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Hi all....
Up until I went on maternity leave I worked full time in a childcare centre. My dd is now 7 months old and I'm feeling a bit lonely and friendless.
I can find it hard to make friends as I'm shy at first and new to the whole SAHM thing. Im really just looking for people to chat to, make friends, get a hobby etc
I guess I'm feeling lost especially as dh works long hours.
Well nice to see no replys!
I'm feeling much better today at least.
Hello, I just found this part of the forums!
I just resigned after being on extended maternity leave for the last 4 years, so even though I've been a SAHM for the last 4 years it's now official! Lol
I have an almost 4 year old DD and a 21 month old DS.
I've never had allot of friends and found when I had kids I had even less as they were at different stages of their lives and we have just drifted apart. I to am a bit shy and my DH works allot to so I am home with the kids all the time and do all the feeding, bathing etc and they have become really attached to me so it's hard if I ever do go out. It's like I do 99% of the parental caring and he comes home to play with them!
Your not alone, I think it's easy to feel lonely, like you have lost yourself when you are a SAHM. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat, maybe we can exchange email or connect on Facebook (feels like my only social output!) or something.
Thank you for replying! It's good to know I'm not alone. It's exactly the same here. Daddy comes home to play when it's supposed to be settling down time ! Lol.
I really don't want to go back to work as I used to work in childcare and I want to be the one looking after my baby.
I just hope we can keep making ends meet :)
Where abouts are you from?
Sent from my iPhone :)
crunchie
14-09-2011, 06:47
Hello Kristyb
I too just found this thread. I am lonely as anything! I have a beautiful 13 mth old DD and due DS on Monday! DD was a restless difficult baby and coupled with the fact DH and i are not australuan, have no friends living around us and no family here I hardly got out and about the last year! I have mothers group but thats it! I had a massive circle of friends in ireland and really miss that support here.
Im really afraid now with 2 so close in age that im going to get stuck in the house for another year! On the other hand i feel lucky to be able to be home with my children, it just would be easier if i wasnt just trying to make friends aswell!
I am in northern suburbs sydney if you are nearby!! Xx
I no how your feeling I have a 4year old DD and 17month old DD, and I've been a SAHM for the last 4 years some days I get up and think groundhog day did met up with a lovely mothers group but as the kids start to go to kinder and some went to work we don't met up much anymore
I'm on fb please feel free to pm add me to fb too
crunchie
14-09-2011, 07:56
I also sometimes think the only contact i have with the world is via iphone, facebook and bubhub...
I am such a social person pre babies! God i dont want to sounx depressed im not! Just lonely thats all!!!!
remembertobreathe
14-09-2011, 07:57
Aww Kristy, I'm sorry no one replied straight up. Im usually around in the evenings to check new posts but had a busy one last night!
Anyways, I know how you feel. I've been on Mat leave since I was 25 weeks preg and my son is 14m today! I don't have many friends because I don't *click* with many but I'm trying alot harder than I used to, lol..
Im on my phone ATM but feel free to send me a msg sometime, am 24, live in Bris and my partner works al
remembertobreathe
14-09-2011, 07:58
Alot too, argh stupid phone!
Thanks for all the replies! I was beginning to think I sounded a bit desperate hahaha.
I live in Brisbane ... We are getting married in 2 1/2 weeks So there's something to keep me busy but I think I've already done everything I can do for now.
Sent from my iPhone :)
I am just a big Nigel no friends lol
Sent from my iPhone :)
4intheBed
14-09-2011, 08:25
I am terribly lonely, I would love to have someone online to chat with, perfect for still being able to get all the housework and playtime done too!
I'm always online :) via my iPhone. You can chat to me anytime! It's easy to get over baby talk pretty quick! Especially when the babbling is louder than the tv lol!!!
Sent from my iPhone :)
I'm in SA
Good to see other 'Nigels' come out on here! Lol
JustShiney
14-09-2011, 08:56
I'm in SA too Nicole!
Been a very lonely SAHM since moving here late last year.
*Sent from the couch* (via my iPhone)
I'm in SA too Nicole!
Been a very lonely SAHM since moving here late last year.
Hello!
I'm in the northern suburbs (Greenwith)
Where did you move from and where are you now? I'm happy to start chatting and maybe catchup one day. PM me if you like, I'm also on Facebook.
JustShiney
14-09-2011, 23:17
I'm out west in Lockleys. I moved here from Melbourne (long way from home!).
:wave:
*Sent from the couch* (via my iPhone)
I am soo glad to see im not the only one feeling lonely. I thought i was just being silly and needed to toughen up. Since having ds all the friends i had before just dont call anymore. They arent in the same stage of life. I'v tried to make new friends with people who are in the same stage but they are all going back to work and can tunderstnad why im not. Sorry for hijacking your thread. Just feeling real blu at the moment.
I'm hearing you adearl! I'm in the same position. And I'm having a c't of a day.
Need sleep... ALOT of sleep lol
hi just thought id pop in and say hi, i understand the feeling of being lonely. i moved to brisbane 4 months ago and have became a sahm, my youngest ds is 4.5 months old. before the move and bubs i was working 5 days and had a great group of friends. im new to staying at home with bubs,as i went back to with my dd. looking to meet to mums to feel the same.:wave::wave::fingerscrossed:
spideysmummy
22-10-2011, 09:26
Hello :)
I'm on BH because 6 month old ds is sleeping, dh is working and the few friends I have are no doubt sleeping off their hangovers .... So you could say I'm a bit lonely too!!
I no longer have fb coz it made me feel worse seeing everyones photos pop up and seeing all the things I'm no longer invited to....
I love ds to bits but miss the social aspect of my 'old life'.
I'm in Adelaide (South)
How is everyone??
mum2bubba
25-10-2011, 16:01
Hi Kristy, I am a single mum of 3 and I get very lonely :(
Everyday
25-10-2011, 16:24
Hi im a single mum to 2 and am lonely too! Somedays i can go all day even few days without talking to an adult lol. Tho i just moved and dont know anyone here either. :(
Hi again all how is everyone?
crunchie
25-10-2011, 20:12
Im cracking up this eve. I have a bad toothache, DH is away not back till Thursday. DD was a brat this eve ans screamed for 2 hrs. DS is cluster feeding and unsettled...
If only i could get rid of this toothache.... Argggggg
DD August 10
DS October 11
Hi Crunchie,
Im only seeing this now and wondering if your still in the same situation?
Ive been living here for 2 yrs and i can't believe how hard it is to find people in the same situation that knows what its like..... Im so bored and lonely....
Hello Kristyb
I too just found this thread. I am lonely as anything! I have a beautiful 13 mth old DD and due DS on Monday! DD was a restless difficult baby and coupled with the fact DH and i are not australuan, have no friends living around us and no family here I hardly got out and about the last year! I have mothers group but thats it! I had a massive circle of friends in ireland and really miss that support here.
Im really afraid now with 2 so close in age that im going to get stuck in the house for another year! On the other hand i feel lucky to be able to be home with my children, it just would be easier if i wasnt just trying to make friends aswell!
I am in northern suburbs sydney if you are nearby!! Xx
crunchie
07-01-2012, 19:53
GSD i pmd you!
Hi all
How is everyone? I'm still looking for play dates for my dd if anyone is interested xx
Mrs Leto
07-01-2012, 21:07
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amymum2011
09-01-2012, 15:56
I know how you feel I felt the same while pregnant with my first born, but it does get easer over time. You should try and find a hobby something you enjoy doing that passes the time, you can get a few tips here http://bit.ly/wIRASn
I'm interested but I'm in Melbourne :( I am another 'Nigel' I am English and have only been here for 2.5 years, I had a large circle of friends in the UK and I am struggling here with no girlfriends to chat to
Where in Melbs are you? I don't have my Bub yet but will in six months, and am also a fellow expat but been here 8 years now :)
Mrs Leto
09-01-2012, 23:01
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Not sure if this thread is still going but i am kind of new to his SAHM thing DS is 15 weeks. I am also in Brisbane and looking to join a mothers group or playgroup, just to have some time with other adults during the day. DH works long hrs or always a long day at home when you are by your self :) I previously worked in child care and am finding it very different to being at work. Eg: a lot more full on at work very busy, but at home with 1 baby that is good and sleeps pretty well is very different. :)
Hi Loz
I'm in Brisbane also. I'd love to catch up , your situation sounds a lot like mine. Being alone all day talking baby gets a bit much doesn't it!
Hope to hear from you x
Hi Bodelly,
I would be keen for a catch up i am south side Carindale, but happy to catch up my little man doesn't do much atm as he is only 15 weeks. How old is your little one.
I have been looking to join a playgroup but so far haven't really found one, (maybe cause i haven't really been trying hard to find, should probably do that)
Hi Loz
My dd turned one today!
I need adult interaction lol
I'm on the Southside too :)
What days are u free?
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