Would ignorance have been bliss?

[Alatariel]

I'm a recent TTCer with no probs as far as I know. As soon as we started TTC, I started googling, as I do, and I found this site (and others)! soo much wonderful info! so many things I didnt know!! I've learnt so much, and I know if there is something I need to know I can ask and get good answers so fast... But I cant help but wonder...
I know now how hard it is to concieve. How many women dont get pg very fast. that there is such a small window for getting pg every month. That I can check my CP and CM and have a good idea whether this cycle has been sucessful. and so on and so forth.
Was ignorance bliss? I keep catching myself wishing I never started investigating. That I just let nature take its course..
OF COURSE if it doesnt happen soon I will be (and already am) eternally grateful for the knowledge I already have... but have I made it more stressful on myself by learning it all straight up?
Would ignorance, even for a little while, have been bliss?

[luckymama]

i think it would have been. We TTC for a couple of months before i found bubhub, and learnt about ovulation and everything, and let me tell you, i had WAY less stress than i do now, but its like an addiction, i cant stop temping, and checking everything, and worrying about not being pg oh and going slightly mad :rolleyes: So yeah i guess ignorance is bliss......

But now, i also couldnt do without bubhub, everyone here is great :D

[TJ]

:yes: Ignorance is DEFINIITLY bliss!!

I feel like a fruit cake when i talk about some of the TTC things with my friends that arent TTC, they think its a little odd!
We all probably would have been preg by now if we hadn't starting investigating!

But then again, it cant hurt to be prepared......Can it:rolleyes:

[Femme la Phoenix]

Hi Alatariel :wave:

I can understand where you and the other ladies are coming from...

but for me I would have to disagree.....Ignorance was definitely NOT bliss :no:

due to the fact that I miscarried so much when I'd see a gyno about it and they 'fobbed' it off and told me it was ok - - I should have persisted because it's not ok they should have investigated years ago. Would have saved me heaps of heartache, pain and suffering. Don't even let me get started on the time....those ignorant specialist's have robbed me of 9 years, it's only in the last year that my lovely specialist has helped me and my new partner had an 'inkling' something wasn't right with my breathing during the night.

[nut]

IKWYM! I think that I went quite insane while TTC both my babies. Bottom line, though, I don't think that you or I would concieve any quicker if we were not armed with all the information we could find. I think that if you are seriously TTC you MUST know when you are ovulating, and (um, obviously!) you must BD during that window. Other than that though, I decided to let the whole thing go as much as I could. It IS really hard though, and it does feel like it will never happen.

Just for the record, I don't think that relaxing makes all that much difference to when you will concieve, but it does make the process easier for you. I hate the 'just enjoy the sex and relax' advice as it made me feel like people thought they knew false things about my sex life, and that it was my fault I was not pregnant.

:hugs: It will happen! Sometimes it just takes a bit longer than others!

[nicoleE]

I am the same, i google ALL the time, I have prego mags, books and soooo many bookmarks for Internet sites on pregnancy etc its not funny!

However if I didnt have all this information I wouldnt be where I am today, on Clomid and understanding what my body is doing... I think I would be more stressed out.

:hugs:

[RoarsomeMum]

Im with LJ.. ignorance :no: bliss for me... I feel so guilty for not looking into all this earlier.. specially when I realise how much I have learnt in 3 short months.. Some of it does make me worry more. But some of it has made me worry less :)

I just hope & Pray that all this knowledge turns into a BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As Im sure all of us here do:thumbsup:

why is it sooooooo hard????????

[JorBai]

I hear ya Alatariel! Although with DS it happened first go and I knew nothing. This time its taking its sweet little time and I am using OPKs and temping:banghead:

Although, I have found that everything I have learnt on bubhub and the lovely ladies that are here to give advice and support are completely priceless and I love them! I have learnt alot from these threads

Thanks Everyone :hugs: :kiss:

Now please can I have a BFP this month:fingerscrossed:

[~Emmylou~]

I'm a have to know everything person so no, I don't think ignorance is bliss.

My best friend knew nothing about charting her cycles, CM, signs she'd o'd, etc and it took her 10 months to get pregnant with her first because she was working on the assumption she was ovulating on Day 14. It wasn't until she mentioned to me that she was timing sex based on this, and I knew that she had really irregular and sometimes really long cycles that I realised she could be trying until she was 50 with the method she was using :laughing:

I've known about charting and temping and lots of TTC stuff since I was about 17 or 18 and charted on and off since then. I have been pregnant 4 times and with the exception of DD who was the result of a drunk night throwing caution to the wind ;) I have managed to get pregnant on either the first or second month trying every time.

I think it's really important knowledge to have and I fully intend to pass it on to my daughter when she's old enough. I think it should be taught to girls as a matter of course :yes:

[Blueshell]

I can understand ignorance being bliss for some. And I prescribed to this for the first twelve months - yes I did do some opk's but I didn't approach the doctor as it was the unsaid thing that you don't go to the doctors until you have been trying for a year!!

I wish I had gone to the doctors sooner as the problem has been there all along and we could have been working towards fixing it 12 months ago instead of going through 6 months of hellish tests and now looking at what our options are!!

In hindsight I would have gone to the doctor and demanded tests right from the word go!!

Now I can understand why ignorance is bliss as now I have information overload and am sick of reading books about male infertility - now I am looking for a naturopath to talk to - No more reading!!

[Billy]

I don't really think ignorance is bliss in the TTC case, because it took us 1 and a half years to get pg which of course felt like FOREVER but compared to other people is not really that long at all! :thumbsdown: I think that if I had of found bubhub LONG ago I would have been better armed to know exactly what I was doing and to RELAX (easier said than done I know :rolleyes: )

But once you are pg I would not suggest searching the internet with little niggles because there are ALWAYS the worst-case-scenarios- which stressed me out no end!! :o ;)

Bubhub is a lifesaver I think!!