last time i looked i was human not wonder woman

[ada]

Why is that if you have 4 children you are not allowed to complain, whinge vent or even indicate that you are not coping because youll cope that famous line "you decided to have 4" so what, im human !!
Am i not allowed to whinge like that of a mother of 1 or 2 Its really starting to urk me i am not perfect neither are my children sometimes my house is loud so what !! i have bad days sometimes im at my last straw but we have many beautiful days too and i would feel so empty without 4 children when mum takes 2 of them my house is so quiet and i want them back.
people dont understand that you have that love for 4 children heck ive got enough love for more. Me and Dh have been discussing the #5 baby and its surprising how everyone has ,made it their business to gossip even people that dont know me i just want to smash something!!! and let people know that im not wonder woman and that yes we decided to have 4 and yes i have bad days and yes sometimes they drive me nuts and yes im human, but YES to the fact that i wouldnt have it any other way, what can i say i am a tribe mother and proud of it!!! ok maybe i have an addiction to babies but thats another post
sorry to vent guys but trying to let it go so that i can send light and love!

cheers

[Cheekychops]

Just winge to them anyway!!! I do - I only have 2, I don't know why, but people (even DH) say "you wanted them" - of course I wanted them, (if you saw them you would too - hahaha) but at least listen to me winge when I'm having a hard day and that way I may be less inclined to take it out on them iykwim!!! Totally understand where you are coming from - I think you are very clever and wonderful to have 4 and survive the bad days!!! :hugs:

[A Party of Five]

Big :hugs: for You!

I know how you feel, and I only have three right now. But beacuse we are having twins I get the OMG how will you cope, dont you have a TV ec:banghead: And sometimes I do feel like I am not allowed to complain or whinge about it. Yes some day's I dont cope so well and that's ok too, but so do alot of other mum's. And they dont have a large family. We are all human not Wonder Women or Super Mum. My home too is loud, but it's full of love and very happy kids. And as long as they are all happy so am I. How cares what other say!


I am a tribe mother too and proud of it :thumbsup:

[Crazyfamily]

I now how you feel. I have 6 children and wouldn't change anything. I to have bad days and good days but we all love each other and are happy MOST of the time so who cares what other people say. I get the it was your choice etc and I try hard to ignore it.
Keep your chin up. You are doing a great job I am sure. My idea is if I can raise six great kids into six great adults then the world will be a better place.
take care.
xxx

[mumtok&z]

I only have 2 but i come from a family of 6 kids. I have a deep respect for all the mum's with a few more children. i also have huge respect for young mums, single mum's, mums with 1 child and mum's with 2 children. I just think that even though our job is the best job in the world, it is also the hardest job in the world.
:hugs: to all of us mums! We have been given the most beautiful gifts in the world!

[Tones]

Oh yes I so completely understand...I love all my boys but we all need to vent our hfbrvuebgbui or whatever it is that makes us us!children rock but not when they are throwing them!lol.well I am a mum of boys and have paid for many broken windows!

From Tones

[RuthK]

God, I so know what you mean! I was saying to my father the other day that I so needed some Me time as my husband had been working lots of overtime and with the local pool (which has a wonderful creache and great water aerobics for me) and it being school holidays there was no pre-school to give me a few hours of relief during the past 2 weeks and he said exactly what you're saying you get - you want a large family, you deal with it!

I get the additional stigma from relatives that I shouldn't have any more children after finding out my eldest was autistic. They say I should be devoting more time to him rather than spending it on creating more babies. All I can say is that my growing family might be noisy and I may want to strangle their darling destructive little necks at times, but I do love them and would never give them up for the world. But yes, I am human and I do need some me time, so I can take a big deep breath, clear my head and come back a much calmer and better mummy.

We've got the additional problem now that I'm sure many of you have had at announcing to a few narrow minded relatives (my father included) that we will be having our 4th baby in 5 years, next year. It's sad that I'm dreading telling these people this news when it should be one of the happiest times of our lives!

[lukaelmo]

Umm I think you should be allowed to complain times as many children as you have... I have one, I am allowed times one... someone with four may complain four times as much as me :D.

Anyway, people will always make comments. When I was pregnant with the dude, one of my colleagues shook her head at me and said "I worry about you young girls having babies"... teehee, I was 30 at the time :laughing:.

[ada]

Thanks guys for all your replies if makes you feel better when you know that you’re not alone and there’s people out there going through the same stuff, It makes it hard when all your friends and family either have no children or have the max of 2 and are so quick to judge. “It takes a special mum to be able to have a large family” as my Nan said to comfort me.
Cheekychops I know what you mean when the children are playing up my DH's favourite line is “and you want another one” he never misses an opportunity to say it only lately when you get those aww beautiful moments that make you so proud to be a tribal parent like… they are all huddled around us watching a movie I say “look at my babies, don’t you just want another” and when they are all playing nicely outside together …( before world war 3 starts of course). even those moments after the event are priceless) ill make sure I say something to him! This morning DH had to go to work and as he left DS (2yrs) said to him Daddy are you going to get my baby brother? Yummy Mummy of 5Thanks for the hug! How beautiful to be having twins and you’ll cope fine I believe that if you couldn’t you wouldn’t be blessed with them congrats! And yes when it’s loud the kids are usually doing something that’s making them happy I worry when it’s quiet! Caroline yes I agree we are contributing to making the world a better place. Ruthbest of luck with #4 and congrats! Maybe if we keep on whinging people will finally relise that we are human and do need Me time just as much as the next person infact we need it more (opps forgot we not allowed to say that) . lukaelmol Ill remember that calculation next time my friend whinges she has 1 and
"I worry about you young girls having babies"... teehee, I was 30 at the time .
Id take that as a compliment!
Cheers all have a great day
Tribal mother

[spiritedfamily]

I so hear what your saying...I'm expecting no.5 next March and I find that if I am having a bad day or feeling depressed, I don't talk to anyone about it (except DH) as many have already judged and I don't want to add more fuel to the fire..so I find its a lonely road...although I'm keeping my eye out for understanding Mum's..

[cenasangel]

I was savagely ripped on in the hospital 3 weeks ago when i had Gaelan because he was no 5.

[Pippi Longstocking]

Oh god, I am sooo hearing you! I have been getting the same thing heaps lately because I am trying to convince my husband that 5 is an odd number so we need to have another. Every time I whinge, he says "and you want another why??". It is starting to shi....erm, annoy me just a tad!
I spend a looot more time saying things like aww, they are sooo cute, I love my children, look how clever...etc but people seem to miss that part and just focus on the negatives. Of course we are allowed to whinge, it's bloody hard work! But it doesn't mean we regret it. My kids frequently drive me nuts, but that happened when I only had one. And it happened when I only had two...and it happened when I had three....and four and now five. I'm sure it won't change when/if I have 6 :D

[ada]

Doesnt it just make you feel that bit better knowing that theres people out there actually hearing you and understanding what youre on about cause they're in the same boat.
thanks guys and go TRIBE mums!!!!

[DQ]

We are ttc #5 now and my MIL said to me the other day when DH told her "Don't you think of other people?" I said "What?" She said "How on earth am I going to afford to buy Christmas and birthday presents for 5 grandchildren!":eek: :eek: :eek:

Needless to say I am still walking around shaking my head in amazement of her comment. She will get the shock of her life when after #5 comes along, then #6 and #7 come too!!!!!:D

[Sholmes]

Whinge as much as you like ; ) You have some juggling act there!! Good on you!
No one has a right to judge you on how many kids you choose to have. Sucks how you become 'public' property whe you have kids. I'm sure more people would have more kids if it wasn't so hard/expensive etc. No way could we afford to buy a 5-6 bedroom house where we live!! We'd need a couple more zeros on the end of our salaries! haha

[All 4 Boys]

:thumbsup: Thankyou so much. I have been reading your posts about other peoples comments, the way you are viewed by others and I suddenly feel normal. All my friends only have 2 children max. so I am the odd one, but tonight I have sat here and had a quite chuckle to myself and can relate to everything that has been said. It has been refreshing thankyou.

[Jacks Mummy]

Its amazing how many of the worms come out of the wood work when you suggest you would like another one to add to the already bulging house hold. Yes have and desperately want number 5 but I have been told by my mother and mil that its just to much. I dont winge about it anymore I just keep it to myself as its not worth it. The looks you get from them and the comments are priceless. :thumbsdown:

[busymum2six]

Personally, I think you're amazing! I am mum to 7, my newest edition to our family is just three weeks old, & our other kids ar 13yrs, 11yrs, 9yrs, 4yrs ,3yrs & 2yrs.
I also have bad days, but as you say the good out weigh the bad, & I would not change it for anything! Complain away, I do & I don't care what other people think.
My sister has only three & she complains all the time, I reaaly don't understand why, her kids are mostly good, she sits around all day doing nothing, because her husband does it all when he finshes work every afternoon, she has got it made.
Here in our house eveybody who is is able to helps out in some way, we are a team, & I think more families need to be.

Keep up the great work!

[karcarcor]

I have 4, the youngest is almost 9months, and I have friends and family who comment on how I cope, but it's the opposite to everyone else. I get comments on how well I cope, and people ask me if I'm going to have any more - because they can see me with more children. But they don't see the other side. Yes, I'm fine when I'm around others, but at home I'm a complete mess. I would like to have more(I think), but I can't help feeling like the only things my children are going to remember when they're older is how much I yell and scream at them. I think I frighten hubby sometimes.
But people don't see behind the scenes. How do I get support from others when I can't bring myself to show them that I'm not superwoman, and a lot of the time I can't cope?

Sorry for the winge.

[Michele Crocker]

I know what you are saying, I have five kids and somedays I feel like whinging as well but I keep it in because everyone tells me that it is your problem and deal with it as it was your choice to have that many kids. I know it is my choice and I do deal with it most times because I love my kids but sometimes you just have to vent. My sister ask me How do you cope as she has just had her second and she finds it hard with two, but I have learnt to cope.

Michele'
Mother of Christopher, Luke, Melissa, Jayden and Ashleigh

[mum2bubba]

Stuff everyone else, you and your family are happy and healthy. If it were up to me I'd have 50 million kids (well maybe not that much) you should feel proud as a parent, I have one child and have days when I can't cope. We are only human.