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So the 5 basic principles that AP is loosely based around ( remember, there are no rules, people, just ways to help us be more responsive parents!) are gentle birth, baby wearing, cosleeping, gentle discipline and extended breastfeeding. Do you have a fave? If I had to choose it would be birth, closely followed by bf. What can top a great, gentle birth as a start to life, supported by a couple of years of bf?
Bliss!
Do you have a fave?
I love them all and the focus for me tends to change as my daughter's age does... now that she is three we are doing lots of reading on gentle discipline and it is lovely to see the results.
Same as you , Janet - Birth and breastfeeding - all the rest just seems to follow on from there :D
I just wish I had of been more educated about AP years ago as I think it has a lot to offer. I guess my faves have been co sleeping, no control crying and gentle discipline. I wish I had of known about slings too I think they look great but I have never used one. I was pretty much a disaster at bf and wish I had of been better and had more support but I did the best I could for as long as I could.
I'm loving the GD too as Conor gets older and more investigative :D
Easterlily I think the experience of being unsupported with parenting is really common and I'm glad you have access to support now. It only enhances our ability to make more nurturing choices for us and our families. *hugs*
H&B'sMum
26-09-2005, 19:47
My total fav would be breastfeeding. I also like GD, as it akins very much to my teaching principles as well, as loooooooove babywearing.
Thanks Janet ;) I think things took a turn for the better when I started ignoring the advice from the MCHN :D
That is always a good move ;)
Benandrewsmum
26-09-2005, 21:02
Hello lovely ladies....tell me ....where can I read more about gentle discipline???
Interesting what was previously said about ignoring advice from CHN....as a first time mum ....at first I was really relying upon that advice....but now I have my confidence, I realise that I really know best and my instincts tell me what I need to do....not a rigid guideline on how often to feed, when they should be doing things...blah blah blah.
I have done a little bit of co-sleeping with my little guy...the weird thing is that I love to sleep soooo much .....and now I think I have passed it onto him!! He loves to nap with mummy in the big bed but also seems to really love being put down to sleep in his cot!!!
Cheers
Though I do love bf, and gentle birth is also a real highlight, the thing which just warms my heart every day is co-sleeping.
Sometimes I will wake in the night, and just listen to him breathe, and get that funny ridiculous feeling like you just want to laugh out loud, and you get that shiver all over your body, it just seems so amazing that I could have bought this wonderful beautiful little person into the world. :D
A couple of books on gentle discipline which I like are The good behaviour book - By Dr william Sears, and Kids are worth it - By Barbara Coloroso.
These might be a good place to start, Donna :D Maybe someone should start a GD thread? :D
http://www.naturalchild.com/
- A website with a wealth of information designed to help people parent and treat their children with respect.
http://parentinghealth.com/modules/news/
- Australian site which seeks to heal families via education and conscious living.
http://www.awareparenting.com/
- A website supporting the work of Aletha Solter Ph.D, assisting parents to form compassionate relationships with their children.
Greetings!
All five is equally important to me!
The main thing is to me is that you do these things because you want to!!
Gentle discipline. sounds like you had heaps of help here already, I try to put my self in my sons shoes in trying situations, and I try not to do something I wouldn't want to happen to my self if I was a child.
Take Care to all loving mums out there!
Malin
My personal favourite is the baby wearing - absolutely. I love love love my HugaBub and when bubs was new born I wouldn't have put him in anything else - he was sooooo close and comfy in it. I only wished I had threw the books out earlier (you know, the ones on independent settling etc - really, how is a three week old supposed to settle independently???) and just let bubs sleep in it all day.
Now bubs just loves being in it when we go out and about and he just smiles at all the passersby and makes flirty eye movements at just about everyone!!
after the birth of Thomas which was full of intervention, epidural the lot, id have to say that having the births I wanted with cooper and matilda were just wonderful, there is no other feeling in the whole wide world that can top the one when your baby first comes out straight into your arms with that last push, then definetly b/feeding, i just dont understand how anyone can say they dont like it, i know it can take a bit of effort at first, but once you work out what your doing its so worth it, its so wonderful to have your little one so contented :)
Peaceangels
12-10-2005, 12:24
This is an interesting thread and I would say birth, bf and gd I am all for, but what is "baby wearing"? I have never heard of it?? :confused:
Sorry if I sound completely stupid!
Baby wearing is having your baby in a carrier on your body. Soft carriers like slings are best because they support growing spines. Hard carriers put too much pressure on babies spines.
Try this
http://www.hipbubby.com/benefits.html
http://www.hipbubby.com/gallery.html
http://askdrsears.com/html/5/t051100.asp
BABYWEARING
What Babywearing Means: Our Story
Benefits of Babywearing
Safe Babywearing
How Babywearing Helps Fussy, Colicky Babies
Fathers Wearing Babies
Teens Wearing Babies
Babywearing by Babysitters
Babywearing to Sleep
Babywearing while Breastfeeding
Work and Wear
Babywearing while Traveling
Babywearing Twins
Babywearing Siblings
Babywearing Premature Infants
Babywearing Handicapped Infants
Babywearing Failure-to-Thrive Infants
3 Reasons Babywearing Can Reduce SIDS
How to Wear Your Baby: Your Personal Step-By-Step Sling Demo
Different Holds for the Babysling
My favourite is Hug-a-bub. www.natureschild.com.au. It is absolutely AWESOME. My little one just fell asleep straight away from birth. It is a bit clumsy to put on though and coming into the summer months a bit hot. But with a new born it is the MOST supportive sling I have ever tried (and i've tried a few!!!). completely hands free... Leaving you free to wear bubs all day long!
our little treasures
20-10-2005, 11:24
I love b/feeding baby wearing and my ultimate co sleeping!!! I have 2 under 20 mnths now but when ds was born I was a bit upset when I had to drop my dd day naps I now put her in and lay with her until she is nearly off then off to get bubs. I do still lay with her until she drifts when hubby is home or bubs is being good!!! I love when I wake with 4 in the bed!!!
our little treasures
20-10-2005, 11:26
I would love to hear more about gentl discipline as I hate yelling at dd when I'm over tired or just grumpy and she never reacted well to smacks!!
Foxymoron
20-10-2005, 14:56
I love the birth process and I love breastfeeding, but co-sleeping is really sweet.... I love watching them dream, hearing those happy little sighs and occasionally copping an arm or leg across my head as they stretch out hehehe. The morning cuddles are great too.
Yeah the cosleeping is wonderful.. we all share a room and it is great to have a snuggle.. ewe are looking at getting a kingsize futon to accommodate us all.
Co-sleeping, definetly. I miss it :( My 8 month old has *just* gone into his own cot after spending his first 8 months in our bed. I miss him, but he was starting to squirm out of bed during the night and actually seems happier to be in his cot now. I co-slept with my other two kids too. And slinging - I love having my baby close to me all the time.
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