What's Changed?

[dylansmumma]

Hey everyone!
I'm pretty new to this.. But i'm getting the hang of it finally. Well first i'll tell you the basics.. I'm Tracey and i'm 16 years old, I had my son exactly 10 months ago, he's name is Dylan. I got married June 3rd this year.. & I was just wondering if anything has changed since being pregnant / giving birth, not anything like sleepless nights and all (things that come with having a baby) but other things. For me I lost ALL my friends.. they were supportive when I just found out and was still at school, then when I left I never heard a call from them. But back then they were the type of friends that I thought would stick by me through thick & thin... I guess I was wrong. I also used to be a very confident girl, but now my confidence has dropped... I think that's because I stacked on 20kgs when i was pregnant, and haven't been able to lose it all.. But anyway that's a bit about me... anything changed for you?

[MumofMadd]

Hi I read your thread and it got me thinking i had moved interstate before falling preg. Most of my friends i had lost touch with then when the word got round that i was preg all the friends came out of the woodwork and started calling me once i had DS i didn't really hear from them again although i have become better friends with one and my so called "best friend" calls me once in a blue moon basically to talk for 5 mins then tell me she has to go but will call the next day but i dont hear from her for another couple of weeks and if i try call her she never answers even though i know she has her phone on her 24/7. I also put on alot of weight while preg and havn't really tried to loose it my DS is 2 1/2 and sometimes i get abit sad about the way i look but other days i feel great i figure my body will never go back to what it was so there is no point dwelling on it.

[blessedmummy]

yeah, i do understand what you mean, even though im lucky enough to still have my friends around even though some things has changed in how much we see each other, but yeah, i do understand!

[chameleon]

With me it would have to be friends as well. We tried to keep in contact but it was hard when they were talking about assignments and arguing with their parents and I'm talking about how many hours DD is sleeping and telling them about the new toaster I bought. Totally different lives, and some of them just seemed to immature to me, and I seemed too sensible to them I guess.

Luckily I do have a couple of friends with babies, but could do with a few more!

[stargurlz]

Hi! I'm new to this aswell. I've been just reading your threads and can relate to what you have said. I'm a young mum, I'm 20yrs old and I have an 8mth old baby. I use to have great friends I hung out with all the time, one girl I went through highschool with when she found out was pregnant said the most horriable things about me anywayz ended up with no friends at all. I lost all my confedience after the bith I basically stayed indoors. I'm really sick of the looks from the public I get when we finally get the courage to go out. It really sucks coz my baby luvs ppl&I don't have any confidence to get out there&meet new ppl.I have a really big supporting family but I'd luv to find someone in a similar poistion to chat to.
Look forward to hearing from anyone.

[Desertress]

I also found the loss of friends to be the biggest change after having kids. I had my son just before i turned 20 and while is was preg and still able to go out all the time i still saw my friends and they still showed an interest in me. As soo as logan was born i barley saw them at all.... my 2 closest friends in the worls pretty much dissapeared and i saw them maybe once eery 6 months.... i even live walking distance away from one of them. There excuse was that they were to busy to see anyone but they alway make time to see each other.

I also put on a fair bit of weight and my stomach is fairly streched from having the 2 boys so my confidence os basically 0. I have gotten used to al the looks i get from people when i got out... especially when i have both boys with me. Sometimes it still gets to me but i just think to myself that they are my boys and i love them and i dont care what anyone else has to think about it.

[dylansmumma]

hey stargurlz & desertress, thanks for replying to my thread.. if anyone wants to chat & if you have msn just leave your email and i'll add you, hopefully we'll have a nice chat :)