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mumtochris

13-11-2011, 15:10

If you get invited to a party and can't go, do you still have to buy a present?

I will send a card but is that appropriate enough? Not sure what to do and I don't want to be rude. :confused:

CMCandAmelia

13-11-2011, 15:11

family and close friends i would
otherwise i wouldnt.

Blairysmum

13-11-2011, 15:12

It depends who it is! If it was a close friend or relative then yes other wise no!

lil miss

13-11-2011, 15:48

Tbh I don't. I have to refuse a lot of invites because I have nobody to watch the DDs. But no, even close friends and family I don't send anything. I thank them for inviting me, apologize for not being able to make it and leave it at that.

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bellalika

13-11-2011, 16:00

Depends on the event and closeness to the invitee. Nephew's birthday = present. Nephew's engagement = no present.

MothersMilk

13-11-2011, 16:11

In most cases i would just politely decline the invite and leave it at that, no present.
The exceptions would be in situations where i would be buying the person a present regardless of whether a party was held or not, so close friends/family.

TripleTime

13-11-2011, 16:15

No, not in this house. If my parents or grandparents are going, ill send a card with them but thats it.

ETA - My cousins wedding, we didnt go & i send card with a gift voucher with my parents.

Lil M

13-11-2011, 16:16

In most cases i would just politely decline the invite and leave it at that, no present.
The exceptions would be in situations where i would be buying the person a present regardless of whether a party was held or not, so close friends/family.

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CupidsVictim

13-11-2011, 16:30

In most cases i would just politely decline the invite and leave it at that, no present.
The exceptions would be in situations where i would be buying the person a present regardless of whether a party was held or not, so close friends/family.

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Pinkzy

13-11-2011, 16:37

If it was a close family member or friend then I'd still buy a present.

Anyone else, nope. I'd just politely decline the invite, say Happy Birthday and leave it at that :yes:

mumtochris

15-11-2011, 15:11

Thanks everyone :) I enjoyed reading your replies. The party is a christening for DH's cousin's little boy and we're not that close, so I'll just send a card only as a way of saying thank you for the invite.

I agree, if we were closer or I was going to buy a present regardless of a party then I would buy a gift, but this is not the case this time.

Thanks again :smiliedance:

SalsaMama

15-11-2011, 15:16

In most cases i would just politely decline the invite and leave it at that, no present.
The exceptions would be in situations where i would be buying the person a present regardless of whether a party was held or not, so close friends/family.

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