How doyou deal?

[Manny]

Hi

I just need to get this off my chest really and get some feedback, maybe to make me feel better or give me some advice or whatever it is that can help me out.

I constantly have thoughts going around in my head. I take everything people say so personally and after a conversation with someone, their words will come back to me and I will completely over-analyze them into taking them as a critizism of me or the way I do things.

I have tried to correct this, and one thing is it is something I can totally acknowledge about myself. I will always say to myself when something is on my mind -
"It doesnt matter. It does not affect you or your family and that is all that matters. Move on"

So, how do you deal with these thoughts and get past it?!

[scarymarygoldfish]

My mantra is "People are too busy thinking about themselves to give a sh*t about what I'm doing". It's very liberating.

Also a great quote from Dr Seuss "Those that mind don't matter, and those that matter don't mind".

Lots and lots of :hugs:

[Lulubellesmumma]

Hi Manny

I myself have struggled with this over the years, its probably by biggest ''learning block"in life and I've had to just start to learn that what matters is my own thoughts of myself and those closest to me. Otherwise I can drive myself crazy.

for what it is worth its very healthy to self-talk and think about what our peers and friends think of us, but when it starts to structure how we feel about ourselves then its not so good (and believe me I am only saying this from my own experience!) if its any good for you I'd try really hard to find something really positive to do or think when you start feeling that way, whether it be reading or going out and distracting your mind, and maybe after your mind if off those things and you can look at it with some time between the event etc you can look at it more logically. Ive found its really helped me coz I internalize a lot of things and have to find out ways to healthily deal with those thoughts!! :hugs:

[cuddles3]

Hi Manny

I have just logged in and read this thread. I think this is a fairly common problem, we all want to feel appreciated and understood, and I am also quite sensitive to criticism, or perceived criticism as the case may be. I've learned to come back to a little mantra that works for me which is, no one is perfect, there is no such thing as perfect, so just do what is right for you. It's amazing how when you stop worrying about what other people might be thinking and then just get on with what is right for you ... you end up receiving positive feedback anyway.

Hope this was of some help ....it is my first response on bub hub so I am a bit of a novice at this stuff.

Mandy:)