What would you expect?

[mum23girls]

My DD went to the neighbours house for a play, but when she got home her shoe was wrecked. Their mongrel dog had chewed it up so it had to be thrown away. These were decent shoes fairly new, not slap around thongs (like mine!).......

A week later I have not heard anything from the mum, who does know what happened......

More of the story is that my DD was not told to put them up high and left them in the bedroom, but the dogs came in and chewed it up. The mother gave the shoe to my DD and said the dog had got it.

If this was to happen to someone elses' shoe at my house I would at least offer to replace them...I really don't want to ask the mum as they are only newish neighbours and I don't want to get on their bad side by demanding anything.

Would you expect any sort of compensation?

[Kells]

I personally wouldn't, but I guess it would be nice to have it acknowledged and the offer put out there. Would you take her up on it though?

Are you sure she is aware of it?

[shorty_851]

Ok this is just IMO so no one blow up at me ok:)

I would march those shoes over to her house and tell her what happened and if your child was with other children who acknoledged what happened to the shows tell her to ask them so she knows you aren making it up and ask her kindly if she would replace them. If she wont you need to negoiate and tell her at least half.

If she still wont come to the party find a pair of her shoes out the front of her place and cover it in meat smells and let the dog go hell for leather on her shoes. lol:laughing: :laughing:

Ok the last bit was a bit of a drama queen act. But nice revenge

[mum23girls]

:laughing: :laughing: Shorty!!!!

What I would love to expect is half the cost in a new pair of shoes at least......Money may not be a problem to them, but for me, now I have to fork out money for a new pair of shoes.... if their dog hadn't eaten them, then I would not have needed to buy any more shoes for her at all....... back to grotty ones for now!

And yes, I made sure to ask if the mother knew because I was talking to both my DD and the girl next door when they came back.

[Jem]

i would send my kids over with el-cheapo shoes :D

[shorty_851]

Then i say go for it march those shoes over with the 2 girls and ask her for the full abmouunt first never go half first becuase you will def end up with nothing so always go for the max amount.

If she sayd no ask her for half if she stills says no just out right tell her that she will pay for it no matter what and go ahead with the revenge tactics.

I will come for back up if youwant. Im good at this sort of thing

[little mermaid]

No I am sorry but that is so rude if that was me I would offer to buy new shoes and if you had said no, then there would be a voucher to a Betts Kids shoe shop in your letter box. Plus a pair of rubber thongs for when she come over to play!!

[rynosmum]

I would expect the mother to be upfront about what happened and offer to replace them. I wouldnt take her up on the offer but would appreciate her honesty.

[SassyMummy]

I would be angry, but I probably wouldn't truly blame the other parent. I'd probably think that she had more to do than make sure the kids shoes are safe.

She may not be able to afford new shoes for your DD...but I dunno...it would have been nice if she could at least offer you something else (like maybe bake you a cake as a "sorry" thing...).

[bigglet]

I dunno about the "marching" straight over thing and demanding.... it sounds a bit confrontational!

But if my dogs had done this to someone's belongings I would feel soooo bad and would instantly offer some sort of replacement or the like. However if I didn't know that my dogs had done the damage then having a mother march over and demand to know what was going on would offend me - surely a mutual "enquiry" would be much nicer?

[2s'nuff]

Some people just don't think/understand of the consequences of losing a pair of shoes, your neighbour might be one of those people.

I was talking with a carer at DD's childcare earlier in the week about shoes. I'd noticed another little girl with shoes the same as DD, but in a size smaller, so had written her name on the inside of them as I didn't want to end up with a smaller size than I'd bought. The carer said there had been another two little girls the previous week with the same shoes, different sizes, without names. When it came time to put the shoes one they managed to get one of each size. When one got home her dad had noticed the different sizes, said "the lady in the shop has sold us two different sizes" and promptly put the shoes in the bin. Which meant the other little girl lost her new shoes.