First time mum at 30yrs old!

[billysmum]

Hi, my life has changed completely since becoming a mum to my beautiful four month old boy. I have never stayed home full time and am adjusting ok, but would like to hear from anyone in a similar situation.

[red crayon]

welcome to your new altered sense of reality, billysmum :D I became a first time mum earlier this year at the grand old age of 37 and boy what a change it has been. 37 years of doing whatever I wanted, when I wanted; staying out late and sleeping in; and going to work every day. it's a huge adjustment and i don't think there are too many mums who wouldn't confess that at some stage they didn't think to themselves, "what have i done?". I know I did! how are you coping?

[Ky]

I was 31 when I had my dd and it was an asolute shock having to stay home instead of out having a good time whenever I wanted!

Fortunately, babies are really portable and as long as they have some semblance of a routine (doesn't mean they have to stay at home for it!), they tend to cope with being taken out to friends houses, cafes and social events! make sure that you get some adult conversation every day and you should be ok ... that's how I coped.

Hope it is going well for you ...

[Benandrewsmum]

Hi Billysmum

I had my little guy at 31 after being married to my beautiful husband for 10 years.....I was so worried about introducing a third person into our already perfect lives, when it had just been the two us of for so long!!

Ben is now four months old and we have adjusted well.....Ben goes down to sleep at about 7pm and usually sleeps through....so hubby and I have pretty much the whole night to catch up and just hang out together.

I am hearing you though about the stay at home full time thing.....I too have always worked and had a pretty hectic all round life....some days I really struggle!! Sometimes I wish I could be selfish and just do my own thing....then Ben smiles at me and I melt!!!

Not sure if I have any practical advice but thought I would let you know that others also feel the same......sometimes I really enjoy catching up with friends from my old life for lunch etc.....when hubby can babysit.......ever getting hair done etc.....might make you feel a bit more recharged!

Cheers

[peterpan]

Hi,
I became a first time mum may 30th 2005 to
my soooooo cute boy.
I am 35 and have always been working so it was so
hard at first being home all the time. I love being a
mum but I also miss going to work.
I am now getting out of the house a bit more since
I found bub hub meeting other mum's
Take care all
Angela
David (DH)
Peter (DS)
Brisbane

[zenifa]

I became a first time mum six weeks ago at the age of 31 to a gorgeous little girl.Hubby and I have been together for nearly 12 years, married for 4.5 years, so similar to Benandrewsmum, we had a wonderful life together as a couple and didn't know how our life would change with a child. I feel its brought us closer together and we are still amazed that we created such a perfect little being!! We've always been a great team and hope that will continue as parents. We are lucky to have family nearby so hope to have some regular 'couple time' with grandparents babysitting and still have the occasional social outing. We want our child to be part of our life, not signal the end of it (optimistic I know!!).
Like most other mums over 30, I was working full time till just two months ago, so its an adjustment being SAHM. Its early days, so I'm not bored yet and am trying to increase my social network, so I know more mums and get some adult stimulation too!! I never would of been able to imagine how timeconsuming a baby is, even one that sleeps lots and seems content!! As they say, you can never be quite prepared, but so far I'm enjoying it, but it is a huge adjustment!! Z

[peterpan]

Hello to all,
Zenifa I love your DD name,where did you get that name from?
It's nice to see mum's here that are in there 30ish age group
Big hugs to you and your bub's :)
Angela
David (DH)
Peter (DS 30th may 2005)

[wattle]

I'm well into my 30's now :eek: and life has changed, but what a fantastic change! It's hard work, long hours and all that, but my hubby drags himself out of bed at 5.30am to go to work every day and often I think 'I'm so glad that's not me. I can stay home all day and be with my beautiful little boy'

If I don't want to see anyone I can stay home and have a pyjama day, or I can go out with my son and wander the shops or walk in a park. I can watch him grow and change every day - sometimes I feel like the luckiest person alive. :D

[zenifa]

Hi to Angela (peter's mummy)
Nice to hear that you liked Romilly's name. My husband first heard it when we lived in UK, there is a village called Romilly in France (in the champagne region), a street in London plus an tv journo called Romilly Weeks. He liked the sound of it and it wasn't till a few days before Romilly arrived that we revisited it and when we saw her it just seemed right. In terms of meaning we've heard it means woman from rome or glorious maiden warrior or hardworking. We just liked the sound of it.
Z :)

[TwoBlue]

I had my DS when i was 29 almost 30, i had always worked and was in a high level management position that had taken me years to work up to....

At first i really enjoyed being at home with my DS, just me and him and watching him grow and change but more recently (he is now 18 mths) i find myself craving more adult contact....
I dont really want to go back to work yet but just miss that adult interaction that i used to have so much of.....

BubHub has been great and also i have met new friends that have bubs so we can catch up in suitable "bub" places and have great chats...providing our kids let us... :rolleyes:

I am now 31 weeks pregnant and expect that my social life will slow down again, but thats ok i know it'll come good again in time.

[Sarie]

I feel a bit young! I had my first beautiful boy at 25. Though we bought a pet shop and took over when he was two weeks old. My husband's job had changed, so I had to run the shop and raise my boy, because I didn't want to put him into daycare. A huge challenge, and it was interesting till I fell pregnant with my second son. I would have had to put Nathan into daycare so I could have PJ in the shop because I wouldn't have been able to do it all, so we sold the shop about 3 months after we found out I was pregnant. So I was 27 when PJ was born, 28 now.