Can any singles mums help me please

[1st-timer@34]

Hi,

Today I received a letter from the births deaths and marriages requesting my son's fathers details or else a certificate won't be issued.

Please can someone tell me how I get my child's birth certificate without giving them any details.

Has anyone else been through a similar situation, how did it resolve itself.

Thanks in advance.

[Chanelc]

Sorry I can't help maybe speak to Womens Refugee Centre they might know of similar situations and what woman have done when they don't wish to be traced by an abusive ex partner.
Goodluck findin gthe advice.

[Amberlea]

I dont know the legal stance there either.. I agree with Chanel though..
Get in contact with the womens refuge or crisis centre near you and make an appointment to see one of their counsellors/womens aid workers.
They will know alot more about how to proceed with it and will be able to direct you to the right places.
Because he made a threat against you - you are classed as a victim of domestic violence even though it was 'only' that.. Ringing the Domestic Violence Hotline in your area would also lead you to getting help from the right place.

[KarniF00l]

Just a thought.. maybe you can get a stack deck saying that you don't know who the father is. It was a night of fun ect ect.. you didn't know what you were doing Yadda yadda yadda KWIM ?

A ex-friend did this and it worked!

Goodluck :fingerscrossed: you get it sorted out.

[chezbear]

hi there and i am very sorry for your circumstances but i have been there not so long ago, the easiest way of getting around the birth certificate is to explain to the births death and marriages regestry that you do not have any contact with the father and last you heard he has gone out of state then all they ask you to do is write it down and the application will be processed as for centrelink you will have to explain the same circumstances to them they will ask you to get him to sign a stat dec to say he's the father but telling them that he is in another country and you are not sure of the correct spelling of his last name should get you through that. the only reason centrelink is not dealing with you is because child support pay them a certain amount when they start collecting from the father so if it all works the will pay you and have to back pay you from the day of birthtry it and let me know coz there are a few other ways to get past them.
wishing you luck, cherie xx

[LilShenanigans]

Well you've said Centrelink has exempted you from anything to do with the father, you don't need to deal with them.

Call Births Deaths and Marriages, say the father doesn't want to sign the birth certificate, they will tell you where to sign, initial and also tell you to write a short note about why he isn't on the birth certificate.

It's a no hassle thing, they understand and there will be no problems.

An idea also, if you wanted to get a commemorative certificate (the pretty ones), you can stick a bubby photo in the space where the 'father's details' are supposed to be.

Yep, I went through the same thing :) Any questions, I am happy to answer or help out if need be!

[Harley's Mum]

I cant believe BDM worried about it.

When I got DS Brith certificate the most i did was ask his dad to sign who didnt care and just sent it in without his details. They just issued the birth certificate without hid dads details on it.

[mum2littleman]

hey, im so sorry to hear that it must be so scary hugs to u first off all and second writte father unknown make sure ur child has ur last name too and when u are called in to centerlink or whom ever and they asked all u need to say is im not sure whom th father is they will then go on about DNA testing and then again tell them i dont no who the father is and i wouldnt have any idea on how to get in contact with sum of them{who cares what u sound like to sumone that knows nothing about you} with no father and ur child having ur last name your babies dad would not be able to find out

stick to your story u dont no who the father is there is nothing they can do if u have{not saying u have} slept with a diffrent guy everynight and dont no there names number or anything..:hugs: i hope all works out for u . xx

[Gribel]

HI

my DS Father didn't sign the BC initaially, I had to write a statement for the BDM explaining that I am a single mum and that there is no contact to the father. They issued me the BC without problems.

Best to give BDM a call, but this is what i came down to in the end


Good luck with it all :hugs:

[Mum2Lucas]

when i put in the forms last year for my sons birth certificate i never gave any details about his father or wrote any letter accompanying the forms to say why i hadnt included him... they didnt ask any questions and i got his birth certificate fine... but they did recently change the laws regarding everything. but yeah maybe get a stat dec stating what happened and that should be fine... good luck with everything.

[oleander]

I just filled out my daughter's and put her father's name and date of birth on there and attached a note saying that I have no details of his address because he refuses to tell me the address.

[mama]

Sorry to hear that. it's really hard to live in fear especially while trying to bring up a child. Hopefully as time goes on the pain and fear will subside. Just take it day by day, but it's all worth it when you look into your child's eye's. Any way :ecomcity: , I've had a similar experience. Look up in the business white pages-Womens legal service, Hardware Lane ,City. It's FREE:smiliedance: , I've used them on many occassions, they're very helpful and compassionate and will help you any way they can.

Goodluck

[lani_ezara]

Just a thought.. maybe you can get a stack deck saying that you don't know who the father is. It was a night of fun ect ect.. you didn't know what you were doing Yadda yadda yadda KWIM ?

A ex-friend did this and it worked!

Goodluck :fingerscrossed: you get it sorted out.


I also had a friend and a cousin who did this and it worked for them both - I think they (the authorities) don't like to seem like they are judging you (since it's against their policy to make any personal comments or offer anything of an ethical nature) so it usually shuts them up and they continue without asking anymore questions!

[1st-timer@34]

Thanks for your advice and support, I tried to ring the person who does the birth certificates and she flat out refused to discuss anything so that p***ed me of and I filled in the form with don't know to all questions.

Well last week I did receive the certificate.

Oh and I did get the commemorative one so thanks MumForOne for that idea.

Thanks again.