Has TTC taken over your life????

[aden2005]

Im asking this questions because at once stage TTC was taking over my life and almost taking my relationship with it.

My DF have just recently said enough is enough and are on a break to see if we get pregnant by taking the "what ever happens approch"!!! :yes:

I was obbessed in taking my temp as soon as i woke up, even if my son was crying to be taken out of his cot, i had to get my temp over and done with first:shame:
In total i think i ended up spending about $100 on HPT and that was just for 3 months. I got a ultrasound done and turns out everything is in order so hmmmm yeah!

I no longer do my temps, i dont even know what cycle day im up too which is so unlike me, i have no idea when AF is due and i have no idea when i O this month.

So who else thinks that TTC is taking over their lifes???

Luv Katherine-xxx-

[sexy_minx]

i dont think im as bad as you but hmm we will see as this is my 1st month of REAL ttc well kinda, im doing temps each day i just went and got a "maybe baby" vixet witch hubby doesnt know about " more money spent on things we dont need" all i do is sit at the comp look at my temp charts and sit in hubbub, and i was just trying to work out if i am pg atm how far id be and what my due date would be and AF isnt even due yet, yep im sad and want another baby NOW, im always looking at my belly and rubbing it as if i am pregnant hubby hate its all i do is talk about pregnancys baby bellys babies labour and my god the list goes on hubbys sick of it aswell but its hard when he said last week ok we can have a baby but that doesnt give you the green light to help things along, then few nights ago we were gonna BD and he pulled a condom out but yet didnt use it blah blah blah ok im mad now but i kinda know how you feel, and im 100% SURE we arnt the only ones!

[wannabemum]

Im asking this questions because at once stage TTC was taking over my life and almost taking my relationship with it.

My DF have just recently said enough is enough and are on a break to see if we get pregnant by taking the "what ever happens approch"!!! :yes:

I was obbessed in taking my temp as soon as i woke up, even if my son was crying to be taken out of his cot, i had to get my temp over and done with first:shame:
In total i think i ended up spending about $100 on HPT and that was just for 3 months. I got a ultrasound done and turns out everything is in order so hmmmm yeah!

I no longer do my temps, i dont even know what cycle day im up too which is so unlike me, i have no idea when AF is due and i have no idea when i O this month.

So who else thinks that TTC is taking over their lifes???

Luv Katherine-xxx-

CONGRATULATIONS! and I bet this is the way you will fall pregnant, I believe it is like the saying "when you are looking for something you won't find it." How many women fall pg on holidays, or when they are not meaning too????? I think it is a healthier way to be brought into this world when you are not stressing and getting depressed etc (easier said than done though isn't it), saying that though atleast those little unborn bubbies and yet to be made bubbies can see just how much they were wanted!!!!

[luckymama]

yeah TTC has taken over my life, i am obessed with doing all i can to help get pg, and it upsets me when people say oh just relax it will happen, esp cos the people who have said it to me, have gotten pg without trying, eg first cycle, so they wouldnt know the desperation of wanting a baby, and being afraid of not doing enough to make it happen.

[Alatariel]

I'm not allowed to obsess! DP wont let me buy OPK's, or temp, or chart and he wont BD when I want him to! He would think I was mental if he knew I was checking CP and CM.. he doesnt mind me being on this site so much, though it makes him roll his eyes, and he did buy me a pregnancy book hehe.
I'm glad he is stopping me though, I can get scary when I'm obsessed with something.

[Razzy 75]

I understand exactly what you're saying Wishing & Hopeful, we've been ttc for about a year now and I'm really sick of people telling me to relax and just not think about it and it will happen - I have to bit my tongue from replying that we relaxed and didn't really think about it for the first 6 mths and that didn't work!!

I know they mean well but it's hard.....especially when all my friends and sister-in-laws get pregnant in the first or second month they try. I've done everything I can to be so healthy - given up coffee, alcohol etc, I just keep thinking what's wrong, why can't we get pregnant?

In saying that though I am trying to be more relaxed about things....talking to you guys really helps. :hugs:

[aden2005]

I really hate it when people find out how much troble we are going though conceiveing a second bub, they turn around and say " at least you have one child"!!!

I get so mad:banghead: I know i have one child, but my urge for another child is sooooooo strong i cant just ignore it !!!

[blessedmummy]

i agree.. i found it best to just take things as they came when we were trying for our first child (emily) and it worked for us, even though at sometimes i did get a bit impatient..but anyhow.. it happened at the right time and im glad! anyhow, with clare.. well, that was a different story! i was still bf emily she was 6months old at the time and we were on a mini holiday (mind you it rained the whole time!hence..lots of bd!! :o) after a big christmas convention thing.. anyhow.. yeah... after a few weeks of getting home from mini holiday... well. i was pg!! without even trying! :o

[QTB]

yes... it has... BUT its kinda weird cos with DS we tried for AGES and AGES!! then the dr told us there was no way we would ever have a baby naturally as i wasnt O'ing... after the shock wore off and we started 'doing it' for fun than making a baby, we got preg - naturally! so i know how true it is if u relax it helps ya get preg... but i just CANT relax! i just think, i did it once i can do it again....

[CJandMum]

Ok.. I fell pregnant in the second month of trying. Before you kick me out.. I did the same thing the first month of trying such as taking temps, obsessing over every symptom, cervix checks, cervical mucous checks.. the lot. Once I got my period after all the effort I put into trying to get pregnant, the next month, I said stuff it. I said, 'whatever happens, happens'. I got out of bed without taking temps and never checked my cervix and never knew when I ovulated. DH and I BD when we felt like it, and it took a lot of the pressure away from trying so hard. We let nature take it's course.....Don't hate me yet!! A friend from back in America recently fell pregnant with her first after trying for a year! Her and her husband decided not to obsess and let nature take it's course because they were moving across country and it wouldn't be a good time to get pregnant, so they stopped 'trying' to get pregnant And BAM she was pregnant that month. So what works for one person isn't to say it works for another. I'm not preaching to anyone to stop doing what they are doing but it did work for me. Good luck to all of those trying to get pregnant :hugs: I'm praying for little bubbie dust to come your way!

[sexy_minx]

With hubby i was hoping to get pregnant ( wasnt temping charting doing any of that) i was looking at CM and feeling CP,for 4months we just BD'ed when we felt like it and i did use a online obulate site to see when i might ovulate and a few times we did BD at the "right time" but it didnt happen as i have PCOS i feel the need to push an help things along but i do need to stress less

[lavenderpegasus]

At the moment I'm complaining to my DH who has been away for five months, he comes home in 11 days. Now the reason I'm complaining is because after five months he will be home for only 2 weeks and then away for three weeks.
How are we supposed to get pg if he is never home???? and honestly I would be much less crazy if we wern't TTC:banghead: :banghead: :banghead:

[kitty1kat]

yes - I find it v hard not to completely obsess over things. So when we officially started TTC, i have gradually become more and more obsessed. I read bubhub every day, do my FF charts, take my temps, do OPKs and Maybe Baby, take vitex, chinese herbs and folic every day, drink green tea, go to chinese doctor for acupuncture, and am seeing FS for the first time next week. Gosh, when i write it down, I do sound even more obsessed than I thought!

However, I find the level of my obsession is in direct correlation with the time of the month - once AF arrives and I have got over two days of devestation and tears, I pretty much lose interest and get obsessed with other things in my life (this month my mother's 60th and house painting) - UNTIL day 12-13 comes around, when i start obsessiveley doing two/three OPKs a day until I get the magic two lines. Then things just build and build and I get progressively more obsessed, until the TWW when I am tearing my hair out! Then HPKs obsessively, until AF arrives and the whole thing starts again!!

Sigh.

A lot of the time I don't think bubhub is very good for me - but i just can't help myself!

[emma2938]

yep, its so easy to become comepletely obsessed. we have been trying for 6 months now, and i was completelely obsessed, but this month is yhe first month of me 'taking it easy' im not temping, not charting, not maybe baby'ing, nothing. Im just telling when i O from CM and BD around that time. Going to do that till January and if still not preggers, seek help.

[Livy]

I think ttc has kinda taken over a bit ...... definitely! But we started off with the "when it happens it happens" attitude and it didn't work. I temp pretty much everyday - although usually not on Sunday's - so I can sleep in and chill out and I am constantly checking cm and opk's around "o" time. I was recently referred to a specialist and I had bloods taken and a HSG scan ..... all seems to be okay. So I guess we will just keep trying and obsessing :laughing: We next have the option of trying clomid or just going it natural for a bit longer .... we will probably start clomid next year if no BFP. It's easy to say that you should just relax - but It's not easy to do. Oh yeah and I even passed up a hot spa bath on the weekend (we stayed at a resort) because I was ovulating and the heat can kill the eggie ..... now that's obsessed :p

Good luck for those BFP's!

[Bunny_79]

I know exactly what you r talking about. I never really worried before, the first time i fell first go then lost it so we decided to wait a couple of years. Then fell first go again then lost that one too. Now we have been trying since then which is about 6 months and i started to think way too much about it cause nothing was happening.
The last couple of months we have been trying but i dont really think about, i have been just having heaps of fun keeping my mind on other things and i am so realxed about it all, and have taken the approach it will happen when it is my turn.
I have a friend who has only been trying for two months and she's complaning about it and i thought how self centered she was saying it to me after what i have been through and what other women are going through who are worse of than myself and her.
It's hard not to think about it but just keep trying and try to focus on other things if you can. All the best of luck to everyone :thumbsup: