating? My neuro practices through the Austin but I don't see him there. It is rumored to be the place to go, along with Monash.

[MissSkittles]

:-/

[TinyLittleTootsies]

I have my mother support which is quite surprising.. As she's very ANTI termination and also very Disappointed this messed with surgery... :-(
My partner... In trying to be supportive of him.. But he is upset himself and just taking anything out on me...and being rude... So when I turn to my mother he believes that I'm pushing him aside when really I can't turn to him if he's being rude and nasty :-(

Oh that is hard. Is it because he doesn't want to have the termination? It makes sense to turn to your mother for help, so don't feel bad for doing that, some things mothers can help the best on.

Is your surgery at Austin as well, or was the monitoring done there?

Who is your doctor? I'm still shocked they didn't give you some information :( they should have at least given you numbers for a clinic or counselling?

When are you going to go to a clinic? Have you found one you want to go to?

[MissSkittles]

Pro. Sam Berkavic

Surgeon is Pr. Fabyni


I'm actually going to be terminated IN the Austin hospital on Monday.

I'm so horrible :-(

[Purple Lily]

Im so sorry this is happening to you, its just devastating and from everything i have read you are so strong. And u most certaintly arent horrible :hugs:Its heartbreaking and its just so sad that you have no other choice. I just admire your courage and there are plenty of people on here that u can lean on :) Ive added you on fb as well. I hope you are ok :hugs:

[MissSkittles]

Yay! My partner read this...logged on his computer and saw my posts...and the one about little support.
Great :-(
I'm so horrible :-(

[InBetween]

Forgive me, but I have to ask: did you get a second opinion?
And did you give your partner a kick in the cods?
By the way he's behaving, I'd give him a mighty one if I could.

My heartfelt blessings for a safe and successful surgery.
Please let us know how you get on.
I will keep you in my prayers.

[MissSkittles]

Inbetweeners - please o please delete that after you read my reply.
I've had TWO opinions :-(

[MissSkittles]

And thank you!!!!!!

[nelle7250]

Am holding you in my thoughts and prayers for Monday. Best of luck.