Men behaving Nerviously

[FullTimeDada]

Hi to All, :wave:

Id be interested in your comments..

A few days ago (3) of the guys from work were having a drink after work, one of them is a father to be in few months time and he touched on a subject that while I am nervous in raising here, seems a real enough subject as all three of us have had similar experiences.

While our stories all had little differences they all had the same theme and that's how sexy or (in the case of the upcoming dad) insatiable sex drive our wives/partners had during the pregnancy.
Now we discussed (there has been threads on BH on this) about the preferred and change in sexual positions that one has to consider as MTB changes body shape etc but what came through loud and clear is that we all had a rather strange nervousness in the back of our minds that more sex = more damage to bub.

Now I've had other conversations with Dads where MTB has closed up shop and been very protective of the foetus (her right to her body, no argument)
but FTB was still ****ed off with her response..

It made me think how these differences in attitude reconcile each other and our relationships at this critical but (wonderful) time ..thanks FTD

[Boobycino]

Yeah, I must admit while pregnancy, aside from while I had morning sickness - and even then some times - with our first didn't change my s#xual feelings, or attitude towards s3x and it never even really crossed my mind hurting the baby or anything like that, this pregnancy I'm a lot more aware of my belly, lot more I guess conscious of my baby. I'm mostly just really not in the mood at all and last time we DTD it was a major interruption for me to suddenly feel the baby kicking while being intimidate. Whereas we DTD till 41w2d with Jasper and I cant remember ever feeling him kick during. And I'm paranoid about anything that could harm the baby or jeopardise the pregnancy, despite having the experience of there being zero negative impact on our first pregnancy.

I'm not sure exactly how my DF feels about it, but he is taking it like a man - as in - not like a little boy and whether he feels p!ssed I'm not sure, he is being respectful to me and I appreciate that :yes: I feel sad for women who's partners act like toddlers and throw tantrums over not having their 'needs' met, whether she's pregnant or not.

[northern]

I never understood that story of the man being p.issed off the MOB won't have s.ex, I mean it's not like it's forever, it's a temporary situation.

In my relationship, DP has been very attentive, I just haven't felt like it, although it has appeared in waves. Unfortunately my body changes have taken what small confidence I had in my appearance behind the shed with a shotgun. I refuse to be naked in front of him. I'm pretty sure he did a double take upon seeing my 38 week belly for the first time, which didn't feel great.

But when we have DTD, there's been no issue from either of us apart from logistics.
I have never miscarried, maybe that would increase a mans/womans nervousness?

[lovelymum]

During both of my pregnancies my DH was pretty much too scared to touch me. I had 2 large bleeds during my first pregnancy and we also lost 2 bubs as well so DH just wanted to wrap me in cotton wool, thats not to say we were not intimate as such during my pregnancies there are many other ways for one to get their rocks off ;)